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Mvena:
Weed is just a plant, ain't no drug

you just finished smoking abi?

illicit:
Weed is food not drug

like you mean the reverse

FlamieB:
And what is weed then?

na dat one come dey confuse me

Investnow2017:
What Nairaland has put together, let no man or woman..................

Seriously, i have just observed something. Make i look for trouble small before i sleep off. Why is it that Righteousness does not comment on positive threads like this one? Because if it were obituary.......

Trouble maker

Genea:
But I am not ugly and I met hubby on NL in 2018?

I no trust people wey dey say dem no ugly. Anyway atleast you found something good here.

shalom4eva:
Around 2012 I got to know nairaland when I was job hunting, little did I know something big awaits me . Fast forward to 2017, I met this pretty damsel (rebirth 4goody, formerly rebirthforgoody).

We became friends and later into a love relationship. To God be the glory, today we are happily married. Thanks to nairaland even though I didn't get any job through this platform,but I gained a lot of experience and a beautiful woman as wife .

Guys please show us some love and wish us well

see fine wine. You carry eye go market o. Congrat a big time o

Hintona:
Nah you can't be my ex

My ex doesn't have sense like this

Haba, and he won your heart at some point.

SegFault:
Who be shatabandi self?

So you don’t Ben know him sef. The actually spelling is “shatta bandle”

Baffupdrizz:
In my view, the girl is overreaching; obviously desperate or overwhelmed with lovey-dovey fantasies. Or she is definitely trying to prove a point to her girlfriends (or competitors if you like).

The guy is more worried about his reputation than the mood the girl is in right now.

There is only one way this ends, one has to apologize or the relationship deteriorates into utter chaos.

All that awkwardness could have been avoided if he just locked his phone. ALWAYS.

They will have to grow up. The both of them!

If I am the boy, I will just see it as her doing PDA. Playfully telling how she is becoming bossy is enough. Deleting it is going too far. But I will ensure she don’t keep doing it with some stern warning later later on. I guess OP has something to hide so he wouldn’t wait

ahiboilandgas:
but when u pounding the kitty he not intruding in her personal space

laugh wan kee me here

Evercurious:
This is really DISGUSTING... I'm so out

ahahahaha. Why did you enter here first?

Bojack:
I personally do not support their lifestyle especially those trans people (I still believe it's a mental illness), but we just have to respect them.

respect fire, If I by mistake see any gay person I will ensure we maintain 6 feet distance at once and if they come close to me. Na correct fight be that o. Yuck they disgust me too much. I am about live and let live but sorry they will not get any respect from me even though I wouldn’t interfere with their matter as much as it don’t concern me.

ukaface:
If I feel attraction towards him why not?

The point is ,just because you see no reason to settle for a girl like this, doesn't mean runtown can't go for the girl.
You are thinking by the influence of the society.

Why can't someone marry Shatta bundle,oh you care about what the society will say ,ryt? Like the way y'all are castigating runtown.

She ain't handicapped,she got a job,she's living a life, what exactly is wrong with herself? Her skin colour?
And even if she's handicapped, do you think life is defined by physical attributes?
Pathetic

Runtown in my opinion has not made a bad decision, the lady in question is pretty though she is very dark and we could even say black.

But as for shatabandi, Abeg I don’t advise anyone to carry his gene o, I am not saying he shouldn’t express love or interest to women but if I am him I wouldn’t transfer my gene for next generation. He is a product of incompatibility between parents and a biological deformity. So it ain’t a good idea for him to pray for such situation for unborn generations.
But on topic of attraction, anyone can be attracted by anybody or anything unlike what society says but then again let’s consider the reality of things aside what we nor society says.

nwikpab:
Then I told her how she has been harassing me and all that. She said she thought I was my bro.
I now told her doesn't she know the difference between me and my bro?
She said why am I shouting like a woman that I should keep quiet else she shout too.
So I kept quiet and lay on my bed.

When the day broke completely before I went out for exercise, I asked her to bury everything and let it fly and she refused so I walked out.

I went out for morning exercise and by the time I came back, she has called my lil brother and he was around so I asked him if her lady has told him anything but he kept mute.

Next, he went and pick a stick to hit me with but I wasn't moved and went about preparing for my work.

I know I should have reported to him earlier but I needed to confront the girl in action, when she truly is awake.

The girl said that she will involve large group of people which I confronted her saying those were the people plotting to disgrace me.

Still at work now and I will go home when I close.

So, this is the shit I find myself in.

Op she is wanting to break the home. Avoid her, I repeat, avoid her.

Truvel:
U Don't Pay Tithe, Lol. Not Paying Tithe Is A Very Big Mistake. Dat's One Of D Reasons People Av Money Issues Or Unexplainable Loss.

I don’t know if you are just being sarcastic.... but I have to laugh.

AfroKnight:
If you're not interested in anything romantic, just respect yourself and don't push for a friendship. If you guys would be friends, it would happen naturally. Trying to orchestrate a friendship will look like "toasting" no matter how you present it, unless you go and say something stupeed like"Can I be your friend?". Then she would think you are a simp and walk all over you.

Let things happen naturally. Beware though. Some ladies take advantage of friendships and turn guys into handymen and ATM's.

Respect yourself and respect her privacy, and you will be fine.

you na sabi guy o. From their comment we sha know them.

Two bottle for you o

Jermaineayo:
Lool...you're on your own in this one.

And you came to Nairaland to ask how to be a friend with a girl when girl are everywhere looking for who to add to friend list. .

Tidy your side my man and use the big tricks although I don’t like compound paro. E dey cast many times.

Jermaineayo:
Thanks for your good mood and response.

But you and I know that you don’t just wanna be friends

Jermaineayo:
So the thing is...a lady moved in recently and I would like to know the best way to approach her.

Mind you, I'm not going to date her or have her in the other room... Additionally, I hate the idea of being a simp.

I just want to get a friend dasol. We greeted today and she gave a smile, I'm guessing that's not bad after all.

Gurus in the house please advise

If you want to be friend with her then simply keep showing friendly gestures at all times. She will gladly throw you into a friendzone quickly.
Being in friendzone is the easiest thing in the world. Even learners are legendary at this. Seek more advice from them.

GiantParrot:
Research on female sexual market value says she's in her decline

HEHEHE
Omo see research o. A lot of people marry after 30yrs sef and give birth to healthy children, so it is a general concept.
26 is an Ok age. I don’t think any woman should go so desperate at this age.

Donpaper:
Guy man, that thing dey pain, na the proximity dey bring up the issue. Girls never disgrace you before? However, let him forgive but as for marriage, there's no relationship between the duo, just situationship and entanglement

Na real situationship and entanglement
Guy I don loss count o, especially young girls make e con be say money nor dey. But wetin man gat do? After a long time if the person ask for forgiveness at some point I will forgive even if not immediately, no be just disgrace? She nor kill person na.

The problem I see here is even if you forgive person it doesn’t mean one should take them back. OP should have forgiven her, discuss with her and simply move on. That favour him come dey accept from the girl later on come make am enter entanglement now. Abeg it is not too late for am to sit the babe and let them part ways.

Donpaper:
Dorothy( of BBN) breast milk on you. That's why I tell people, women can be who they were created to be if they want. They all know what we want, but will never do it until they can gain something from it. Op, any girl that sweeps, cooks and shows love then have to coerce you into following you her to her parents is pretending and trying to manipulate you. That's not her true colors.She is just under pressure from her parents, and desperate to bring someone home. Why can't she disgrace you privately instead of publicly , being your sister's friend?

Nice point made. But it is not wise to hold up the part she disgrace the OP for so long na, it was the past and people could be naive.

GiantParrot:
What are the facts here?

1. She ridiculed you when she was at her prime

2. She's now on the decline, with much fewer suitors. So she's settling for the patient, nice guy. Where is your self respect?

3. You don't love her enough. Seems like the sex is the real deal here.

Marriage takes a toll on a person's finances and mental health. If you choose to tow that line, is she really worth it?

she is 26, which also means she has 3 yrs of playing around (based on societal standards this modern days). So she is still at her prime.

iyke926:
One part of you still wants to hurt her and that will make you feel relieved.

My advice: Forgive her and let it go or Forgive and kick her out. ☹️

it is not all that easy. Wounds need time and proper medical procedures to heal. If not it may never heal. Op needs to revisit the past and use the a proper healing technique. A psychologist is good here.

proxillin:
She has been mounting pressure on me to follow her to meet her parents. We have been in this relationship for a year now. Although she is not the only one I am dating. I am not sure of the other lady, but atleast this one is ready to marry me.

I perfectly understand your situation. The exact thing in you is the inability to erase the past attitude, it sends shiver down your spine and somehow you can’t let it go.
Please don’t make any move forward, you need to investigate why you still dwell in such thought, else you will never be free. And also please stop her from all the washing and favour you get, it makes the issue complicated. Those wounds deep down in you has not yet healed. You may have to revisit them. Until then move no further.

freshkpomo:
Chai false info flying like jet lol.



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God bless Nigeria

Op already said the pic was for illustration

MegaPlayBoy:
Bro, I have been using the sim for a few month now and I have made no such attempt.
I has removed the sim from my phone.
I will leave it and forget all about it

if not used for 6 month MTN will sell it to someone else and the person might have a criminal mindset and withdraw all the cash. Save a soul, help the soul resolve it. If you have the chance.

Chances also is it could be a dead man account.

stare:
beleive it or not some of us don't enjoy chasing someone for too long.. Its a humiliating process.. I've always gone by the "don't ask more than twice mentality" it means u're chasing someone that doesn't like you. Until last year.., I blended with my roommates' skimping ways and decided to give it a go,. Let's just say I deeply regretted it and I'm back to by proper default state.. It gives you peace of mind

chasing a girl for long isn’t a really bad thing but the said girl must worth the chase.

Secondly is that she should not be your only option, that is the biggest mistake you can make.

Also stop the chase if it becomes unproductive and it will not contribute to your life long plan any further. It is very difficult to know when sometimes but one should be vigilant.

TheWalkingMind:
You have no right telling anyone how to live their life. You barely get yours right.

Humanity and complications.

True but at same time this advice comes handy for some ladies who will run out of options later.

Mannyemmy:
if you're capable, contact me on whatsapp 08034868343 for business plan.
please don't quote me so i remove my number later because of web scrapers

I have quoted you

Please let her remain and grow there o, no need to reason here.

Nice something... started up with coding and I could say I was a prodigy myself, never got this platform though.... There are many like her, if only this God forsaken country could help them to brighter future.

ForeThinker:
I don’t know what straight man needs to hear this, but not every woman is replaceable. some are once-in-a-lifetime. if you find a girl who has a genuine heart, treats you good, makes you one of her priorities, connects with you on a deeper level, and does things for you and your family, all without being asked to, you need to understand that you are in the midst of an absolute gem. she really cares for you. everything she does is done out of pure kindness, consideration, and love. anything that you do to hurt her will ultimately only make her stronger and less tolerant of shitty behavior. if you ever Bleep up badly enough that she leaves, because you think she can be replaced, know that you are the one losing. not her. if she doesn’t choose to stay single, she’s going to find someone who reciprocates the effort she gives and appreciates every bit of it, every bit of her. meanwhile, you will spend the rest of your life trying to find pieces of her in every other woman you meet, hoping they might do you half as good as she once did when you were taking her for granted.

But you know say this life nor balance, I remember I have I have someone like this but I am not just romantically interested in her. I wish I was.