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RomanceRe: Guys Are Always Too Quick To Assume That We Ladies Are Crazy! by SisiJinx: 7:23pm On Dec 29, 2008
iice:
[color=#9900ff]And here i thought the dot above the l was visible undecided iice please.

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Am not saying that it's a bad thing.  But when it drags into 5 months, a year and so on, that becomes a problem.[/size]  We want many things but we don't always get them.  When people start 'needing' things, it sometimes progresses to 'needing' things to properly function.  And then the craziness starts.  And what if the other person does not accommodate you? [size=20pt] Would you continue to fall apart or find the strength within you to find some closure and be at peace.[/size] You cannot make someone give you something he/she does not want or have to give.  Not everyone is wired to talk things through, if you don't know that during the relationship what makes it different after it has ended?  [size=20pt] Not everyone can put their thoughts into order therefore it maybe hard to pin down the reason why he/she did what he/she did.[/size]  [size=20pt]If he/she said 'i don't know why' would that be enough closure or would you hound the person till he/she freaks out and flees[/size] If the other person gives you closure then good, if not, then what? [/color]
Thank you for summing it up so perfectly and so succinctly!!! kiss kiss kiss kiss kiss kiss
CultureRe: Men Don't Think African Culture Is The Best. They Like It Because It Favors Them by SisiJinx: 6:01pm On Dec 29, 2008
na2day?:
taloje Alex?
Toloje Alex?!! shocked shocked shocked

Did I hear the question right?

Oh. . . only the best game shows evah!!! Duh! tongue



thank God i don't know the poem
. now on a more serious note, are u saying i am a fly who u r luring into ur web trap?  tongue tongue tongue
You don't know the poem hmm, okay maybe after you read it. . .

You will know who the lurer and who the luree is here in this sitch

Please pay close attention to the last verse. . . stanza. . . whatever.


*Clears throat, then begins to recite poem in the most dramatic fashion ever*

“Will you walk into my parlor?”
  Said a spider to a fly;
“’Tis the prettiest little parlor
  That ever you did spy.
The way into my parlor
  Is up a winding stair,
And I have many pretty things
  To show you when you’re there.”
“O no, no,” said the little fly,
  “To ask me is in vain;
For who goes up your winding stair
  Can ne’er come down again.”

“I’m sure you must be weary
  With soaring up so high;
Will you rest upon my little bed?”
  Said the spider to the fly.
“There are pretty curtains drawn around;
  The sheets are fine and thin;
And if you like to rest awhile,
  I’ll snugly tuck you in.”
“O no, no,” said the little fly,
  “For I’ve often heard it said
They never, never wake again,
  Who sleep upon your bed.”

Said the cunning spider to the fly,
  “Dear friend, what shall I do
To prove the warm affection
  I’ve always felt for you?
I have, within my pantry,
  Good store of all that’s nice;
I’m sure you’re very welcome—
  Will you please to take a slice?”
“O no, no,” said the little fly,
  “Kind sir, that cannot be;
I’ve heard what’s in your pantry,
  And I do not wish to see.”

“Sweet creature,” said the spider,
  “You’re witty and you’re wise;
How handsome are your gauzy wings,
  How brilliant are your eyes.
I have a little looking-glass
  Upon my parlor shelf;
If you’ll step in one moment, dear,
  You shall behold yourself.”
“I thank you, gentle sir,” she said,
  “For what you’re pleased to say,
And bidding you good-morning now,
  I’ll call another day.”

The spider turned him round about,
  And went into his den,
For well he knew the silly fly
  Would soon be back again;
So he wove a subtle web
  In a little corner sly,
And set his table ready
  To dine upon the fly.

He went out to his door again,
  And merrily did sing,
“Come hither, hither, pretty fly,
  With pearl and silver wing;
Your robes are green and purple,
  There’s a crest upon your head;
Your eyes are like the diamond bright,
  But mine are dull as lead.”

Alas, alas! how very soon
  This silly little fly,
Hearing his wily, flattering words,
  Came slowly flitting by;
With buzzing wings she hung aloft,
  Then near and nearer drew—
Thought only of her brilliant eyes,
  And green and purple hue;
Thought only of her crested head—
  Poor foolish thing! At last
Up jumped the cunning spider,
  And fiercely held her fast.

He dragged her up his winding stair,
  Into his dismal den
Within his little parlor—but
  She ne’er came out again!
And now, dear little children
  Who may this story read,
To idle, silly, flattering words,
  I pray you, ne’er give heed.
Unto an evil counselor
  Close heart and ear and eye;
And take a lesson from this tale
  Of the spider and the fly.


So now you know who is who. . .  https://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/65.gif
CelebritiesRe: Do You Like Jamie Foxx's New Music Video? by SisiJinx: 9:17pm On Dec 28, 2008
iice:
[color=#9900ff]The actress is Taraji Henson.  She was in Hustle and Flow, Four Brothers, some episodes of Eli Stone, the family that preys.  .  .

Cute video.[/color]
Also played Benjamin's mom in TCCOBB

You seen it yet? Sublimely beautiful!!

The was just visual was . . .  kiss kiss kiss,

I think it overshadowed the acting.

Kinda reminded me of last year's AOJJ
RomanceRe: Why Men Living Abroad Go Back Home And Get Mary To Ladies Living In Nigeria by SisiJinx: 9:10pm On Dec 28, 2008
CrimeRe: Beating Shit Out Of Your Girlfriend! by SisiJinx: 9:07pm On Dec 28, 2008
*Hauwa*:
ummmm i wonder how they do it. making love with somone that just got done beating you? i canat believe it. for me, just don't come near me i will bend your prick and broke your balls cool
And feed it to him on a child size hot dog bun https://images.zaazu.com/img/devil-animated-animation-devil-000386-large.gif
CultureRe: Men Don't Think African Culture Is The Best. They Like It Because It Favors Them by SisiJinx: 9:03pm On Dec 28, 2008
na2day?:
which do u think i am referring to? a compliment or an offense?   tongue tongue tongue
I'll take compliment for 1000, Alex! https://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/5.gif

sometimes it is best to plan ahead

and yes bliss, am sure its going to be a wonderful experience  kiss kiss kiss kiss
Hmmm, Wonderful experience you say?

Then why am I suddenly reminded of that spider and fly poem. . .

*flashback Naija Movie style with the godawful background music*

Will you walk into my parlor?" said the Spider to the Fly,

'Tis the prettiest little parlor that ever you did spy;
 
The way into my parlor is up a winding stair,

And I have many curious things to show you when you are there."


. . . and we all know how that ended. https://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/23.gif
Christianity EtcRe: Christ Embassy Rumour, Ow True Is It? by SisiJinx: 8:50pm On Dec 28, 2008
p/ple for people I understand.

Govt for government, I get,

But ow for how and Sed for said

. . . aren’t we taking this short hand shtick a little too far? undecided
LiteratureRe: My Book Of Rants! by SisiJinx: 8:24am On Dec 28, 2008
bluespice:
lmao! blaze u definiotely don't have any reason to give me a punch because i don't think I'm cool
i know calm is my essence
Niiiiiiice!

Definitely stealing that.

Yeaah, Sir Rantalot. . . Ditto on what Bluespice wrote cool



Vesc. . . SPILL. . . NOW!!!!! angry
RomanceRe: Why Men Living Abroad Go Back Home And Get Mary To Ladies Living In Nigeria by SisiJinx: 8:17am On Dec 28, 2008
Sea~Goddes:
yes oga skolars, i will not only call u i will also come and visit u so if u dnt mind u can also leave ur home address
Bwahahahahahahahahahaha!

Oy Veh!! cheesy cheesy
RomanceRe: Why Men Living Abroad Go Back Home And Get Mary To Ladies Living In Nigeria by SisiJinx: 8:16am On Dec 28, 2008
na2day?:
the dude said they went to get Mary not marry, so why the stress? haven't u notice the acute shortage of Mary(s) in america?  grin
Tee hee hee. . . was just pitying Marthas is all.

Seems they are always getting the short end of the stick. . . literally speaking of course. tongue
RomanceRe: Why Men Living Abroad Go Back Home And Get Mary To Ladies Living In Nigeria by SisiJinx: 6:35am On Dec 28, 2008
na2day?:
alright, what is ur stress this time?  angry angry angry
The topic is not enough reason for me to shake my head? https://welovefreebies.com/folders/templates/default/images/smilies/nono.gif
RomanceRe: Guys Are Always Too Quick To Assume That We Ladies Are Crazy! by SisiJinx: 6:27am On Dec 28, 2008
bluespice:
i'll simply say, this topic has degenerated into what i hoped it wouldnt - a battle of the sexes
guys are quick to assume ladies are "crazy" because they have met with previous "crazy" women,
because they have heard stories,
because the women actually act "crazy"
and because most times they feel more secure in that thought


mind u if u interchange men for women, its the same
Hehehehe. . . it kinda did and I have no idea whose fault it is https://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/65.gif

But we are trying to get it back on track!

As for the CRAZY part, I think OP kinda set that in motion using the word in her topic.
RomanceRe: Guys Are Always Too Quick To Assume That We Ladies Are Crazy! by SisiJinx: 6:24am On Dec 28, 2008
Forgot to add, the kind of closure you want (sitting down and talking it out) does not come easy and that soon after a break up.

I know people who met years after they called it quits to have the talk and most of them agreed that it was better that way because the wounds had healed. They could see all their faults/wrongs/mistakes in a clear light and not through the lenses of the hurt and wounded.

Let's be honest here, like most girls what you really wanna do is throw the many ways he hurt you  at his face, make him pay and even leave him feeling guilty and step one was refusing to answer his call. He threw you entire plan for awry by not calling you back so you can refuse him again so he can call back so you can then grudgingly agree to meet him, which you will do all decked up in you bestest garb to show him what is missing and have the most monosyllabic convo anyone has ever had. . . while trying to be all "Oh Jeez! What am I doing here, I've got better things to do". . . Right?  Right?

I got you! I got you! cheesy
RomanceRe: Guys Are Always Too Quick To Assume That We Ladies Are Crazy! by SisiJinx: 6:12am On Dec 28, 2008
topup:
[color=#cc0066]Because, everybody makes mistakes. On my way to closure, I was thinking about other guys, I was peeking on his facebook page less often, and feeling great, keeping myself busy and then WHAM! The dreaded text message that puts him at the top of my priority list, when he sends a message that shows he 'wants to talk'. Of course I ignored it, but I sincerely believed that there would be a phone call or another text, but nothing.
My first instinct is to say this guy is playing games with you. . . I mean with him sending you a texts about needing to talk and when you don't respond, he didn't bother any more but that will be unfair to him because it could just be that he is not emotionally ready to have that conversation and you not responding was a "Whew" moment for him (not a bad whew but a relieve one) and considering how this all started (the emotional distance) this scenario is not that far fetched. By all accounts this guy is also on an emotional roller coaster and this is guy you expect to help you get back on your feet?

Topup, ask yourself this, how is someone who is crippled at help stand up? I know my analogy sounds a bit cuckoo but do you understand why you can't place the burden of your closure on the other person?

I am naturally analytical so I analyse everything, not just this relationship, you see, there's no drama in my life, as in things are moving so, and so unfortunately for me, this teeny issue has been bumped up to the top of my list again.
I think you being over-analytical over ONE TEXT is what is causing drama not him texting you. Until he gives something concrete. . . by that I mean calling you relentlessly, accidentally "purposely" bumping into you at the grocery store, parties, parking in front of your house every night, hounding you all over the place saying you need to talk etc. . . there is NO REASON for drama

Can you get closure when the other person seems to want to talk to you. Yeah, I can do that whole ignoring him for the rest of my life thing BUT I actually desire to be friends with him. I don't believe I should have any exs I can't talk to, but people have free will and can be nightmares[/color]
Wanting to be friends with an ex is not a bad thing. . . in fact I find it very admirable, it shows a certain level of maturity but you also have to understand that what YOU desire is not what everyone else desires.

You can not force it!

You can not force it!

You can not force it!

I'm glad you stated that people have free will, which means you know you can't force it. So why oh why do you want to trouble yourself over something you can't control??!!!!!


In my opinion, Closure is in the STRENGTH that you use to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on along. I hate cliches, I do I do but sometimes it calls for it., so here goes . . .  What doesn't kill you will make you stronger!
RomanceRe: Why Men Living Abroad Go Back Home And Get Mary To Ladies Living In Nigeria by SisiJinx: 5:23am On Dec 28, 2008
CultureRe: Will You Allow Your Mother-in-law Live With You? - Funny Women by SisiJinx: 5:21am On Dec 28, 2008
CultureRe: Men Don't Think African Culture Is The Best. They Like It Because It Favors Them by SisiJinx: 3:40am On Dec 28, 2008
na2day?:
i see, i got a smart one on my hands  lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed well, since they might ban us, u might as well mail me so we can have each other contacts and continue our bliss somewhere more private eh, what do u say?   wink wink wink wink
Well! I don't know if I should be complimented that you think I am smart or offended that it took you this long to figure out that I am smart angry tongue


What say we wait until they actually ban us, eh? I think ahead but I don't jump the gun. . . ya know warramsayin'? wink


Bliss, eh? Hmmmm
CultureRe: Men Don't Think African Culture Is The Best. They Like It Because It Favors Them by SisiJinx: 2:48am On Dec 28, 2008
na2day?:
nah,  they are not jealous. as per the name, i am good with what i have, u got a prob with that?
*sigh*

It's always the friends the other friends are jealous of who are the last to know their friends are jealous of them.

As for the name. . . oh just thinking ahead, ya know for when they ban both of us for off topic (yeah, Mr. Oga sir is finicky like that https://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/29.gif)

However, if you are not worried about then let's rock on!! https://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/111.gif
RomanceRe: Guys Are Always Too Quick To Assume That We Ladies Are Crazy! by SisiJinx: 2:14am On Dec 28, 2008
This was a very good topic well but seriously, how much can you say about closure when nobody but you can give it to yourself?

He broke up with you, you expect him to give you a detailed manifesto on the whys, hows, and whens and until he does, you don't want to move on.

Quite frankly, it seems it's not about him not giving you want you want anymore. . .  it is about you needing an excuse to dwell on what is done.  I'm sorry to say this but your innate need to be validated by this guy is why you aren't getting any closure. undecided

Why not use his thoughtlessness for not giving you a "legitimate" reason for the break up as closure,  A sort of good riddance to bad rubbish thing?

I say wash your hands off the whole sordid affair, pat yourself on the back and I know you are better off!



@ JJOY
How did you get to be so wise??!! grin
CultureRe: Men Don't Think African Culture Is The Best. They Like It Because It Favors Them by SisiJinx: 1:58am On Dec 28, 2008
na2day?:
thats the problem, i have search deeply in myself and still can't find a thing. i even asked 2 good fellows to help me check but still they couldn't find a thing. i appreciate the fact that u believe in me so much, it thrills me to know that at least someone in this world has faith in my abilities  tongue
Rotflmao!

Is this the part I sing. . . I Believe I can Fly but change the I to YOU?

By the way, I've you thought tha maybe. . .just maybe your good fellows don't want to help you find it because they are jealous? Hmmm https://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/23.gif


PS
Have you picked a new name yet?
CultureRe: Will You Allow Your Mother-in-law Live With You? - Funny Women by SisiJinx: 1:50am On Dec 28, 2008
Why not?! huh

I think they have been watching too much Nigerian movies, where the mother in laws are always bad! I tell ya, thanks to Nollywood. . . MIL have gotten bad reps. angry
CultureRe: Will You Allow Your Mother-in-law Live With You? - Funny Women by SisiJinx: 1:40am On Dec 28, 2008
Why not?

The more the merrier. . . That's what I say! Besides it will relieve hubby and I the burden of all that togetherness, jare. grin
CultureRe: Men Don't Think African Culture Is The Best. They Like It Because It Favors Them by SisiJinx: 11:57pm On Dec 27, 2008
The resources are there, you just have to know where to look and in this case, it's within you. . . just believe in yourself!

I believe in you!

I believe in you! smiley

[I]*Humming Kumbaya*[/I]
RomanceRe: Guys Are Always Too Quick To Assume That We Ladies Are Crazy! by SisiJinx: 11:27pm On Dec 27, 2008
Hehehehehehehehe cheesy
RomanceRe: Guys Are Always Too Quick To Assume That We Ladies Are Crazy! by SisiJinx: 11:21pm On Dec 27, 2008
@Olanajim

Hehehehe. . . . You're right!

I'm sorry embarassed

You just got my heckles up when you use words like probation and costly mistakes. This is a relationship. . . A relationship about love, friendship, mutual respect. . . Not a chore or test.

I honestly think if we stopped seeing relationships like we do a job or something we have no choice but to do, things might get better. A Naive way of thinking? Perhaps. . . but I don't think experience is ever gonna change it. https://fc90.deviantart.com/fs4/i/2004/231/0/f/Deglitched_shrug_emoticon.gif

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