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Lol. You are high.

H2ho:
Hold this girl @Sterope

Who knows....she might be your second wife you've been searching for

I didn't ask for all this please.

It doesn't make your actions right. I am sure she would have a lot to say about you too. It is what it is. The solution is not what you intend to do.

It is cruel!

freeman5050:
You call it Flims.. Huh? You have not experience what Love & Marriage all about. Its deep my baby girl. There is more to it than you think. Have you considered loving your wife so dearly but she has never reciprocate ever before. Instead you and you wife do have Sex instead of love making. Insults upon insult. Disgrace upon disgrace just to make your marriage work...
No joy? No kiss. Emotional pains.
Let me tell you....Life is too short if you dont know. Is even in the bible that there will be a time when 7 wife's to 1 man.

If you are going to betray your wife for that flimsy reason and because you think you can do better, I wish you the best of luck.

freeman5050:
I never said so, I just heard it from you for the first time. Meanwhile I am not and will never be....babes

Right. You should be God .

We should worship you.

freeman5050:
I have learnt my lessons from the first one.
It will definitely help me to evaluate the second one.

Is your wife going to stop giving you unnecessary headaches?

Is the second wife going to be purrfect?

freeman5050:
My brother, you be correct guy. I am married with a son already. But I am considering of getting second one and keep her in another city. I like kids, but my major issue why I put it into consideration due to my current wife whom I love so much give me more headaches over unnecessary issues. So I think I need to search for more calm person but my wife will not know now till when we get to 55 and above.

Number 3 is not true.

meobizy:
1. Carry your cross.

2. If you want, you can marry up to eight and even ten women. After the second wife, the rest start bursting out of the woodworks.

3. More than one wife is the quickest way to poverty mentality. Some governors are scared to leave their position because fending for their four wives and thirty plus children gives them sleepless nights.

He could get a dog not cats or women. Dogs are more malleable.

I don't care about what you think.

Oluromantic:
A big yes. Perhaps you've been deeply influenced by the modern day civilization, divorce bla bla. A submissive woman will be happy to be groomed. If you're not one, start working towards being one i suggest, your temperament or profession regardless. This isn't about being chauvinistic.

That's where the title "bridegroom" came from. A man is to groom the bride. That's God's(the creator of marriage) idea. But these days people believe they know a lot about marriage and relationship more that the creator who initiated the idea and so they bring lots of confusing ideas to relationship problems whereas the simple solution exists

Any conscience-stricken woman will have no problem with the embolden in your quote. Simple.

Is he Sangō Olukoso?

The idea of grooming someone doesn't that sound iffy and narcissistic to you. I am assuming the woman we are talking about is a full-grown adult with all the experiences and intelligence expected from an adult.

Oluromantic:
Me weh come from polygamous background, I no go advice make you marry 2 wives o no matter how much you get money. Forget education, I no wan call you mumu. Who tell you say education dey avoid charm in women...see mumu o. You just wan use your life play game.

Now that you've grown mature and decisive. Get a woman that you're compatible with and groom her to your taste. Let her know your firm standards and stick to her. A good woman will not only respect you, she won't be able to look you in the eye when she offends you.

Two wives no be solution. Once you marry two, the desire to marry the third and fourth will grow in you and your poverty will advance

How does education stop wickedness, charm, or not?

Your choice, so far the parties know what they are getting into.

The bolded!!! It is all about the money and the money and the money.

pocohantas:
And it didn’t occur to you that women have their fears too? Some would also gladly sit at home if they find husbands that can shoulder ALL bills without calling them liabilities.

Did it occur to you that some women are the ones training their siblings in school?

Did it occur to you that some have aged parents that need financial support?

Did it occur to you that some have dreams and aspirations? There is a reason their parents sent them to school and they went too.

You don’t need to find an African woman that will feed you without NAGGING. At no point have NIGERIAN men fed their wives without NAGGING or rubbing it in her face. Feeding your own families is what brought about y’all God complex in the first place. I feed her, so I can cheat. I paid her bride price, so I can beat her. Yet when a woman is nice enough to feed you, you can’t bring down your coconut head to be submissive and ENDURE.

I have aunties that were housewives and I know the shît I saw when I visited. There was one they didn’t born well to put on the generator when her husband is not home. Na she buy fuel? She dares not! Yet she was a housewife till she couldn’t take it again, she started a business.

It is about SACRIFICE for most women, but you men are so smart never to put yourselves in that position. Tomorrow when you are ready to fling her out of the house, you will fling her away without spoon sef. Suddenly her caregiving would become immaterial to the family’s success.

Sit your ass home and do it for your kids.

Do you walk around with a wet ass?

Plut01:
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Water and soap do it better


How do people feel after using tissue paper seff. It is very unAfrican to use tissue paper after toilet. Imaging using tissue paper to wipe your hairy ass? Tell me how e go clean. Tell me how you go move freely.


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Tissue, water and soap then tissue.

The calendar that guides the other half of your life? Okay o

Unserious people!

The hospitals don't communicate the test results to the FG. They expect you to do the test, confirm if you have done and update them.

What is stopping the in-laws from preparing food for themselves and their guests?

Her in-laws are not more important.

humilitypays:
This has always been a problem in Nigerian weddings. Nigerian brides need to talk to their people before weddings that her in–laws are more important than any other guest from her side, our ladies always fail in this regard, always thinking the wedding day is a day for her and her family to entertain their family and friends leaving the in–laws hungry.


It almost ended a marriage I attended its wedding some years back if not for timely intervention

He could have sponsored the trip and if not, she is being stupid like many women before her. No one needs to know who sponsored the trip.

Good parent can turn bad parent. She is not there to monitor whether he will remain a good parent.

You don't know if he is shackled up with one of those crazy London women. Who spends time with them when he is away at work? What if they want to talk to their mother? What about her wanting to speak to the kids she nurtured?

A good father will not pull that stunt unless his wife is psycho. The promise of a better life isn't enough to let a child three children go.

magkhan:
This is relative really. A man can be a bad husband but a good father. The two roles are mutually exclusive.

@ poster I know you are hurt but look on the bright side, if they are truly in the UK don’t do anything to sabotage that move and bring them back to this Nigeria. They have a better future in UK than in Nigeria. If he is a good father and you know they’ll be fine with him, as painful as it can be, let them stay in UK with him. You look for a way to negotiate constant communication with them to stay in touch that’s paramount.

Then take the separation to develop yourself, I mean you’ve been given a ticket out of a bad marriage. Channel the pain and heartbreak to pursue success. Your kids will ALWAYS remain your kids. And who says you can’t relocate yourself to UK to be close to your kids?. Hopefully you are an independent woman. You can achieve a lot if you set your mind to it. But really don’t drag those kids back to Nigeria.

https://www.reunite.org/

@TemiBami2020

You should contact that charity, they may be able to help you.

You don't need to insult him. It is what it is.

bstan12:
am just holding back not to insult you. They should deport him and the kids cause of one woman. She should travel over there and find them .

She could have been a terrible wife to deserve this OR this man is an actual monster.

Until you have all the information, don't judge

thesicilian:
Sorry for your predicament. But a man does not just suddenly wake up and run away with 3 children because of the regular "shares of ups and downs in marriage". And how was he even able to process his and the kids travel documents without you knowing?
Start the story from the beginning.

There is nothing new about this information

I don't believe my generation is going to be better than my parent's.

Every thing is always an issue. The unnecessary gender attack and silly takes.

I don't have time for silly takes this early morning.

maynia:

Poor people do the most

Lmao. Many rich Muslims aren't celebrating either. Many rich and poor *conscious Muslims aren't celebrating. They wont even celebrate the prophet Muhammad's either.

Mo Salah and a couple of other celebrities do not represent all rich Muslims.

maynia:
Many poor Muslims** are not meant to celebrate

We are not supposed to celebrate. There many Muslims that don't celebrate than those that do.

foleskay:
Make we hear word. Muslims also celebrate Mohammed birthday too, that's y we hv maulud nabiy. Aregebesola used to declare d holiday for it during his time as gov. Dem go say ojo obi anabi or whatever.

We don't live in a homogenous society

She has done well for herself but 1.3billion?

Same Rita that prophesied on Trump

Lol. The assumption that some brothers and fathers won't even join sef

Thank God for my family.