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MIKOLOWISKA:
and you think the rich voters are not swayed by money?
Sigh

You are still learning

Hmnnn.... You are kinda right. Is ot ok then to say we deserve our leaders past and present because we are a people who prioritize money of self than The quality life of all?

My argument was that, Looking at the electoral process in Nigeria. Do you really think the results is a true reflection of the majority ? Even the Available people to vote , do they get the party tickets by merit of performace or by what they stand to benefit for the stakeholders.


Beyond everything, I Just want Nigeria to work.

I have been watching Ogun state from a distance. I must say I don't have much confidence in him. With Oguns proximity to Lagos, you would think ogun should be the next Big thing.

He is one reason why Godfatherism is not so good.

I sometimes think Democracy is not for us, a government system that relys on the votes of its poor citizens will always be swayed by money.

There will always be women.

Bifwoli:
I smell a rotten fish here , the real truth is very very very few(i mean those in the topmost position of the 1% to 5% of top income earners) can earn and save over $100,000 a year. Now for some immigrant to come earn that kind in their 1st three years i smell something rotten.

I was as suprised as you are until I saw his tax return, he earned 129,000 ish. He cares for complex needs patients, those ones that people run away from.

There will always be women waiting on the wings when you are kinda doing well.

To all those saying Osinbajo is a good man.

Nigeria does not need a good man, remember Jonathan was a good man too. Enough of all these good men syndrome bla bla bla. We need need someone of wikes audacity that will radicalize.

Osinbajo continues to turn a blind eye to all the things happening in the country, forming pastor. They should all pack and go. We need a new blood.

If he becomes president, he would be like a puppet controlled by jagaban and those he is loyal to.

I just want a new breed of politician abeg

It's the next generation that would pay for these debt oooo.

Why should we suffer from the incompetence of our leaders ?

Oil prices are dwindling, many of our buyers are finding alternative ways to power thier car and industry. Yet we still look to oil.

Africa will continue to remain where it is as long as we keep incompetent leaders.

Moderator

Please can this be moved to front page.

Thank you.

NB: Please can someone educate me on how to get topics to the front page.

Itzlinda:
What's the guy into please that he's able to save 100,000/yr?

He works as a disability support worker and aged care support. It means he cares for those who live with disability, some people dont like to do it. But my guy no send. He makes his money, and can use that as capital to set himself up in Ghana for life.

He also lives miserly, drives a cheap car, lives in a cheap area.

Let's just say he is blessed with delayed gratification, he would rather live like this today and live a good life in his country.

Klass99:
What your Ghanaian friend did is something I wish I had known earlier or younger me had done sooner (i.e. the aggressive saving then investing, towards an early retirement) Too bad I don't earn in foreign currency like him, the naira go slow runs for me.

What the oyinbo man did, is a realization I came to last year when Covid happened and we were in lockdown. I realized (Klass) you can retire early and not continue this rat race, I realized this work and quench mentality or work till retirement age, doesn't have to be your story or reality.

Thank you Klass....

Nothing beats passives income. An income you earn with little or no effort.

Not all of us have that opportunity to earn so much, but if you can earn and save that much abroad. You can set yourself up for life in Nigeria and put yourself in a position to build generational wealth.

I am not talking doing business ooo, I am talking acquiring assets that generate passive income.

Also , alot of our people go through alot just to have papers. So change courses, u will see a someone good in engineering studying to be a nurse just so he can get papers. Or marrting people they have no love for just for papers sake. That's alot of burden on mental health alone.

Continuing to stay abroad forever , may not always be the best.

May God guide us sha.

Most Nigerians youth would fancy traveling abroad to better their lives, which is not a bad thing. In fact, some people's lives have changed for the better only because they traveled out of Nigeria.

However, this thread is about those who chose to return home for reasons such as
1. Inability to get legal papers to continue to reside there.
2. Personal choice
3. Better Job offers
And by Abroad, I mean developed “1st world countries “like USA, UK, Canada, Australia, Germany etc

As a Nigerian in Diaspora myself, one of my good friends (We both in our 30s’) who is Ghanaian is ready to go back to his country. He has been very frugal here saving over $100,000 cash/yr for the past 3 yrs. He says he has dedicated 3yrs of his life to working so he can set himself up for life. He worked as a health care support worker, taking care of the disabled and aged ppl, a job many people will consider dirty. His plan includes buying affordable rental real estate that can generate passive income. And retire at age 50. He is also good with stock trading and does that to generate some money on the side, something he can do anywhere in the world. He has plans to also go into politics as he feels he can impact his hometown.

Some of his concerns include:
1. Inclusion: Despite how well-spoken and intelligent he is, he never feels like he belongs here especially when he is being racially profiled.
2. Women are Powerful here. I have known this guy for a while and he is a decent Christian, but by marrying her he could lose everything he has worked for if things go south. The government does not want to know who is right or wrong oo, they would cut your assets and leave you to pay child support.
3. Loss of culture: He fears when he has kids, his children will lose a sense of their culture and tradition
4. Old age: Old age here can be scary too, especially when you grew up in Africa where we have a family-orientated family structure. When you are old here and can't support yourself. Families dump their aged parents in aged care facilities. Not the fault of the kids but it's how the system is run.

Anyway, I was wondering why don’t Nigerian’s dream the same dream. Some Nigerians turn out to be very successful abroad, but many are just living paycheck to paycheck and would be better off returning home where the money has much more value. 1USD = N505. Or is Nigeria so bad, that opportunities don’t lie in it? Remember the Indians, Chinese come here to take advantage.

I must give credit to Nigerians. We dey Hustle. God. Nigerians dey try.

It was when I met a 40yr old oyinbo that has retired that I started thinking deep that there is more to life than working working working.
Haven said all these, I know my country and the many issues we have. Security, healthcare, family or village people, etc. but Still, Are many Nigerians not better off going back home with all they have saved Abroad. Let's not forget, Banky W, Tinubu, Tiwa savage, Some Top Bank executives, and corporate ppl all returned home. Had they remained abroad, they could still have been just ok but maybe not as successful.
So this takes me back to the question

Nigerians who returned from Abroad, Any regret?

Moderator : Abeg front Page. Thank you

Sometimes I just think the world should end.

Hmnn....

This life ehn.

The things men do for marriage sake.

Guy, dont do it. Let your mum be and let her live in the house, dont because of another woman destroy your family. I know u have spent money and feel it's your right, if you do. Your wife will be hated for a long time while married to you.

In fact, it may shock you that the woman , your wife that you are willing to discard your family for may not do same for you. Women dont really love us o, they love what you can provide. Take am easy.

If you can, remain in SA. and let tour wife join you. If you must be in Nigeria rent a house and God will double your hustle.

I built a house for my mum as well, but I no even send. I have acquired so much more assets that property is no more a priority. I just want peace of mind.

As a man, I will never understand the marital pressure on women seeking a husband.

May it be unto her as she desires.

Amen

Rozcol:
Its very natural to love attention as a lady

Hmnnn...

But at what cost.

It has gotten to a point where choir mistress is doing shedibalaba, or #bustitchallenge

BirtherOfKings:
Hi,
Just got a job in Victoria island paying 60,000 but no acomodation..abeg can anyone acomodate me and I will pay 10,000 if u want to collect money from me
I will also
Clean the whole house
Make sure all fixtures and bills are paid ( T$C inside)
Cook anything you feel like eating( u wld have to give the money for what u like to eat)
Be as if I don't exist ( i.e very quiet) though am the best company anyone can ever pray for

Kindly reach out to me if you think it's ok( call or whatsapp 08169827645)

Lollll... very smart topic. This is one way u could attract attention to your issue.

Well, to be sincere. Nigeria is not like abroad. People are scared and you should be too. We hear too many evil going on.

This is what you should do.

1. Spend your 1st few weeks meeting other staff and getting to seek who can offer u a shared accommodation especially close to that place.

2. Move close to other people in the same income bracket in and outside your company.

3. Find a church or mosque close by, offer to clean chruch for free and be a member.

4. Date a transporter who will be happy to drive you back and forth.

5. The company you work for most likely have night guards, close mark them. They will show you the way.

These are just hints.

God bless your hustle

Going through social media once in a while, Its hard not to notice the array of women demanding attention in one shape, form or fashion.

If you then reader takes a minute to check your IG, tiki tok now, its filled with women doing a challenge, wearing something that attracts attention or just on social media. The few men I see are often skit makers or celebrities.

I fear this trend may begin to alter the confidence of daughters and those yet unborn.

Or how important is attention to women?
How did women live before the advent of social media and the internet?

I hear some ladies get depressed when thier pictures get few likes and views compared to others.

I could be wrong.

Elders over to you

Wedding planners, MCs , Make up artist, caterers, event centers, etc have done a good job in convincing the woman she has not married if they are not in any way involved.

If you have to borrow to marry, you should not be marrying in the first place.

In this day and age where divorce are on the rise, save your money for more important things. Infact instead of spending money on weddings. Save for
1. Honeymoon.
2. Buying assets.
3. Save for DNA test, to avoid stories that touch.
4. Save for children education etc.

While this may be a small amount, all hope is not lost.

If you live in a rural area in Ekiti. Seek out owners of virgin lands. They will be happy to have you occupy it while they are not using it. They could lease 1 acre to you for 5k or less, lease like 4 acres. Then prepare the land for Vegetable planting, in 3/4months harvest it and sell.

God bless your Hustle

Dont rush into any business.

He should Start with accessing his life.

1. What does he have now i.e land, property, skills
And seek to use that to his advantage

For example if he has rural land, he could plant vegetable and harvest every 3/4 months. If in a sub urban area he could rent out his land as an event centre.
If he has skills, he could be a consultant.

He should not.enagge in businesses he has no idea about and requires some form of energy.

2. He should invest in his health, priority at 65 should be to enjoy life and stay in good health.

3. Get his will sorted, not because of fear of death. But because it's the right thing to do.

4. Present Insterest Rate in Banks are too low, and inflation will often catch up with your funds there. So leaving it in the bank is the last option.

In summary, Guys. God willing most of us will be 65 some day. What are you doing now to make life easy for yourself then?

Old age is a scary time for many men. It's a time some of your loved ones can easily discard you, your friends begin to die. Even your kids might 1st listen to thier mum before you. Women enjoy sympathy from children, church, society than Men do.

May God teach us to number our days so we can apply out hearts to wisdom.

Couples should have these discussions more often.

Ultimately, Regardless of if you are working or business man. Invest in real estate, stocks for times like these. E get why.

Sometimes I think hypothetically to when Adam was created. He seemed to be cool, playing with the animals, tilling the ground and flexing.

When eve came, he was glad to see her, someone to enjoy with bla bla bla...

Then satan used her , they all fell.

Had kids, cain killed abel... bla bla bla.


I am sure Adam must have relished the time he was alone by himself,


Thats by the way, women do you feel this way sometimes too,

fineboynl:
I live alone and introvert for that matter. People around think I need someone but the truth is I don't because I'm used to such live for years. Here is the problem sometimes I feel lovely and need a girl to come by and stay. But once a girl comes and stay with me for just few days she will begin to irritate me and I would be wishing she goes. Although I will not act or feel like I want her to go but I just want her to go on her own. And after they goes I get relieved and feel like throwing a party. The house will begin to sweet me once again.

But after some time I will miss her again.

I really don't know how guys manage to live with a woman. I think it has to do with territorial. I'm a territorial and spiritual person most guy are not and they believe they woman have the house or something like that.

Is there anyone else like me?

I can relate bro. I am in 30s and have lived this way most of my life. I have dated in the past and often feel depleted when they stay around for a while.

I dont hate women, Its just that being with a woman is alot of work for me ( attention, care ) , however if I can get a lady to understand me for me. I will be happy.

I have found so much peace away from women , that Its hard for me to think I risk losing it by allowing another human in my space.

Please can anyone break down how much goes to the club, agent , and lastly the player.

I ask because , i want to know abeg.

Basirat6279:
Hello house.
Please I will like your sincere advice on this. I have a bachelor's degree in computer science and I will like to study master in cyber security in Macquarie University. My agent pfl is confirming that I won't need a bank statement for the visa process and the visa is guaranteed because Macquarie is AL1 University but I will need to pay tuition deposit and health insurance of almost 6 million.
I will like to confirm if I won't be needing bank statement.
Thank you.

I understand AL1 universities dont require bank statement, however to help ones case it's best to include it. Let's not forget , it's a human being the Visa officer that approves based on the documents he has. Australia has had to support many international students since covid hit and they will like students to prove they have more than enough to support themselves here.

Pfl is also a reputable institution, so they know what they saying as well.

Good luck.

Darlingme:
Marriage counseling, classes and exams for 6 months, honestly, we can't wait.

Please, what are the procedures for court wedding?

Traditional marriage and then court marriage without white wedding, does it prove one is completely married?

ignoring white wedding, when does one gets to wear wedding gown for nice pictures and all that. (I've always fantasized that)

We're getting married soon, but due to some reasons, thinking of skipping white wedding, but I don't know how it will look.
Please, suggestions

Happy Married Life in Future.

I still don't understand why Weddings mean so much to women ?

Anyways, A valid marriage to me is one with the consent ( Bride price ) from the parents and registry to make the union formal by law. Every other thing is extra. A wedding can take place in a sitting room with blessing from your pastor and parents.

Let's not forget, a white wedding is to the White Man what our traditional wedding is to us. How do you think our people got married before the white man invaded Africa?

If you love the picture thingy so much, Have a series of pre-wedding pictures for memories sake.

Meanwhile, With the increase in Marriages and divorces. I hope you are more focused on the marriage and not the wedding.

All the Best.

SirWhiteFish:
At a point, I had a lady I was with with the intention of starting a family. And normally if you dating and intend to be serious with it, there are certain questions you'll want to ask.

The lady's mum is a full time house wife and has a shop which was just outside their house. So I get to see the mum more often. And way more often than the Dad who is only at home 1 week in a month or sometimes, 3 days in a month.

I kept asking her for a long time what job her dad does for a living. But She somehow finds a way to wriggle out of answering that question.
Until one day she told me she didn't like what her Dad does for a living. (I actually later find out what the Dad did for a living and to me it wasn't that bad).

To top it off, I knew she didn't like the Dad and didn't much respect him. As much as I liked her, I just couldn't continue. Also she later told me too that she did not like what I did for a living.

sometimes when I think about it I feel I could have handled it better. Was there even anything to handle?


Has your girlfriend or Fiancéé ever told you she didn't like what her dad does for a living or tried to hide what her parents does for a living?

Hmnnn.

Thread with caution.

The relationship of a lady with her Father means a lot, That is almost how she would treat you in the future. Maybe this is a sign from God.

Though you did not mention the profession of the Father. even if the Father is an Okada Man. I don't think she is matured enough to understand the burden of Fatherhood, husband. A man has to do what he has to do. She does not like what her Dad does for a living, however, he may have been responsible for raising her to this point where you met her.

Girls like these make Fatherhood a thankless Job, ungrateful for the sacrifices of her father. May we not have ungrateful children.

Maybe its best for both of you to let her go with someone she likes their profession?

But last last Pray about it. Na God sure pass.

Millimann:
If he presented himself as a poor father, would Harrysong have helped him?

Interesting Perspective.

This is why I am sometimes reluctant to help women, nothing against them. It's just that society and others are often quick to help a woman in need than a man in need.

Barristter07:
If you can drop your number, You deserve some airtime . Nevertheless, the bold is so damn on point.

Awhh Thank you Barrister07.

You seem like a kind-hearted man, May your days be long.

Don't bother, but keep spreading and sharing the love. I am a Nigerian in the Diaspora, Nairaland is like Family to me.

This is Sad.

RIP to the Mother and Child.

Sometimes ehn, the way marriages hit the rock in this generation, Should we really we overly excited and celebrating when getting married? Because regardless of how well you think you know and hope things will be.

Seeing her pix of the bridal shower, she would not have thought that she was entering into a union that would lead to her exit.

Maybe we should spend more time observing than celebrating.

In general,

Life is getting harder for Men and relationships getting tougher on women. I don't see an end in sight soon till the end of time.

Also, women have evolved. The woman today is different from the woman generations ago, and Men have not evolved as much.

Just pray, listen to your intuition.