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I have a female friend that is a well-known print fashion model that was very large in the industry - very beautiful black woman as well as white female friends that are very attractive

As a fellow woman - who is also attractive - many times I would have to calm the women down around me. Because I just didn't understand the jealousy thing

It is much more important to me to learn [i am a forever learner] from those i admire than to attack them because they are attractive - i just never could get with the female jealousy games and behavior

jealousy = you want something that person has; just improve your own video and learn from the best around you - you can't expose yourself to the best if you push them away with jealous behavior and cattiness - that is why i never could understand female to female or male to male jealousy

I don't know either - I wonder the same thing many times

You have to value the friendship and see it as something that is important to you to hang onto - that helps with not being jealous - jealousy shouldn't outweigh that person's importance in your life.

Love that person and their affect on your life.

Talk to God

This is too serious and important to ask NL in regard to marriage

Obviously you need to cement your relationship with God so you will know it is God's voice directing you - once you hear God's voice you won't have to ask anyone else.

the blacker the berry the sweeter the juice

i would scream myself unconscious thinking I had awoken and saw a white ghost in my bed

@ OP gross - no hairy chest for me

i love smooth - hairless chest

that is sexy

[shy-one walks out and closes door behind her]

Advocator:
bombaclat is a jamaican term and green eyed means jealous!

ya heard??

oooo so I entered your thread and actually posted a "saying" that somewhat agreed with the topic of the thread

which meant I actually was agreeing with you from a different vantage point

and you dare to attack me?

Advocator:
i tink[b] i had [/b]almost all da women in da world, but i gota admit a shunned few becuz they were ugly lookin.

shy-gal bombaclat u seem to be anatha green eyed chick,

What does bombaclat and green eyed mean?

The Most Beautiful Woman in the World

"Is ACTUALLY the One You Have Never Had"


and so on and so on and so on - it never ends

[quote author=D-sense link=topic=610305.msg7794769#msg7794769 date=1298579990]Is he here? [/quote]In and out - he is in and out

[quote author=D-sense link=topic=610305.msg7794669#msg7794669 date=1298578845]You can join the race [/quote]I risk losing my babe for no-one.  He will look at me like I have COMPLETELY lost my mind.

Kay Money and DSense engaged in big ol' ball-swinging contest

[Shy-One - delicately crosses ankles in lounge chair while holding popcorn - looking from person to person - awaiting outcome]

There were many, many times I wish this wasn't true

"I will never be without a man for a mate"

One of my previous guys was a Haitian guy - beautiful black, black skin - the sex was very good

I loved his accent - when I found out he was married - I dropped him faster than rain falls from the sky.

He stalked me like he owned me - from standing outside my bedroom window, to calling constantly and threatening my roommates - calling them liars if they told him I was not at home.

He even brought his daughter to my doorstep and told her I was going to be her new mother. The daughter didn't blink - with hands shaking I slammed the front door. I learned to start withholding this magical Va-j-j from then on.

That Haitian = Hellllllllllllll Nooooooooo.

young guys in the U.S.

the majority of them don't know how to talk to you, how to treat you

too loud, too rough - I refuse dating them

lololololol

why are u shocked?

My current guy - I am one year older than he is - he is the first person that I have dated that I am older

Previously my guys have been 16 years older, 14 years older, 9 years older, 2 years older and 1 year older than me.

I could never have a guy that was more than 2 years younger than me - if I did - he would have to be extremely mature mentally - I still just don't ever see me being fascinated enough with the guy to date him.

I have always loved older men

so for me to even date my current guy - you can believe that mentally he is most definitely my senior - quite a sage in many areas. - thank God.

i will be taking an HIV test soon

i'm just not going to think about it or worry about it (i hope that will be my actual reaction at the health dptmt)

i will have the staff email the results to him and he has agreed to do the same

yes

he found me and he was online

before we found each other - we found God first

my advice is to find God first and follow God's direction - everything will fall into line thereafter

no, no and no

my babe went to a tailor in Lagos recently and we discussed the tailor's gender (male) - I made it clear that male was what I expected - not female in his regard

I would have a problem with a doctor, tailor, masseuse, being a female - looking at him or touching him half or fully undressed - he is of the same opinion in my regard.

you are not to post on the wall - everyone sees the wall

my babe - never did that to another woman

he posted on my wall every day and I did the same to his wall - we said all kinds of sexy things to each other - I am his, he is mine

if he posted on another female's wall - i would feel the same as your girl felt - he should have sent it to her via email - compliments/admiration should be done in that order

His posts are actually not on Mobo444's level

This poster is sheer poisonous

Mobo - though negative has areas of humor - this poster lacks humor

The question he should ask himself is "who and what has decimated him to affect him in this manner"

The cancer is steadily building in his loins - eating him from the inside - it is spewing from his mouth verbally

Mark my word one of the future visits to his physician(s) will uncover the deadly that he has refused to acknowledge as he is focusing most of his energy chewing on us verses self-healing to ward off what awaits him up the road

know that

so u took me for a ride? and i gave you advice and i believed you too.

now i feel like your fool. wow

Don't worry about what it is or isn't

sounds like you won

The girl's salary is being deducted so you can get paid

You will be hearing about your reimbursement soon - I would advise you not to shop in that store again - if the shop owner can treat her employee in this unethical manner - she doesn't deserve your business - God will deal with her accordingly. The salesgirl will be reimbursed x 10 as God doesn't do ugly.

@ Poster

Follow your instinct YOU ARE NOT WRONG.

What you suspect is happening is definitely happening. Call her out. Move on if she doesn't start showing on her FB page and in other areas who her loyalty is to and with.

She needs to pledge allegiance to you - have her change her status to "in a relationship and link it to your FB page so that your name appears" - see what her response will be to that request.

When I had a FB page - he and I linked our FB page to being in a relationship with each other and his name showed on my page and my name showed on his page for ALL TO SEE.

chaircover:
The next question is how were they to know that the particular bag they gave you was not able to hold your merchandise?

Is this the first time you have bought from their shop?

If not have their bags fallen apart before?

If you have bought from them before and you have used their bags without any issues, have you gone on to further use these same bags for other things apert from just taking our mechandise home (like most of us do)?

How can anyone prove that you didnt damage the bag yourself just to discredit their establishment

These are all the questions you are going to be ready to answer if you went to court.

That's part of being a shop owner and hiring competent staff to run the store in your absence - your staff should know if the bag is strong enough to hold what they just put in it before handing it to the customer - that is the shop owner's responsibility

I would assume that a judge - U.S. or Nigerian would credit the customer for having enough sense to "Not damage a bag while still in the presence of the salesclerk and on the grounds of the Store."

Logically speaking - If the customer wanted their money back - the judge would think that it would have been easier for the guy to just keep his money in his pocket versus to spend his Naira and then go break the bag in front of the attendant while in the store only seconds after spending.

chaircover:
Lets be realistic here. This is Nigeria and not the USA or the UK. I take things back to the shop all the time in the UK but I know where I stand when it comes to returning goods in Nigeria.

First of all before this even reaches court the poster would have spent 10 times the cost of the broken bottle.

This is Nigeria and any lawyer that takes up your case is just going to use you as a meal ticket until someone dedides that enough is enough.

Lets also not forget that this is not some big company who really care about bad publicity and even if you try to sue the shop owner, there will be more sympathetic people on her side than yours. Afterall we all know that she didnt manufacure the defective bag in her back yard & had probably paid a printer a lot of money to get those bags branded.

I know when things like this happen, in the heat of the moment and whilst we are angry we think of 1,000 things to get back at the injustice but when we calm down we are able to think more straight and work out better solutions.

In this case, court is not the solution and an apology and say some sort of partial refund is a better option. Lets face it, if the bottle had rolled off the seat in the car when you braked suddenly in Lagos traffic (this has happened to me before so I know) who would you hold responsible?

Some things are just what they are  . . .  . ACCIDENTS.

I think what is really pissing you off is the attitude of the staff and the same would piss me off too if I were in your shoes.

I completely agree with everything you just wrote

He is upset and even more so - by the lack of accountability the staff took at this occurrence in their presence as soon as the bag changed hands - from their hands to his hands - it broke

He should focus on getting his $$ back and anytime this happens any and everybody should do the same. An apology and a FULL REFUND - I own my own business as well and have to be willing to bend for clients - I just ate $40.00 last week on a $140.00 sale - so I could keep the client - and since then I have heard from that client 6 times additionally because of my willingness to "eat the cost." I have now made back that money times 6.

He should get a full refund - it's not much money - it definitely is principle - he didn't get out of the shop - it's like he just threw his money out of the car window.

That is part of what I meant when I said "accountability"

The owner should be held accountable for everything on their premise.  Product, packaging, Staff Positions, etc.

ireke:
I will replace the merchandise.
It happened on their premises. I took their picture while they were cleaning up after the breakage.
I agree with you. That is why I will drop my letter tomorrow stating my case as mentioned above and asking her to let me know what she intends to do about it. If she claims not to have seen the letter after 7-21 days, then, it is because she decided not to see it.

I left my phone number. I called the girl and we spoke on the phone. It was on the phone she told me what madam said.

I don't know, but when I have searched enough, I will know how to say it anywhere that "the package they gave me for my merchandise should be able to hold my merchandise at least for a reasonable length of time". At least that should be their duty to me. otherwise, they should not put it in any bag at all. [b]They were not careful enough to ensure that the merchandise is sfae in the container. [/b]

That is exactly where I would start. Most certainly. 100%

I stand firm on everything I just said. I also am not talking about lawsuits - The poster can do what the poster wants to do. I am just stating U.S.

If the poster were in the U.S. - the law would lean heavily towards his side.

That is what would happen here.

Nigeria might be different.  I can't speak for Nigeria but here - the consumer would DEFINITELY HAVE A STRONG CASE.

We have lemon laws for cars

After you purchase items you have so many days/hours to bring the item back even if it works perfectly - you can return it without giving any reason whatsoever

If the item breaks in the store in your hands - you can still return it

If the item breaks at home - you can return it - Walmart, Walgreens, Macys, JC Penneys, Footlocker, Anne Taylor - many stores have seen my face on returns.

I wore a pair of shoes for over a year and returned them to the store and got a new pair because they stated a lifetime guarantee on the heels and one of the soles of the heels fell off in the washer.

My deceased husband was shocked - he said he never saw anybody do what I did - my response to him was that most people don't even think to do what I did - they will see that once they do - there are many, many laws, loopholes and statutes protecting their rights