pocohantas:


Because there is an insatiable desire in most men to admire women and give women the attention at whatever cost.

As you saw women opening their body, you didn’t see your brothers typing;

-Spit on me, I am your tufiakwa!
-Check DM.
-Opoorrr!
-Thanks for your acceptance baby.
-You are so damn pretty.
-This one waist go break preek o.
-Etc

Abi you think all the likes on their pages are from their fellow women? It is your FEW men in business and comedy liking those pictures.

You are right to some extent. However, you are simply attacking the symptoms not the disease. Because some men put on such comments should not motivate a woman and other women to do same.

Feminism and women tell men that the future is female and we should not see women as sex objects yet they do the opposite. How will women earn respect from men if they keep going down this path.

If a twerk challenge comes out tommorw, a large percentage of ppl will be women. Ask many girls around, between Chiamanda Adichie or Ngozi okonjo Iwela and Toke Makinwa, ask them who they would rather be.

This is not a thread to bash women. There are still good women out there, but it must be continually be difficult for them seeing women doing the wrong thing seemingly get more attention.

Men too struggle and have their own issues. And take part of the blame.

But we muvee.

AussieJoan:


Happy New Year to you.
I just saw this now, I don't think I have any contacts in North Melbourne as am not based there.
How's your search for housing going? If you haven't gotten one.

Happy Nee year Joan,

Thank you so much for always trying to help other Nigerians in one shape, form or fashion. I have always wanted to ask is there a WhatsApp group of Nigerians living in Victoria, or Austrlaia. My friends in Canada have thiers and they so much done helping each other not necessarily financially but with information that moves the community forward. The Indians have thiers as well.

Just saying sha.

Remain Amazing.x

Who else has noticed the unhealthy desire of women to be on social media? A few times I visit IG. Facebook, it women everywhere either conspicuously bearing their body or just doing challenges that make no sense. For example, this buss it challenges, I don't get it. Some will celebrate birthday and dress almost naked. When did dressing almost nude commensurate with a celebration? Abi can't they pass the same message with clothes on, must they even have it on social media. Abi the men don't have birthdays too.

The few men I see on social media are either about buisness or comedy, soemthing to bring in money sha. How did women survive before the advent of the internet ?

It appears there is an insatiable desire in most women to be admired and command attention at whaterver cost.

Priceless25:
Please I need help paying my tuition fee, I applied for form A since December 16 2020 and till this moment, it hasn't gone through (they said there's no dollar in the market). Please is there anyone that can help me out with an affordable rate?

Go to all the top tier banks. One of them must answer you, CBN makes available fx for them for things like school fees, medical fees etc. Infact they are priority.

Last Last, all those big big bureau de change wey get office, registered and all do it. But their rate might not favour you.

Also mail the school , let.them know the fx situation in 9ja. They go advice you.

I still think the bank is the best option. I paid using form A in first bank but that's over 1.5yrs ago.

Good luck.

NextD18:
The question should be; Must we celebrate??


Celebration of wedding isn't a sure guarantee that the marriage will work out. And at the same time, celebration of marriage anniversary isn't also a sure yardstick to measure or weigh the happiness of the marriage.

Celebrations these days are most times, just for gram and shouldn't be used as a tool to judge or conclude the success and happiness of people.

Thanks.

Hmnn. This one deep oo. Must we even celebrate ? Some people will come with the argument that it is religious, cultural and all.

I get your drift though, couples should not equate celebrating weddings as a gurantee that the marriage will work. Even for those who don't celebrate, it does not gurantee a succesful marriage.

But will our women agree to get married without any celebration?

NextD18:

Oga, why you dey laugh.

The matter get as e be abi e be as e get....lol

But on a serious note, the events and times require both men and women to calm down and observe. Dont be too anxious about getting married and all. Just get married, observe.

Sometimes I take a look back on marriages in my family and the society and see where exorbitant amounts were spent on wedding ceremonies only for the marriages to hit the rocks a few years later.

Is it not better to celebrate 20/30/40 years wedding anniversary than the wedding itself? Because that way one can take stock of one's life, see how either partner has been a blessing to each other, and move on.

Even in university admission, Matriculation is not celebrated as much, but graduation. Even graduation comes with mixed reactions because you never know if you will get a job with it, or even keep it away ad hustle in business.

I remember weddings of Tiwa savage, toke makinwa that year. E loud, Even the FCMB saga banker who died, celebrated his wedding not knowing what the future held. We often forget the risk involved. Many men and women have had their lives worsened via the marriage intuition. Some have also made their lives better.

Also, Almost all marriages had prayers in it. before and after prayers, was it that those prayers were not answered or what went wrong?

In a nutshell, I believe and support marriages. I just don't think it makes no sense to go over and beyond celebrating marriages nowadays with the inherent risk of the union ending up. I would rather spend on an anniversary, on my partner, celebrating and thanking God for a successful union so far.

All of these things make me observe.

lavylilly:
I'm curious

"This is an OPEN DISCUSSION"

Why aren't many marriages of this generation durable and stable like those of our grandparents?

What are we doing wrong?

Many things have contributed.

1. Life is getting harder for Men in general

2. Women have evolved over time

Dont let this suprise you, it's all signs of the end time. These things must happen before the world ends.

Mcslize:


Wahala! Arrangee marriage ba? This kind marriage will get k-leg o

Legit bro... no arrangee. Not too.many Nigerian or african ladies in my area.

Congratulations.

But it appears thier male counterparts dont know where they sell these cars in Nigeria.

I am not understanding.

Wish you guys luck in court. I have no idea why you guys are there.

I find it hard to admire women who let themselves go. I first thought it was a man talking sef. Men dey try oo. Kai

As many of us know.
Life is getting hard for many Men economically, while relationships are getting tougher on many women.

There is an unwritten code in the society where the Man is expected to provide for his family. Even religion agrees to this. With this primary knowledge, is it ok to give some kind of priority to qualified Men looking for employment ?

In this world of feminism, its might ache some ears to hear that the success of any nation is often carried on the back of the Men. I sometimes admire how the middle east is run. The men, women a d govt know their place. The women dont compete with men for jobs and somehow they seem on from afar.

Also, a part of me belives women are not designed to work as hard as they do now. The stress, and health of long hours of work takes it toll on the body. Again, some women loose feminine qualities with jobs, power and money.

For the women working jobs desiring marriage but not having much options. Many of thier would be husbands are unemployed and if the job is switched with the man. The lady would marry because finaicial stability is a prerequisite to a man considering marriage.

If you are a young man. Try and pursue careers with less competition i.e stem courses, IT, Medcine and surgery, Engineering.

Please , I must acknowledge the women working hard. I am just maybe we could have more flourishing families and society if men were given priorities in getting a job.

This is not a thread to bash women. It's just a wild thought.

Is anyone here intrested in getting married? We dey find babe wey dey try in Victoria. No games.

This is not a female bashing thread. Please let's be civil. I think there is a growing number of eligible bachelors who are not so keen on marriage for some reasons.

1. Life is getting harder for men.
The media might not report it as much as females seem to be pitied more than males. With resources thinning out populatuon growth, and competition with women alike for jobs and livelihood. Men are taking longer to some level of financial independence which is a prerequisite to starting a family.

2. Women have evolved.
The women 50 and 100yrs ago are not the same as the ones we have now. Women are now working as hard as men and becoming financially independent leaving her with little desire for a man as she is independent. Freedom and social media has had a negative impact more on our women than men.

3. Relationships demand effort.
Alot of men might not say this, but being in a relationship requires calling the babe, checking on her , buying gift etc. Some men like me dont even have that energy and the lady would think introverted me does not like her.

4. Men are enjoying the benefits of marriage without being married.

Sex, baby mama etc is becoming the norm. By going this route a man avoids the responsibility of a husband but takes on the demands of being a father.

5. See ehn. Men of knowledge known that all of these are signs of the end time. Sometimes ehn, I feel Angel Michael should just blow the trumpet. Some of us know where we dey go,.let rapture cut us the chase.

As life continues to get harder for men, relationships will get tougher on women.

Peace.

let's be real.

Being a single reduced your chances of landing a high value guy but not completely eliminates it. Think of it, the same guy you want is being desired by other possibly younger women who have no kids.

Personally I dont fancy single mothers, if at all I do. I would be intrested in knowing the quality of man . Was he a high value man or just a aRIF RAF.

In addition, it does not set a good example to young and upcoming girls. You will see some girls give example of how a single mother found love again and so she can too. Very few get lucky.

In a nutshell, single mothers seeking love again should reduce thier expectation of who a man is. The problem is that womens hypergamy instinct only makes them consider men above them or are on the same level. If she looks closely a man maybe somewhat below her would would love her more than she wants sef.

Lifeisgoody:
From my perspective, are we not into this already?
From ATM to cardless to BVN to fingerprint and now NIN. Later all BVN/NIN will be unified all over the world and then you can not buy or sell without the mark just like what we are experiencing right now in Nigeria.

My prayer is Jesus should come now. No more delay

I was telling my friend today. Make the world kuku end, some us know where we dey go already. No need to long am. Who get Angel Michael number make e call.am tell am.to blow the trumpet.

Beedude:


Is ur land still available?

Thanks bro.

Sold.

Appreciated.

While I think all of these is for attention and may not be true.

It only goes to show how gullible women can be. You have private access to a billionaire that has the capacity to change your life forever and rather than keep it on the low. You are bent of trying to drag his name in.mud, weydon.

Again, why are they not exposing the other low value men they have been with, who has done they wrong.

While I congratulate the couple for the arrival of their baby. It occurs to me like the office of the first lady is not really relevant.

Of what use is this to the progress of the state?

What about those who had babies at home ? What about those who gave birth in private hospitals?

Traditions like these should be changed. Instead of doing this, why not try to make a law that for every child born in a government hospital, the child and mother gets a gift of some kind. This will endear people to wanting to use government hospitals than those road side clinics that could be a danger to the child and mother.

Again, congratulations to the couple.

edkai:

Well said Bruxxels. Guys if you have any goal of having an extended stay in Australia that would lead to PR or want to apply for PR directly after your studies, studying in regional Australia should be your preferred choice.

This is relevant advice but studying in regional area might not be enough. There are some challenges with studying in regional area.
I.e Jobs are limited.

Also the way I see it ehn, only health related are somewhat sure of getting pr now. And once the govt feels they have had enough, they will close or reduce the number needed.

It reminds me of some indian guys that were my flat mate. after studying, to get PR they went to study trade courses. Plumbing, carpentry etc.when govt realized the number of applicants via that route increased they took it out of the list and threw them into jeopardy.

Sometimes ehn, chasing these govt policies for PR is tough. Imagine a guy very good in law, just to get PR switches to Nursing. This is one reason canada beats Australia, once u graduate from thier uni it's as good as having PR.

It's tough, but we move.

ebere272:
Recently moved to Melbourne, looking for an ensuite room to rent..@joan or any female in the house, preferably north Melbourne

I live in North Melbourne as well. Many nice places to stay. My landlord is looking for tenants as well but feel free to go to realestate.com.au and flatmates.com.au.

Good luck.

Sometimes, I wish I could go into a womans brain just to see if women are happy being women.

Life is really getting harder for men and relationships getting bn tougher on women.

The hypergamy instinct in women have men below thier status invisible to them. It must be tough wanting to marry someone who does not want you.

I wish her well though.

What advice will we give girls in thier teens nowadays sef. It's just complicated.

This is the curse of the Man.

To toil all the days of his life.for the benefit of others.

Na old age, we go know who be good wife or not.

To be sincere this should not even be a conversation.
As a Nigerian in Diaspora, I marvel at how women especially think is a big deal that they are sponsoring a spouse to get papers.

When they do, they rub it in your face all the days of your life that they helped you get papers.

This is why many Nigerians look away from marry thier fellow Nigerians abroad.

Asians, Indians do these to help thier community grow yet our 9ja sisters.

They should hold their paper, other african ladies or whites like us the way we are.

If women will lower their expectation of who a husband is they would marry earlier.

The issue is that the hypergamous nature of a woman holds out for a better offer until it's too late. And they become undesirable.

Many of the Men women will like to marry dont want them , many of the men toasting women are deemed below thier standard.

Omo Osun poor oooo.

olisaEze:
They’re not shaming us but only shaming themselves. More and more Naija guys are moving on to our more reasonable African sisters from other African nations than our ladies residing abroad.

It’s an emerging vicious cycle that is going to see our young ladies coming back to pick Nigerian husbands that’ll do the same thing to them till sense will finally reach their thick skulls. This life no get season 2, no time!

Well said.

As a man in diaspora seeking a wife, Nigerian ladies often look at me funny like I am wanting to marry them for papers. Meanwhile, my reason is simply becuasen of culture, to have a semblance of Nigerian family.

Asians, Indians, etc. Have no trouble marrying themselves here. They help to build thier communities, but our Nigeria sisters...

And the funny thing is that very few black women get attention from non black men. Na to find myself one african lady, move.

No time.

This is another reason why Men are choosing to remain single kinda...

jawalis:
The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate.

Well said bro.

You have summarized a lot in a few words.
Another issue is that the kind of man Linda will entertain is the same man many ladies will be praying for too. Some are younger, more beautiful, and may find it easier to be submissive to such a man. Let's stop normalizing baby mama, I read some people say it does not matter. If we keep normalizing it, what becomes of the ones who have truly kept themselves.

I like the fact that Linda is truthful though and open about her situation. She claerly knows what she wants though. This life sha... it appears we cant all win it all regardless of how hard some try.

As Life gets harder for Men, relationships will get tougher on women.

Wish her the best.

Regardless of how beautiful it looks, I can't visit a farm or a farming community anywhere in the north. That is usually Boko harams and Fulani herdmen target.

Those of you that want to visit, I pray God keeps you.

Cant women pass the same message without wearing a linginre?

I come in peace.