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MeghaneMorgane:
Hi,
Please I recently created this account to avoid people knowing me as I am an active member.

Now I met a handsome young man through a professional group chat. One time I posted a message on the group, he went to check my dp and sent me a message afterwards. He is in his 30s and I'm in my 20s He asked me if I was married, I said no. I asked the same question he said no, and then he started to show so much interest in me. He went straight to the point about wanting something serious and wanting to know me better. We chatted for some days exchanged pictures and then I proposed we meet in person. Like joke, in less than a week of chatting the guy is coming to my city to see me.

I'm now beginning to realise that maybe this guy is not joking. Because of how serious he is, I am beginning to like him. I didn't read any meaning to our conversations when it initially started but now, it is like I'm falling head over heels for him. I'm trying to restrain not to show him that I like him too much so that he will not come and take me for granted. I am not being difficult but I'm just being cautious. But the problem now is that it is getting harder and harder to restrain myself by the day. Please I need advise on how not to show this guy that I like him too much.

PS: Please nobody should insult me. Just advice me. Thanks.

Don't expect much at least for now so that when he begins to show you color you will be able to handle the emotional breakdown.


Just go out and have your full fun with him.
But don't expect much in return.
My opinion

erico2k2:
your father is still Unstable

High grade lunatic.

Fucking CASH MULE

erico2k2:
your Father is Unstable

You see why I said you are unstable?
is only a lunatic that behaves the way you just did.
When I said you don't have anything upstairs to back up your claim of being a Social engineer "turned" a fluid Mechanic you were disputing my claim.
How many learned individual behaves the way you do and did?

It is easier to profile people like you and place you where you belong.

Fucking CASH MULE

erico2k2:
it was cement I dnt think I started the argument with u.

Was the topic centered on Cement?
it was all about refineries building, PMS importation and how some of you think those billionaires are not far sighted before you cited cement as example and suggested price fixing.

The problem with you most times is that you are not stable,you flip flop each time people came up with divergent view and you can never get better in terms of reasoning and logic

erico2k2:
you missed the point was talking cement

You only cited cement as a reference,the base of argument was solely on commodity trading

erico2k2:
check the way the said policy impacted us on cement. It only works if govt control prices

In capitalism govt can't control Price's,it will amount to high handedness the only way is to license more players which i believe there are licences hold before Buhari came, unfortunately most of those licences were not put to use because they were getting subsidies from PMS importation.

More players will bring about competition and price stability, besides those refineries are not targeting local consumption,they are in for the bigger pie,they will capture Africa market and give South American refineries a good fight

erico2k2:
to your question answer is very simple. They will influence govt to ban all importation of petroleum product like in the case if cement etc and they will be the sole trader

Why should we keep importing if those refineries can fulfill our local consumption?
it is the appropriate thing to do.

BastardWike:
All these quota system billionaires lacks creativity and foresight. You didn't build refineries in the 1970's, 80's, 90's or even early 2000's but now that fuel cars are being phased out and renewable energy is gaining massive boost globally, that is when the craze for refinery got into their head!

You're talking about AFcta but you forgot that heavily subsidized refineries built all over the middle East, Asia and developed world will equally channel their excess capacity to Africa. How can they compete?

Why can't they spend these monies in building power plants considering that Nigeria has a massive deficit in it?

Quarter system billionaires indeed!

Na so you mumu reach? fuel is been phased out?
Besides,na only petrol and diesel dem dey get through refininig?
How about aviation fuel? How about petroleum jelly? Lubricant's of all sorts of grade, Fertilizer components? insecticide by products?

Who even told you Petrol cars will be phase out finally? if so why do United States keep drilling for Shale?

Dey there make pant dey wear you

chumaZ:
Nairalanders I need your advise, please pardon my grammar and my typographical errors as I am under pressure, I will try and make this story short in order not to bore you guys

I finished school 2016 and went for NYSC on Abuja 2017. Unfortunately for me, I ran into my best friend supposed fiancée since I know her too well, we bonded till one day she asked to know where I stay in Abuja, but because I was staying with my aunty, I couldn't take her to my place....

One Friday morning I got a call from my bestie that his girl is down, that I should take her to hospital, I left whatever I was doing and rushed down to Apo resettlement. When I got there her fiancée was in good condition to my greatest surprise, she begged me not to let my friend know, that she needed attention and all that. She didn't know it will got to this extent, and I agreed with her and bid her a goodbye but she wouldn't let me go until I kiss her.... I swear I had no option if that would make her free me because she was creating a lot of drama already. I kept cool and avoided this girl till I left abuja after NYSC and never mentioned anything that happened between her and I to my friend.

Fast forward to October 2020, my friend called me that her fiancée has an event to attend in Yaba Lagos for a week and want me to accommodate her since I stay in two bedroom apparent alone, I refused and suggested it was better he get a hotel room for her, my friend said the girl have not been to Lagos that it would be better she stays with someone who's familiar with Lagos. I contacted a female friend I know to see if she can stay with her, but my friend's fiancée' complained the place will be far from where the event would be taking place, my best friend was now seeing me as wicked person and I don't wanna help his girl. I had no option than to allow her to come stay with me, I made sure I invited my sister to stay with me for the one week, to avoid temptation. But my sister couldn't stay for a week because of some personal issues, that's how I was left with my best friend fiancée, I don't wanna talk about what I pass through staying with her alone but I ended up having sex with her which I regretted bitterly, when she left Lagos back to anambra I pleaded with her not to chat me nor call me, but she wouldn't listen. She's always chatty and sending me nude which I finally blocked her.

A week ago, my bestie called me that he was in Lagos and would want us to meet, I was reluctant, because I can't stand him after what happened between me and his fiancée, when I got to the bar (venue) the face I saw around his table were kinda strange aside one of our old friend who was with them. Uncle no even allow me finish greeting before I know it a broken bottle have landed on my hand, his target was my face but thank God I defended on time, that's how my blood spilled everywhere and his friends tried to calm him down while other ones was giving me general beating like a common criminal. Thank God police arrived on time, I might have been a dead man today over a girl I never wanted to help.

Please I need help on how to go about this and clear myself from whatever this girl told my bestie, from the little I heard, she claimed I raped her during her stayed with me. Although I have got a lawyer now who is handling this issue but I still wanna clear myself before my friends, none of them believes me maybe because of my lifestyle back in school. Even my family are aware of this ugly issue and are calling me bumper to bumper, because me and my bestie are from the same village and we are like family friends. I don't know how to clear my name. Please help me. I am depressed already, I can't believe my OG tried killing me.

If you had archived those chats and nudes she sent you,that could have safe your head.
But ayam sorry it is too late

Burna na amugbo now, You expect someone on drugs to be reasonable?

emmanuel596:
Our country is becoming lawless day by day

What is a musician doing with a convoy of more than 2-3 cars and funny enough theres gonna be armed police men attached to him who will attack any citizen at the order of his musician pay master....Nigeria is shit

The people made the country shit.
These stupid and senseless yeyebrities will be tweeting and gearing people on for another protest,they will blame government for all sorts when they themselves are worse.

erico2k2:
I think at this point you just realise U have been a DIck all these while Mr Social Engineering

Don't give up your day job (CASH MULE)

erico2k2:
U are daft there is no profession called social Engineering

Keep wallowing in ignorance when you can actually clear your doubt.
Wèrè

erico2k2:
its cos U are way to slow � that's Y u manufactured a profession that does not exist.what is Social Engineering

Just gave you an hint of those who engage in such profession
Google will educate you better that is if you are willing to

erico2k2:
omg.u are slow.Lol O told you I profiled you fru social engineering which is just gathering ur info you posted on line in this case nairaland. There is no job description as social Engineer rather its a technique used to harvest and mine info from media.

You replied with that ,major reason I was on your case.
main reason I had to educate you that Social engineer are Sociologist Anthropologist and Criminologist.
it is always advisable you read well before you reply.
Your reply was what I carved out for you,so do not blame anyone for your mistake.
Mr wanna be

erico2k2:
plz show me where I said I was a social Engineer. waiting

i asked for your branch of engineering you gave this as a follow up answer and several follow up comments after,only to turn around and say you are now a fluid Mechanic.
isn't the above Your response to the question asked?

erico2k2:
wen one keep reminding people they are the king.they ain't no king you think I'm jobless like ur lineage dumbness entitlement
mayB you eat How does me being a fluid mechanic connects me to all thos crap talk up there?
is ur brain wet or U dot knw what a Fluid Mechanic is?or never heard of one

So you are no longer a social engineer?
You have now delved into Physics abi?

i Don talk am wèrè gidi ni ẹ,better thing dey hungry,you don't even have half of the brain to Study Pure and Applied Physics and you are claiming Fluid mechanics which is of Advance physics.

You keep flip-flopping like a stingray, wèrè gidi ni ẹ.
what an unstable mind

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Take him off the internet and he becomes a paper tiger

erico2k2:
what is that craap at the bolded Oh you think Im a fraudster like you hence you thought you was my OGA eyahhh, sorry to disappoint you OGA, I know you are from the west and part of the minute group trying so hard to embarrass the name Nigeria

Proof it to me that you are not.
that is all I asked,i just listed those who do such job for you I even asked where did you obtain your certificate and of what interest is your reserach work,i asked which Institutions or multinational you worked for NONE of this was answered,you think you can confuse people like us with words?
i dey always get time for people like you,we know people like you like the back of our hands.

it doesn't cost you anything to give me a concrete proof

i repeat you are a fucking CASH MULE

erico2k2:
This guy ur mumuuu is raise to power 10 I swear it has a CV.I meant social Engineering as harvesting information from your imputes on Nairaland vis your profile posts and topics Wow, is this so hard for you to comprehend, just 1mb can frows my profile and you would have known that Im a fluid Mechanic. Researcher my foot,U are so out of touch. Being in Nigeria is not an excuse for being so uninformed!

It is criminals who does what you do most of the time,other who do such are either Sociologist or Anthropologist,the rest are criminologist which you knows nothing about those 3 professions.


Some of us are higher than you in rank,we are muchore learned than you.we have well rounded training to spot people like you,still wondering why I keep engaging you? i keep getting more clarity about who you are

You first 3 comment gave you put who you are,i do not need to check your moniker to ascertain that you are a CASH MULE.

i have profileine you and I know who you are,YOU ARE DEALING WITH YOUR OGA.

FUCKING CASH MULE

erico2k2:
DUMB post , grieve ur ignorance and pls foxtrot Oscar!
If you want enlightenment you got to now pay for it as you are wasting MB on fruitless argument to which you fail or unwilling to learn,
so in ur basket case head sending money fru high street BDC is fru backdoor, ever heard of www. Smallworld,com? Almost all the cargo agentsin East London operate and are licenced as BDC,Why do you think NO ONE IN THE UK HS THIS PROBLEM its only guys from Europe and America cos they have fewer or no BDC registered apart from the Online platforms and APP.
talking about withdrawing £20k what has that got to do with anything, who goes to the bank to withdraw money when you can do online transfer of use the POS at the Agent to pay? withdrawing money was last done by me 18 years ago.Oga once again we have thousands of registered money transfer company in the UK that operate legitimately cos you will have to register with them give passport and proof of ID and Address then they will create an account for you and this is done in person after that, you need not be physically there,you just transfer the money to them with a reference number and you get naira in ur account in no time, I understand the urge for guys like you to hold and feel Dollars for us in the Uk Dollars is lame we got a higher currency.
You are talking about if I k now you, ofcos its easy to build a picture of whom you are by me going fru your post very easy my friend, ever heard of Social Engineering? if you go fru my post you will build a picture very quick of whom I am in less than 10 mins like I did urs.
£20k chie Oga I u understand ur Level!

That's a branch of sociology,
How much do you earn as a researcher,which Institutions do you carry out your research in in UK?Tell us the professional bodies you belong to with verifiable membership Number?


Better thing dey hungry you,you think say na mumu u dey follow talk?

we know you guy's CASH MULE.

i asked you where you carry out your research as A Sociologist or Anthropologist?how much are you paid?
a full professor with over 16yrs experience will not even earn what you are claiming, except they consults for Multi Nationals or United Nations affiliated organisations.


i put it to you that you are nothing but a rogue

erico2k2:
peope like you are the ones we call KPAS in warri proper KPAS,I for once thought you lived in the Uk the way you was talking, instead of you to l isten and learn you are here arguing with your ancestors for all I care, I BDC Agent on a south London high street with Big signs of today's rate and signboard stating money transfer is not licenced, guy, pls who do you this thing
you are asking how someone like me has £5 to 10k, you are a learner, you think everyone is like your Uncle who is a security officer I n Bolton?
I have gone fru your profile and seen once upon a time you visited Bolton and south Africa some years ago, you must feel like a KING in your hood,Stop this your ITK and listen to people when they speak so you can make an informed argument.My little niece who just graduated from the Univercity of texas elect elect got a job starting payment $67k and you are here chatting shyte .YOu think everyone is like you lot who are 419s,Im a qualified Engineer with over 16 years experience in the Uk so that your crooked mentality don't wash here take a good look at my profiles and post.or are you not the one asking for bank balance to get Uk and South African VISAS again, guy look respect your Old age cos you are embarrassing ur lineage!

The Conversation is getting interesting,i never asked you how much your Cousins who just graduated in Texas earns,i am asking you how much you earn per hour and how many hours shift work you put in as an engineer.

Tell me what and which branch of engineering you specialized in and I will tell you your top earnings for the whole year.

You claimed to have resided and worked in uk for 16yrs and still here routing money through BLACK MARKET OPERATOR, how much is your savings that you are sending $20k through back door if not for fraud.

I can tell you for free that you will not get £15k which is the equivalent of your $20k out of your local barclays branch on a first visit and here you are talking about moving $20k at once.

it is not enough to come here and start throwing insults at people, intimidations won't work either,it is typical of an average Nigerian to throw that over used line, "DO YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE TALKING TO" ọga i don't know you so i needs you to tell me who you are.

Those who are security in Bolton and other places earn a fair living, Doctors, lawyers and midwives are bound doing great,none of them will come here and be asking for how to move such a cash without going through the proper channels.


I also see that english is your problem,i said most of those BDC not all, besides,the fact they have licences to transact in UK does not mean it covers their Nigerian operations.


Learn how to read and assimilate before replying.
i await your response

erico2k2:
which yeye KBL, just cos U heard of KBL frm your house in Nigeria don't mean I have to know it, besides I live in London Bolton is at the Edge in manchester why should I know it? 1st bank UK is different frm 1st bank Nigeria diff entity diff board of directors check their website to be well informed
Dom account is not needed in the Uk cos ordinary ATM can give you Dollars at word mkt rate ie today's rate
ALl that long talk over Dom account is waste of time and does not serve any purpose for me,maybe people from Europe but for us In the UK, we have the high street transfer agents from the tip of our phone and its convenient plus you get BDC rate.This was what I meant when I said 10 years Ol system.
As Im speaking my sending limit is £1k on my mobile App so I can do another £1k to self 2morrow morning not that KBL shyte u talking about
I can see you are trying very hard to make me think you got something meaningful to say but nahhh its Bulsshit still.

You talked as if where you lived in London in far far heaven that can't be accessed,you talk as if people like us don't have access to those places and things,you talk as if we have not lived and still living in the system,it may interest you that most of those agents don't even have licences to transact,they route these monies through kBL and other licenced Bureau de change,they have special discount because they are sub agent.


You do not have to go to Bolton to transact okay,sit at home and get things done over the phone,you think you are speaking to non entity?

Your driver license is processed by DVLA situated in Wales,yet it gets to you in London, Several agencies of government that are outside the capital (london) still function.

You are talking to someone who had lived in the system and still live in that system.

What sort of job do you do that gave you access to such a humongous cash?
i have said it here,some of you are crooks who want everything done under the table.

IF YOU DON'T WANT ALL THE LEGAL WAY OF TRANSACTION,GO HOME WITH YOU CASH,NO ONE WILL STOP YOU AT THE BORDER ONCE YOU DECLARE IT AND YOU HAVE YOUR BANK DETAILS AS BACK UP.
BUT I YOU DARE NOT because you know you won't be able to account for what you are carrying.

i understand you.

erico2k2:
U talking bank in Nigeria Im talking1st bank in the UK.?
what is KBL? I do not leave my seat when I transfer money, I use my Barclays mobile app to transfer to the Agent and then I get an Alert on my 9ja account if Im in the Uk I get an Email instantly 5 mins max. this ur KBL whats their rate nah, cant you say it here since you are in the know
U are talking Domicalrry account in the UK you make me laugh unless that's not what you meant Y would anyone want a domiciliary account in the UK? when you everyday bank can just give you the equivalent in real market value?

You think i don't know what a dorm account is abi?
I only suggested you walk up to FBN UK to open a dorm account that will domiciled in Naija,they will initiate the process for you in UK but the account will domiciled in Lagos provided you can proof you are a Nigerian.


There you are,you think you know it all,now i mentioned KBL you said you have never heard it before.
They have been in money exchange business between Nigeria and UK for more than 15yrs.
just go online and google KBL monex
You can pick all the information needed online.
All the best

erico2k2:
Why don't you just listen and learn to the diasporan for once
all those you said up there are systems used 10 years ago
You saying short cut, what short cut?
Carry cash into 9ja are you serious? do we look l like Ghana Burgers?
going the 1st bank UK is so old cos 12 years ago, I walked into their Uk branch I was told I needed £5k to open an account there, wen main street bank in the Uk takes £1 to open.
BDC rate today is N650 and CBN is N518 if you were in my shoes who would you go for?
I would like to state we in the Uk do not have any issues wiring money via 3rd party to our Nigerian bank account. the BDC in Nigeria have loads of Agents in the Uk licenced and you pay to them pay a transfer fee and the BDC in Nigeria credit your account within 5 mins in local currency and current market rate, I judge mine from abokifx
Nigeria the way it is you are advising someone's son to carry live ££££ to aboki,chi, U nor get heart ohhhh

Which 10yrs ago was the system used?
the same account i opend about a year ago,all they requested from me was just my recent ID because the passport i used for the first account has expired which i have them my driver license and by second day i had my account number sent to my phone number.


If you still want a good rate,use KBL that domiciled in Bolton,as at the last check there are still sending money to Naija with good rate,yes,very good rate.


I know you will tell me that it is too risky to carry such a huge cash,that was why I added that caveat that if you get liver.


You can't have things done in your own way all the time,before World remit Skrill and the rest people have been sending money through the African shops scattered all over, don't come here and tell me what i know as if you are the only who resides in this place

VanBommel:
you're the ignorant one here, I'm asking how you can withdraw cash sent through world remit from the bank without having a dorm account.

Go to world remit FAQ your question have been answered, unfortunately you are too lazy to read or find it difficult to comprehend

erico2k2:
The problem with you lot is you talk from both side of your mouth with nothing upstairs, The issue here is the bank do not have enough forex to cope if 100% remittance is done the way the CBN wants it.I have what we call a Diasporan bank account with first bank those in the know would know what it is. Why would I need cash out local currency in Nigeria was this not the problem?CBN rate V BDC rate,I sent myself £1040 today (£30 being sending fees for £1k) to my 9ja account got alert of N650k, however, CBN rate is N518k and U are here talking shyyttttteee pls stop being annoying if you don't understand what people are saying just observe and learn

I have said it here,the problem with you guy's is that you want everything under the table.


You took that money out of a bank in your country of residence,that same bank can wire you that money and you will get same in local currency,then you said you don't want local currency which is fine and you are not also cool with the rate, no issue as well, the same First bank that gave you a diasporan account will gladly open you a domiciliary account in seconds,data from existing account will be use,you can even walk into their london FBN UK office and open a proper domiciliary account and have it regularise when you visit Nigeria.


If all those failed you or you are not cool with the rates as you said.
The same money can be brought home in cash if you get liver,all you need to do is to declare at the exit point and show the proof that the cash was earn legitimately you will have a seamless passage,but the problem with most of you is that you always think you know it all,you always think everyone on Nairaland is a non entity.

VanBommel:
how would you receive dollars if you don't have a dorm account?? Nawa for some of you sef

You need to understand what is meant by remittance companies,once you understand that come back to apologise for been ignorant yet abusive

erico2k2:
See you,,You cant even be bothered to read what I sent you of which the policy was stated right under your nose and you are here typing craaaap or you don't have data to access the link bah U want me to spend 2 minutes of my holiday to sort your request out, guy U are a learner i PASS! Pls enjoy your next level Change me I dey Enjoy my holiday wit catfish and cold fearless!

it will take you less time and less explanation of you can tell me what the policy is all about,just summarize in 3 lines instead of writing Epistles telling me about how you are enjoying your imaginary Holiday.
Cat fish, freshly tapped palwiine and all sorts of local and international food or drink are not luxury,there is nothing spectacular about you enjoying whatever,what i requested is just to explain the policy in 3 lines,only for you to bring out the Nigerian in you by been loud and braggard

erico2k2:
Im on holiday in Nigeria and this Email was sent roughly 5 to 7 months ago so can't dig that far back.however, if you go to this website and go to the frequently asked question bit it states there the reasons
https://azimo.com/en/send-money-to-nigeria

The fact you are on holiday does not mean you can't access your mail,it doesn't even mean you can't recollect what you read 5-7onths ago.
But you can quickly run down a policy you can't recollect what you read something about abi?
Talk another thing abeg

erico2k2:
Oga relax read between the line cashout what,Im part of the people who send not receive pls get it right, you can cash out $500 or less try go cash out $20k,this where it impact, Im not talking of the odd $100 to $500s here

If you transact such a volume either at once or regularly,there is nothing stopping you from having a standard domiciliary account,i mean absolutely nothing.
Even if you don't have a dorm account,you can still do it through the banking system and get your account credited with Naira in less than 72hrs.
But the issue with you guy's is you want everything done under the table

erico2k2:
There is a new policy bro, everyone who uses online money transfer got an Email from such provider.

Got email that?
i want you to tell me the content of that email