₦airaland Forum

kelvine:
Many are not happy in their marriage so they wonder.
Why will this woman inherit my hard labour and still roll with a strange man

You said it all. Not just wife inheriting the wealth, close family members.

Blastedholligan:
There's this sweet Akata I met on fb, we are getting along well and she's thinking we could spend our lives together. She's a single mother of one, older than me with one year and a medical assistant.

Now the problem is, she doesn't really earn too much and she has accumulated alot of loans that could amount to 50k dols and she wants to acquire another to study at the University for 4years, calculating all these could amount to like 150k dols and I've not even talked about my own cos I'll have to sponsor myself through school.

Another issue is that I don't think I'm really ready to settle down cos I really need to hustle and make money to help my family if I eventually travel before marrying and I intend on doing a course here in Nigeria for Digital Marketing to help me secure a nice job.

My problem now is, I'm scared of marrying someone who has acquired these loans cos Las Las na me go still follow pay wetin I no sabi.

Please, I need a clear guide on what I should do cos I don't wanna be selfish here with her by using her to get to the USA, I'm very willing to let go of her if I have very good reasons to.

Pardon my scattered words.

$150k is 54m naira

$50k is 18m naira.

Do the maths and advise your self.

Trendy247:
I'm serious bro, the burner is just two weeks old. Wanted to manage it till my next refill

How can you manage that? Are you ready to die? Using a phone � close to a gas cooker is dangerous not to talk of snapping with it.

Please change that thing

How does one watch the game live? What site?

How does one watch the game live? What site?

LOSKYXANDER:
Are bank tellers contract staff?

Majority. Even for those of them who are staff, they are the least paid in the branches, little wonder that they tend to be rude than other staff in the branch.

seunmsg:
I remember when I lost my BankPhb job in 2009. I made the decision never to work in a bank again. Sadly, the situation of bank workers is still the same. They close from work everyday without any assurance that they will still have the job the following morning.

Young graduates should look beyond building a career in the banking sector. It can be your stepping stone but please, start looking for opportunities in other sectors. Don’t ever stay more than five years in a bank.

The situation of bank workers is not the same. It's far worse than ten years ago. And getting worse by the day. Trust me, I know what I mean.

odave:
That's why it's better to always collect loan as a bank worker, I'm sure they won't attempt sack during the repayment period. I may be wrong sha. I have a friend there, I don't even know the best advice I can give him.

Loan of how much? Maybe three months salary. It's usually not more than your severance package. So you may end up being sacked and paid and loan deducted with nothing for you. I don't advocate anyone takes loan.

chukel:
nothing like that

Thanks

chukel:
yesterday, the 5th of July, I got a message from FRSC to come collect my licence with evidence of tax payment. I must say it's exactly 2 months from the date I applied. So from my experience, apply online for renewal, choose no capture. Print the acknowledgement form, use it till you are told to come collect ur licence. No need to go to their office for anything other than collecting the licence when ready.

Good day,

Please what was your evidence of tax payment?

profjustine458:
Just say the truth about this vehicle before you I'll be exposed

Put the facts here let's know the truth.

Me77:
Hi to everyone reading this, I have gotten a big problem with my uncle

He recently helped me to get a job in a foreign owned company. He introduced me to most of his colleagues and Co-workers as he is nephew and in the process I get to meet one of his senior manager who said he would take me under his unit once I resume for duty.
The problem is that the senior manager is never in good terms with my uncle and my uncle never told me this. Not until I started working with him and he began to show me hell under his unit.

He always insult me and embarrassed me in front of everyone, he even go as far as harassing me by hitting me with a book on my head.

To him I am not good enough at my job and he pile up the job of 4 people for me all alone to do on daily basis. I have no single day off since I resumed working with him including weekends.

I let my uncle know about my situation, since it is because of him I am going through all this (Note, he later told me that he was never in good terms with him)
I was 100% about quitting the job when I called home and told them that I can't take this punishment anymore, the punishment I never bargained for .
But he persuade my mom to talk me into staying and that the situation is not as bad as I am portraying it to be. He assured my mom that everything will get better in the future if I show endurance and keep working every single day of the week.

My people is this fair? What kinda job is this without a single day of rest? The terrible man they placed me under wouldn't even allow me to do my work properly, everyday he kept threatening me with sack and insult.

THE POINT OF BETRAYAL
With all my situation worsening and no help in sight and my mum threatening me never to return home if I leave the job, what should I do?
I have no choice but to head straight into the office of the executive director to lay down my complaint. And so I did.
I went straight into the executive director office with heavy fear in my heart because he's a person that you can't get easy access to, but in my situation I have to do what I have to do. Luckily for me, he listened to me and provided help by changing my department and taking me out from the terrible manager I am working with.

NOW THE PROBLEM
My uncle have a good working relationship with the executive director and the news spreading around the company is that it is because of my uncle influence that I have the guts to barge into the director office to demand a change of department.
My name has been on everyone lips for the past week. They don't believe that I went all alone in to the office, they are also accusing my uncle of having a hand in it. They also said that I have done what no one has ever done in the company.

Now this whole thing is affecting my uncle negatively, he said all the top management have now set their attention on him. He said that for me a newbie to gain direct access to meet the executive director, while some of the top managers can't even try it shows how arrogant he has become. And they are Saying that I can cause problems for them once any of them make me angry.

MY CONFESSION
To God who made me, I have never had any intention to hurt my uncle negatively at his work place. I only want a safe place to work in peace and free from constant threats and harassment.
My uncle said his job is no longer safe because of my desperate act and that all his colleagues has ganged up on him right now. He said that he regretted employing me.

Please nairaland family help me where did I go wrong, I only want a safe place from my terrible manager and now everything has spiral out of control. Everyone is talking about me and my uncle, even in my new department.

Should I finally quit this job and damned the consequences or should I stay and mind my business with no one talking to me. Please advise.

You betrayed him. Work involves politics and has effects on you and your uncle

Why are your vehicles always expensive?

Goodplace:
If Someone is in a work of 80k per month can he afford a place of 200k with no side income yet?

It's good only if the person steals.

It's totally wrong to pay more than one month salary for a hard worker. Unless the house is a walking distance from the office. Then transport fare may have been saved by renting a expensive apartment for the salary.

doublecross:
i think you can now do a direct bank to bank transfer. what you need moneygram or western union for?

You can do a direct bank to bank transfer if you have a FCY account like a dollar account. Not all Nigerians have a dollar account etc. You can also do that to a naira account. But people still do WU, MG

Godoverevery:
oooo is my fault for sincerely helping........why did I give wat I can't let go??.....I didn't even see were you condemn her actions..... well am not surprised dat why most of you end up having broken marriage and becoming single mothers becos you never condemn each other bad behaviours.

My problem with you is that you have not learnt anything from the comments. And you may make the same mistakes with the same or another lady.

Deathisfreee:
Welcome to Nigeria where they don’t need petitions to arrest boys but need petitions to arrest yahoo politicians

I don’t think some guys doing yahoo are into fraud
I call them “online beggars”,they disguise in someone else image just to beg for money.
We have a lot of people who does such here on the street. Some aboki will pretend blind just to beg and all

The govt should be fair with judgment because even this whites don’t complain,this online begging actually reduce other badder crimes. I’m not in support of any crime but just the truth and my own opinion bec I once saw when a guy was begging a client for money and I pity his life. It took about 3months for the guy to collect $1

Any G guy who collect large in the game is just privileged,yahoo boys are moderate online beggars. Thank you

May God bless zoogeria

The whites complain and ask for their money back. This ones are Romance scam with feminine names as alias. NFIU was almost shut down following petitions by the Whites. EFCC had to start doing their job following so many petitions from the Whites. Note that many bank branches have been blacklisted from receiving Western Union and Money Gram because of this thieves with the attendant loss of jobs of bank staff.

MVLOX:
my people will say who no go no know... true I have job am grateful for but what is the point of having a job that make u moody wen u get home.... a job that follows u even to your home and makes life unpleasant for you and your family... that's not a job again bro it's a burden...

Many people have something similar to your description. But as long as they pay at month end, continue in the vicious circle.

No one knows what you go through. All they see is your success and envy you at that.

Scatterscatter:
This is quite impressive and encouraging.

Just don't forget to warn them to desist from jumping into people's cars and sneaking like thieves, waiting for who will mistakenly pass one-way

Does anyone mistakenly pass one way?

Anndrew:
..no b only u..i wonder whch 1 b portharcourt mall...no location,no name..usless blogger

Don't curse because you don't know. That's Spar main branch. Clearly written at the entrance. Port Harcourt Mall. I have been there only once, but I do have the pictures. Asking questions isn't a bad thing.

Kenmatt:
I have been in Portharcourt for almost twenty years but I don't know which one or where is Portharcourt mall?

Spar main branch

symbianDON:
anyone supporting yahoo boys is a potential thief

It's not just a potential thief but a thief. In the Bible the same punishment goes to the person that supports an evil and the evil doer.

kennybabs1980:
My director's wife is a kind hearted woman but she is too sensitive and highly inquisitive. I have known her for 5 years, that's when I started working with her husband. I'm very close to my oga and his family.

My oga is a womanizer but his wife hasn't been able to catch him red handed. The woman became so friendly with me since February 2019. she will call me on phone to just say hi, recharge my phone sometimes etc.

I have always been so sceptical about the woman's attitude of recent since I know her as a very inquisitive person.

The bubble bursted in April when I travelled with oga to Kaduna, Kano and Jigawa States for some trainings organised by our department for some cooperative livestock farmers. The wife started calling me while in Kano to ask about her husband, who stays with him in his hotel room, his visitors etc which I said to her I don't really know.

Oga actually brought his secretary which I knew he has been dating with him for the trip but of what concern is that to me? When we returned, the woman actually came to our office where she looked angrily at me, hiss at me and left without answering her greeting.

My job schedule involves sometimes working at oga's house especially when we have urgent training assignments. The woman have been sort of looking at me as someone who is also promiscuous like her hubby. Yesterday, she called me a liar and deceitful person, just because she wanted me to divulge her hubby's itinerary to her. It's possible she think I'm a small boy sha.

I'm actually planning to move some of the equipment in oga's house to mine so that I'll have less contact with the woman but I don't want my oga to know my reasons since I didn't tell him all his wife have been doing so that I don't cause wahala in their home.

How could I handle this issue brothers and sisters?

You are in trouble. People see Social media as anonymous forum. But it is not. You have divulged all the information and your job may be at stake.

Damyonline:
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lalasticlala

Rukpokwu � fire going to the airport, Om@gwa, story. E don reach Igwuruta Ali. The distance here is over twenty kilometers and this is not America where wild fire spreads.

obc:
Kindly, help a soul before late.

My Story:

I paid a guy 3.2million since 2017 to supply me Zinc Ore but he defaulted . I have since reported the matter to his father, village king, and town union president, yet no result. I visited his house sometime last year and after much noise, he signed an agreement before his lawyer and my own lawyer to pay effective April last year, but reneged again.

His village king as well as his lawyer have since lost interest in the matter. They advised that having exhausted all peaceful means of recovering the fund; I am at liberty to explore other options since the guy refused to oblige.

I don't want to arrest him with the police in his state of residence because I know he can easily riddle his way out. Considering our judicial system, I think going to court would prolong the case.

A friend suggested that since I live in Lagos and him at the East, the best option will be using EFCC, Special Fraud Unit or Force CID to arrest him (debtor) after obtaining approval from IG's office which seems to be expensive. I visited SFU Ikoyi and was told that the petition to IG will cost me 60,000 to 100,000 while mobilization for the officers that will go for his arrest amounts to 250,000.

The above fund put together is almost 400,000 naira or more, which I don't have at the moment. I have since put my car for sale to pursue this case.

I have lost a lot in the course of traveling for this debt. I lost my job last year because I couldn't continue servicing the loan I took from First Bank and my place of work as well.

My wife is now the pillar of the family. The situation around me is so pathetic.

Please I need suggestions and anyone that can assist me pursue this case. I have print out of all the payment made to him(debtor), signed agreement by him and other documents.

Please help a brother.

I will appreciate if the moderators can help me push this post to front page. I am totally devastated with no hope at sight.

Forget the money and continue your life. My Candid advice to you. I can assure you that you would spend another million naira chasing the issue and not get anything in return. The time you would waste would be much.

jeff1607:
it is possible, if one can't manage a small amount , when a larger sum comes he or she will say the same story.

some guys earn 200k monthly but can't boast of any savings and yet they complain it's too small

Fact

ImaIma1:
When someone says marrying on that kind of salary is not advisable, they will say we are materialistic.

Imagine if a child is involved. You will know that it's not about being prudent or being a wife material.

Meanwhile, on this forum, a guy has been urged on to get married on a 40k salary. You guys should tell yourself the truth and stop hiding under "a good woman will manage"

This is real life, real expenses.

By the way, what if someone who earned well before wedding loses his high paying job after wedding.

What matters most is money management skills. Secondly, if you have no choice than to ask for recharge card. He should not have informed her on the purpose of the purchase. It's not everything a man or woman should tell his or her spouse because the reaction would be terrible

ImaIma1:
When someone says marrying on that kind of salary is not advisable, they will say we are materialistic.

Imagine if a child is involved. You will know that it's not about being prudent or being a wife material.

Meanwhile, on this forum, a guy has been urged on to get married on a 40k salary. You guys should tell yourself the truth and stop hiding under "a good woman will manage"

This is real life, real expenses.

The salary is not the problem. At 60k a month, the man has no right to beg his wife for recharge card of any denomination to use for anybody. He crossed the line there. Although the woman reacted wrongly based on frustration, the man needs to work on money management skills firstly before making more money. Because he may earn more than 100k a month and ask for 1,000 recharge card tomorrow. He does not know how to manage money.
It's not everytime one needs money that you act on impulse. You can wait for the next pay day to buy that recharge card or buy on credit and not from his spouse money

tee59:
Your wife is the head of your family in as much as she takes the major financial responsibility of that house. It can be frustrating at times, saddling the burden of the both families. She's a strong woman and must be appreciated. You need to make more money to take back your leadership role in your home. I know, there are some decisions both of you need to make but if your wife disagrees, it won't work out.Your wife can not be totally submissive to you, let be frank here. You're too lazy to make more money.

You are right, but the woman is not the head of the house or family. It's a God given position to the husband. Understand this. The man must work harder

emerald16:
Thanks guys please I don't want this on front page

It's already on front page �. You should not have kept malice with her. From your � write up you need to apologize to her and work harder for more income to assist the family �.

Flyingngel:
So i no be youth again?
Which kind wahala be this?
How person go sleep for night as a youth only to wake up in the morning as and adult?
Nigeria i hail thee!

E dey pain me o gaga.

Explorers:
The latest casualty on the mountain was identified as Robin Haynes Fisher, 44, of Britain, who died Saturday morning at about 28,215 feet, the authorities said.


Nepal’s tourism ministry issued permits to a record 381 climbers this season, each at a cost of about $11,000(about ₦4million)

In 2018, 346 permits were granted.

1,000 ways to die at $11,000(N4m)