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me personally

he definitely will get a kidney - especially if the mate is more than "worthy" of you. It is difficulty to find a worthy mate. Once you find one - you give ALL.

he gets a kidney - i need him around - for me life would not be the same without him.

George Lopez

http://www.lopeztonight.com/

famous comedienne, actor - now has his own talk show - talked for years about how his wife saved his life and gave him one of her kidneys

his wife donated one of her kidneys to him - I heard a few months back that they are now getting a divorce. Or they have gotten one already. The first question that came to my mind when I heard the news, "does she get to get her kidney back?"

Yoruba Men

All the way

[quote author=Ms. Yam link=topic=625370.msg7928320#msg7928320 date=1300329261]Hmmm. . . Perhaps he must have been 5 % of those guys naa[/quote]5% of what guys?

[quote author=Ms. Yam link=topic=625370.msg7928282#msg7928282 date=1300328659]Are u both Nigerian?[/quote]He is Nigerian

my guy doesn't spend money - he is a huge saver

i am soo happy - because i see his frugalness as an indicator of a fat bank account and never-ending financial success

i am the big spender and i pray he will help me rein it in and curtail it immediately

fstranger3:
What if it is me they sent to you?

My mind is pure, but it seems you have a dirty mind or you 've done things in the past that are abominable

To each his own. My service is still there for you if and surely when you have a change of heart. And I am close-by.

I know your mind is pure - if I didn't have someone I would really consider meeting you - I would

I just can't because he wouldn't understand at all

You are close-by - It would be ideal - that is why it is tempting and you sound interesting as well

I'm just no longer operating solo - everything I do - I must take his presence into consideration - it doesn't have anything to do with having a dirty mind - i just don't want to do anything on my end to cast even a hint of a shadow on my first visit to Lagos

I don't expose myself to ANY MEN until I meet with him because I don't want to be tempted and ruin the blessing that God gave me (him)

It's not you - it's me - I'm sorry - Again you sound great

fstranger3:
What do you think?

I'd kill myself and then go to heaven an attempt to kill God if I was Ibo or anything else for that matter. Thank God, I am Yoruba

Now we can hangout shey?

he will dump me like yesterday's news if i meet a stranger - also it just isn't appropriate - we are really, really planning marriage - i have a solid year in my relationship - March 9 makes a year

i cannot jeopardize that meeting you - even just as friends - it just isn't going to happen

he told me to treat him in a manner in which i would treat myself - i don't want him meeting random women he met online - so i cannot meet you - even though your teaching me to cook is soooo tempting - but i do thank you deeply for offering yourself to me in this manner

190:
[color=deeppink]I think you should hit youtube

Check how to make egusi soup on youtube

or how you could go on the internet, besides i think there is a food section here on NL

you could have a little experience on how 2 make these dishes, we nigerian men we dont Joke

with pounded yam and egusi or draw soup, if you can be perfect in both soup then you could get your husband crawling on his knees for u    [/color]

youtube has this on it? ooooo great!!!! i didn't know that

there is a food section on NL - I really love that soooo much - that section

but I am a visual learner - it is soo important to see someone doing it - it is difficult for me reading - especially that I don't know what these ingredients look like - what is an egusi? I don't even understand the word itself - what does it stand for? is it a vegetable? or is it a title for the dish itself that describes combined ingredients?

many of the spices - I have never heard of them at all - there isn't a nigerian store for me to walk into and talk to a clerk and get them to help me - even if i print out the recipe - i am at such a loss - i just don't know

chicago - has many stores - ethnic based - i sent an email to a department at Notre Dame University and am waiting on a reply - to contact a student Nigerian that can help me before I go to Lagos - that I can pay to let me cook with them in their kitchen so i can surprise him

i want to print the recipes off NL and take them with me and try the different dishes

fstranger3:
I can teach you. The problem is that I detest a slow learner!

Are you Yoruba?

You cook Nigerian foods?  I am a very fast learner - I am not a slow learner

desholah:

You have just exposed my sight to what have been chasing me away from  whites

I'm sorry - my apologies

190:
[color=deeppink]

maybe i should send her for some designs

You can cut some poodle out on her [/color]

i don't touch other women's vj - only my own and there are times that i don't care to touch it either

u are too funny

ohhh good grief

i should have shut my mouth

why did i answer Mz Dark? I will know better next time.

190:
[color=deeppink]Is your man Nigerian

If he is, then u dont have any issue

Nigerian men are big spenders and we treat our women flawlessly

as long as the cash is in his pocket, its all your's all he needs from you is commitment

and believe me if you push your way into his life by showing interest in everything relating to him from his family, culture and even food

he would go blazez on you, im so proud of you both and believe me you have a fan in 190 wish you the best in your affair    [/color]


and lastly please dont over-spend cos money is hard 2 come by these days   

Actually - I think I believe you - he sent me tribal clothing - it was beautiful - tribal clothing - gorgeous - from Lagos, he sent to me across the ocean - I had never seen anything like it before - dresses with matching headwear and jewelry and clothes for my family as well

I am going out of my way to learn dishes but don't know any Nigerians in this area yet - I want to surprise him and learn some dishes before I come to Lagos but have found it difficult to trust anyone enough to meet them in this area.  He just wants me to wait until i come to Lagos and he and his family will help me.

I don't want to spend us in the poor house - because I can do that - TRUST ME - my spending daily can be enormous - it is important for both of us that he definitely monitor the account(s) - he isn't stingy with me at all - I just need to make sure I have a small amount of daily money - and I will be content.

@ 190

That wasn't for you - close your eyes

that was response to Mz Dark

190:
[color=deeppink]well Thanks for the compliment, you are among the lot

telling me that,If only all AA's where like you but oh well every man to his own tent ~

I hope you reduced your spending on shoes and clothes    

Im putting God first in our relationship its not my strength or that of her's its for God to direct us [/color]

I am focusing very, very hard on getting control of my spending - I don't want to lose him because I am lunatic in store(s) - no lie, I walked in a store the other day and my entire mouth dropped open - eyes got really, really big - The Spring Collection, the colors and fabric of the clothes and shoe designs - God give me strength - pleaaaaazzzzzzzze.  

As you can see - I am still really having hard time with this - but I will win - I promise myself that I will win this battle.

I love that you are putting God First - That is what he and I are doing and miracles are happening in both of our lives - huge miracles.

[quote author=MzD@rkSkin link=topic=625333.msg7927808#msg7927808 date=1300320963][color=#0066ff]Good to know u agree, mumu

@shy-one, TWICE A WEEK? shouldn't it more? [/color][/quote]i cut designs in that area (vj) hence wording - SPECIAL ATTENTION - also I am sex-free so very little maintenance is required - once I am having sex - the vj will require much, much more detailed maintenance - right now BASIC daily care is more than enough - I pull out the razor and extra care products twice a week - i love my designs

i also like to paint designs on my toes and the top of my feet and do that twice a week as well - pedicure twice a month at the Asian outlets

fstranger3:
I moved to Chi-Town. I drove through Indiana and could have come to say hi to you, if I only knew where you live. I never went to party in Indiana, but could come say hi to you, if you dont mind?

i don't know what to say

i can't meet you - i don't know you

meeting you would be death to my relationship with my guy

i hope you understand - you sound like a good person, but i would completely lose him - meeting you - i can't do that

quote by fstranger3

I am actually very close to downtown. You should come party in Chi-Town, cant understand why anyone would live in Boring Indiana Grin

So if you have anything doing in Chi-Town, or here to party, make sure you holla at your boy ok!


Are you really in South Bend?

oops - i am sorry - i just saw this - i didn't return to this thread until now - wow - a whole lot of activity since my last visit

yes - i am definitely in South Bend - you came here this past weekend? what did you think? do you have friends here? i thought you were in New Jersey? you are in Chicago? you moved there or do I have you confused with someone else?

i don't party - i work all the time - Lagos was going to be my escape from work somewhat

190:
[color=deeppink]Thank you, things like this is what i want to hear

I wish you luck in your marriage, you are willing to learn ( nice )

you are the best and only devoted married woman around these parts[/color]

i am not married yet - but i will be

but thanks for the compliment - i really like that you and Mz Dark are hitting it off well and are developing a good relationship - you seem changed and more domesticated which is good.

fstranger3:
^^^

@ shy one whatz up?

how are you?

Mz Dark

congratulations on your relationship

I am nervous about this one - this Nigerian Meals

I am like a fish out of water here

He said he would help me - so I will rely on him and his family in Lagos to teach me in this area

I realize that he loves his foods and I will adjust myself to learn this for him

DAILY in this order:

my thoughts/mind
my hair is my glory (no weave/no braids)
my skin
my teeth
toning my body (gym) [legs, butt, abdomen, arms]

Twice A Week I pay Special Attention and Care to:

Vajayjay
Feet/toes

@ OP

keep my mouth closed in his presence

soon as he turn his back - leave walking from him and his car(s) - 2007, 2008, 2020, 2050

if husband - 1st time - keep quiet and not respond in public - at home discuss my feelings with him regarding being humiliated by  him

2nd time - put lock on vajayjay, refuse to cook, refuse to clean - be wife in name only - until behavior changes

yuck - yuck - yuck

the men and the women - yuck!

i like slender men - love slender

ok

i don't think i will score high in this area at all

i used to cook but have gotten away from it for more than 3 years now

so i am unsure of how my food will taste

he told me don't worry - he will help me in that area

but i think i will look around for a female who can help me - get back on track in the kitchen again

OK

So let's share - I believe in uplifting the race - especially women of color

No bashing of Nigerian Women is going to come from me

As an African American Woman - I was unaware that many AA women wear hair nets to sleep - I didn't because my mom is half-caste - half white/half black and she wasn't taught to wear a hairnet

But my AA female friends showed me how to preserve my hair at night so the pillow doesn't break the ends of the hair which will prevent growth evenly.

After a few nights - I noticed too that the cap would retain a smell - so I actually wash it - handwash it in the morning every other day and let it air dry - because I want my hair to smell good and if the silk cap has an odor - that will permeate the hair
and I am conscious of my appearance

it only takes a few minutes to soak in warm soapy water in the morning - rinse and hang to dry so when evening comes - I can sleep with it.

Also - I wash my hair once a week in freezing weather and twice a week during summer weather - the oil buildup and sweat is the reason for the smell in the hair cap.  I oil my hairline twice a day - and the very tips/ends of my hair - I oil twice a day.

Hope that has been a bit helpful

Ladies do you have any tips I can use?

190:
[color=deeppink]Well shy-one

I did give her the money but i never told her i had stacked all the cash elsewhere

she was wondering how so much money reduced just over 3days of she demanding for a shoe

Well i really think yourself and your man should split your cash into both separate accounts

and you can well be in control of one account and that would limit how much you spend since you spend feverishly

my ex was someone like you, she Gulped money with her 2 hands and 2 legs but i was stronger than her

I knew i had more than enough money else where but looked concerned each time she was considering getting something new

she controlled her spendings cos she knew the official account we both shared was low on cash, at the end of the day I WON AND TAMED HER!!![/color]

thank you - thank you - thank you

i am soo out of control in spending - it is my dirty little secret

now that i am in a relationship - he has discovered what i have tried to hide

we are planning a great life together and it is sooo essential that i get my spending under control - i marvel, completely marvel at his level of control and restraint - i have never witnessed in my life someone who is as restrained and deliberate as he

both of our names will be on the new account but he will be the ONLY signer (THIS IS per my request - because i fear i will spend through it until i can get better control of my spending)

THE ACCOUNTS we don't share will have the low balances.

190 thank you for your thought process - it helps me with my planning(s)

these threads - many of them at NL is very helpful on millions of different levels

@ 190

i asked you specifically

because you said your girl asked for money for shoes

did you give money to her for shopping?  and if you did

do you set aside a certain amount for shopping for her regularly?

we are negotiating now and i am researching this $$$ handling between men and women

and how you men handle this area so i can learn

yes it is question

what do you suggest?

@ OP

I know his account and he knows my account

we just combined accounts as well

we discuss money, pins, passwords as one would discuss a favorite television show - we are trusting and very casual in this regard with each other