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Unserious people!

The hospitals don't communicate the test results to the FG. They expect you to do the test, confirm if you have done and update them.

What is stopping the in-laws from preparing food for themselves and their guests?

Her in-laws are not more important.

humilitypays:
This has always been a problem in Nigerian weddings. Nigerian brides need to talk to their people before weddings that her in–laws are more important than any other guest from her side, our ladies always fail in this regard, always thinking the wedding day is a day for her and her family to entertain their family and friends leaving the in–laws hungry.


It almost ended a marriage I attended its wedding some years back if not for timely intervention

He could have sponsored the trip and if not, she is being stupid like many women before her. No one needs to know who sponsored the trip.

Good parent can turn bad parent. She is not there to monitor whether he will remain a good parent.

You don't know if he is shackled up with one of those crazy London women. Who spends time with them when he is away at work? What if they want to talk to their mother? What about her wanting to speak to the kids she nurtured?

A good father will not pull that stunt unless his wife is psycho. The promise of a better life isn't enough to let a child three children go.

magkhan:
This is relative really. A man can be a bad husband but a good father. The two roles are mutually exclusive.

@ poster I know you are hurt but look on the bright side, if they are truly in the UK don’t do anything to sabotage that move and bring them back to this Nigeria. They have a better future in UK than in Nigeria. If he is a good father and you know they’ll be fine with him, as painful as it can be, let them stay in UK with him. You look for a way to negotiate constant communication with them to stay in touch that’s paramount.

Then take the separation to develop yourself, I mean you’ve been given a ticket out of a bad marriage. Channel the pain and heartbreak to pursue success. Your kids will ALWAYS remain your kids. And who says you can’t relocate yourself to UK to be close to your kids?. Hopefully you are an independent woman. You can achieve a lot if you set your mind to it. But really don’t drag those kids back to Nigeria.

https://www.reunite.org/

@TemiBami2020

You should contact that charity, they may be able to help you.

You don't need to insult him. It is what it is.

bstan12:
am just holding back not to insult you. They should deport him and the kids cause of one woman. She should travel over there and find them .

She could have been a terrible wife to deserve this OR this man is an actual monster.

Until you have all the information, don't judge

thesicilian:
Sorry for your predicament. But a man does not just suddenly wake up and run away with 3 children because of the regular "shares of ups and downs in marriage". And how was he even able to process his and the kids travel documents without you knowing?
Start the story from the beginning.

There is nothing new about this information

I don't believe my generation is going to be better than my parent's.

Every thing is always an issue. The unnecessary gender attack and silly takes.

I don't have time for silly takes this early morning.

maynia:

Poor people do the most

Lmao. Many rich Muslims aren't celebrating either. Many rich and poor *conscious Muslims aren't celebrating. They wont even celebrate the prophet Muhammad's either.

Mo Salah and a couple of other celebrities do not represent all rich Muslims.

maynia:
Many poor Muslims** are not meant to celebrate

We are not supposed to celebrate. There many Muslims that don't celebrate than those that do.

foleskay:
Make we hear word. Muslims also celebrate Mohammed birthday too, that's y we hv maulud nabiy. Aregebesola used to declare d holiday for it during his time as gov. Dem go say ojo obi anabi or whatever.

We don't live in a homogenous society

She has done well for herself but 1.3billion?

Same Rita that prophesied on Trump

Lol. The assumption that some brothers and fathers won't even join sef

Thank God for my family.

Well, their expectations might have been too high on both sides

chrisj2:
I disagree to some extent on the issues of misogyny and African men not be able to adjust. Some have been abroad for many many years and have had relationships with western Washington men both black or white. There is just something different about bringing someone abroad and those brought over developing serious wings even when the men are no different from their white counterparts. Oyinbo men too do misogyny and their women too can be as submissive...

Black women at times have the Jezebel complex and get too angry...

Did you read what I wrote?

Mikehot:
who told you the issue is about chores?

If you went through this post from the start you would realize the women are not complaining about chores but that the man shouldn't feel he deserve a say "for mere bringing a woman abroad" they say that abroad isn't heaven hence whenever the woman finds her feet financially she can choose to go solo if she wishes just because "she can't be a slave to the man by contributing in one purse and using it together"

Regardless of how the man spent his all to bring the woman, raise her up at his own expense.

Great points but it applies to both genders please.

You bring your culture of misogyny and ego to a different country with a culture. I understand that it is ingrained in some of you and it might be difficult to change but at least try. Don't leave all the chores to your wife. Engage your kids too. Then some these men that choose to abandon their financial responsibility because of child benefit. They would rather spend on GFS and young ladies back home.



The women, suddenly they desire better. They want live an more expensive lifestyle. The picture of the abroad is not what they expected. Then in some cities, you see them in very silly competitions from the number of bfs, owanbe, number of houses they have in Nigeria.

Stay outside many of the big cities or keep to yourself.

Influencers have carried their bambiala to Nigeria

Some people are very greedy. That investment is too much of a burden and power for both parties.

pocohantas:
If my parents didn’t have the funds to train me in school, I for go learn hairdressing.

Education is a lifetime investment. Anyone who gives you that has given you a lot. That’s too much power in the hands of a Nigerian man that isn’t ones father. Me no fit guarantee you say I go marry you and I no go like make you come dey cry “after all I did for her”, e no dey hard una.

No train me abeg. Go train your mama...

No correlation please

JovialJune:
Better dont kill yourself from unnecessary hate, or have HBP.

I know him. Isn't he a public figure? A brute who slapped a poor defenseless girl some years back? A power-hungry bully who forced his family to convert and cursed his step-mother that remained a Muslim? Put your CU education into good use. I attack that brute not his faith.

Don't mind me. I skipped the BS you were typing.

He surely did but let's not forget the simpletons that paid for the schools too. Too bad their children would never go there. He would rather build more churches than help them.

JovialJune:
Funny thing is that, you are a Muslim

If non Muslims were to be all over you guys restricted threads, y'all will be all over the place complaining, look at way you've been castigating a man you don't know from Adam

You Muslims are known terrorists, and you're saying Oyedepo terrorised his family, the falsehood and irony lol

Who said Oyedepo will live forever? Pls learn to read well.

All this for me! You barely know a damn thing about me! Alumni hellfire!

JovialJune:
You all will continue to cry and wail till eternity,

Oyedepo and CU will continue to exist forever, he has placed a mark on earth and through his school, has put Nigeria in the limelight academically, go check the stats,

I am a proud alumni and will forever be

You, my dear full, will continue to be an inconsequential and a nobody(except God intervene in your life anyway)

Best believe.

If you were a slave in the 1700, you would have been part of those who resisted freedom

odu2007:
See enn, only God would help us. Many youth are always speaking against discipline. I graduated from University of Ilorin, and you dare not try and wear skimpy dresses or barb one stupid hair style, you will be charged and expelled. They already told us all this things right from the day we were writing post ume and yet people will still complain as if they were not told. The man of God is running the school for kingdom's sake, that is you were a bad boy before came to CU, you must repent before going back, the school is meant for God.

Come on, he can't continue to exist forever

He is a man. He is going to die like everyone else, like me too. He can be crushed by a trailer. His plane can just drop off the sky.

He is a false prophet. The death of his step-mothrt proves it! He dines with the devil.

JovialJune:
You all will continue to cry and wail till eternity,

Oyedepo and CU will continue to exist forever, he has placed a mark on earth and through his school, has put Nigeria in the limelight academically, go check the stats,

I am a proud alumni and will forever be

You, my dear full, will continue to be an inconsequential and a nobody(except God intervene in your life anyway)

Best believe.

LMAO. God will judge you for being a fool


What he did, what he has done, is nothing new. His prophecy to his step-mother has failed to pass. He is a false prophet. Many Christians who converted did that years back. Deal with it!

JovialJune:
If you are not from Kwara state or Omu-Aran, or part of his family to know this, God will judge you for lying.

What do you expect a man that terrorized and threatened his family into converting into Christianity?

Learn, speak, think, watch and listen in German. It will help a lot towards getting PR and still be able to save towards home!