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WTH?

Mz. Darkskin and Chima - what am I going to do with you guys? lololol

i love both of your status statements - gosh that is sooo funny!!!

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@ OP

yayyyyyy!

This sounds great girl!

you have my vote.

i will watch from the sides - sounds like fun.

Basseti:
I dont think u heard him well. 
Thats very unprofessional and I doubt if any med. doctor will want to risk his medical license for such unprofessional / sexual harrasment behaviour. People have been sued for a lot less than that.

You can doubt all you want to - he said it - looking me directly in my face - eye to eye - HE SAID IT.  It was so crazy - I didn't do anything because I didn't know WHAT TO DO.  It's like seeing the moon turn orange with pink polka dots.  You just stare - because it is so ludicrous - you don't have a response prepared.  And yes - people can sue - but I just was at a loss for words.  Because he is a Doctor and I just froze and hurried up and left when he finished.

Also - I don't have a problem with fat people - The fat white woman was rough - I wasn't imagining it as I was gripping the metal table beneath me trying to stay calm and not kick her with my right foot as she jammed the object inside - it hurt - darn it!!!

SO noooo I don't have a problem with fat people.  I just don't want to be examined by another one.  That's my choice and I'm going to take it.  No fat white people touching my poo naneee anymore - ya got that Bassetti?  Or whoever you call yourself.

I have never liked the pelvic exams.

But I would prefer a female ob gyn (non-fat)

More so than not - I haven't had a pleasant experience with men doctors in the exam room. One Asian Male - actually said to me "Ooooo you have a NICE ONE." During a pelvic exam. What was I suppose to say to that quack? Thank you? Very uncomfortable and unprofessional if you ask me.

Also, the men and the fat white female doctors are much rougher when inserting the metal object prior to administering the pelvic exam. I had maybe 1 or 2 male ob gyns that were great but moved from the area.

Indiana is dull to many people.

@ Post

YOU ARE NOT AFRICA.  Africa is a LARGE CONTINENT.  Comprised of GAY, STRAIGHT, BLACK, WHITE, ASIAN, MEN, WOMEN.

People are born gay.

I noticed my brother at age 4 playing with dolls.  He walked like a girl and had feminine mannerisms.  So people are born gay.

I have another male family member - he was caught kissing boys in a closet in Kindergarten - that is 6 years of age.  He hung out with nothing but girls and never played outside with boys.  At young ages earlier than 6.

So if people aren't born gay.  I can definitely say that people are born with TENDENCIES that support gay and/or heterosexual behaviors.  You like what you like.  You can try hard to NOT LIKE something or someone but you either like the taste of an apple or you don't.

On another thread the writer - (Fantastic thought process) - stated the obvious, "Who Intentionally Chooses to Be Gay in a Very Heterosexual Environment," knowing they will be hated, hunted, hurt, killed - who consciously chooses that?

Yes!!! People are Born Gay and with Gay Tendencies.

I also have uncles that are Gay - who never met my brother or my other male family member - because one of the Uncles died before they were born and the other Uncle lived in a State far away. So there is a hereditary - claim/factor.

iv4real - completely agree
adamsrib - completely agree - your leading question - fantastic
Nekai - completely agree
And as usual Mr. BrownJay - nails it every single time - completely agree

To add to Nekai's last paragraph - here is a thought process - A LIFETIME means forever - for the rest of your life.

So in my mind - if someone is in my life for my lifetime - having cooperation, harmony, warmth and love throughout the home are MUCH MORE important to me than my having the upper hand, having the last word.

Basically I could care LESS how I look to others.  I only care how we look to each other. He gives in and I give in.

Desperate looking?  Do others opinion really matter that much to you?  How you look?  So I look desperate today and he looks desperate tomorrow - then we will just be 2 Desperados.   Saddle up.  Yippe, Yi Yay.

@ OP

My friend is married to an only child and a very spoiled male.

Answer to thread - HELL NOOOOOOOOOO!

You guys are taking this the wrong way.

Jay - Bee - smh

@ OP - your guy is being honest, he isn't a fanatic, he is letting you in on his direction in life.  Either step up to the plate or select another channel to engage.  If he accepts his calling, it will also be your calling if you stay with him.

My guy told me the same thing.  I am overly excited and cannot wait.  He and I think alot alike.  I see this as very exciting, especially him answering that calling.  We are ALL CALLED.  We don't all acknowledge it, aren't all aware of it and don't all answer.

When you answer that calling - Blessings POUR DOWN - life is good.

MzDarkSkin:
[color=#0066ff]Hey Shyone  

I am just fine sis!
Just at work TRYING to take it easy.

but I am good. How are you? [/color]

I understand totally.

I just took a break from work and need to return to it. Have a good day Mz. D.

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Raid


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justwise:
You don't have a prob, your marriage is already crowded so u can as well have 4some

ooo ahahahahahahaha

"you don't have a problem," ooooo ahahahahahaha

[shy-one runs out of thread]

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=642710.msg8090752#msg8090752 date=1302389170]I am glad you find that funny because I do too.    Be careful broke, hungry, and ugly black roaches are circling the thread.[/quote]what?

what is going on?  ahahahahah black roaches - girll you are too funny to me. oooooo - circling the thread.  there are days that you keep me laughing.

Hey Ms. Dkskn:

So good to see u today too.

How is everything with u?

ooo my goodness - Mrs. C

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what?

your status - wth? oooooo

WOMAN you are sooo funny!! that is hilarious

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[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=642710.msg8090583#msg8090583 date=1302387799]Hello.  Good.  U?[/quote]I am good - I hope you are feeling good - the weather is finally beautiful here all this week - yayyyyy!!!  

Basseti:
U can call me wateva U like, Missy. Its the Internet LOL

ok - thanks

kandiikane:
I always say that but the thing is they are still pretty whether you like it or not. whether they be witches or wizard, heart harden like stone they will still be pretty.

You are correct.

But here in South Bend, Indiana - in the black community - here - those women who are known as loud, ignorant acting, uncouth, bullying - are avoided by black men looking for women who they want to be seen "walking down the street with who won't disrespect nor embarrass them."  They generally have acquired a reputation as "witches, loose screws, insane, crazy, unstable, irrational."  

All equaling ugly.  So though they physically look good - in a small town where many know each other.  Those type of women generally are picked up by men who give them the same gutter level treatment they dish out to others.  Those pretty females court black eyes, broken teeth, poverty, etc.  Because the men that run behind them for their beauty are also "rough neck" level negroes who don't mind dealing with them because they are used to drama.  That level man gives as good as he gets.  And many times he lives on the adrenaline that accompanies dealing with a woman of that sort.  So her beauty in his arms many times is short-lasting.

Basseti:
And at the risk of turning this into a nerdy discourse, exercise is being touted to help release endorphins which is well known to  trigger a "feel-good-effect" in humans.
So yeah, your genes can pose some limitations but  U can still work around that.
U might not look like Haile Berry  but the endorphins will make u feel like her . Just like someone who is high having the feeling that he/she can take on the whole world.

B - May I call you B?

That is soooo true.

true that, true that

Hey There Mrs. C

How U Be?

kandiikane:
who might they be?

REALITY101:
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I have my pen and paper. Name them please  

oooo - you 2 are too much

ahahahahahah - lolololol

pro01:
And what if a single woman is 'blessed' with all those features, does she still qualify as 'merely' ugly, or a new word would have to be invented for her? Cos I know a few women who possess all those 'qualities' and a little extra (body odour, hairy areolas and daily fits of insanity). Some of them live here on NL.

i like you - i really, really, really like you.   ahahahahahahahahaha

let me tell you this story quickly,  

I moved to a new school in High School.  My parents moved alot - I was ALWAYS THE NEW GIRL.  I hated it, hated it, hated it.  Anyway, the second to the last high school i went to.  MY FIRST DAY.  These 2 girls followed me to my locker and took their feet and purposely stepped on the back of my heels numerous times and bumped into me pushing me into my locker and pretending like it was an accident and laughing really loud and high pitched.  I was very afraid and intimidated and didn't know them because everyone around me was an unfamiliar face.

The girls were pretty.  One looked white and she was slender and dressed very nice (she was AA like me) and the other was darker in complexion and dressed well.  But they were actually physically very attractive - but their actions, their loud laughter and bullying from jealousy made them ugly.  They didn't smile, their faces around the eyes were narrowed and hard-looking in their efforts to frighten and hurt me.  I noticed their lips were snarled up and nose wrinkled up.  2 physically attractive females - ugly, harpies.

Stupidity and jealousy can turn a face, body and mind to an ugly, hard, unattractive, undesirable individual.

I have seen so-called unattractive women - when they smile - light up a room.  Soft, welcoming, pleasing demeanor matched with colorful, feminine clothing can transform the ugliest woman to one that is acceptable to many an audience.

Basseti:
I agree with that and thats where I was going with the gym subscription stuff.

Hours at the gym cant transform a Mon'ique or Gabourey Sidibe into a Haile Berry. But it helps u tone up. There is a big difference in being toned up and being flabby. U can be fat and solid , or  u can be fat and flabby. Neither is a choice that anyone will willingly go for but one is better than the other.

That being said, there are a lot of women out there that a little bit of running will do some real good. But they are just lazy and looking for slim pills that is made of chocolate.

chocolate?  ahahahahahah - oooo gosh you are funny.

I completely agree with you - also toning the fat to be solid can even be a major encouragement to go further and whittle that fat down to be considered "thick" versus fat.  Taking 100 pounds off a 300 pound 5'2 female is fantastic on that woman's joints, bladder, spine, heart, self-esteem, etc.  Soooo many areas that can be hit with one stone.

the name of the current thread is fine the way it is

ugly can equate to:

fat, obese
bad attitude
ugly facially
bad breath
ignorant
women with filthy, foul mouths
beautiful women with ugly attitudes and actions

all can be categorized as ugly

Basseti:
We are talking about the rule here and not the exception.
The reality is that pretty women are generally vain while the ugly ones tend not to.

If u are bigger than 500 pounds and U have an attitude problem and u still have men hovering over u like flies over honey , then :
1) U are the only straight woman in an otherwise lesbian community
2) U are in prison and u were mistakenly put in the male housing unit.

oooo ahahahahaha

You know and even if there is a "gene" problem

Exercise and Low Carbohydrate Intake (rid the diet of rice, potatoes, white bread) would still HELP TO A CERTAIN DEGREE

It might not solve the problem but it will assist in lowering the weight, getting a handle on it, curbing the excess "out of control level that it escalates to."

Versus just going along with the program.  Dang!!  Give the "gene claim," a fight for it's money.  Don't just give in to it and keep stuffing your face.

not really

many people also associate fat with ugly

@ Reality

I know - no one said it was easy

But it has to be important - i am in the nail salon getting a manicure on my own nails - no fake nails and i am surrounded by these facially and spiritually and personality beautiful women who are spending hundreds of dollars on "smoke screens."  

They are using "band-aid," to cover the weight they carry - band-aid/smoke screen = weaves, gel nails, lane bryant, etc., versus dealing with areas that would do WONDERS for them.  Such as exercise.  Exercise is FREE.  

My questions is this:  Why are they a candidate for "biggest loser?"  When does, "put the fork down and back away from the plate and start and maintain a necessary daily exercise 20-60 minute program,"  become their choice versus the local asian nail shop and the weave store?  Because now it's just a fat woman with fake hair, fake nails and bright clothes = Unavoidably obvious.  Now she really stands out.  Not just for him to see but for ALL to see.

And these women don't even think on that level - they just see the nails, the weave - they don't see nor care about the bigger picture - the weight is killing them- but they will look good in their casket for their family to compliment and view.  I would not be getting my hair or nails done.  I would be pedaling, running, walking, swimming; wearing myself out sweating and definitely not buying new clothes until the weight issue got under control; spending my money on weight watchers, fruit, gallons of water.  

I don't want a fat man or a slim man with a big belly.  Why?  Why would I?  Why Should I?  If my stomach were fat - I would date a fat man.  But if I am not coming to the relationship with a fat problem why in the world would I accept someone in my bed who would crush me?

@ reality

Again you are completely spot-on. They are - these big babes are really pretty facially. So if they look good this large - why can't they imagine how gorgeous they will look without the extra weight blowing them to whale size.

It amazes me. I see these women spending money on fake long nails every 2 weeks, weave - hundreds of dollars, expensive tent size clothing to cover that which is begging for exercise and screaming for air and release.

Everytime I see this - I just think to myself.

30.00 a month at the gym and you can walk around naked, bald and bite your nails to nubs and you will look a thousand times better than you are trying to look now. paying to cover that blubber.

but if i tell them - I am cussed out, told off, excuse after excuse is given - we had kids, no time to work out, no support system, it is hereditary, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

i think to myself "ok - continue dressing yourself to be casket-clean," because that weight is going to put you in one before your time.

shy-one goes back to minding her business.

@ Reality

ok - you are 100% correct. when i first moved from Wisconsin back to Indiana - last year and reconnected with her (my friend) - i saw the massive weight gain and was worried about her - i called her everyday begging her to go walking with me and i even offered to buy her an exercise bike (2) and put them in her living room and we would ride together while watching tv - to let her know that i would work with her. she had one excuse after the other excuse - her feet hurt, she was tired, she forgot, she wasn't in the mood, etc,

i just stopped calling because i have no time. when i saw her not wanting to put forth the effort to change her lot as well as the way she views herself and the way he views her. it was best for me to just pull totally away from her because it was too much for me to stomach. my mom told me what you did - mind my business. so my business i am minding. she is such a beautiful, beautiful, very very deeply loyal genuine friend - it hurts - but i just talk to her via phone when she calls every blue moon.

Because they put up with more than an attractive babe.  That's why.  That is what I have observed and what I have been told.

Many times a woman who lacks so-called physical beauty (according to what their society deems as attractive) seems more so than not - to be a lot more long-suffering than her attractive female counterpart.  Fat women do the same.  For some reason these women feel that their options are more limited and they will put up with more and work harder to get their man and work harder to keep their man.

I have a female friend that weighs like 300 pounds and she stands 5'2 - and she puts up with the craziest mess from her husband.  I had to stop visiting her because my blood boils and I don't want to disrespect her or her husband.  He talks crazy to her, disrespectful - she takes it and says nothing and continues to love that monster who turns my stomach when I see him.  In their home and in their world, he is King.  So I leave them to be in their world.  But he is neither attractive nor charming, but he is quite vocal and compared to her weight problem and low self-esteem - in their world and in her mind, he is still valuable to her regardless of his bad behavior and venomous thoughts.

A while back, I asked a few guys why I see really handsome, and/or very sociable guys with these women that were really plain, and even ugly (according to society-standards, etc.)  I was told that basically they can be themselves around them, they don't have to kiss-their-backsides as much and are treated like kings, like gold by these women.  They don't have to work as hard as being with a woman who is high maintenance or thinks she is God's gift.  Also, more attractive women have most times a bad attitude, don't want to cater to their needs as men as much as these ugly women/less attractive women do, etc.

I don't know how true that is - I just wanted to share what these guys shared regarding the posters thread.

ahahahahahaha

hilarious!!! ooooooo

OK if you want him this is what you do:

YOU GO TO THE GYM
YOU WORK OUT

monkey see, monkey do (men are visual creatures)

Let him know that a house divided falls and that YOU NEED him in shape at all times the laughing and joking is OVER.

Stop being complacent, you aren't doing enough - it's not your job to select food or block him from getting to food because that is a waste of time, as you saw - because men know when you are serious and they know when you aren't - you aren't serious and he knows it.  Get serious and don't give an inch.  His health and your sex life isn't a game.  

How are YOU ALLOWING this to continue?  Fight for your man - there are times when we women have to stand up against even our own mate - for the sake of our happiness in the relationship.  You fight for him - by getting yourself in the gym.  Walking, jogging, biking - let him see you doing YOU and he will follow if he wants you.

You have to give them what you want to see.  Treat yourself like you want him to treat you and don't budge an inch.  Work out - buy work out dvds and put them on - let him see you watching those - let him see you being interested in eating right and exercise on many different levels - in your conversation integrate sports and exercise that is rigorous.  Become engrossed in those areas where he can hear you and see you.  Have your girlfriends come over and go walking as a group - do it regularly - daily - don't invite him, don't incorporate - just let him see your swag.

It may take 1 month, 2 months, 3 months, even 6 months of you exercising while he watches from the sidelines - but TRUST ME - he will get off his fat azz - especially when he sees how the exercise is making you even more fit, more energized and more attractive to the opposite sex onlookers watching you while you are in his presence.  He will join you in your exercise routines as well as up the ante on his own program. There are very few people that enjoy being left behind in their own video.

Also, stop laying under him - as soon as lovemaking is over - push his fat azz over and let him know that you cannot handle this anymore - you can't breathe - that you love him but this is affecting your desire for sex.  Or let him know that starting April 15, 2011 - canine style or you on top, is his only option until he starts losing weight.

@ adonisgold - sooooooo true

Showering together?

Fantastic - I love it - sooo much fun - tender moments - memories that last forever.

I will love it. A personal favorite past-time.

endmoll:
Show her some love and she will melt like ice.

I agree - works like a charm each and every time.