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There are regions where the King has lost their powers not all regions. Remove a king? It is never possible in th benin kingdom not even in states like Anambra... Can the governor remove alafin iku baba yeye?... Where the kings are strictly by heritance, the governor has no such power as to remove them from their thrones..

Why do most girls on this platform talk rudely? Also most of them are claiming feminist yet they do not know the meaning of feminism... Gosh! I never like to engage with rude ones, so I mostly read comments ...

Wait ooooo, lemme get this. . . Engagement is same as Traditional marriage right? When you do the main wine carrying and paying of bride price?

Funny you..Traditional Marriage is the proper Marriage and most important of all... You can engage your partner the introduction.. I just wonder what most people think!

RisenPhoenix:
Because I believe that polygamy is a viable system? Lol, no.

For what it's worth, and since people always feel the need to put a handle on others for the sake of argument, I am a theist. This is because I think that the argument for a creator makes logical sense, but I am not currently affiliated to any organised religion. I was once a christian, but no longer subscribe to it now.

If polygamy is an option for you.Please ensure you have the resources to take care of your family. Even out grandfathers that dive into polygamy were rich.. The poor among them didn't... But wait a sec, logically, One wife, One problem.. Why will you want to shoulder multiple problems? lol

Crazy world where some women accords nudity. Supporters of indecency are likewise indecent.. Birds of a feather will surely head the same direction.

ubunja:
then tell us what happened.

Gather the "us" take seats and relax..

ubunja:
you can type the whole day or you can go out and experiment.

lol. You could not answer a simple question. Besides, I'd tell you I had experience; so why experiment?

ubunja:
you can't conduct the experiment?

Also, I want you to realize that "A woman can never change a man because she loves him? A man changes because He loves the woman" that brings us back to what I said earlier.. For MEN(Go for whom you love) For Women( Go for who loves you)..

ubunja:
you can't conduct the experiment?

Already I speak from experience. So, don't you think that experiment has been done years back?

ubunja:
it's not about maintaining any stand. Go find two girls. One who Chooses you, another whom you Choose. See who'll submit. This is not theory or ideologies. Do the practicals. Go out and check for yourself. Then come share with us your experience.

A man do not need to go for whom loves him but who he loves.. If the right girl accepts the man, its a matter of time, she will start to reciprocate the love knowing that the man loves her truly.. Quote me "the right girl".. If you go for a girl that loves you, I bet, there will never be peace. The tenderance that you will not love her back and keep fumbling is very high. Why? Because this heart of a man who is emotionally stable rarely love..It's easier for women to love than men to love.. Mostly men often feel lust than love.. The one person that a man loves easily is himself.. I am not asking you to agree with me but I am telling you what is factual

Korllami007:
If we go by what you say, nice guys won't have problem in having a girl or in relationships but reverse is the case because na them they get relationship problems pass. Na them de commit suicide pass because upon all their niceness and do everything to make a girl happy; they never believed they could still be jilted.

Lol pally.. Check out the girl, she isn't the right girl. Probably she is one of the kinds of girls I have observed on this platform.. Quote my word "the right girl" many atimes, the so-called Mr nice choose to be adamant and blind rather than to see clearly what he's wanting to commit into. If you fail to see, then I bet you will keep falling into the hand of the negative energy ones. How can you be blind to signs and happenings?

Take for instance, you meet a girl and its obvious she's in a relationship and then you try to incorporate yourself into her.. What're are you thinking? Or you meet a girl and start playing the nice girl without defining your stand, what do you think?

The so-called Mr nice guy often walk on the path which they out not to walk.. Sometimes, they know that there is no way yet they still choose to follow the path.. The end is bound to doom!!! Weak and emotionally loose men. Men can't keep been foolish, Men need to be wise, to be in control..

ubunja:
it's only the woman who loves you who will submit and allow herself to be molded into what you like. She has to love you first or else she won't ever allow you to have any power over her. And key to her love is that she must love you more. It's then that she'll submit.

I maintain my stand.. You are yet to realize that the nature of a woman is love..The determinant to stir up the natural nature of a woman is a man..

Now I am not talking about these days daughters of Jezebel or those negative energy girls that clamour or kept shouting gender equality craps. Meet the right woman, love her rightly and see if she won't reciprocate rightly.

The fact remains that many men are loose emotionally. Relationship is a moving vehicle, men are suppose to take up the wheel and control the journey.Not the other way.. Every man should Man Up..

ubunja:
allow me to clarify.

Generally when a man and a woman date, its imagined that both love each other equally. Like 50/50. But that's not usually the case. There will always be an imbalance. One will always love the other more. While the other will love less. This is why there's always that one party that fears losing the other. And will beg, compromise and do everything to keep them happy.

This can be the guy. This can be the girl.

Let's say it's the guy. For an example.

Now, the reason why the guy fears losing his girl and is desperate for the love to work and will give her gifts and money to keep her happy is because the guy LOVES THE GIRL MORE THAN THE GIRL LOVES HIM. The guy has more love than the girl has. And that makes him Weak in the relationship in that he has to keep working hard to please her to keep her.

The girl loves the guy. But not as deeply as the guy loves her. So she has the power to keep the guy on his toes with demands for things. Because she knows the guy loves her and will do anything for her.

By loving less she has all the power. She is the Prize. The trophy. The Fantasy.

When you marry someone who loves you more than you love them it gives you peace of mind because you're not the one who'll be stressing to please the other party. It doesn't mean you'll be hating the person, but she's much deeper in love than you are. And more desperate to keep you.

I quite disagree to an extend Sir/Ma.. In my opinio, women ain't suppose to love let alone loving more than the man should and there isn't a law that states that woman should love more. The fact remains that women are naturally lovers, they are love by nature.

Women are like a raw material or a clay. Whatever you use them to mold is what they will become. They are like an incubator, whatever you build in them, that's what you get as a product..

There is just a law for the women to men.. " submissive" which majority of them hard to keep, especially those who thinks they are equal to men and crave for gender equality..lol "crap from daughters of Jezebel"..

Men naturally have a harden heart and rarely can love without duplicate; in fact, they love themselves more.. And this is why the law stipulated that " Men love your Women as thyselves "


Yes, Most men are emotional loose, hence they have lost their prestige.. However for those who truly understand the above principle, they know they should love women more but take charge/control of the relationship..Let the emotionally loose men MAN UP!!

Dyt:
The people are same every where lol
The online keypad warriors
The friends
The family

I cannot agree less...lol . Too much negative energy

Dyt:
Wasn't it same with the first?



Ok
Nvm hunku

lol.. One should just be very careful of the advice from this platform... Many negative minds here

Dyt:
So in this case, what do you advice her to do?

You should read the second paragraph of my initial comment....

Dyt:
Well she said she isn't leaving and not ready to leave but she feels like murdering him sometimes

Thinking that alone has made her a murder, and if she ever tries it, she will live to regret it.. The stigma will be upon her and her children.. Even her family may reject her....

This plaforn is one of the wrong places to seek for marital advice..." I hear the girls telling you to leave/forsake your family/home....Please do not listen to the bad advicers on this platform.. Most of these girls are not married and have no idea of what marriage is all about..

No doubt, Marriage needs Work and you cannot underestimate the amount of effort/work you need to do in order to build a successful home..Keep faith and hope alive, trust in God to direct your path. "DO NOT LISTEN TO THOSE WHO HAD ADVISE YOU TO LEAVE YOUR HOME HERE" THEY ARE BAD ADVISER, WHO WANT TO LEAD YOU TO A DOOM PATH... Be wise Ma... Be wise!!!

One of the wrong place is seek advice is on this platform.. Do not listen to all the girls telling you to leave your husband/home.. By all indication, they are single girls and hence their advice could cause you more harm than good. [b] Don't listen to those telling you to leave your home/b]

Midas01:
Evenin custody cases, no court will grant custody of a child to an extended family member when both parents are still Ali and healthy. Why can't a child live with his own mother since the father is oversees? Where is your sense? The other family members of the father don't
have their own lives to live or what?

Please I am not here to insult or be insulted "where is your sense?" I found this sentence insulting, so do withdraw it.. The best you can do is to ignore comments that are contrary to yours..Everyone to his opinion.

In a typical African setting, the male child can still live with his father relatives. The lady coming to say that she doesn't have any of the former husband relative contact speaks a loud volumn, don't you think?.....why can't she take the child to his linage? Besides, how can a man leaves his family and exile himself in europe? This is only a side of the coin, since we don't really know what transpires, its really complicated..

Sammy07:
Lol, Benin wey get charms and strong head pass you self.
Dem dethroned their king b4, not to talk of igwe..

Benin people see their king as a god.
Do igbo see thier's like that?

Abeq, Dem go dethrone any igwe that mess up

Far from the charm thing.. Such can not happen in Anambra.. It's only in states where Igwe is moved from one linage to another...

Sammy07:
It's possible 100%

If the Igwe involve in politics...

Not in some igbo land where Igwe belongs to a particular linage and has never been changed expect for the cause of death... Not in Benin kingdom... Whether they get involved in politics or not..it is not possible. ..

Stillthebest:
A Gov will remove him, remove his palace and anything removable.

Those igwes might just have been minding their businesses or being puppets..
No be few days ago Wike lined them up and was chastising them like kindergarten kids?

It is not possible.. Not in igbo land like Anambra where Igwe is to a linage and has never been changed.. Not in Benin kingdom too!! Quote me anytime.....

You said you had two children for the first man, yet you don't know or have link to any of his family or siblings that you could send the boy to right?.. this is so absurd!! I reserve my further comments..

I still checking the possibility of a governor dethorning Igwe in the igbo land....lol

limeta:
The secret christian

Such a pity.. You have repeated this comment.. You seem a religion fanatic... Face your religion and allow others to do likewise Madam The Secret Christian.. Keep away your Jihadist nature from common post...

eduman365:
Abi... I agree bro. I think like that too so don't get me wrong. I was just telling the lady to stop exaggerating the age. 4 years difference is not something you just approximate.

Alright.. I'm just saying that been single at 40 is not a crime or sin...

eduman365:
He said he's 36

Even if he is 40 and still single so what?? Is there a age tag for men to marry? At whatever age it is, a man can still father children unlike the women... Why will a man be shame being single at 40?? Here is full of people with low IQ, just a lot of surprises

Phenomenal16:
..Ineedto heal....u don hear am from d horses mouth..
Babe move on...
I can't imagine my boo being on naira land

lol and if he is, what would you do? Do you think is everyone here that has time to engage in most trash people here do or say? Or do you think that everyone likes public affair rel'ship??

I hope he doesn't leave in surulere? Lol

Mimiey:
Hello Nairalanders.

He rough handled me on my first visit to his house, claims to want a serious relationship. Can he really be serious about being serious or he is just a play boy?

So I met this guy about two weeks ago close to my street. He calls but I hardly pick. Eventually, I picked and he asked if he could pick me after work and we hangout. I accepted. He picked me up after work last week Friday. He was quite interesting and funny, he talked freely like he had known me for years but he was really so touchy, I had barely spent 5 minutes in the car and he was already touching my shoulder and even when we were inside the bar, he tried tickling me, at a point, he put his hands close to my waist, I removed it. We both discussed if we had someone we are currently seeing, I am not seeing anyone which is the truth, he said there is an Ex but they just have sex and she has her own relationship. When he was dropping me off, he asked for a close hug, I hugged him and he wanted to pull me closer and kiss. I broke free and got down. He said I am not nice.

Well, we met again on Monday, I took just water intentionally. This time I minded the distance between us. He wanted to see again on Tuesday, I declined. Then at work yesterday, he asked to see after closing. I told him he can come briefly to my work and we can talk a bit in the car and part ways. He said he would like to host me at his house instead, I declined.

Anyway, he came, I got in and he started driving and saying, I will know his house today and besides his phone battery his low. My mood changed immediately and he tried to guilt trip me and said okay should we stop on the road and get a place to charge his phone. I then told him to continue driving to his house. He stopped on the way and got snacks. We got into his house. It was nice and neat.

Then we were watching a movie, he sat down and placed my leg on his, I was cool with this. Then he made moves to kiss and I declined and pulled away. All of a sudden, he started breathing fast, hugged me so tight and kissed me despite I kept pulling away and didn't kiss back. I am weak when it comes to my Bosom, then he got there and gave me the roughest and painful squeezing I have ever experienced. I haven't been with any man in about 7 months now, I am single and It's hard for me to do a little thing as even kissing randomly. So he got me there when he got to my bosom but it took only just few seconds to snap out. He continued panting and begging for me to reciprocate, he is so hard and hasn't felt this way in a while.

I told him I don't want this, he went in frustrated, stamping his feet, I tot he had agreed, only for him to come back naked and saying okay, he has heard no sex and "I don't want to force you", so he asked for a dry hump and wanted me to turn my back. I didn't. He still kept breathing hard, like he wont survive the next minute. Then he started begging for a Mouth Action. I declined and told him I wasn't up for that. I tried pulling, away and getting angry. He became even more aggressive, removed the hands I used to protect my chest and forced his way into my bra. It was a struggle and then back to begging till I made it clear in a thunder voice for him to stop and take me home.

Then he agreed, wore his cloths and kept complaining that I don't know what I have caused and he wont be himself. We left his house and he tried stopping at a Pharmacist and said he needs to get ibuprofen, then he didn't stop again and just continued driving.

This morning, he is apologizing and repeating the things he said when we got to his house that he wants something serious with me and he wants us to start something and want it to work out. He asked to come see me at work today but I declined. With this red flags, is there a possibility that he is truly serious like he said? Or he is just doing the usual lies to get the cookie and go away. He has a nice ride and nice house, I suspect he may have girls around him. My concern isn't all these, I just want to be with a serious man who is in for commitment and not just sex.

He rough handled me on my first visit to his house, can he be sincere about wanting to be serious?

I want You to ask your so called boyfriend a simple question.. Is he prepared to marry you without any excuse once you quit the job? If he is not, I advise you still to your job.. Love comes unconditional, so no matter how far you have come with him, once there is a conditional attached to it, then check that so called love properly... He who is need ready to marry you, should not tie you down all in the name of boyfriend/girlfriend.. Sis be wise, be guided!!!