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nikekenny:
meaning you don't trust your husband? well lots of men this cheat on there wife, I prefer you leave the matter the way it is, or else you are looking for trouble, that is if you still want the relationship to stay strong though, if he stil loves you the way he used to do from the beginiging then go ahead with life lady.

Lots of men cheat on their wives?
Leave matters the way it is?
Looking for trouble?


You are joking right? Please, please tell me you are joking with this asinine piece of advice you are doling out.

The guy is cheating on her but she’s the one looking for trouble.
The guy is lying to her but she should leave it alone.
And yeah, it’s so obvious he is doing his own part in keeping their relationship strong by cheating on her and she must do her part by turning a blind eye. . .right?

Good God! Some Nigerian men never cease to leave me speechless.


@ Poster
If it talks like a duck…
If it walks like a duck…
Then your husband is cheating on you.

@ Poster
What EXACTLY do you think will happen if you guys date? You'll turn into a pillar of salt? He is also Christian for goodness sakes.

As Christians, how can we preach love, peace and tolerance to the world when we don't the same thing to our fellow Christians?

yebariba:
nice ladies. justify your bad and cheap behavior. let me fill you in on something you don't understand. lots of men are pissed off by this sort of thing (giving what belongs to then as your husband to those little rascals) and while they may not be outspoken about it the way i am being, they have a plan to get back at you when you finally get married. it goes something like this: sleep with your best friend, sleep with as many beautiful unilag students as possible, sleep with your sister, have one or two other kids out of marriage, and generally screw as many chicks as possible (not to mention spend some of the money that should have come back to you on them) just to get back at you and woe betide you if you ever try to challenge his actions.
as far as such men are concerned, they are justified since at the back of their minds they see you as being just a slot who was lucky enough to get married to him.

Okay. . .Yebariba, breath in and out. Come on. . .in and out. In and Out. . .Good boy!

Now repeat after me. . .

"I am just as good as any guy
"What the girls think of me is not what I am"
"One Day, I will find a girl too"
"When Girls say I should leave their sight with immediate effect, they really mean they want me"
"People on nairaland are laughing WITH me not AT me"
"No one thinks I am a joke"
"Everybody Loves me"

Do the breathing excercise and self affirmation anytime you feel the urge to write gibberish on nairaland.

Godspeed my brother, Godspeed!

Seun:
Yes, but you will eventually break up in a painful way.
If you hate someone from day one, it means you lack compatilbility.

Yikes! Pessimistic much?

Guess you never heard the whole thin line between love and hate whatchumacallit? Maybe what he calls hate now was actually his way of trying to define his feelings for her?


@ Poster
Yes, Yes. . .it is very possible. Enjoy it and if I were you, I'll stop harping on the Hating her in the past side of things and concentrate on the Loving her now part.  Leave the past and Live the present.

Nostalgic 

Busta:
Ki la gbe, Ki la ju 

Thank You oh.

I really think there is more to it. Hopefully, Mr. Eleke Ebu will come back and explain to us. . .not that I'm holding my breath.

@poster

you need to see a doctor @ yaba (Aro).

why? because you are sick upstairs.

Reason for the statement - because you might end up raping the girl.

Wow. . .all this just because he asked if he should ask a girl out? Are we missing something here. . .is the girl your sister or cousin? Abi you too have an eye on the girl and you fear our poster has a better chance than you do?

Aww. . You poor thing. I wouldn’t say you were a fool per se, just Young and In love. _{Wait a sec. . .isn’t that another definition of fool? Hmm.}

Good. For. You!!!!

[quote author=D-reloaded link=topic=128140.msg2164492#msg2164492 date=1208445737]um are you gay? guys don't "hook up" They "hang out"[/quote]Tee hee hee


@ Topic
Funny you should ask, mine was quite recent. See, I was trying to convince some people that my parents really did enjoy over 35 yrs of marital bliss. . .despite their religious differences and when my dad passed away, no one ever thought my mom killed him. _{Something I think certain people believe could/would happen when a couple practice different religions. Shrugs Don’t. . .don’t ask me.}

read your other thread- Looks, Personality or Money: what do women want and all i have to say is. . .Wow! Somebody hurt you really, reaaaaaaally bad!

Oh so you know, There's nothing wrong about being a nice guy. . ._{except the part about finishing last (I Kid, I kid. . .I'm sure you'll find the RIGHT someone. Just be patient)}


PS
A single person dating in College is NOT cheating.

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Wipes sweat from eye


@ Poster
Please help me out here. . .

Is this a post about someone sleeping with a married man/woman or People sleeping with someone else's potential spouse?

Thanks in advance.

Tangled - Maroon 5

I'm full of regret
For all things that I've done and said
And I don't know if it'll ever be ok to show
My face 'round here
Sometimes I wonder if I disappear

Would you ever turn your head and look
See if I'm gone
Cause I fear

There is nothing left to say to you
That you wanna hear
That you wanna know
I think I should go
The things I've done are way too shameful

Your just innocent
A helpless victim of a spider's web
And I'm an insect
Goin after anything that I can get

So you better turn your head and run
And don't look back
Cause I fear

There is nothing left to say
To you
That you wanna hear
That you wanna know
I think I should go
The things I've done are way too shameful

And I've done you so wrong
Treated you bad
Strung you along
Oh shame on myself
I don't know how I got so tangled up

You're probably accustomed to seeing big-screen proposals at ball games, in crowded restaurants, and scrawled across the sky by aircraft. But popping the question by hiding a message in your intended's favorite computer game is rather more unusual.

However, for computer programmer Bernie Peng, it obviously seemed like the perfect idea. He spent a month reprogramming his girlfriend Tammy Liu's favorite video game, gem-matching hit Bejeweled, so that it would display the all-important message when she reached a certain score. As Peng told Newark's Star-Ledger: "I thought it was pretty cool, in a nerdy way."

Did she agree? Fortunately for Peng, she did, and the pair plan a September wedding.



Awww, Romance isn't dead after all. _{I mean it isn't dead everywhere else but in Nigeria . .can't even get a man to do the kneeling thing, talk more of spending a month programming a proposal on his girl's fovorite game. Oh wait. . .does he even know her favorite game?}

To my dear Niger men. . .can you dare to be different? Don't answer. . .I don't want to force people to lie.

Inigo Montoya vs. Count Rugen – The Princess Bride.
Mel Gibson and Danny Glover vs. Jet Li – Lethal Weapon 4

[quote author=Mahdi.L link=topic=127310.msg2154248#msg2154248 date=1208218545]I am in a relationship with one and no bad experiences yet.
After two years, im still waiting to see Anything terrible about her.[/quote]Wow!

Well sir, I hope she doesn't disappoint you. In fact, I will join you in prayer that she gives you what you're waiting for in FULL MEASURE, PRESSED DOWN, SHAKEN TOGETHER and RUNNING OVER _(Amen) . .and when she's done, please, please make sure you come back and start a thread with the title "I was expecting the worst from my girlfriend and she didn't disappoint".

i'm not even ready to teach anyone how to cook because most times i'm on the field and expect my food on the table when i arrive home

Tee hee hee hee hee

Hahahahahahahahahahaha!

Bwahahahahahahahahahahaha!!

Wipes Tears

JJay1:
Its simply myopia (short-sightedness) and utter ignorance that makes people think difference in religion cannot lead to beautiful and lasting marital union, if both parties understand that religion is about you having a relationship with your creator.

The problem here is not the religion, but Nigerians that have to take things to the extreme, The oyinbos that brought xtianity to Africa hardly goes to church, it is for a fact that churches in London that gets attended are mostly by 98% foreigners. As a matter of fact Sundays are days of beer drinking for the Oyinbos.

Most Nigerian pastors and Imams feed congregations with so many bolllocks in order to get a firm hold on them and be able to commercialise religion as it is presently witnessed in Nigeria. It still baffles me that the pastor must approve your fiance or else there will be no marriage in most Naija pentecostal churches, how rubbish, when its not the pastor that will live your life.


Its not just about Christian marrying a moslem or the other way round only, many xtians would not even allow their kids or church member even marry into another xtian congregation eg a "Redeemer" would not marry a "Cele". In the Igbo part of Naija Anglicans and Catholics don't inter-marry though they are both xtians, as a matter of fact a former female colleague of mine had her father killed in 2002 by fellow kinsmen because he allowed his daughter to marry an Anglican while they are Catholics, what nonsense

I'm so sick of people stupidly mis-interpreting the verse of the bible that says "do not be equally yoked with an unbeliever" as "do not marry someone from other faith", An unbiliever is someone that does not believe and worship the Almighty- creator of heaven and earth and all that lies within. The fact that someone is a moslem or Jew or Catholic or Anglican does make them unbelivers, fools!!

Many moslem preachers also stupidly preach non marrying of moslems to other faiths  because of selfishness and ignorance, The Holy Great Book  chapter 2:6 says "Surely those who believe (moslems), and those who are Jews, and the Christians, and the Sabians, whoever believes in God and the Last day and does good, they shall have their reward from their Lord, and there is no fear for them, nor shall they grieve"

The truth is that all these religious stratifications are perculiar to Nigerians mostly. And we Nigerians don't just stop to wonder why all the pastors are so rich in a country that is ridden with poverty

And being in same religion or congregation does not in any way guarantee marital success, a trip to the divorce courts would reveal to you the reasons most couples separate, you would hardly find 1 out of 100,000 being because of difference in religion

Inspiring couples like Bola & Remi Tinubu, Simeon Oduoye etc have shown us that differences in religion doesnt stop marital bliss.

I'm a practicing a moslem married to xtian (assistant pastor) and I happily take her and the kid church programs.

Also I'm a a molsem but the verse of my life is taken from the Holy Bible, Proverbs 22:29

God Bless you and yours, sir. My prayer is that you and your wife have many more years together in love, happiness and perfect peace.


I spent the last week or so on the religion section and I couldn't help but laugh. _{Seriously, that has got to be the funniest section on Nairaland}. Anyhoo, after reading that section, I can safely say I have a better understanding of what’s happening on this thread.  Of course a Christian/Moslim union is a no no. . .after all, Christian/Christian union is still posing a problem.


First you weed off the moslems,
Then you start striking out people who are Christians but are Catholics because they say "Hail Mary" and use Rosary
So the Catholics are taken care of, you move on to the Celes because they wear white and they mu emi.
Catholics - down, Cele - Out.  Deeper Life. . .what are you still doing here? Hit the road baby.
Jehovah's Witness. . .do I need to tell you to follow your Deeper Life friend out that door?
Methodist and Angelican. . .do you really think I wanna sing hymns for the rest of my life? Get to stepping my friends.
Moutain of Fire?!!! Are you kidding me. . .Fire like Hell Fire? God forbid bad thing. Get out jo. *Hiss*
RCCG and Winner's Chapel. . .ok, I guess that will do.
RCCG. . .Which church do you attend. . . Jesus House, Victory House or All Nations? Strong Tower ke? Which one is that. . .please I've never heard of that one oh. Abeg, carry your bible and God Bless you as you leave.
Winner's  Chapel - Which section of the Auditorium do you sit? The left side on the far east side. . . where the JJCs sit? If you don't get out of my sight, right now ehn, you will rue the day you were born.

Whew! I tire oh!

It won't be true love if we don't suffer first, will it?

The question is how do you separate them.

Separate YOURSELF from THEM and you have to worry about that. Seriously, if catching your wife in a lovers clinch with your sister is not grounds for divorce, I don't know what is.

AfricaFace:
Then there men will deceive you till the end of their life, very deceitful

Like clockwork. . .here comes the first stereotype.

@ Poster
So Their men are deceitful, eh? You too sef. . .don't you learn? I mean after dealing with the 1st one million Edo men and found out they were deceitful, you still carried on until you went through all the men Edo had to offer for the lesson to sink in. Haba now!

Sometimes, women are the architect of their own misery, oh jare and we have stop blaming the men.

You'd think he's dealing with an alien from Neptune and not a Fellow Nigerian. Shaking my head.

Beauty Or Character, Which One Would You Go For?

You have got to be kidding me?!!!!!

Is this is even a question to ask? Yowza. . .what Bizzarro world is this . If it's not virginity vs. character or money vs. character, it's beauty vs. character. No wonder relationships are crumbling like domino


Mr. Poster, Please for the love of all that is good and Holy, go for the beautiful one. Do hear me. . .THE BEAUTIFUL ONE.  Please, I am begging you here. I wouldn't wish you on someone with good character. . .no matter how ugly they are.

quote]Our corrupt leaders both old and young should be hanged or sent on 10 years exile.

[/quote]Okay. . .so who's gonna do the hanging? Where can we find an unbribeable hangman?


[quote]I don't believe that politics is a dirty game, it is the people that are in politics that are dirty

Oh I don't know about the quote above. . .it's like the chicken and the egg thing. What came first the dirty politics or the dirty politicians?

Some people would say you have to get your hands dirty in order to get somewhere in politics (lending credence to the politics is a dirty game saying)

Others will say you have to have had some level of dirtiness in you in the first place to do those dirty deeds (meaning People who go into the game are already dirty).

While we're at it. . .How do we separate The Politics from The People because some others will say the People in  politics ARE the Politics.

I think once we accept that Politics are the people in it are all dirty. . .then we'd stop dreaming of an ideal world where the people in government care about the people and only the people and thoughts of lining their pockets with money does not even cross their minds. 

I wouldn't mind a government lining it's pockets. . .as long as they also take care of the Country. Please don’t tell me it’s not doable. . .the western Countries have been doing it for years. We just have to get someone who does not have a “It’s either ME or THEM” mentality in office.

ladydibia:
heloo house ,
You know why i used that word permission,it is because that is what it looks like.After you tell him he will then say you can go or don't go,what do u now call that is it just telling him or permission in diguise.
I am not against the fact that when u go out wit admirers or male friends you should tell your guy,it is good to do that,but a time may come and u forget 2 tell him not because u are hiding it,but because u see it as just that and he is angry.

Hi lady, first off thank you for making things clearer. Secondly, let me ask you this. . .what will you do if he says no?

bymya:
My boyfrnd n I av being dating 4 lik 4yrs, we r in d same University hopin 2 get married after sch. av always being d 1 taking about our future 2geda wc he never mention any 2 me. In 1 of our gist i told him am actually waiting  him, wot he told me was that i av choice,. He practically said IT MY CHOICE, wc means its either i continue wit him/ leave him. If it were u wot wil u do. Wen u never dream of being wit any oda person accept him.
PLS ADVICE

I'm sorry, I don't understand your post.

But since you said pls advice and the title of your thread is My boyfriend makes me cry, my advice is. . .look for someone who doesn't make you cry.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]I could say the same about men. . .
They will marry late or not marry at all
The will have children all over the place and convince their numerous babes to do abortion
They will have divorce

Nothing is solely the responsibility of a gender
BTW do you have anything about present day women?
All your topics are geared towards how present day women are in the wrong
Please roll with the times. The tide has started and no amount of yapping is going to turn it round.[/color]

You. . .you were able to make sense out of that? I bow to you. . .I guess that's why you're moderator, you must have displayed some special discerning. . .discernible. . .dicernibly ^whatever powers.

Long live the moderator. . ._{especially if we're gonna be bombarded with threads like this one.}

Siena:
Never been curious enough to read through someone else's letters.

A phone that doesn't belong to me is exactly the same - private. What next, going through someone elses pockets?

I am soooooooo with you on this!

I'd never look through another person's phone. . . especially a guy's and I'd never be apologetic for what's on my phone when a guy looks through it.

Busta:
I wouldn't call it asking for permission but telling him and letting him know where i'd be.

Aaah, okay. Now this makes more sense. Thank you. . .you are a wise woman.


@Poster
Yeah. . .what she said.

Lol. . .I had images of her timidly asking and him saying "NO and that's the last word on this matter" You know. . .the same way daddies used to. _{*sigh* I miss my daddy.}

Please is it rite to take permission. . .

I can't believe you have to ask this. . .of course you have to take permission. How else will your parents know where you are? Honestly, children this days sef. I tire oh!

Wait. . . ^{Reading post again} Oh Sisikill you've gone and done it now.


@ Poster
I'm so sorry. . .I see the phrase TAKE PERMISSION and the 1st thing that comes to my mind is taking permission from Parents, grandparents, Uncle, Aunty. . .you catch my drift. It never occurred to me that you are talking about taking permission from your guy to attend another guy and colleagues party.

So. . .take permission from your guy to go somewhere ehn.  I guess there is nothing. . .I'm sorry, I can't just match the words permission with boyfriend (Husband I can manage but boyfriend? _{Are you kidding me?})

Why do we insist on using one trait to define a whole personality?!! Honestly, this kinda thinking confuses me to no end.


Seriously, GUYS (and no, I’m not being presumptuous. . .the logic is so warped, it can only come from a guy) Anyway,  Guys have you ever paused for a moment and given a thought to this. . .the chances that your mothers were virgin when they married your fathers is 50-50? Yeah, bet it never occurred to you . . .well now that it’s on your mind, let me ask you this. . .does the thought that your mother might have been “an expert” make you love her less? Does it taint the relationship you have/had with her? Are you going  “Now I know why that day when I was 7, I saw her fighting with my dad. . .She was not a virgin! That Wench!!!“ Are you? Are you?


There are virgins with personality disorders I tell ya, if you look up PD in the DSM, it’s their picture you’ll find and there are virgins who are just the sweetest people you’ve ever met, you even find yourself praying for the right guy for them

There are non-virgins  you can almost swear were raised at the footstool of the devil himself and there are non-virgins whose personality you wish could clone. . .they are that good.

People are complex, they are multifaceted, they can’t be boxed and labeled. . . Don you get it?!!!

Instead praying for a virgin or non virgin wife, what you guys really need to be praying for is someone with a good personality, someone who will be in sync with you, shares your vision and supports your dreams. . .THAT is what a good partner means.

With that said. . .it’s pretty sad that some ladies are letting this virgin/non-virgin debate make them turn on their fellow sisters. There’s no need to mock someone just because they are what they are, if you believe in the path you’ve chosen for yourself, you don’t need to justify it by putting down someone who has chosen the opposite.  Apart from being grossly unfair, it gives the men more reason to think they have a leg to stand on with this yeye logic.