₦airaland Forum

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

Hello madam, if this is a major problem you have, I don't think it is a problem. Please manage this issue and try to be happy. Different people with their idiosyncrasies. This is minor please. Before other major issues crop up. I know you are tired of it. I am a man, and I would also be tired, but manage it
Things may change with time.

God bless you and your family

sisisioge:
Madam! You've got to speak his language too...when he starts, just totally ignore him. Don't beg, don't cook, don't take the sex, don't frown, speak when spoken to, don't carry face, act like his behaviour is normal, just dey look too. Wtf! Hian!


Una just dey make single hood sweet sotey married friends dey advise person say there is no rush, take your time. Lawd! Where are the good fair people!!!!

It's not everyone that can Act mad and remain Sane. So don't advise others to do what you can do easily. Besides, there may be repercussions.

My advice to the op is to pray and be patient. She may eventually realise the issues and perhaps cope with it.

Basher8583:
You have ₦16m and you are still hustling bank work? Who does that.
If he collected a motgage of ₦16m then thats understandable but it will not be provided to you in cash.
₦16m liquidity is a fraud indicator

Okay Sir

Basher8583:
You dont bro.. its very obvious. Trust me .. I know.

Okay Sir

Basher8583:
You obviously dont work in a bank. You cannot have that much cash with you. Not even a GM can afford such liquidity.
We in the bank are required to declare our assets on a yearly basis. Dem no born am well make e declare the ₦16m. He will be automatically investigated and ultimately sacked. This is coming from a valid source ...ME

The money can be saved. After investigation, he would be exonerated. I had a target that made me save almost eighty percent of my income. So I know it's doable because I have done it. Nothing illegal.

Basher8583:
You obviously dont work in a bank. You cannot have that much cash with you. Not even a GM can afford such liquidity.
We in the bank are required to declare our assets on a yearly basis. Dem no born am well make e declare the ₦16m. He will be automatically investigated and ultimately sacked. This is coming from a valid source ...ME

I do work in a bank and I don't see why it would be difficult to save 16 months salary in less than two years. I do save such. It's a matter of discipline and targets.

Basher8583:
Very wrong.
I have investigated an HR staff who employed several fictitious staff and posted them to remote branches where no one will notice. He was collecting thier salary through the rouge accounts he opened on thier behalf and submited to payrol dept.

How about an HR staff thatbtook advantage of poor auditing by continuing the payment of exited staff. He had tampered with thier acct no and replaced them with that of his family members and friends who will later withdraw and credit him.

Ope your eyes. Anyway you no get Auditor eyes else you for see am.

Okay Sir, but I know that it is very difficult for an HR staff to do this in UBA bank.

Slimsly100:
I bet u he can in connivance with the persons who have access to do so

I repeat a branch staff may commit fraud. An HR person can hardly commit fraud. He has no access to systems to commit fraud and cannot be an accessory to fraud. And even if he may do something illegal in the bank, he won't have a million naira out of it.

I know this for sure.

Basher8583:
Theres no how a bank worker will have such money on him. Not even through a loan. Haba wia him wan find am.
And if he is doing business then he has no need to be in a banks employment. How much is his gross.
₦16m is about the gross salary package of the Manager cadare in any bank.

He can have such an amount. If His monthly salary is above N1m. N16m is nothing big. It can easily be saved. Please don't think someone cannot have such. His picture shows he is a simple person and not extravagant or living an ostentatious lifestyle.

Basher8583:
That's what probably killed him. Love for money lead him to steal. Now that the game is over he is not man enough to face it. Shame

Not likely for a HR person to commit fraud. And that amount of money for that matter. I can't be certain, but I do not think he can commit fraud in the financial institution.

godswilld10:
yes something must have happened

Not always

mrjaydee:
The police should investigate properly.. the story doesn't add up

No rather, I think the suicide note is authentic. It doesn't smell fraud or murder.

Anwons:
When will Rivers state civil servants be promoted after several years of stagnation?

How many years exactly?

GAZZUZZ:
you quoted a 2015 post. We are in 2019 and it is still an evil gearbox, replace it.

Okay

GAZZUZZ:
There will be no transmission codes. It is an evil gearbox

So is there no solution?

polyraph:
Good afternoon house n happy new year. I ve a Toyota Camry 2008 model 2day ago while driving the car it stop sellecting the only selection it does is reverse so I pack the car somewhere' yesterday I went to where I park the car n start it' it move and the selection was OK but when the engine get hot it repeated the samething. My friend advise me to change the oil n fitter's of which I did with the recommended oil WS but the car does not move moretham 60 km even if I accelerate it. Pls I need advise on what to do nextn

Good day Sir,

Did you resolve this issue?

Nicolex:
this dude is pained...guy some ladies are looking 4 who to kill them o.what she is doing shitty but to beat her up like an animal?,what if she dies n you go to jail for it?.there are better ways to show you are an alpha.just saying

Let me be clear to you. That kind of Lady, you can't beat her easily or kill her, she is stubborn and would fight back. She is not about to die

But no need beaten a woman or fighting. Make your move and stick to your decision. Happiness gives long life and is more important than a nagging woman which gives high blood pressure and death.

BlackPantherCri:
Anonymous010,

I know many things have been said... But this sounds like me. Except the insulting mum part. I was a work from home mum and was frustrated by everything my husband did. We fought everyday and like her I refused to cook, I did as I liked. Infact my catch phrase is that "you don't have sense". I was like a wild animal and I don't even know why my husband put up with me all these years. We loved each other o, but sometimes something will switch in my head. He was sure I had a multiple personality disorder.

It's been over 10 years. Something changed. We relocated. My husband was also skeptical if abroad wont make me worse just like you but these years abroad have felt like bliss. see eh, the heat and frustration in Naija can make someone a wild animal, add to all this small small annoying stuff like warming soup and delayed salary, oh gosh! I was so frustrated and I also had a little baby.

Now, in the abroad by husband will ask for Edo ka ikong, I will cook it with periwinkles sef. I became a model wife. The triggers for my mental switch are no longer there. I can now focus on love and be loved.

I can never thank my husband enough for being there through that phase. He never for one hit me or lost his temper. There shouldnt be two mad people in a house. The early part of marriage has these teething problems. Now when people come to us for counselling, we just laugh. Me that will stay up at the window if oga comes late to start a round of nagging, I sleep peacefully all night now, anytime he comes home is his kettle of fish. Maturity will set in. Just be patient with her and give it time. No marriage is perfect.

Lies. Tell us what changed you. It maybe age or reality dawning on you. Don't mention that Nigeria is hell. Let's know the truth of what changed you.

Logobenz2:
Woman insult your family in your presence you no jam am till she collapse
Bros you dey fall hand o
Please no one should advise this kind of weak man.spits!
Who wouldn't know what to do at this point?some people dey born sha
Just look at someone's son.e be like na pap den use raise you.
Your mom comes to your own house and your wife not only mistreated her but tried to insult her in your presence?you know why?she knows you are a weak man.
That was your golden opportunity to teach her a bitter lesson that will be justified anywhere in Nigeria.
I wonder what she will do to you if you take her to the US.
Better cancel all plans of that visa,withdraw the application,divorce that woman whether the child is yours or Not,do not care!just be sending upkeep money for the child and get yourself another woman.
Jesus Christ!

I may find it hard to agree with you, but you are absolutely right on this.

That woman would kill him any day, any time given the opportunity and lie that the man was promiscuous.

I'm saying this because I was married to one such person. The marriage ended up after two years.

dreamworld:
So if they leave u u will go and buy 07 corolla,
It's better u get avalon or camry

Why do you prefer Camry and Avalon over corolla?

NwaIgboBoy:
in know first bank will not be among, stingy bank with branches everywhere.

Can a stingy Bank have branches (expenses) everywhere?
NO

ogawisdom:
Is that why he is shirtless too

He maybe a graduate earning 50k or less and decides to post a video shirtless. His appointment would likely be reviewed. His company like many others is in distress and was just sold to NBC, Coca-Cola

Akowemoon:
Some employees won't understand, while working under a boss, I thought he wasn't been kind to us as our salaries are been paid every 15th of the next month. Boss travelled outside and I was to oversee the activities and maintain the organization, Believe u me, I find it difficult to pay my own self salary at the end of the month...No good employer want to enslave his employees, let's be reasonable with our company at times, the country is not favourable to any organization as of now...

This is just the truth. Only a few companies have their profits increasing significantly year on year. Many others have flat profits. It's not easy remaining in business.

iswallker:
Mention one you know of bro..

Many. No need to mention names. There is injustice everywhere. Only God can fix the injustices for people without helper.

They pay him well based on his salary he mentioned. He just finished his chances of getting a job anywhere in Corporate Nigeria. The internet does not forgive and any company that would pay a similar salary may have access to this video clip and refused to employ him.

erico2k2:
I'm talking from standard practice, the only reason to loan a person with guarantee is for the person to worth that much as guarantor

Okay

thorpido:
N200k is big money for some people o.
Moreover,this LAPO people have an embarrassing way of seeking their loans.They could bring a noisy crowd to your doorstep.They get some people locked up too.

Okay, no matter how much the money, it's not worth dying for.

iTearHerToto:
Cried from 2008 to 2014




Pukes

Exactly. If He cried for this number of years that means she is the best person in that relationship.

otokx:
Do not sign guarantor form for anybody.

Stop saying this unless you would never need a help from someone in future. We all even the richest person needs help from people at one time or the other. What you need to do is to know the kind of person you help. It's not everyone you can guarantee just as it is not every one you borrow money to either with or without interest.

erico2k2:
The court can enforce confiscation order on your property cos you will be liable to repay!

How much property for loan that may not be up to N200k? D truth on the '' suicide'' was likely not stated here

erico2k2:
Please and Please People be wise, unable to pay back a loan is not a criminal offence, there is nothing like JAIL highest you go to court tell Mr Judge you can't pay and they confiscate your property highest, .The fault here is the Bank who did not do proper risk assessment b4 granting loans,So saying the arrest was a threat at this point the lady should have partitioned the bank!

How much loan do LAPO a Micro finance bank give that would warrant one committing suicide. I am sure it might not be up to N200k. That's too small to die for. The truth about the '' suicide'' may not be known.

oluwamykel:
Guarantor... The way I run from it ehn.

Some think its just an honour to name them as ones guarantor. Ask GTB, they will explain better.

We need to know who we guarantee. But if you don't guarantee others today, someday you will need someone to surety you.