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4eyededoboy:
I can't believe at 28, I'm still yet to overcome this big challenge of mine.



It's the sole reason why I can't seem to successfully ask a girl out let alone get into a relationship with them. Because whenever I get hard it points 90degrees poking out like a pole and I usually quickly end the conversation and walk towards the other direction to save me from embarrassing myself in public. Because it would be visible even to the blind.



I don't know how guys control or not get hard, but each time I approach a lady on the streets, clubs, parties, pools, you name it. I get super hard in less than 30seconds of exchanging pleasantries.



Its always so embarrassing when it happens in public.

If my intentions aren't towards dating them, I don't get hard.





When I was in the University I had female friends we could talk forever and I won't get hard one bit; At my place of work right now, I'm very good at holding conversations with female colleagues and I never get hard.

But as soon as the thought of me asking them out crosses my mind, I instantly become rock hard.



And it's really funny that, 99% of the time I don't always imagine them being naked. But it just happens.





I really need your help great nairalanders in the house as this problem is killing me inside.

I've tried masturbating to ease my nerves but it never works.



As anyone faced this challenge before, how were you able to overcome it

You are suffering from anxiety

ApexBank:
Nobody:

Conspiracy theorists:
He was killed and corona virus is not the cause of death there is a cover up
He is anti trump so God is punishing him, He is an agent of NWO, he is a soviet communist, God is punishing him for his actions in Congo including assasin work

madness

SperoQuest:
Nigerians open your eyes and embrace the truth.

This is a confirmation of my previous thread below.
https://www.nairaland.com/5760985/coronavirus-apostle-johnson-suleman-exposes

Read the number 11 truth in the link to the thread above and see that what apostle Johnson Suleiman said was the hidden truth.

Our Nigerian government should not accept any testing kit from China.

Why is it that the cases in Nigeria started to rise after the test kits from the Chinese Billionaire arrived?

Nigeria should focus on our local herbs for cure and our Nigerian scientist should make more research on our local herbs.

We have the cure but we are neglecting the wonders of our local herbs.

Why are they threatening the French doctor that made the discovery of chloro Quine?

Why are they attacking trump for suggesting chloro Quine?

NIGERIANS open your eyes!!!!!

You are not making any sense you know

youngvikthor:
my brother was staying with my aunty since 2017 so early this year he decides to rent his own apartment after saving some money

so January this year he told my mum that I should come and stay with him that he will look for work for me.which he did, so since my arrival to this place, my cosin sister alway visit us. they house is not far from ours.she will come in name of helping us to cook.

while she and my brother will be touching themselves
even when am around ,most people in our compound taught she my brother's girlfriend .I also notice some used condom in our room and my brother did not have girlfriend.

fast forward to yesterday monday I whent to work
and our boss said we should go back due to the issue of this covid 19, I reach House only for me to see my sister lying dawn with just singlet ,playing game with my brother phone

and my brother was in the bathroom.I don't really know what to do if I should tell my mother or not,my aunty is such a kind person she at time give ours food stuff and even money.and I don't want my brother to get angry with me.please I need your help he 26 I'm just 21

Keep your head high, you need to find a way to catch them don’t stupidly confront them and don’t act like you know they are having sex. You are the last person to save your brother. Find a way to catch them and prove it.

After this phase, you may need to report it directly to someone who understands the complexity of the matter. This person may not be your parent nor your mom sister, it has to be someone who is mature and has the right enough to tell you cousin to leave as this is the ultimate solution to this problem, counseling has to follow. Don’t be afraid your brother will know it is you, you owe him no apology, also if he is a dangerous person flee from him as long as you can until he gathers himself together. Your family is about to explode and shame may rain in thousands. You can save it even if it means to pierce your brother heart for the moment, later he will understand and be eternally grateful to you.

Note: Ensure you prove beyond your own doubt that he is sleeping with your cousin. May God give you enough time to save the family.

Note: Don’t confront your brother to stop, he knows this and he still continue, the best he can do is to make you an accomplice or bribe you or hide things from you. Don’t make the msitake.

iClef:
Nice reply. Some archaic things are meant to be that way forever.

A man can pull his shirt on TV and no one will complain, but a woman can't do that. That's archaic, but it's good.

A woman can wear trouser and everyone will ignore, but a man wearing skirt will make people talk. That's archaic, but it's good.

A woman can apply makeup and no one will complain, but if a man does it, (Bobrisky) everyone will complain. That's archaic, but it's good.

There are things women shouldn't do and one of them is cheating on her man.

There are things men shouldn't do and one of them is physically abusing a woman.

What Africa needs is technology and a functional law, not African men being cheated on and labeling those men who hate being hated on "archaic" for not forgiving a cheating wife or girlfriend because she said she won't do it again.

Men forgive people, but they don't forgive a woman who cheated. Will you forgive your woman if she cheated on you three times? Yes or no?

I didn’t say them not forgiving their spouse when she cheat on them is bad, I am saying they should be ready to carry same cross when they cheat on their own spouse.
Ofcourse a man is not a woman and woman isn’t a man but there are some things that shouldn’t change between us based on our gender and those things should be how we respect each other. Beautiful people(I mean beautiful to mean Good) should be respected no matter what gender and bad people should not. If a woman is on her right she should not be cheated on so as a man.
Stay safe

iClef:
I wanted to yell at you, but I'm not that kind of person.

Let me tell you something and please, tell it to all women. "Men and women are different."

Starting from the day a man speaks with you, never you cheat on him. Men don't forgive cheating and NEVER will — it's our pride. If they say they have forgiven you, trust me, they are pretending.

Even if you carry Jesus along to come apologize to a man after cheating on him, he will not forgive you. For the sake of God, he will say he has forgiven you and starts acting normal for months or years or even marry you, but dear, he has not forgiven you.

One day, the marriage will crash with just a minor misunderstanding, but the underlying truth is: your cheating when the two of you were dating caused it.

After a woman has cheated, she should know no amount of tears or plea can make a man forgive her, but the man will pretend to have forgiven her.

Even if you forget everything I have told you above, don't forget "Men DON'T forgive women who cheated on them, but they'll pretend to have."

After a woman has cheated on a man, she should end the relationship IMMEDIATELY because it has already ended even though they are still having sex with each other and professing how much they love each other.

In the guy's mind, he is single and you're his f*ck buddy. One day, it will be finally made official when you'll see his new girl or hear he has wedded another women when you traveled to see your parents or someone.

At the end, you'll either start from scratch, commit suicide, or try to ruin his marriage.

Men are not fools, so women shouldn't be fooled after cheating on a man.

If you cheat on me, even Jesus can't make me forgive you, though, I'll still keep you as a friend and pretend to have forgiven you.

Telling a man to forgive a woman who cheated on him equals to telling him "you're an idiót." No real man wants to be an idiót — except being an idîot is hereditary to him.

A woman sees sex as "just sex and fun," but the original man of that woman sees it as DISRESPECT, DISREGARD, AND LACK OF FEAR FOR HIM. How will you feel if your child has no fear and respect for you as a woman? The same way you feel is how a man who has been cheated on feels.

Show me one man who wants his woman to disrespect, disregard, and don't have fear of him and I'll show you a weak man who will die early during marriage — which the death is caused by the women.

High BP and depression awaits any man who forgives a cheating woman or a nagging woman.

Two things a woman should NEVER do to someone like me is cheat or nag. Your beauty, money, intelligence, Godly pretentious behavior, fat ass, big breast, etc. won't save you.

So, I'm angry with you for saying he should forgive her. Men don't forgive a woman who has cheated on them, but men will always pretend to have forgiven.

Though, weak men with low self-esteem and are poverty-stricken who can't get another woman will forgive. When this same weak man becomes rich, he will remember how you cheated on him years ago and divorce you, starts sleeping with small girls or a get a second wife. You'll be in his house, but like a slave. You won't know where his anger is coming from.

Na that time you go tell your pastor to come counsel the two of you. After several attempts by the pastor to make you people become one happy family again to no avail, you too will start sleeping with the pastor and one day the pastor will be caught.

At the end, the cheating you did in your 20s to your boyfriend, now husband, has crashed your marriage, your pastor's marriage, and the image of the Church.

You see? So don't cheat on your boyfriend and if you accidentally cheat, end the relationship because the wrath awaits you in the future if you continue.

One woman's cheating habit can break a nation. A cheat never changes even though he/she vowed to have changed — it's just a word or fake remorse. No be today yash dey for back.

A word is enough and I speak from wisdom bestowed on me from above and from experience.

Thank you and all the best.


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Extra Info:

Here is the guy's thread https://www.nairaland.com/5763822/girlfriend-confesses-how-ex-force

Here is the post I wanted to recommend for him to read before I saw that advice that got me angry. https://www.nairaland.com/5698470/how-know-wife-cheat-even

you dey write o . Nice post sha

But if women can forgive Men while should men not same. That is just been stereotypic.

Men who wouldn’t forgive people because she cheated should be ready to carry same cross when they do same. Our society has advance beyond those archaic way of doing things, although Africa is lagging behind seriously.

DriggityDre:
This is OP's definition of beautiful
OP is probably an ape

laughter wan kill me here

chuksemeka30:
Hello friends, pls I need your contribution on this. I wronged my girl since three months we have not been in touch but yesterday we started talking. Her family too I wronged them because she brought me home to be with them and my the first guy in her life.

I want to get a gift for her mum on 5th April which is her birthday and ask for forgiveness from them and move on for I truly love her so much. I want her back into my life

Don’t apologies like your life and survival depends on their acceptance. Apologies for the wrong you did. Infact your actions of humbleness will do 70% work for you, the talk is just to make a contract. While apologizing don’t give people the wrong impression.

BTW how did you even wrong them. I am suspecting you

Goodmarlian:
medically masturbation has no side effects its just like sex infact it is safer than sex because its risk free no stds or stis can be contracted all those are the psychical side of it but no one would tell you about the spiritual negative side effect of it and its real.

There are many spiritual negative side effect of masturbation but the most scary and deadly one is when you get involved with A demon called incubus and succubus. incubus is male while succubus is female( spirit wife and husband) these demons are real and they come in different forms in your imagination and dreams when you get deep into mastirbation.your thoughts are things that can come physical they manipulate your imaginations during the act coming in different forms in form of your ex, your girlfriend or your crush when you are performing the act. or when you are dreaming anyone you see in your dream trying to have sex with you leaing to wet dreams these demons are responsible for it .well i dont know what they are trying to achieve by involving themselves with your sexlife maybe spiritualist can explain better.but all i know is that during my teenage years i was a chronic masturbator i had so many encounters and attacks from these spirits some will choke you at night when sleeping you try to rescue yourself but to no avail until it decides to leave you doctors call these sleep paralysis but its not .it is a demonic attack.
stop masturbation for we battle not against flesh and blood but with principalities and powers.

Stop this nonsense spiritual talk. If only people would get their tongue cut off when they lie against spirit, you wouldn’t be talking. If those two spirit are worrying you, solve your own issue abeg

chimmyf:
I desperately need advise. I have this friend, a guy and we've been friends over the years. We are very close, infact, he is the only one i can call a friend. We have shared so many secrets together, been through stuff together. Recently, we started making out but after few weeks, i become uncomfortable with it and asked to stop. He said he was ok with it but then, his attitude changed from then. He stopped calling(he used to call 3 or more times a day). I tried to reach out to him but his response was very cold. Eventually, he visited after a week of silence. We talked about the whole issue and he said he doesnt know if our friendship is right, that his friend had said that i am a lesbian. I didnt say anything and he left my house angrily. Since then, we have not spoken to each other, not even chatted on social media. I miss him badly, i know he misses me too. What should i do? Should i call him or ignore him for a while?
Thanks in anticipation.

Make up your mind.
Are you his friend with benefit?
Are you his lover?
Are you just his friend?

You cannot be two of this option at a time, you can only be one.

Your answer determine what your action will be

mascot87:
It's a choice to believe whoever and whatever. Your choice brother

exactly what I was expected. How easy it is for people to say “believe me”.

mascot87:
Repeat after me. "Corona virus is not a death sentence"
Say after me. "Myself, family,friends & loved one will neither be infected nor die from corona virus"

Observe all the safety rules & you will be fine. If you contact it one way or the other, you will not die from it believe you me.

why should we believe you?

[quote author=RlGHTEOUSNESS89 post=87943496][/quote]what is the importance of your post and it pictures??

payperpost:
paper distribution will aid the spread of the virus, the editors should use their brain for now, my phone is sufficient for now

your phone! You speak for yourself

Onojanson:
Am not saying he is right or i belief him, but anything is possible.

Not this time, he knows something.
Our securities force is very weak at investigation else this is kind of easy.

Quite alright he may not be the one to do the direct crime but he has something he didn’t add to the story.

BetProf:
At the end of the day, God will proof to mankind that He is still in control

when would you have sense. Did God tell you anywhere He was the one who caused the disease. Please be careful of blasphemy. Stop repeating and typing things you hear from people and some men of God. Learn to find out truth for yourself. God is not a man you should play with and give him vain accolades for things he didn’t do. He doesn’t need it and you doing this is a serious sin.

Tpave:
Lol...I think it's a nollywood movie

The picture is making me laugh

Looooooo:
In this time people are still doing trafficking

Has there been any good time to traffick?

Johnnyessence:
nothing happens jare, abegi.

you only type this with your keypad. I could do same by typing “it will”. Typing is cheap

Johnnyessence:
Still one death so far. Nigeria immune system is very strong.

Ignorance is a false sense of safety but at last when danger comes the ignorant ones fall like a pack of domino cards

FemiOyewoleGCFR:
I don't manage any church
So it is anybody's right to spend their hard earned money but I can tell you only few people will pay....
Why? It is because the lock down will cause hunger

Most people who spend their hard earn money is because they were grossly mislead and they where taught to have the fear of sinning against the God their pastors served but certainly not Jehovah. Jehovah is not a printed money hungry God, who will bless men that throw paper notes and digit into the bank account of churches, A pastor will quote the punishment of the Levites to a faint heart believer and out of fear he will pay his hard earn money. Latter same pastor will say they didn't force the member to pay, he did it of his own accord.

Now where are the miracles centers and workers, where are they? God may forgive Nigeria of their sins and wash us anew. How our health system and economic has collapse so sudden. Pathetic.

It is well. stay safe.

Simran94:
It is not in a believer’s place to Judge, for it is written “Thou shall not Judge or thy Father in heaven would Judge Thee”

You are a baby christian. You seem to be re-echoing the Bible verse you heard from some men of God somewhere. I am sure you may not know were that verse comes from and if you do I don't think you understand it. Let me confuse you more.

1. Who was that verse for?

2. Does this mean we should be silent as children of God and watch the slanderer destroy our utters.

3. If your answer to do is NO the second question, then what did the bible say we do against people who has covenant to destroy the house of God and turn it into a market place?

4. lastly who was John 7:24 and[b] John 5 : 22 [/b] referring to? Does it contradict your initial statement of Luke 6:37 ( even though you quoted it wrongly)

STUDY THE WORD DEEPLY TO SHOW THYSELF APPROVED 2 Timothy 2:15

liverpool72:
And don't forget these mentioned plague did not bring the world to a stand still.I might not actually be in support of the Apostle but don't forget that the devil too had always been looking for a way to implement their plan and this might be perfect depending on when the rapture will take place which we all know is imminent.
Brother, let's just pray God should have mercy on us that we should not be part of their plan when it happen otherwise it shall be terrible .

When our leader where massively looting the country treasury and the citizen where passively complaining and doing nothing, to make matter worse pastor and prophet were busy prophesying and teaching riches and prosperity, yet gross poverty was looming Nigeria all day. Now ordinary Corona Virus that China that has 65% atheist were able to contain within three months has suddenly become END TIME for we Nigerians. This is pathetic I have to share this country with this sort of people.

"There are choices we're making, we are saving our lives. Let make a better day, you and me"

liverpool72:
pray u not eventually caught up unaware

is there anything you really have to say that is tangible?
You lots are always like "I pray this and that", you people barely say anything realistic or practical.
Your kind of Christianity is nothing close to Jesus.

FemiOyewoleGCFR:
Now, you are talking with your complete senses
For you to know I am not 'una'
I saw it coming (this answers your question).

You're the witness of your vision.
Many churches are asking for tithes up and down when there is an economic lock down.
So sad

FemiOyewoleGCFR:
If you have nothing sensible to type why not mind your business
Oh I have forgotten the lock down has rendered you jobless!

So so prophetic this and that.

When it was coming una no see am

FemiOyewoleGCFR:
This is the truth because I had the same revelation..
If you don't believe then make your own truth

Get lost jare

SperoQuest:
Hmmm you are absolutely right.

The high percentage of the world population that is turning away from God is disturbing.

you know you’re not serious

Righteousness89:
Only the Spirtual Minded will understand!

I wasn't Suprised when I heard this Last night! GOD Almighty has been Speaking! It's not Different from what we have been pouring out here by Divine guidance!

Everyone should make Peace with GOD..

It will be a Grave Disater not to!

shut it jare

SperoQuest:
You need the spirit of GOD to understand the things of the spirit.

If you are in the prophetic, you will know that both Adeboye and Suleiman are saying the same thing.

God is allowing the Corona virus because man must seek his face in order for him to react.

Demented

AsomughaChuks05:
Jonathan greets Tinubu at 68. Remain Atiku, I hope he is not bearing grudges. Tinubu is a national asset. Even PDP leaders know his value.

only if you know that their supporter is more of the enemy than them themselves.

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