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oliverwrites:
My daughters ( 3 of them ) have been through a lot this year. They are not used to daddy not being around ( Me and their mother are currently separated but I am hoping she would change and we would be back together ), so far the seem to be coping fine but I want to make this Christmas an awesome one for them and need gift ideas.

Please give me gift ideas.

I have a budget of 200k for each of them. This includes 100k each for their clothes and shoes for Christmas and New year.

And another 100k to buy them gifts they will like. They all have ulesson tablets so tablets are not options.

They are 7, 4 and 3.

Do those kids have a savings bank account each that you are saving into for their future use? If yes, how often are you funding the accounts and if no, that is what you should do.

GVTAsiwaju:
How do I erase it? I've tried everything possible

The major problem you are having is that you see yourself as the problem as if your ex. wife was a saint. Before you can get her out of your mind, you must come to terms with the fact that she has her own shortcomings too. If not, the marriage would have survived because she would have complemented your efforts to make things work for the family.

Realizing the above will help you forgive yourself, help you to heal and free you from the bondage of adoring her.

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Jjhunt:
What about the woman that sleep around?

This one is worse. She can give it freely to gateman, driver, house boy, neighbors, husband friends, ex-lovers, etc

ademola2017:
In 2017, i expressed my deep concerns on nairaland about my now ex wife double dating game before we got married, her attitude towards me and how the relationship was one sided.

I got several advices to let her go but decided to give the marriage another chance but it eventually crashed in March 2022. We did all we could to save the marriage but to no success. We were done patching. No child was involved and absolutely nothing to show for the marriage after 8years of being together. I still feel the pain but it gets better everyday.
I credit myself for not cheating on her till our last days together and even months after our separation.

After several months of being celibate, I had sex with a young 25year old lady. I met her through a family friend 2 months before she got pregnant

Just one intercourse, she became pregnant. At first, i doubted it because I laboured very hard to father a child for 8yrs and with just one sexual intercourse, someone is carry my baby?? with me being very knowledgable about calculating ovulation dates and timely intercourse, it conformed so I had to accept the pregnancy as a sign from God.

Deep down, my new partner and I do not love each other but the respect for each other is on point. We have ZERO expectations from each other. We communicate well and have started living together in peace. No arguements, no drama and no issues at all.

I changed my mindset by taking her as my younger sister and she does same by taking me as an older brother.

It feels strange to be at so much peace with someone that I dont love at all. Our baby is coming and I am scared things may change when the true reality sets in.

What do you guys think?

You guys like each other already just that you are not obsessed with each other.

Know that with respect to opposite sex, you only respect who you like and in the long, mutual respect and regards from one another is the winning code.

So, give it time, you guys will get better in treating yourselves right. Just make sure you guys are ready to be there for one another for the long term.

I see. Na now daybreak abi? Una go explain tire! The fear of #2024 elections is on them.

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Jayboi:
Good day everyone. I have been wondering how married men in diaspora with their wives/family in Nigeria cope when they develop sexual urges. I know women can still try and hold body o but men!
For instance, I know up to ten married men staying in the UAE/Qatar with their families here in Nigeria. Infact they visit just once in a year and make sure their families/wives get the best form of comfort. After, they are off again for months. I don't want to believe they just remain celebate throughout. Or are there Oloshos or prostitutes in the middle east?

They mostly cheat over there and their wife cheat over here! Q.E.D

It is a normal phase of life. How he handles it determines his future success!

As for the monotonous issues, this is a fallacy and a sign of lack of motivation for what he is doing. It is mostly fueled by fulfilment plus the Oliver twist syndrome but in most cases, doesn't ends well because it is usually devoid of logic but a mere emotional tantrum.

Imagine Elon Musk deciding he needs to explore again and giving up all he has built in pursuit of uncertainty!!

It is a natural thing that have to be put in check and managed properly. You build the business until you can retire early while the business still remains one of your steady cash cows and then go on to focus on other things like Jack Ma of Alibaba did recently. He is now into what he mostly wanted to do and have passion for, Education!

kcstyle40:
Good day beautiful people,
I am in a bit of a fix and need advice on how best to confront this situation .

There is this mama put restaurant besides my house in lagos but separated by a fence.
However the said restaurant is built attached to the fence in the next compound and that makes it awfully close to my windows and they cook with firewood not even charcoal but all manner of firewood.

The owner of the mama-put a yoruba woman ( very hard working ) starts cooking by 6 a.m up till 11 p.m with smokes going up and into the windows of my bedroom ( upstairs) and other rooms in my house making my room very stuffy and causing me to keep shutting all my windows .

Personally I can't stand any form of smoke be it cigarettes or smokes from burning stuffs

With the high cost of fuel I can't keep running Gen to keep my rooms ventilated and power supply is poor in my area .

I have thought of approaching her concerning this matter but from my observation the woman is very harsh n raze and I fear she might not reason with me .

I understand it's her means of livelihood but I am suffering cus of it and all my cloths in my wardrobes are all smelling smoke ... My room has smoke smell as a result of this , it only reduces if I keep my windows shut for weeks .
I hate problems and I avoid conflicts in every way ... But I have been suffering this for long now

Is there any authority I can report to ?

Or is there a better way to make her understand my plight and switch to cooking with gas without appearing like her enemy of progress ?

Please your advice is needed thanks

She can't change to using gas because of you as it might not be profitable for her business.

If all the windows in your flat are not on that side, then you can find a solution to it for yourself. What I will suggest is during the day/early morning when she cooks, permanently lock those set of windows and only open them at night.

You can then plan your leaving that house if you can't manage it this way indefinitely.

Joseph099:
I STOPPED PLAYING BET9JA VIRTUAL THIS YEAR. MEHHN WHAT A FEAT. I know why I wrote that in capital letters. Because this is the first time I've used a phone for a full year. And really lived peacefully like a human being.

Congratulations

People have started hoarding it in anticipation of the initial December deadline for the use of the old naira notes.

Dtruthspeaker:
Then it is that time that they would start shouting and wailiing all over the place and running helter skelter looking for everybody to forgive them.

Ya, true

amnesty7:
I always wonder how wicked and mean people honestly see themselves. For example, someone who humiliates their househelp all the time or the neighbour who terrorises the whole neighborhood how do they actually feel or people that will steal from accident scenes? I always wonder.

They are always satisfied, feel being smart and happy until nemesis catch-up with them!

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Why reading any extra meaning to a cheerful gesture?

Even if they intends to make a point with the gesture, you just collecting the gift and not giving a fvck would have does it...

Congratulations!!!

More winnings and elevations!!!

So true

jarmy:
I have a little poultry and my wife helps me to sell the eggs within the neighborhood.

She insisted that I must pay her 100 naira for every crate she sells. I said she should accept 50 naira but she refused and said I should sell my eggs myself.

My people is this normal?

Don't see it from your perspective. Rather, see it as a win-win for both of you.