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i would drag her to church screaming.

i dont get it? is it shocking that all 5 of her kids are from the same man?
so what if she cant cook? this cooking issue is over flogged and overrated. apparently they havent all starved to death yet! If a woman cant cook, she cant cook. No need to bring out the cross, nails and hammer.

@ original poster
you are worried because you dont speak his mother tongue? relax! you've come this far without speaking igbo.


@ 4him
you're right . leilah is not married to an igbo man

@ Leilah if you state that you know many nigerian men who treat their wives like shit one more time, i'll scream.

recently a male nurse (nigerian) was accused of molesting or assaulting a patient while administering her daily massage. Na wa oh.

nyabinghi:
Its not good to beat up women but some women deserve to be beaten.

cant believe people still use this line.

He he he! Do people's parents still tell them what to do?

MisterMan:
I hope I am making some sense here becaues I could not finish reading all the posts. I just saw it today. I tried to contact the poster privately. Alas, his address is not available. Please I want to say one or two things privately to you.

However, all I can say is that you have found a real GEM. Don't let all those people decieve you. You don't need to test her by bringing a woman et all. One: She is seriously in love with you. Two, that is her nature. Don't take her for granted. I have been in that situation about 3 TIMES now. I met three (3) different girls who are just like that. The first one, got married in 1995. She always wanted to please me. I was the envy of all my peers then. She went with somebody that was better the way he treated her. She is somewhere is US now. I am very happy for her. I hope she will be happy. She deserves it anyway.

The second one used to kneel down to great me. Don't laugh. That was the situation. She is not dumb. She is highly educated, intelligent and God fearing. Perhaps you may say that she was seriuosly looking for somebody to marry her and she had become 'anfani adugbo' or an 'animasaun'. Far from it. VERY VERY DECENT. She was a VIRGIN. Men were always toasting her then. May be it was because I was her first love. There was a time we had to call it quits because she decided to give her life to Christ. We came back together simply because of fate.

The third person is also well mannered. Tall beautiful and educated. Plus she was a virgin. She gives me MAXIMUM respect. She says sir to me. "What do you want to eat sir? Welcome sir." That kind of stuff. And for your information, I am not a rich dude. So they are not after my money. I am not most handsome guy on earth. In short, I am plain average.

My opinion is: Take proper care of her. Show love to her. Give her No 1 consideration. Believe me, you will enjoy your marriage. You need to be on your guard however. You need to make double effort to make her happy. It will not be easy. Please for the sake of love and all those things that you hold dear, treat her well. It will not be easy because the tendercy to take undue advantage of her nature will be there.

Forget the advise some people tell you. She is not neccessarily frustrated. I made an example of myself. None of those three people were frustrated by any meaning of the word. There are people like that. Count yourself lucky. She is not hiding anything. That is her true nature. Love her. Cherish her. You will never regret it. Yes I will tell you the truth: It gets on my nerve when my wife will not express her opinion. Always counting on me. At times I find her too submissive. But that is her nature. I can't change that. Look at that as her strong point. If you truly love her, you should not let that be a big deal.

Do you know the bottom line: You need to be very careful. Don't take any rash decision. Your decision may hurt somebody who dearly loves you.

please mail me at tianshihotguy@yahoo.com. By the way, I forgot to mention that I am happily married to the third lady. Bless you. Love your woman and protect her FIERCELY. You will be happy you did.

not everyone seeks a subservient woman.
seriously the whole kneeling down to greet thing, virginal persona is not for everyone. Some guys may feel like kings when you kneel to greet them, for others it will embarrass the out of them. strange as it may sound to you some people are not down for that. you seem to be happy with your kind of woman. good for you! original poster wants some fire!

today.
women are strange creatures. the thing you expect to repulse them, wont!

na true. tight fisted son.

my best kept secret will die with me. I relocated to keep this secret safe. i refuse to be hypnotized, go under anaestasia or drink too much just so i dont get woozy and blurt it out. Ive justified my actions to myself. I just dont need to get anyone's ears burnt with my secret.

i know a guy that dated a girl for a long time and no gifts. after she complained and wept he bought her dusting powder for valentine's day. im not lying.

perfect people get on my nerves.
I confess i stir up stuff just so my husband can give me attention and pacify me.
I will pout and pout for attention.
A perfect wife is boring. like a perfect robot with a perfect smile. meals ready at the same time everyday. her skirts the same length, predictable, predictable. A little imperfection or flaw is welcome.

He stole a script riddled with bad grammar? Heck! Poor him!

i tire oh.
she'll soon surface with another story.

save your breath ika.

get your own male friends. let him taste his own medicine.

What will happen if he catches you on nairaland? flog you?  

efuah:
you seem to know a lot about leilah.

yeah we know a lot about her. we are family.