Legal action? Did you play her bride price at anytime? Where you recognise as her husband at any time? You think you can impregnant a woman and take her baby just like that? Did I hear you say ur baby?

You only donated a sperm for procreation.. The baby is not yours.. You can lay claim to what is not yours. You never married her, so my candid advice is that you heed to your uncle's advice. You already had a wife and 3kids. Stay focus on your family. You beginning to destory your family unknowingly to you, if you continue this way, its only a time before the full destruction manifests.

As fela sang it "Trouble sleep, yanga go wake am, wetin you dey find........." Stay away from another man's family else you may regret trying to claim a child you just donated your sperm freely to bare..

Just thimking aloud.. How can the deity choose you to be king over your father.. I think the deity is a joke.. I've never heard or seen such happen..

Mr hoiler than thou.... Did parents not speak words of blessings upon the couples? So, God no longer answer prayer of the father who is the saidman of the family abi? Ndi over religious

Righteousness89:
Not completely correct!

A Marriage needs to be Blessed! Someone who stands as a Representative of GOD needs to Bless the Marriage. E.g Pastor, priest, etc

GOD ALMIGHTY in the Beginning Blessed Adam and Eve..

Gen 1:28..

The Blessings spoken to a couple is important!

All the other things are not really important!

Smile... All right.. Just two question for you. Why do you believe you can't love again and what tribe are you?

obembet:


Am not that old

25yrs

obembet:
Guess my age first

Fashola and Toll gates are 5 & 6.. Planning to reintroduce tollgate to expliot commuters.. May God help us

Negative energy.. Sorry oooooo

youthsinitiativ:


What gibberish is this one spewing here.

Who asked you, or am I in competition you in any way?

Get the eff off my mentions dummy.

Will a shirt go for 3500?

chukycollections:
A shirt is currently 5k naira, but your can get 5 shirts for 20k naira instead of 25k naira.

The anti-venom is common and in every household.. Nothing special there.

daddytime:
Deadly shiit

But my family get the anti-venom and treatment. Sadly, religion and age prevented me from asking to be shown the herbs those days in the village.

Professor dowry is not paid but brought by women

Amotolongbo:
Dowry is being paid by women, not men.

Bride Prize is being paid by men.

@Dear OP, sorry for the loss.
It depends on the tribe and cultural values and norms.

In some parts of Igbo land, the man has to settle all the bride prize and probably have a wedding with the corpse before they can allow the corpse being buried.

In major part of yoruba land where I come from, no much serious implication.

The major and utmost thing is that, try to know the in-depth of the cultural norms and values of the land which you are marrying from. Clear all the bills, settle everyone you are meant to settle before taking the bride or groom.
Every culture is meant to be observed and respected. If you find their culture so “barbaric”, don’t marry from there, it isn’t mandatory

Ndi righteouness. Call a spade a spade... The miracle he is hoping for is one in a million..You don't dare God and call it faith. Not that he is ignorant of his decision but he is foolishly walking into a regrettable life... If he loves her that much, let her protect her by enlighting her that it is safe for both of them...

Righteousness89:


Medically it's not Advisable... as it could Result in some unpleasant situations..

But if your Faith Carries you , your Faith could also Heal you guys... Especially if she is your Divine ordained wife..


I wish you guys Good!

I couldn't have put it better than this.. Yes, You nailed it.. That your husband refused your food or sex advances is a sign that he is vexed or something is wrong.. As a good women, you should be able to handle it right immediately whether you are right or wrong..

Most girls keep shouting Love! Love!! Yet they are far from understanding what is true love.. The fact remains that many people in this part of the world marry for two reason..To aviod immorality or To bare Children..And not for love..

Why won't you be move when such happens? Even if it keeps repeating over time.... Later this people will keep shouting their feminism stuff.. I just keep laughing off Nigerian version of feminism..

Lastly, No matter what a lady does, domestic violence is never an answer..

Lordswazz:
When they tell today's youths to find a woman that adores and respects them in totality and then marry her, they'll say their "attraction cord" doesn't work that way. Them dey find the one wey go always dey keep them on the edge simply because "she's so photogenic and sexy."

Any lady that respects and submits to you the way a wife should, your ignoring her bed and meal will make her seek for reconciliation even 10 years after marriage. The love you have for her on your part will also melt your heart the moment this happens. But the "woke" people wey wan do pass wetin bible dey talk and dey find "co-partner," "50-50" go dey chase the wrong things, and naim dey put them for trouble. No wonder these days, men in young marriages, who are barely in their mid-late thirties, dey treat high-blood pressure already.

Good luck having a peaceful and happy marriage with your "21st Century" formula.

You are such a zealous person without full understanding.. the new commandments remain an abstract of the old commandment that God gave Moses. Jesus Christ made it glaring in Matt 23v 35-40, Mark 12b 28 -34, Luke 10-27, John 13v34. If you don't agree with this, sorry I can't help you no more... Takia

Kobojunkie:
His new commandments aren't really an abstract of the old. Going from 613 statues to just 49 commandments, that requires more than just a simple abstraction of the old.
We all know he did not abolish it. However, we are not supposed to live by it any longer, particularly those of us who intend to enter Heaven by the price paid by Jesus. We cannot have one foot in the old and the other foot in the new. It is an ALL OR NOTHING deal as far as God is concerned. You are either in the New covenant or you are in the old Covenant .... You cannot serve the old and the new at the same time.

.. Jesus never abolish the old covenant but fulfil it.. Exactly my point.. Jesus Christ gave us a lighter and easy way. So nobody should come saying that the old testament is no longer valid.

He also gave us a new commandment which was an abstract of the old testament. He made us to see that the commandments are built on love.. Love for God and Love for Humans(neighbour).

My point remains that Jesus Christ said that He has not come to ABOLISH.... so,one should stop saying that things is the old testament are no longer valid. For some of them are very much practical till date.. I choose to end this topic here...

Kobojunkie:


Jesus said he did not abolish the old covenant, but he also did fulfill the old testament. What does that mean? He created for us an alternative path to the Father through Himself, and what does that mean for us? If means rather than bear the heavy yoke and a heavy burden that is the Old Covenant,

Jesus offered us a light yoke and an easier burden that is His person, the new Covenant. That new covenant comes with its own commandments and its own burdens, blessings, curses and even a seal. The new Covenant has about 49 commandments i.e the yoke, which are detailed in the gospels, and the burden is our cross.
Now are the new testament commandments same as the old testament commandments? NO. Jesus was also clear that those who love Him will obey His commandments(His new Covenant). So, what does Jesus expect you and I to do? He expects us to obey His commandments in order to reap the benefits of the new Covenant that is Jesus Christ.

Do you profit from trying to obey some of the old commandments even as you obey the new commandments? NO, why? Because Jesus said instructed that you not put new wine into old wineskin and He also went into detail about what happens when you do such. There is no profit to living according to the commands of the old when you can busy yourself with mastering obedience of the new covenant.

Irrelevant stories and snake posts will make it on time than intelligent post.. Its just as such a wonderful program being dropped for bba. Sometimes I wonder what type of admins run this platform.

fidelmarshal199:

He was really enigmatic on the show. His confidence was out of this world. He is a rare gem. I was at the verge of crying when watching the show, I was just wondering how a man can be so blessed intellectually. I really do miss this show, I wish it can be brought back.

How come this post that was created last year is just making front page now? It would hit front page the same day it was created If it was a snake thread.

What I learn from this thread is




Destiny can only be delayed

Onye ndi end time ranter.. Oya make una continue ooo

I'v seen not one or two guys who got married while they were in the parents houses even live there for many lives before they moved out but today, there millionaires. So since when as it become a crime for struggling guys to get married?

This platform is full of people with hypocritical nature.. Olorun ma je..

Oluromantic:

I'm offering same advice. He shd work towards relocating. Once he does that, they're good to go

Please where is the train at? I love to see it

What fact? Oga you have no fact sir...

Oluromantic:

Forget the story. Your long post does not nullify my fact

Oga this isn't a matter of tolerate. Most rel'ship problem comes sexually. If that's what he prioritized, it is better to break up and look for someone who will match his need.

Now he's complaining of what he needs but could not get from his partner. In the future it could turn into a big issue btw them. Then, he starts been unfaithful with different girls and the wife will probably pour him hot oil or kill him over a mere cheat.. It is best to break off and avoid that happening to be now.

I've often say this, that signs come people's way when they are about to marry but most people ignores it. If people give meticulous attention to such signs, half of the divorce cases will never have existed..

Oluromantic:

You shd learn to tolerate others more at this stage. It's necessary than expecting to find a man to tolerate you

With your reasoning and what you've said so far.. You must be a big clown... Make it simple for the guy and do the job.. That's if you even know how to drive.. Gush! Some people reasoning ehn! O ma se oo!!

Oluromantic:

What's funny. At the present rate of fuel N123.5, 8k fuel is enough for a Toyota.

I drive a Peugeot 206. When petrol was N145, 8k fuel fills its tank from empty to full and it goes to akure from Lagos and back

Maybe your car transmission is faulty hence increasing fuel consumption and you're now thinking that's the normal thing

And who said he must sleep it her? Now listen even if he decides to take her in as a wife, it is not an abomination neither did Bible or Quran condemns it.

Does marriage vow excludes a man from taking another wife? Please educate me on that sir....

Acidosis:


It's not an abomination to sleep with another woman while you're married? It's not an abomination to marry another woman after seeing the magistrate to make your vows?

Just make sure you marry a poorly enlightened village woman from your community while your lazy chiefs are passing that judgement.

Don't go and say this nonsense in a society or family with lawyers and magistrates.

You're so on point.. Technology has made it so easy this days that he mustn't sleep with her to impregnate her. The woman has an in-depth love for the family. Doesn't want to leave the family.. And don't want a mix blood in the family.. All this young ones advicing what they have no knowledge about..

Nairaland adviser are so funny...You all should go to your villages and ask the wise elders, this is not an abomination..

clintz:
In the Bible book of genesis 38 God kill Onan for refusing to impregnate his late brothers wife. Nigerian Christians and hypocrisy we select only what we think is right in the Bible.

You such an idiot.. What does IPod has to do with the fact that Nigeria system is not working, that it is actually doomed.. We have a failed government operating with a failed system and subjecting her common citizen into more hardship everyday... A nation where if you have 5000, the government says you are rich...

Infact Ipod kee you dia
Tribalism finish you dia

Instead of you to admit the government has failed us.. You are wailing iPod.. Shame on you

PVision2020:
Ipob miscreants doing what they know how to do best, venting their hate filled heart. Children of hate and perdition.... Wailing since 2015, Una no dey tire?
Spit

Why do you people cover up evil in the name of MIND YOUR BUSINESS. Now if finally the madam goes bankrupt, who is hurt? The madam is hurt the most as well as him who refuses to expose the illicit activities of the evil employees.He will lose his job and back to the street looking for new job..

Madam is hurt
He is hurt
Every other innocent one is hurt
Everyone loses his or her job

This is collateral damage/ hurt..

My advice; devise a way to tell your madam, since you said she is a very nice person. Do not allow her fall, it's more evil.

Fabulouzjoseph:
Life itself is not fair. Suffering and pain is part of human existence.

You are in a dilema any action you take now you will still end up hurting someone.


If you report: you are going to put your co-workers and their family in trouble, they will lose their job and they will also go to jail if not for life.

If you choose not to report you will be harming the md and she might lose her business.

either ways you are going to hurt people.

And as such i will advice you to focus on yourself and mind your business.

October 10th

Why are you so quick into insulting yourself? I asked a simple question that demands YES or NO and you keep acting like an educated slowpoke.. I never said 10 commandment was the only law, I asked since if it's part of the old testament, was it abolished? Yes we are not under the law but now under grace through our Lord Jesus Christ... My notion is to reset your brain that not all commandment in the old testament was abolished, so you don't go about saying things of the old testament are no longer valid...

omonnakoda:
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Are you alright ?what are we saying and what are you saying?
Are the 10 commandments the only laws in the old testament?
There are 611-3 laws in the old Testament. Educate yourself and stop talking foolishly.

The question was did Jesus/Christianity abrogate any of those 611 laws

Yes or No

Stop the rignarole

When I say the law (10 commandment) was it given in the new testament? You failed to answer that... I'm not talking about those law which moses set due to the hardness of the heart of men....

omonnakoda:
Are those the ONLY LAWS?

The question is
Were some laws destroyed

Yes or no?

Can Christians eat pork?
Are women required to make guilt offering?
Are adulterers still stoned?
Do you kill witches?

He HAS DESTROYED THE LAW.

THE ISSUE is which one us kept and who decides

You failed to answer my question.. I asked again was the 10 commandment given in the new testament or in the Old testament?

Youngzedd:


People are experts at justifying themselves be it good or bad provided it's for their own interest.

They will quote Mathew 5 vs 17 for you, but they won't tell you to read from 17 - 20. All for selfish purposes.

You must understand that there's no perfect being, the only perfect being I know is Jesus. Your Pastor just like every other person is prone to make mistakes.

Why did Jesus said He haven't come to abolish the law?

Now, Jesus wasn't preaching to them like others and they were surprised, so they were thinking He has come to abolish their laws and traditions. They thought He brought something new entirely different from the scripture (old testament) which they already knew, then Jesus said to them in the book of Matthew 5:17

"Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them.

Jesus also told them this.

Mathew 5 vs 20
"20 For I tell you that unless your righteousness surpasses that of the Pharisees and the teachers of the law, you will certainly not enter the kingdom of heaven."

It's obvious, Jesus made them understand that obeying the law cannot take them to heaven in verse 20 ☺.

Jesus broke the law in the book of Mark 2:24 and they were all calling for his head. It was because of the laws He broke and his teachings that made them choose a thief over Jesus.

Do not allow anyone impose the laws in old testament on you. Read what Paul said.

Romans 6:14

14 For sin shall no longer be your master, because you are not under the law, but under grace.

Now, see why old testament laws shouldn't be practice by Christians.

Read Galatians 3 vs 15 - 29

Be a true Christian not a Christian who practice Judaism.


* The death and resurrection of Christ is the fulfillment of the law. The old covenant chapter has been closed and new covenant established.

I was making research and I stumbled upon this great page which explained Mathew 5:17-20 bit by bit.

Visit https://bible.org/seriespage/14-not-abolish-fulfill-matthew-517-20 for more understanding on this subject.

Christianity in Africa has been mixed with so many things which shouldn't be
found at all in Christendom. Do not allow anyone teach you their selfish doctrine even though they use old testament (laws) to justify their doctrines.

If it's not the doctrine of Jesus Christ in the new testament, I say to you, RUN and NEVER look back.

Happy Sunday

I meant the old law.. Was the 10 commandment not given in the time of moses? Did Jesus Chris destroy it? There are other laws too... You should have said that the 10 commandment was of old testament and no longer useful

omonnakoda:

What a confused refrain
Did he not destroy the law of Moses?
Yes or no
The law of Moses is even worse than Sharia law and inspired Sharia law

I stand to be corrected Sir. Jesus Christ said "I'v not come to destroy the law of moses" He came to teach us about the greatest commandment...This means that we cannot rule out old testament completely, rather observe them and follow them diligently..

In all the tithing verse, perhaps you have not notice that certain people are often mentioned there "Levites" now who are the levites? Ain't they people dedicated to serve in the place of worship of God? Hence, the Pastors and alter servers...

It may also interest you to know that those verses also stipulated this "A place where God has chosen" now anytime, anyday Church is the place God has chosen to be His dwelling place.


Nevertheless the the book of Matthew 23 vs 23/and Luke 11 vs 42 made a clarification about tithing.. While most people are concern about rushing to the church to pay their tithes, they forgot thing which are weightier.."Justice And the love of God(mercy & faithfulness)" These you ought to have done, without neglecting the others.”

Now understand that when you pay tithe and you could not help that poorest man in your area or that needy or hungry man, you are not doing it right... The point here is that you cannot neglect one for the other...

I am not here to argue but just to impact the little I know unto other.. Let he who has ears, hear the little voice speaking... Stay blessed sir...

MasterJayJay:
THE TRUTH ABOUT TITHE.

Introduction: If your pastors say giving the needy, widows, orphans 10% of your income is not tithe, that you must pay it to him, then you are attending a business centre, not a church.

Malachi is the favourite book most pastors use to preach tithe. And it is very obvious, they use it because it contains a curse for those who don't pay it. Therefore, it is the 'best' verse used to brainwash Christians.

If you want to preach tithing, preach all verses related to it. Most of these men of God know the other verses but the only one they preach to their audience is Malachi. The sheep they are leading are even lazy to read their own bibles to see the truth for themselves. Note that quarter of truth is no truth, truth must be whole. Don’t add, don't remove.

Tithing is an Old Testament concept, just like circumcision and animal sacrifice. Things Christians were meant to abide to have validations from New testament after death and resurrection of Jesus Christ. There is nowhere tithe was clearly instructed in the New Testament after the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ.

The New Testament focuses on giving without compulsion. 2 Corinthians 9:7 captured it very well “Each one must give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver".

If you believe in tithing, then you should see other verses of the bible to know how it was applied thousands of years ago. Tithes were not for gentiles, it was for the Jews. Tithes were for the Levites, descendants of Levi. How many of your Pastors that preach Malachi to you are descendants of Levi?

There is a particular portion of the bible most pastors will never preach to you, and that can be found in Deut 14.22-29. Tithe was instructed to be given to the strangers, orphans, widows etc. How many pastors can boldly tell their members to give their tithes to widows and those in need?

Conclusion, if you want to pay tithe, that's your choice. But don't use outdated and obsolete verses like the one found in Malachi to threaten people. Are some verses outdated? Animal sacrifices were allowed in the Old Testament. After Jesus Christ paid for our sins, it made animal sacrifices to be outdated, and that includes tithes too.



For detailed explanation on tithes see this thread


https://www.nairaland.com/5783004/sentenced-asking-members-tithes-drama