Dyt:


Wasn't it same with the first?



Ok
Nvm hunku

lol.. One should just be very careful of the advice from this platform... Many negative minds here

Dyt:


So in this case, what do you advice her to do?

You should read the second paragraph of my initial comment....

Dyt:


Well she said she isn't leaving and not ready to leave but she feels like murdering him sometimes

Thinking that alone has made her a murder, and if she ever tries it, she will live to regret it.. The stigma will be upon her and her children.. Even her family may reject her....

This plaforn is one of the wrong places to seek for marital advice..." I hear the girls telling you to leave/forsake your family/home....Please do not listen to the bad advicers on this platform.. Most of these girls are not married and have no idea of what marriage is all about..

No doubt, Marriage needs Work and you cannot underestimate the amount of effort/work you need to do in order to build a successful home..Keep faith and hope alive, trust in God to direct your path. "DO NOT LISTEN TO THOSE WHO HAD ADVISE YOU TO LEAVE YOUR HOME HERE" THEY ARE BAD ADVISER, WHO WANT TO LEAD YOU TO A DOOM PATH... Be wise Ma... Be wise!!!

One of the wrong place is seek advice is on this platform.. Do not listen to all the girls telling you to leave your husband/home.. By all indication, they are single girls and hence their advice could cause you more harm than good. [b] Don't listen to those telling you to leave your home/b]

Midas01:
Evenin custody cases, no court will grant custody of a child to an extended family member when both parents are still Ali and healthy. Why can't a child live with his own mother since the father is oversees? Where is your sense? The other family members of the father don't
have their own lives to live or what?

Please I am not here to insult or be insulted "where is your sense?" I found this sentence insulting, so do withdraw it.. The best you can do is to ignore comments that are contrary to yours..Everyone to his opinion.

In a typical African setting, the male child can still live with his father relatives. The lady coming to say that she doesn't have any of the former husband relative contact speaks a loud volumn, don't you think?.....why can't she take the child to his linage? Besides, how can a man leaves his family and exile himself in europe? This is only a side of the coin, since we don't really know what transpires, its really complicated..

Sammy07:


Lol, Benin wey get charms and strong head pass you self.
Dem dethroned their king b4, not to talk of igwe..

Benin people see their king as a god.
Do igbo see thier's like that?

Abeq, Dem go dethrone any igwe that mess up

Far from the charm thing.. Such can not happen in Anambra.. It's only in states where Igwe is moved from one linage to another...

Sammy07:


It's possible 100%

If the Igwe involve in politics...

Not in some igbo land where Igwe belongs to a particular linage and has never been changed expect for the cause of death... Not in Benin kingdom... Whether they get involved in politics or not..it is not possible. ..

Stillthebest:


A Gov will remove him, remove his palace and anything removable.

Those igwes might just have been minding their businesses or being puppets..
No be few days ago Wike lined them up and was chastising them like kindergarten kids?

It is not possible.. Not in igbo land like Anambra where Igwe is to a linage and has never been changed.. Not in Benin kingdom too!! Quote me anytime.....

You said you had two children for the first man, yet you don't know or have link to any of his family or siblings that you could send the boy to right?.. this is so absurd!! I reserve my further comments..

I still checking the possibility of a governor dethorning Igwe in the igbo land....lol

limeta:
The secret christian

Such a pity.. You have repeated this comment.. You seem a religion fanatic... Face your religion and allow others to do likewise Madam The Secret Christian.. Keep away your Jihadist nature from common post...

eduman365:


Abi... I agree bro. I think like that too so don't get me wrong. I was just telling the lady to stop exaggerating the age. 4 years difference is not something you just approximate.

Alright.. I'm just saying that been single at 40 is not a crime or sin...

eduman365:


He said he's 36

Even if he is 40 and still single so what?? Is there a age tag for men to marry? At whatever age it is, a man can still father children unlike the women... Why will a man be shame being single at 40?? Here is full of people with low IQ, just a lot of surprises

Phenomenal16:
..Ineedto heal....u don hear am from d horses mouth..
Babe move on...
I can't imagine my boo being on naira land

lol and if he is, what would you do? Do you think is everyone here that has time to engage in most trash people here do or say? Or do you think that everyone likes public affair rel'ship??

I hope he doesn't leave in surulere? Lol

Mimiey:
Hello Nairalanders.

He rough handled me on my first visit to his house, claims to want a serious relationship. Can he really be serious about being serious or he is just a play boy?

So I met this guy about two weeks ago close to my street. He calls but I hardly pick. Eventually, I picked and he asked if he could pick me after work and we hangout. I accepted. He picked me up after work last week Friday. He was quite interesting and funny, he talked freely like he had known me for years but he was really so touchy, I had barely spent 5 minutes in the car and he was already touching my shoulder and even when we were inside the bar, he tried tickling me, at a point, he put his hands close to my waist, I removed it. We both discussed if we had someone we are currently seeing, I am not seeing anyone which is the truth, he said there is an Ex but they just have sex and she has her own relationship. When he was dropping me off, he asked for a close hug, I hugged him and he wanted to pull me closer and kiss. I broke free and got down. He said I am not nice.

Well, we met again on Monday, I took just water intentionally. This time I minded the distance between us. He wanted to see again on Tuesday, I declined. Then at work yesterday, he asked to see after closing. I told him he can come briefly to my work and we can talk a bit in the car and part ways. He said he would like to host me at his house instead, I declined.

Anyway, he came, I got in and he started driving and saying, I will know his house today and besides his phone battery his low. My mood changed immediately and he tried to guilt trip me and said okay should we stop on the road and get a place to charge his phone. I then told him to continue driving to his house. He stopped on the way and got snacks. We got into his house. It was nice and neat.

Then we were watching a movie, he sat down and placed my leg on his, I was cool with this. Then he made moves to kiss and I declined and pulled away. All of a sudden, he started breathing fast, hugged me so tight and kissed me despite I kept pulling away and didn't kiss back. I am weak when it comes to my Bosom, then he got there and gave me the roughest and painful squeezing I have ever experienced. I haven't been with any man in about 7 months now, I am single and It's hard for me to do a little thing as even kissing randomly. So he got me there when he got to my bosom but it took only just few seconds to snap out. He continued panting and begging for me to reciprocate, he is so hard and hasn't felt this way in a while.

I told him I don't want this, he went in frustrated, stamping his feet, I tot he had agreed, only for him to come back naked and saying okay, he has heard no sex and "I don't want to force you", so he asked for a dry hump and wanted me to turn my back. I didn't. He still kept breathing hard, like he wont survive the next minute. Then he started begging for a Mouth Action. I declined and told him I wasn't up for that. I tried pulling, away and getting angry. He became even more aggressive, removed the hands I used to protect my chest and forced his way into my bra. It was a struggle and then back to begging till I made it clear in a thunder voice for him to stop and take me home.

Then he agreed, wore his cloths and kept complaining that I don't know what I have caused and he wont be himself. We left his house and he tried stopping at a Pharmacist and said he needs to get ibuprofen, then he didn't stop again and just continued driving.

This morning, he is apologizing and repeating the things he said when we got to his house that he wants something serious with me and he wants us to start something and want it to work out. He asked to come see me at work today but I declined. With this red flags, is there a possibility that he is truly serious like he said? Or he is just doing the usual lies to get the cookie and go away. He has a nice ride and nice house, I suspect he may have girls around him. My concern isn't all these, I just want to be with a serious man who is in for commitment and not just sex.

He rough handled me on my first visit to his house, can he be sincere about wanting to be serious?

I want You to ask your so called boyfriend a simple question.. Is he prepared to marry you without any excuse once you quit the job? If he is not, I advise you still to your job.. Love comes unconditional, so no matter how far you have come with him, once there is a conditional attached to it, then check that so called love properly... He who is need ready to marry you, should not tie you down all in the name of boyfriend/girlfriend.. Sis be wise, be guided!!!

Unemployment has led many youths in a state of frustration and depression. I know the toll of being unemployed took on many youths as they struggle all the time to make it in life. How you strive to make ends meet, to get married with the hope of sustaining your family? there is this vacuum in the heart when you are not financially capable of doing these necessary things. You got to try harder, keep the hope alive, and do all you can legitimately to become successful in life.

The society through academic had not led many of the youths rightly. What most youths believe is to fight their way into the university to get a degree. Thus, the system trains you to get a certificate, and after you graduate, what’s next? What the system had fail to do, is to train you on how to get the required knowledge and skills on how to live after schooling. The system is all about Mediocrity.

Now you finished schooling and start job hunting; a year passes, two, three years and counting; you are still in the labour market hunting for jobs. Frustration and depression may set in as you may start feeling like a failure in life because the system has failed to employ you.
No doubt, the rate of unemployment in this country is exceptionally high. The ratio of getting a job is 1:10. Most common is that the government works are based on MAN knows MAN; only a few gets it on merit, if you don’t have a connection, you may not get a job in the public sector. How about the private sector? The employers take advantage of the employee by paying this peanut compare to the effort they put to growing the business/company of their employers.

When You Are Not Gainfully Employed, What Next? There is no country in the global that it Government employs 100% of her citizens. The Government cannot do it all, and it is practically impossible since Government cannot give employment to all. What best way can you invest your time? STOP JOB HUNTING, INVEST YOUR TIME IN CREATING EMPLOYMENT FOR YOURSELF. USE YOUR SKILLS TO EARN MONEY. TURN YOUR PASSION INTO EARNINGS.

How can you build on the sturdiest rock? An advert something ago caption “Good thinking, Good Product” Think of becoming self-employed, creating a job for yourself is a good one and taking the step to startup no matter how small it is, will produce good product. Whatever you choose to do, Show the strength of your character towards it and that alone can make all the difference. The world millionaires are not employee but employer.


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I know the toll of being unemployed took on many youths as they struggle all the time to make it in life. How you strive to make ends meet, to get married with the hope of sustaining your family? there is this vacuum in the heart when you are not financially capable of doing these necessary things. The Question why is it that many youths are reluctant to startup and business??

Instead of having extra marital affair.. Best you marry her as second wife and save your soul.. That's if you can handle the herculean issues that come with 2wives.

I'm surprise that most people don't know the difference between being married and engaged...

You mentioned that you've done traditional rites, for instance, you've paid the bride price...

I kinda get disappointed at your write up...Please, with due respect; you are married.. As a matter of fact, You are fully married.. White wedding isn't a must...

To everyone who doesn't know this fact.. Once you paid a girl bride price and do every other traditional rite, YOU ARE MARRIED!..

Being engaged is when you went witj a few family member for introduction...

Thanks..

Iwantpeace:

no pls it's not all about that! do u know when I am not around this guy does whatever he likes at home.finish everything he sees. I just came back from the market now to look for what to cook later in the afternoon. I perceived smoke in the whole house, this guy has fried yam n ate all of it, washed the plate and left the others the way I saw it. as in from 8am -12pm he has eaten 2times not even minding if I have eaten once or not. haba!!

Madam stop the excuses.. It's all coming from the in depth of heart.. Things you have bottled up whilst you were courting your husband...

Now you want to show zero tolerance.. You should know that our culture here entails when you marry a guy, you marry his family.. If you can endure your husband excesses why would you endure that of his brother? He won't be there for long.. It's just for a while.. So endurance and patience with a forgiven heart is all it takes to conquer situations like this and in turn this will make you win the love of most of your inlaws

You snapped on Sunday that the road is usually like this and then want people to believe it actually will be this way on working days?

Okada banned in Nnewi?.. This is a misinformation.. How can okada be ban in a place where every household owns one?? This part of your article is mis information... Be guided

hi

generationz:

What's your email?

it's Gmail advertmasterr

generationz:


I sent you an email.

I didn't get your email.. Resend pls

Quite a long time... Inbox me at your convenience

generationz:
You can imagine a woman who had to prostitute herself for money shaming slim broke guys?


The entitlement is crazy.


You expect a young man just coming up to splash millions on you?

I wonder where the sugar daddy is today because she doesn't even look like someone who anyone is splashing even a thousand bucks on.


Well, some of you men deserve this. After all some of you end up becoming like these sugar daddies who stole your girlfriends.