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LordShiva97:
Go beg her husband for what exactly? For getting beaten up for rightly voicing out her displeasure at the prospect of her in-laws colonising her home?


Let's be honest with ourselves, if this story is true and happened as narrated, then the man is dead wrong, he's an idiot and it won't be advisable for any self-respecting woman to remain stuck in such a union with him in the name of marriage.

she can as well try elsewhere she go know say Ac no be fan .She should better swallow her little pride and resolve the issue ,so with the whole corona pandemic and restricted movements you will allow your mother travel miles when you stay close to where she receives treatment .Now put yourself in the husbands shoes how do you expect him to feel when his wife is out-rightly making it clear she is wishing his mother death (indirectly) .She should have advised on getting a bed for the other room and let them make use of it .Very simple issue,she has made a huge mistake and she should go beg her husband how can you ask such a question 3 times in a space of two weeks .Only God knows what that man must have gone through before it resulted to all these

instinct57vm:
I have a female friend who got married last year October precisely.

Fast forward to March this year the Mother In Law came to stay with the couple in a bid to visit her hospital within the couple’s area for medical checkup, reason being that she stays a bit farther away in the same state.

Upon her Mother in law’s arrival, she came with my friend’s husband brother accompanied by his girlfriend who all planned staying and eventually stayed without prior notice.

My friend(the lady) is a banker and was only informed casually by her husband while she was at work on the day of their arrival. His excuse was the mother called impromptu about the visit which I don’t think is bad anyway.

These couple stay in a three bedroom apartment and only one room has bed in it. This is the room the couple sleep.

The first two days of the mother inlaw, brother and brother’s girlfriend arrival, the couple had to sleep in the living room while the mother in law and the brother in law’s girlfriend slept in the couple’s room.

As days goes by, the husband who is self employed suggested the the rest of them will handle cooking in the house due to the wife’s tight schedule as per banking job in Lagos.

Part of the consequence of their visit is that they have overthrown the kitchen and like most ladies my friend wasn’t cool with this but tried to keep her cool.

The lady(my friend) became curious and asked the husband to clarify if the mother in law and co intends to stay with them permanently. The husband subsequently flared up with the allegations that his wife doesn’t want his people around. This happened to be the third time his wife asked this question in the space of two weeks.

One thing led to the other on the third time of asking this question my friends husband beat her up and chased her out of the house while the mother stood and watched without interfering.

Efforts to reconcile has proved abortive as the husband refused to let her in again and categorically said to my friend’s dad he isn’t interested in the marriage anymore. The mother in law refused to interfere.

PS: The hubby’s mother is a separated single mother.
PS: My friend and her hubby both contributed to pay the rent
PS: The hubby’s father is not in support of all the happenings and all efforts to reach his son proved abortive since the misunderstanding. He wouldn’t answer his dad’s calls.

What are your opinions about this issue? Thank you.

if it was her own mother and her brother that came visiting will she complain ? Why are ladies selfish when it comes to this aspect of marriage.Their family is welcome to their home anytime and can stay as long as they please ,but once they see the husbands family they start asking useless questions after a few days .Better tell your friend to better be patient and go beg her husband

DontCough:
In as much we all rely on information shared on media, I think its best we stick to the latest news of his public appearance.

he his a regular visitor to this fertilizer factory in pyongyang (he has visited there more than 30 times) i watched this in a documentary so the vidoe could have been done on any of the visits

DontCough:
Maybe it was an old video but I pray he stays alive. Leaders like him are needed in a balanced world.

nobody has concrete information on what goes on in that place ,too much propaganda from them .And power drunk people like this man will go to any length to put the outside world off track .He did not make a public appearance on Apr 15 Wednesday (Birth Date of Kim Il Sung) which is a very important date in north Korea ,cause it would be difficult to do such video ahead (they have a marching parade on that day ) also he did not appear on Apr 25 Saturday (Chosun People's Army Foundation Day).But he appear on May day cutting a tape ,something is seriously not right i think he his terribly sick and just using this earlier made videos to buy time

DontCough:
I knew Kim was somewhere private reading news of his demise.
I love Kim cos he's strong and unpredictable.

this video might have been done earlier people like this are unpredictable i feel the man is very sick

Nonso92:
All the constant embarrassment that the immigration officers dish out at border towns and passport offices, they didn't see that one to query. It's these women that they want to use as scapegoats, for what na??

My dear ladies, you're doing well

i tire oo all the begging their officers do at point of entry and passport control they wont query those ones rada rada

Andrewkinggg:
NO apology if you are offended but you are the one who is stupid.. Because they drive cars don't mean they don't have to fend for themselves, their families and still sort daily expenses. People must survive and for them to, they have to work thereby tossing any form of restriction to the bin. This is the result you get when you have an insensitive government. At the end of the day something must kill a man. If CoronaVirus end them so be it.

i wonder when Nigerians will stop seeing owning a car as luxury to me it is more of a necessity

Girls from poor homes a large percentage of them are ungrateful in most cases cause they started engaging in adult activities from a very tender age maybe 17 years old.Most of them are turned into adults at a very young age cause their parents cant provide for their basic needs ,and they are ready to date or bed the next available toaster just to meet their basic needs.So you dont expect a girl that has had a wild past with men and is in the habit of receiving favors and cash from different men to appreciate that little gift or favor you do for her she sees it as nothing or normal.

seunmsg:
The entire building or a part of the building? Hopefully, firefighters from area 10 will quickly put the situation under control.

Those of you insinuating that the fire was deliberate obviously lack knowledge of how far we’ve gone in Nigeria. Gone are the days when people steal money and then burn down the building to destroy records. Financial records can no longer be destroyed by merely burning a building. All transactions are now done through TSA, GIFMIS, REMITA and IPPIS. Federal government transactions are fully saved online and backed up at different locations. Essential records can never be lost to the fire.

Again, those insinuating that Covid-19 donations would be lost to the fire are very ignorant. All donations at federal level are paid directly into a CBN controlled account. All records are with CBN and not OAGF. Nobody can steal Covid-19 donations by burning OAGF building.

be there speaking grammar .if a public servant can come out and say snake swallowed money

GOFRONT:
I can see one skinny dude tryna exercise.....

What else did he want to burn??

no mind am

LexPrescott:
Now imagine also that the student is infected and travels home to their family in another state. Just imagine!

telling people to stay at home without anyform of support is not going to help the whole situation ,can you stay at home when your kids are crying of hunger.A lot of Nigerians need these daily earnings to survive

VillagePipu:
That's why you replied 3 times.
The thing really enter you.

Useless illiterate

To you everyone is an illiterate atleast i have gone through your comments .You are just on here to insult and troll others

VillagePipu:
That's why you replied 3 times.
The thing really enter you.

Useless illiterate

obviously you are bored and looking for people to insult .Kid no come dey form chinua achebe online .

VillagePipu:
Bro, are you keeping malice with paragraphing and punctuations?

paragraphs and punctuation are an expected part of a formal writing .THIS IS NOT A FORMAL WRITING SO KEEP YOUR FUCKING BUSYBODY TO YOURSELF ODE

real1000:
what is the student still doing in school since all school was close down for The past two weeks now.

you must think life is easy for everyone out there ,that 3000 naira you use in fueling your car daily without thinking much of it some have not earned it for weeks now .

VillagePipu:
Bro, are you keeping malice with paragraphing and punctuations?

oga no be waec we dey write and i am very sure if we do head to head your head no dey there.So stop forming what is not on a public forum

VillagePipu:
Bro, are you keeping malice with paragraphing and punctuations?

english teacher i can choose to write whichever way pleases me .oversabi kill you there mugu

Astark:
I'm a man and I uphold the truth and say things as it is, Nigerian men have been showing their rapist and criminal behavior on social media.

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Take a look at this thread above, imagine men commenting saying a 19 years old forcefully having sex with a 16 years old girl isn't rape and she is enjoying it and those comments have hundreds of like.

I don't want to go into their criminal and cyber fraud, I just want to focus on rape..

Imagine your sister a minor getting raped and sickos says she enjoyed it.

And they wonder why their race are economically, educationally and all round inferior to other races.

Disgusting men

hope you know the age of consent in nigeria for sexual activities is 11 years old

i think they should only ban commercial operations ,they are just closing down and putting curfews without making any provisions for the citizens ,imagine a student that schools in lagos trying to get back to his or her family will you deny such persons that right .I personally think it is hunger that will kill alot of people not the corona virus rada rada

BigJoe19:
She should quit the relationship if she wants to, at least the guy would be smarter next time to keep his money to himself and see through women's fake love.

this is not a matter of fake love ,the lady does not need a juju priest to tell her the man is not ready to settledown .Someone that cant sort his accommodation issues which is really one of the least problems these days .She should look elsewhere and this will serve as a wake up call to the man

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen.

He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed.

I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him.

Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me


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op relationship these days love is not enough to make a relationship work finances plays a major role .Be frank and truthful to yourself if you dont see yourself staying in such an environment better call it quits and go after what you really want cause on the long run this things will come into play then people will tag you a bad woman .

if the rear plate number can be that rough i doubt if it is a few months used looks like a car driven for years lets try to honest in our dealings thank you

TheGoodJoe:
She did not know what she was getting into. She did not meet him as an abroad husband. She met him before he travelled to find a way to improve their lives.

Then he chose a different path, living her and the children behind.

He is free to go on with his life but should not complain where and when she chooses to satisfy her needs. She is human with feelings and he abandoned her.

Simple.

satisfy her own needs in a house he owns or probably is paying for what happened to hotels or motels .What is wrong is wrong lets shun acts that can lead to complete breakdown of law and order .what is so difficult in going over to her lovers place

TheGoodJoe:
Same kids the man abandoned to start a new family. Please, the woman has seen enough. You can not taste a pin of what she faces.

the man still takes responsibility of the kids and thats why he his angry she brought another to his house .there is no manuscript to life some are married to business men some civil servants,some are married to soldiers .So you have to know what you are getting into ahead and make sure you are ready to cope( more like having a relationship with a transporter then after 3 kids you are complaining he travels too much ).

golddare:
If you know what women suffers from abroad husbands you wont be talking like this.

the woman is a very useless woman ,she knew what she was getting into before having 3 kids with the man ,and it is not a new thing we know the extent some men go just to remain abroad and be able to meet up with their responsibilities back home (even if you have to be a slave to another woman over there ) this is just a case of over assumption and it has taken the better part of her now ,you said he abandoned you bla bla bla so the best thing for you to do is bring another man into the house and start having sex with him the same house your kids stay in within an estate madam if you do not even respect the man and yourself at least respect your kids ,people see things and talk . WHEN YOU ASSUME TOO MUCH YOU WILL END UP SETTLING FOR LESS.

tobidipity:
You kinda right though. People become unfaithful for several reasons. Majority do cheat because of lack of real intimacy or some come from a family full of miserable relationships and/or have a long history of miserable relationships, so to them, it’s not even miserable, it’s just normal. So the possibility of someone (who's parents are faithful to each other) to be unfaithful is low. Just my opinion.
Yes U can't vouch for anyone, but people who are faithful exist. Yes we do. lol. Been unfaithful as a man is expensive sef

the percentage is low for people who are faithful i have seen noble people and honorable people cheat for no reason i just believe it is a sin of opportunity lets do a little illustration here try to do a body count on yourself you have slept with women you are not married too ,some you offered them money ,some you stayed in the same hostel with them during school days or some you work in the same place with .Some you even met at social functions and you slept with them just not to spoil the fun of the night most of these women have serious partners so what makes you think our sisters mothers and wives are better than this set of women .Some have even cheated on their partners with people that cant match their partners when it comes to intimacy .It is just crazy so bro it is better to prepare your mind for the worse so when it eventually happens it does not break you down totally

tobidipity:
I love this

no insults intended but you can never say ,even the people you least expect to cheat do it .Some even cheat for no reason .What i have learnt so far do not vouch for anyone

This is a lesson to all issues concerning marriage and child bearing should be taken much more seriously ,it is not something you just dabble into cause every tom dick and harry is doing it you feel you should go ahead .It is something you should prepare for mentally,financially ,spiritually .In cases like this dont be too surprised the lady gave into societal pressure "you have been married for so and so years why no kids yet ? And this useless and same set of people know fully well the husband is not based in naija .And this should serve as a lesson to all women out there dont let desperation complicate your life the children that are meant to give her joy have now become a burden ,her life will never remain the same .It is well

Tim16:
You are working, but he doesn't have any job yet. He comes home late everyday at 12am. You clean the house and provide food for the family, upon that you don't nag, and you are good looking.

Madam you married a very very irresponsible man, and people like him always engage in careless sexual activities with random girls/prostitutes. Most times he could probably be in one brothel having fun. I just pray he shouldn't someday infect you with HIV. same thing happened to my aunty, her husband was living this kind of life and infected her with HIV and both of them died of AIDS living their 4 young kids miserable. It will only take a Divine intervention by the Almighty to change such a man and make him live responsibly... I pray God to come to your aid and touch your husband's heart to become responsible and respect his marriage. I will advice you to become a prayer warrior because of this for there is nothing God can not do. You don't only talk to him you also back it up with fervent prayer I bet you you will see result. May God bless your home. AMEN

will you keep quiet people like you have PHD in breaking marriages .Do you know why he keeps late ? Don't just jump into conclusion ,sometimes we men like to hang around certain friends when we find ourselves in situations like this .These days the only way to see some busy friends is at night at these places they cool off after work .Just pray he finds a job soon .Dont blame him yet these keeping late might be his only way of meeting his real contacts that can help him out of this situation also it might be the way he can get little financial assistance while job hunting (transport fare and little pocket change ) it is well

SUPERPACK:
I would simply go and boil my own hot water and pour her too. Life goes on.

abi no need for many many talk

post=86610464:
Lol
No it's not Makama,
But you are close!

obviously i know it is not makama ,even a blind man knows that quadrangle facing qss