₦airaland Forum

CanadianNaija:
Are you u see any compulsion to do this? Is there a gun to your head? If no, then it’s a choice you make.

Bottom line is not about your choice, it’s about you carrying your wahala to disturb another person that is on her lane.

Pay for your choice and leave your wife to have her peace. You’re looking for who will come here and condemn the woman, that will not be me.

I don't need anyone to condemn my wife, the mother of my kids. I just need insight on how to get her to do it.

SmileDance:
who were it up to o? It were up to who? It were not up to you to decide how your home is run? I were not understanding

It's a monthly get together ran every other month. Different men (about 20) host the get together. That is, the next time it will be my turn, the remaining 19 other men must have hosted it and that will be in the next 1year and 8months.

SmileDance:
Life will be much better when people start thinking with their brains and not their religion.
Na church matter wan break person home now so o

I rejected it in Jesus name! Our home will not be broken

CanadianNaija:
Oga, if you want to play host then pay for it.

Leave your wife alone if she doesn’t want that stress.
Hosting doesn’t just involve cooking, there’s the serving, market run, cleaning.

I don’t blame her for refusing especially since it’s not something that she wants to do or is interested in.

Don’t inconvenience her just because she is married to you, pay a caterer or explain to your people what you can provide. Maybe if this starts hurting your pocket you will rethink the need for the elaborate feeding you people carry out in the name of coming together to solve problem.

Please try to read elaborately. I didn't choose to host the get together. It was my turn in the church.

Righteousness89:
All I Can Do Right now is to Pray For you!

Precious Daddy, I Pray thee, Touch the wife of My Brother to see the Need to Cooperate with Her Husband. Touch Her to Do it with Joy In Jesus Name.... Amen..



My Brother Calm down.. She will Do it...

Amen brother. I'm just tired.

SmileDance:
I will give an advise when you answer my questions
1. Who will serve the 18-25 men after she cooks for them?
2. Who will pack the plates after the 18-23 men have finished eating?
3. Who will wash the dishes and clean the house after the 18-25 men have left?
Are you sure some of the 18-25 men will not eventually feel entitled to having your wife cook for them later on?
4. Are you sure you are not bringing see finish into your house laidis

If na me them wan force make she cook laidis if the men no chop rat poison na small e go remain. I'm just saying my own

It's a committee for married men. I told her I'll get her another woman from the church to assist her. If it were up to me, she won't go through that stress.

CanadianNaija:
Abeg she’s right to refuse. You’re just inconsiderate.
Did you plan to invite people with her or you just invited them and informed her as the cook you have at home?

You think she doesn’t have a life because she’s married to you? You like to play host but you don’t have money.

Just go and hire a caterer and stop stressing the woman abeg!

I don't invite people, it follows a pattern. It's a monthly stuff. It's a get together. The last time it was held in my house was over a year ago. We're mostly over 20 members. 20 people spread over monthly will be 20 months, that's a year and 8 months. That's enough time.

SocialJustice:
Crase husband, you want your wife to be cooking for your useless religious cult members frequently because she agreed to marry you.

Carry your evil load and get out of this place.

The previous get togethers I went to, their wife did the cooking. It's just making of soup while I make the swallow.

tabithababy:
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I don't understand The woman should kill herself on top food preparation

I told her that I would assist her. I even asked to bring her a female church member to assist but she refused.

Walk:
Does she have someone she listens to? Maybe a mother or something?

She listens to her parents. Thing is, I don't want to involve them.

The last time, I pounded the yam for over 20 guests but she recieved the compliments. I just don't want to look like a dictator forcing her. I just need her to assist me in making the soup and i even told her i'll get her an assitant from the church to help her out.

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Hello Good afternoon Familanders. This is very long, so please bear with me.

I’ll start from the root. Well, in my church, there’s usually a committee for the married men where most times we can proffer solution to the issues or need of the church members and other times organize get together monthly within us (married men) just to foster unity. Since we're like 20, different men host the get together. Therefore, it's spaced out for 1year and 8months.

It all began last Sunday when I was chosen to oversee the next get together which comes up this Sunday after church. When we (my wife and I) got home after church, I told her about it and she immediately asked, “who would do the cooking”? I was taken aback as the question sounded strange. I replied her saying, since she did the cooking the last time, I figured she’d do it this time.

She got angry and said there’s no way she’ll be going through the stress of cooking for 18 to 25 men and that I better know what to do concerning who’s going to handle the cooking. I tried to calm her down and reminded her of how I assisted her in the kitchen by pounding the yams while she made the soup -two soups actually and that I was going to help her this time. Yam is quite expensive so we’re not pounding this time, just Semo.

She remained adamant and said there was no way she would do anything, that the work stressed her so much and she won’t partake in any cooking and that I better go find anyone to do the cooking. Thing is, I understood the fact that the work was stressful for her because she was 5 months pregnant then and it was her first time.

Yesterday at work, I kept pondering about a solution and a thought struck me. I called her from work and asked her, "how about I get one of the women at church to offer you support?". She blatantly refused and still held on to her words.

My mind hasn’t been settled since morning because I got hold of a caterer and she told me that she’ll charge a thousand naira per head, that is approximately 20k. Truth is, the get together came at a wrong time and considering the prices of drinks, the cost of the food stuff, meat, ingredients, etc. I really can’t afford a caterer right now.

I’m at a cross road now. I don’t know what to do because it’s causing a rift between us. I thought of bringing a church member to assist on that day without informing her so she wouldn’t surprise me and leave the house but I fear that if she comes, my wife might not join her in the kitchen and the woman will begin to feel a certain way (thinking of how ungrateful we are). Then again, who will purchase the food items? I’ve just been confused. I really need insights.

Note: I said I'll help her make the swallow, she just needs to make the soup.

Rawhumper:
How much did City pay as transfer fee for him since thats not for Barca?
Thar 700m is a clause, if Messi breaches his contract with Barca bro.

Please research well, before you argue.

All these ignoramus self. Mtcheew. You research but missed out important info?

City hasn't paid any transfer fee yet. The money you see is for Messi alone. Messi believes he's no longer contacted to Barca, hence no transfer feelings.

bukatyne:
If I mentioned my husband or my colleague, they wouldn't resonate with anyone so naturally, I picked popular people.

1. Interesting
2. I disagree with 80%. It is not upto 50% sef. Except you are specifically referring to sugar daddy/daughter model or marriages like Regina Daniel's.
3. Ok

Why do you disagree? You disagree with the fact that 80% of Nigerian women depend on men for finance?

Rawhumper:
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They make money but they have half of what they earn.
You can google Messi and Ronaldo networth, you did be surprised.

If you want real moneybags, American basketballers and Pro Golfers, these are silent multi millionaires then footballers.

Before i used to think footballets were the highest paid, but after thorough research, i found i was wrong.
The 700m been paid isnt for Messi, it is going straight to Barcas account not Messi.

What Messi gets is his daily pay in a normal circumstance.

Which 700m isn't for Messi? Messi left Barca on free transfer. The whole of it is for him.

vanida6:
4billion naira monthly hw person go take be dis guy girlfriend nah who no like beta tin

He has a wife. All these Minna girls self. Mtcheew.

Part 2

Q1
A masculine man is seen as one with confidence, who's able to protect, able to influence decisions, always in control of his emotions -i.e, he doesn't cry over things he can't change, a man who can influence the emotions of a woman. In a family setting, he's always at the helm affairs and seeing to it that things work to a better end. It should be worthy of note that there's a thing line between pride/arrogance and masculinity. In that respite, a man who never listens to the advice of his wife but only his, isn't masculine. On the physical side, he must be attractive, grooms himself and healthy.

Q2.
Are Nigerian men masculine? Well, I'll leave that as I am but limited in interaction with men from different regions. But I'll say that 50% are masculine.

Q3

You ever heard the phrase, 'see as you're acting like you're not a man'? Well, the society has always been at the forefront in programming every male child, conditioning them into being a gentleman. But what the society hasn't been able to do, is figure out a way to do it right. Most men conditioned by the society don't turn out being masculine.

bukatyne:
Their vibes.

Like I said, my opinion.

Oya answer the question in the OP.

Vibes? You mean the aura they give off? What you actually mentioned are successful people in their field. That is, the field of entertainment. Not to forget, handsome men.

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Part 1

Q1.
I still remain of the opinion that a feminine lady is one with abundance of emotions at her disposal. Emotions she never tries to influence but arm herself with. Eg, Love, empathy, sympathy, desire, fear, etc. A feminine lady doesn't have to be an intelligent lady but intelligent feminine ladies are always set apart. Also, she is one gracious to look upon.

Q2
Yes. Like I rightly say, the more estrogen you have, the more feminine you're termed. So when you look at the Nigerian society -about 80%, you'll realize that most women live off of men, that is, most of their financial allowances are gotten from men. Really, a man will part with his money if you influence that part of his emotion that cry out desire. Hence, a woman who is able to do that must use the vast array of emotions to disposal in influencing things, which truthfully, is a reality.

Q3
Yes. (Use deductive inference to understand why from my above explanation)

Okay. Now what?

On what basis did you arrive at your conclusion about those you termed feminine and masculine?

saheedbadmus:
But I think this guy did hack them but ment no harm .. he did that to awaken them cos someone isn't doing his job right , I mean those in their I.T section... the bank is only trying to cover up .. if the guy one hack and steal from them he wouldn't call them out he only did that to awaken them

That's not the right way to do it. A simple direct message to their twitter account would have sufficed. He didn't have to expose it to the world thereby causing frenzied paranoia attack to access bank's customers.

That is to say, anybody using 36,000KW per month and above are not supposed to enjoy from the 49.99kw/h = N4. Lol. People like us that use 10k to 15k per month are poor people.

Ihatemumu:
Christians shouldn't be afraid of temptations, self control is the key.

Do you think if Satan knows you will always fall for seductively dress women, Satan will stop sending them your way?

Even Jesus was tempted

Even the bible said to flee every 'appearance' of evil. Therefore, why not control what can be controlled?

Sometimes self control can only take you far, but the grace of god takes you farther. That's how choir leaders fall into temptation from fellow choiristers because they feel it's cool to come to saturdays rehearsal with micro minis and crop tops. Flew appearance of evil, don't control it with self. The 'self' is weak.

Don't go and do self control and allow a lady stay a week in your abode, when you can tell her off.

Angelfrost:
Don't mind the hypocrite... These ladies won't even wear such nonsense to interviews and work places! So, why wear such to a Spiritual or Religious place of worship??!

It's beyond desperation and indecency, it is just stupidity!!!

They feel they can get away with it while in church. Most of them kit themselves cooperately in the day time and ply their trades at night time wearing these outfits.

BabaAgba79:
[s]
Is it ur write up? That is rude of you! So dressing to you is demonic! Olodumare will expose all of you rapist pastors! [/s]

Right from the days of jezebel, indecent dressing has been identified as a demonically orchestrated medium to inflict the spirit of lust in the world and the people in it.

Sonnobax15:
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brother G.O, with all due respect,we know this..

but the question is that-"are we(the floor members) complaining about being assassinated??
the answer is NO..

infact,we love being assassinated every Sunday.

inshort,we always look forward to seeing Sundays's assassination..


thank you..

This right here is one of the reasons i don't go to any kind of church. A church where the pastor supports indecent dressing from his members in a bid to attract wealthy males, hence grow his church.

True. You can't dress in a revealing manner and sit somewhere where everyone can see you, places like the front 3 rows. Even pastors are humans and can sin, lust. That's how they'll go and twart a pastor's destiny and ruin his home. Truthfully, they're hired by the devil.

BabaAgba79:
[s]
Why should you complain about the way people dress? Religious humans are always laughable! Just tell us that ur prick is standing whenever u see fine girls for church! Haba, leave our girls alone, spiritual rapists gbogbo! Look at mad women who are naked, are they too hired killers?[/s]

It's a pity you cannot seem to comprehend simple things. The church is a sacred place, why wear what is befitting for a wh0re looking for customers when you can ply your demonic trade on the road.

flyingpig:
Dutch league is very exciting I swear. That PSV, Ajax and Feyenoord trio dey intriguing Much competitive than French ligue 1 where its all about PSG

Ajax haven't been feeling any pressure from the other teams in the past 3-5 season. They've been carrying their league title like it's a birthright.

After this season, if PSV or feyenoord doesn't carry Eredivise, then they're useless. Seeing how Ajax have been throwing their top player for the past three season away, this is their time to win that league.

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright

Painful mehnnnnn
So like play like play Lionel Messi want leave us

So he want join mancity.hmmmmmm....problem
if Messi should join mancity.....there is gonna be a problem
Kevin de bryune with Messi will give the world problem...assist go just dey flow like river...
After all defence nor be mancity problem and them get finishers.,.......
Problem.... another problem

Lol. Defence no be man city problem and them dey always allow goals for most matches?

I don't understand. Were you expecting her to cook a full pot of yam and egg sauce with N300? Why not take the N300, buy the yam and the egg and see how stupid you sound.

She even tried for you. If I were her, I'd get you sweet potatoes and egg. Boil the potatoes and fry the eggs (without tomatoes, onions and peper obviously)

Na wah oh. Na for NL I see say html and css be programming languages.

kenodrill:
Asking such question shows you are ignorant as such you can't help.

You're the ignorant brat here. I don't know why kids here feel the need to be arrogant even in glaring ignorance. I blame that guy for replying you.

You don't know anything about programming and you're still rude. Sit your ass down, punk!

There's nothing like net programming. Unless ofcourse you meant web design or .net coding.