₦airaland Forum

boborosky:
Firstly, I am a guy who is goal driven. I work my ass off to ensure that I earn a living and this has left me with hating anyone who is lazy.
I met my fiance about a year ago. We don't reside in the same town but we talk everyday. When we started dating, she had told me she was done with schooling but she had a few issues which have prevented her from graduating. According to her, she finished in 2019 but has not been cleared because of those issues.

In the first few months that we started dating, I asked her why she was idle since the school was yet to clear her. I further advised that she should start something rather than stay at home. She told me then that she would like to produce and sell a particular commodity. I asked her what it required for her to start. She told me and I provided those things and travelled all the way to see her and hand those items over to her. Few weeks after that, I asked how the business was doing - she went from one story to the other. I was pissed because I thought she could have put all those excuses into consideration before letting me go through the stress of providing those items - It is not about the money for it wasn't much, but her lukewarm interest in pursing goals. Truth is that she never started the trade.

I let that slide and we moved on... Each day I noticed she doesn't have the desire to pursue goals. I mean, how could she have stayed over 3years at home without learning any skill or being purposeful. When it was clear that she wasn't being purposeful, I told her crystal clear that I would not want to be with anyone who lacks purpose or isn't resourceful. In response, she told me that she would work harder and do something. But as each day passed, it was the same old story. Right now, she teaches at a school - this was after a lot of pushing, and forcing and begging and all of that. Even, of the teaching, she complains that it is stressful.

She visited my family house twice. The first time she visited, I had to literally tell her to help in the sweeping of the house the morning following the night she arrived, which she did - I mean, I expected her to know (without being told) that that was expected of her as a first-time visitor in the frame of a prospective wife/in-law. Even as a man, you don't stay inside the room when you visit a family especially when they are doing chores - that was how I was raised. Maybe it isn't a general expectation, but that was how I was raised (Don't crucify me).

As it stands now, she isn't cleared yet and each time I tell her to go to the school, she would either reply reluctantly or get upset. Moreso, she doesn't have a skill. The truth is that, though she is nice, a virgin apparently, she may end up depending on me 100%. Given the way Nigeria is, one needs a partner who can support one. Also, coupled with the fact that though she loves me 100%, she is not very exposed (a bit timid), and lacks the desire to be independent, hardworking or achieve her own goals.

We had discussed marriage, though I have not proposed yet. Conversely, right now, I am having a rethink which has caused me to be a bit withdrawn and retrogressive. I do not want a spouse who would drag me backwards, I have suffered a lot to get to where God placed me - I don't want a setback given that my family partly depends on me. From all indications, I don't know whether she will be able to handle and account for a business if one is established for her.

Even though the decision to either proceed with or withdraw from marriage is solely mine, I'd like a piece of advice.

For matured folks.... What do you think?

There is always advantages and disadvantages in everything we have or do.

Thankfully, you have been able to identify the problem she has... Bro it's what you both can fix.. just take it calmly...

Remember, she might not give that 💯% attention and do those things you love her doing when she starts working or doing business.

It's Vis-a-vis..

She has something good you already love her for.... Work together with her if you truly love her to make her the kind of person you want her to be....

KayRobert:


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obyno82:
But he wants others to accept defeat abi.

You can't give what you don't have

Some of those his comments are just extracts from a motivational speaker

Shikini:
NBA should teach that tell old mutual.
with rusted brains

Abi

RacistProudIgbo:
Tell him, while I support him for now he should mind the way he talks.

We are no longer in Abacha era.

Tinubu stated well and strong for d admiration of Nigerians

We all commend him for that but such comment attributed to him on the judiciary tells you he is not a perfect man ..


It means he is also not willing to accept defeat.

Let him just decamp to APC...
He will be absorbed of all his wrong doings and depts

[quote author=babyfaceafrica post=123746864]This is super story [Abi ?]

Call him SUBSIDY

This country is overdue for proper FUMIGATION.

Let everybody in NIGERIA come out of the country so it can be fumigated properly bfor we all come back inside again....

D county don smellllll already

[My brother I tire]

INEC have been COOKED..
They have entered ONE CHANCE...

CHAI..... OBI DEY CARRY INEC DEY GO WHERE THEM NO NO

Lord, let there be heavy rain 🌧️🌧️🌧️ in Abuja Tomorrow from morning to night even though out the week...

Do it for us Lord.

The heavy RAIN that will fall in Abuja Tomorrow is doing press up in Sudan..

Waisted resources and Time....

So what happened to the previous face ?

Is the face now expired or obsolete ?

Sha do the needful for lagosians

Nobody dey look your face..

What were you guys expecting...??

I don't just know how he sleeps at night o
He can never be appointed by any club in his life again...

Very clueless bunch of a man

Who put asunder in the first wedding that they want to do another one....


Ok... The first wedding was a low key wedding and they both don't like themselves in the picture they took then.....ok ooo

Now, they have hammer, dey want to show doings..

There children will now be closing their eyes again....

Una Weldon.... Ike and Anita

The gun wasn't meant for the girl.
Every soldier is still a normal human being.

She is liable to cheat on you more than any other person sef...

Sometimes I wonder where these news emanate from.... Right here , we are still loading crude from Mobil loading point and also other loading points in Nigeria...
Ships are on standby waiting for their turn to load here ...


Make people dey calm down for some news na

Your litmus test came early...
Man up, face your fears , don't lost what gives you joy based on other's presumption..

Expand your coast and never believe you can't do more....

E shock you abi....

Buhari should immediately call Putin to order...
If not...

Already practicing his next portfolio....

Future minister of Transportation...

Ha.... Nigeria Ntoooorrrrrr !!!!!!


Choi...

This man have been in the News all week long.

Mr Man... You talk too much..

Just shut up and watch.

You never told her the truth of your identity....

No be only 6 months...
Werey.... Una for fold d entire country..

Mugabe.... Just dey play

Ability in Disability..

This one pain Them Sha...



E enter

Oga at the top has said something contrary...

Make una do pack una load go.... APC wawa

What difference does it make even if 19 PDP Governors endorse Tinubu..?

It only means 10 votes..

Nigerians are wiser.... All man with his vote.

What kind of politicians do we have in dis country?
I thought schools and kids are on holidays...

Why do you have to bring kids from their homes to be part of your propaganda...

Poor innocent children.......it is well o