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it must be a typo

cause he doesn't ask me for money - he is a true honorable African Nigerian man - he is a "real leader" not a fake one - i really love him Mrs. C.

the man - i will sing that negro's name from the rooftops - you will love him too - i promise you

thank you jaybee

i honestly feel really good about it

i am very reluctant to make any rash, fast, uninvestigated moves because i have too much to lose to walk the wrong path - he is really good - i promise you

also i own my own business
i can' t fly right now

he is impatient for me to join him - that is why i cannot just up and leave yet - but i will

where are u getting that he asks me for money?

no where have i said that

fstranger6:
I am not picking on you

It just doesnt feel good. You dont understand the mentality and I am just so sorry for you. Even though I hate thet dude called jay bees, I'd advise you to think through what he posted. There is some truth somewhere in there. I have a feeling you are awestruck by the 'foreigness' of this guy,the fact that he is exotic and different from what you are used to, and not necesarily that you are in love. I feel exactly the same way about Arab girls, but that said, there is no way I am going to fall head over heels for some Arab girl in faraway Saudi without first meeting her. This is stupidity on your part. THis is not going to work out for you, I repeat there is no way this is going to work out.


The earlier you forget about this whole thing, the better. I cant imagine my sister coming home to tell my parents about a guy he met online who lives thousand of miles from her, I tell you something, I will personally strangle my sister. Dont you have parents, siblings and relatives that can talk some sense into your thick Akata skull?

Nuff said!

My thick Akata Skull?

Why does my skull have to be "Akata thick?" what is it with you? u are not happy until someone attacks you. Perchance do u have a saddle I can strap to you and ride? viciously whipping your backside as I ride. Because you deserve nothing less. You are very animalistic in nature - I mean really what is it with your inflammatory type of language in a very simple conversation?

@JayBee

everything that u listed is null and void

he has scheduled for me to join him 4-5 times and has offered to pay ALL EXPENSES - I have shy-away - i love him but am very fearful to travel yet - i have shy'd-away and he is not happy with my not joining him months ago

he has deposited a LARGE LUMP SUM in my account without knowing me or knowing how i would spend it - he really loves me and i love him deeply

i tested him - and offered to marry him to bring over just to see if i was his green card - HE REFUSED MONTHS AGO - he is not trying to leave Nigeria just to leave Nigeria - he wants to be in love, married and has several family and friends - so none of those signs is our reality.

we investigated all of those months ago - that doesn't apply to us.  THank God!

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=599737.msg7681103#msg7681103 date=1297059073]I am sorry that you disagree.  Black men in USA and UK have issues with expressing their affections toward women in public and Nigerian men aren't any different.  

I have Nigerian friends, family members that are married to Nigerian men, co-workers that are Nigerian, and did business with Nigerian men.  The affections that I have seen displayed in public are no different then the black men in USA.  In fact, the nigerian men that are my friends are OPENLY affectionate with their wives or girlfriends and they haven't been in USA a long time.[/quote]Mrs. C:

they are open because they have adapted to the environment and they are aware that family is miles and miles away.  that is what crossing border does automatically to many that migrate to the U.S.

the society over here grabs hold and doesn't let go.  if they were back in nigeria - that society too will grab hold and not let go.  in nigeria [and i have yet to go] they are not as a culture as openly affectionate in public as those in the U.S. - that is what i am saying - as a culture.

in the U.S. black men - some are and some aren't - but in Nigeria I am hearing that 95% and higher are not as open affectionately in public - that is a culture difference that is not a part of our culture in the U.S. - and that is truth girlfriend - it goes beyond some blacks do and some blacks don't - it goes far beyond that statement

@ Mrs. C

desperation is not a word in my vocabulary or my action

i am not ugly, i am not plain, my face has graced publications

financially speaking i don't need anybody and neither does my man - we are both blessed financially

again - cooperation is key.  my religion is alot more flexible and my approach of viewpoint of religion is much more relaxed than is his.  for that reason alone - i saw the necessity of opening my thought up to his religion - BECAUSE THERE IS ONLY ONE GOD.

Also - he has small children who are very active in their church - i do not - so we make amends for each other.  i'm good sis - trust me.  i have done my research.  he also is not the first african man i have dated - back in college i dated 2 african men - actually an african man taught me how to cook meat.

jay bee:
Just make sure you're thinking with your head most times instead of following your heart.
Some of us Nigerians are known to me smooth talkers alas smooth criminals, I know what i'm sayin as this is a coommon trend that we hear about all the time.
Idon't know your man but i know for sure that being in a relationship with somene u see all the time will surely enable you discover if someone is for you.
talk is cheap and i'm sure you aren't a teenager.
I wish you well though
Good luck

thank you Jay Bee for your thought process

we are sooo far beyond words at this point - we have displayed deep actions - he has proven his honesty and his very high ethics as though he is sitting in a chair beside me - he has proven it so deeply to me. he has done so many different actions that bury talk under his shoe.

if you were a woman you would marry him and steal him from me - that is how good this man is - i promise you.

thank you very much for caring enough to take the time to say what you have said to me.

fstranger6:
^^^^

You are not fooling me

I am Yoruba and Jay Bee is Yoruba just like your "guy' I cant even call him your fiancee

You are not fooling us at all

You are fooling yourself

This is not going to end well, I can see it!

"fooling you"

what?  why are you picking on me?  

trust me - this is going to end wonderfully - it is going very, very well and has been going very very well for many, many months now.  so think what you want

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=599737.msg7680999#msg7680999 date=1297056113]Damn!  I have to say this out in the opening!  Damn you!  If the men say something to me I will deny it! 

As much it pains me to say this, but I have to say this.  Sighs.  (clearing throat hard)  SOME Nigerian men are affectionate and open with it.  It has nothing to do with the fact that they are Nigerians.  They are no different than Black men in USA or UK. 

There are black men in USA that won't express openly about their affections toward you.  As I stated as long as you look out for Shyone, you will be okay. 

Always remember that you have needs as well.  If you are going to follow his beliefs then you need to read up on their rites and beliefs.  The religion is different than most Christian organized religion.  Research and understand what is expected of you as a wife in that religion.  It is very daunting but if you comfortable with it be prosperous.[/quote]Mrs. C:

I don't agree with that in the red above.  my man is Yoruba and lives in Nigeria and he said the exact same thing that this Igbo man who own his own business in South Bend - said to me and he is from Nigeria as well.  He has lived in the States for years. Neither of these men know each other at all.

Nigerian men do not kiss at the airport in public.  They don't understand that action and I believe that.  The Igbo man actually turned to me and asked me what is that all about and why do we kiss and hug openly at the airport and why aren't we reserving that action for the home versus publically.  My guy said the exact same thing as well.  He said that Americans are more public with their display of affection.  It is definitely a culture thing.  I don't agree with you girlfriend.

fstranger6:
did you read jay bees post?
does it remind you of someone?

i don't understand - please what are u trying to say to me?

who is Jay Bee reminding me of? what are u saying? just tell me

@ JayBee

i know - i'm thinking on that, very, very much

i don't like watered down men - so his strong African mentality - i am very much enjoying that about him

if you meet someone that is the cat's meow for you - tell me that you will adapt some of your ways for that person - won't you?

that isn't desperation - it's cooperation

that is all that i have adapted - because in all other ways - we are very, very similar.

i have changed so much more than that for men in the U.S. and they were unworthy of me - because i am very worthy - this man is very worthy of me and i of him - regardless of the distance between us

when i see a jewel - i deep sea dive - the water is warm and i love it

hahahahahahahaha

ok - this guy is greek

my experience with greek men - wowwww! they are very aggressive - I mistakenly dated one - ONCE. THEY run the show, u are basically a bystander and observer because they do it all for both of u. i went on a first date with one guy, he was such a gentleman, wonderful and i KID YOU NOT - as soon as he put me in the car right after dinner, it was Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde - the guy attacks me sexually in his car - it started with his kiss on my cheek and ended with him holding me down and my having to fight him off in the vehicle and in order to get him to take me back home - I had to promise him that we would have sex on the 2nd date because i refused to have sex on the first date because i told him that we both should take an AIDS test first. he agreed and called me every single day thereafter and i completely refused to answer the phone and he kept calling for over 2 months I never forgot that, he made me so nervous, i was looking over my shoulder for 2 months scared he would be there. It happened a long time ago, but I remember it like it was yesterday. another greek guy was just as aggressive. i was shopping in the store and he followed me asking for my phone number over and over from the time i got off my bike until i got back on my bike - and he was the store owner. those greeks woowwwww!! just my 10 cents.

aminalib:
i know u missed me since i have not been on here for a while, dry your tears, stalk freely now

ooooo

ahahahahahahahaha - lololololol - lrlrlrlrlrlr - gasping for air

u 2 guys are something else - thank u for laughs - oooooo - whoooo

i know u are very, very right

thank u for reminding me - i do change for my mate - and my mate changes for me

u know, these nigerian men - did you know that they don't out in public show affection like we do in the U.S.? Like kissing, publically? i tell him i love him all the time and he now tells me the same in front of other people, he does it now.

in the beginning Mrs. C - he was soo uncomfortable to say that out loud in front of his friends and family. now he calls me from his families homes - i hear them in the background - he tells me he loves me in front of them now. lolololololol

he puts them on the phone to talk to me - i love him soo much - he is adorable, soooo cute. ooooooo that man of mine. thank you God!!! lrlrlrlrlrl

ok back to topic - yes you are right Mrs. C. i am trying hard to maintain who i am in this relationship. but the religion choice, he won't compromise with me on it. so i succumb to him. i have to do it. ok?

so he will succumb to me on other things. it is give and take - but still maintain your identity.

NOOO

I cannot and if I find out that he is bisexual - the relationship is over, completely over - no questions asked because I don't want to hear his answers.

I just want to vacate immediately.

@ Mrs. C:

He attends a church in Nigeria - similar to Pentecostal belief in America - I am familiar with the beliefs - so I am actually OK with it.

You know sometimes you have to pick your battles. This is a battle that is nonexistent for me. I serve God in my heart, in my deeds and my actions. He serves the same but also more front and center and one of us will have to change churches - I am willing to be that one. I don't serve as a leader in my current church - because my business buries me and even on Sunday it is difficult to pull away.

He is front and center and I am in the background and I fit there naturally and am more comfortable in that position - trust me. We together compliment each other very, very, very well. Remember - it is the same God that we serve.

ok - i am going through this right now and have been for many months now

my guy made it clear that i am to take his religion over my religion - i am really having to think very, very deeply on this because my religion is a huge part of my deepest essence of who "i am."

God knows that my guy is sooo important to me and i don't want to lose him over religion because we both love God and serve God strongly - just differently

my Guy is a "leader" in his church and attends every service because of his position.  i don't go to church regularly but am a serious believer and talk to God throughout every single day and even consult with God on work projects - this is how deeply i serve

as long as i can continue to talk and serve God as I do then i will attend my guy's church of his choice once we marry. so i will be changing to suit my mate

i feel that it is important to change for each other - as long as you are both going in the same direction that change should be painless and provide growth for you as individuals and strengthen you as one unit

hmmmm

ooopsss

sorry, i just reread it - i see that u r the numbskull.

welllllllll, i like numbskulls too {shy-one trying to walk words back but failing miserably} - please forgive. [looking very sheepish and embarrassed]

I like the Baby Phat too Mz. Dark

wow, i should post a picture too, now u all have motivated me.

Rokiatu:

I love the picture - don't mind the numbskull - you look great and you represent us women very, very well.

I completely and totally agree Rokiatu

and to add to beauty - don't have hair that is real and long - these AA witches in this country seem to go out of the way to rid you of your natural glory - many of them wear weave and they want you in weave as well so if they aren't trying to gang jump you to rip it out of your head during your school days {I am a talker, not a fighter} - then as college students they will try to talking you into cutting it all off or stress you out to the point of it falling out.

sheesh - women - I enjoy more having men as friends than women.  But if you have a man - usually he won't allow it.

ahahahahahahaha

ooooo

u are something else Mrs. C - you do bring such joy to NL

you keep me laughing

Mrs. C

ok - what wrong did i do now?  wasn't what he said really thoughtful and positive and supportive of women?  you are checking my temperature for a reason so you must not agree.  what do i not know about blackteeth?  did i miss something here? you usually fill me in - please update my thought process

shy-one

happily skips in with a cold glass of milk and warm plate of home-baked-fresh-out-of-the-oven chocolate chip cookies - smiles warmly and pleasantly at blackteeth - gently sets plate on side table near his chair - such an awesome and wonderful man such as blackteeth deserves good treatment, admiration and respect.

turning towards blackteeth - "would you like anything else"?  it would be my pleasure to show you honor - great men such as yourself deserve to be appreciated.  You - my new friend stand head and shoulders above the rest.

@ Orton

Man, I have been laughing and laughing - you are hilarious - ohhhh myy gosh

ahahahahahah - lololololoolol

u are something to behold.

ahahhahahahahaha

so fstranger1 go and get some rest - it is very late

once the sex is over and if it was good

i enjoy cuddling for 10-20 minutes tops

after that scoot over and give me my space - and don't steal the cover - cuddle my a.z.z.

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UPDATED - Thread Summary - page 3 to now:

Gays
SEFAGO (King of the gays!)
Eldee (Sefago's you-know Wink )
Eku (but of course),
Jenifa (not Nigerian, not even African),
*FStranger (no surprise),
Morpheus24
Udezue (seriously, look at his profile pic)
Chrisbenogor (very angry gay)
Gar3th (gay guy, gayer name)
Gbawe (pretends to be liberal to get hot feminist chicks)
Tippy Top
Manny4life
Redsun
Idehn
OA4MJ
Adconline
2good (2good for women?)
Olojoro
Babalegba (passionate about man love)
Queensmith
Londoner
Shy-One (u so crazy)
Ileke-Idi

Bi-curious
PhysicsQEDHMDPHDEDD (am shocked)
Tasma

Questionable
Buzugee (nothing to see here)
Mobinga
OA4MJ

In a League of His Own
13volts ( "I will kill any Gay if i had a chance" )

Hetero
Sagamite,
Katsumoto,
Tensor, (VERY VERY VERY VERY VE-RY heterosexual! Very!)
Obiagu1
Mai Suya
Lastpage
Righton (thinks everyone except him is "secretly gay" )
Deluxecad (hates homos named david)
Elrony
Viewlekan
babaowo
Dreamchaser
Philip0906 (textspeak will turn you gay. seriously, stop it!)
random posters
Isale-Gangan

ok

I get the humor - but crazy - I am not

Orinkla

wowww

i love your thought process - i completely agree with your post - thank you