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Family › Re: Who Gets Jealous The Most Between A Man And The Woman In A Relationship/marriage by Stevenbright(m): 11:12pm On Oct 01, 2023

MrsTwrite:
Women.

It is not a gender thing.

At times, it is the one with the most damaged past with respect to body counts. He or she will always suspect the partners moves. Just like thieves always suspects all other people to be thieves.

At other times, it is the most faithful among the partners if he or she feels the partner is not trustworthy.

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Family › Re: My Sister Married An Efulefu. What Should She Do? by Stevenbright(m): 2:14pm On Sep 30, 2023

Jewessgratitud3:
He does one part-time business that doesn't sell all the time like that. I think that's how he gets his money but it's not like a regular job that brings in steady money. Instead of him to go look for a regular job that he's sure of getting money every month, he'll rather sleep all through.

I've told my sis to advise him to get a Keke or car for Uber, she said he'll be forming a whole lawyer. Lawyer for this hard time that every body is doing any kind of hustle to put food on the table for their family? Hian!

Even me as a lady I have thought of riding danfo a long time ago when I didn't have anything doing. Nothing wey no come my head that period until I now prayerfully asked God to direct me and lead me to the path I am today. It wasnt rosy at first cos I was earning 18k then but I continued just to be leaving the house and from there I continued till I got here. Why will a man not use his brain and do same?

I see family men coming to schools everyday and to look for jobs and they are getting jobs, can't he do same pending when his dream job comes? Na to dey speak English up and down instead of putting that English to good use and make money.

Alright, I see.

No body waits for a dream job to come to him or her because even if it eventually does come, that individual won't be prepared/ready for it as he or she may have rusted away in-terms of experience/mental ability over time and that opportunity will pass on to the next available prepared person.

But next time, still be a bit fair to others by making it clear he does something which he is not getting regular income from probably because he is not really committed to it.

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Family › Re: My Sister Married An Efulefu. What Should She Do? by Stevenbright(m): 1:44pm On Sep 30, 2023

I want to understand this, does he currently pays the children school fees? If yes, where does he gets the money from, since he doesn't works?

As for your sister:
If the man is totally irresponsible like you painted the situation, she needs to move to her own rented apartment with her children.

She should not make the mistake of giving birth again.

She should also look into starting her school again even if it means starting it as a children only school and expand its scope with time.

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Romance › Re: How To Deal With A Neighbor's Very Active Sexual Life by Stevenbright(m): 7:54pm On Sep 28, 2023

Cogs:
Hi guys,

This subject is important to me and I need some kinda mature advise and some funny ones as our custom is over here.

So, I have been in this house that I live for a while, everything has been going on smoothly. But, recently some guy moved in to the flat directly beside mine, this guy is single, and looks great and a lot of things changed.

Fast forward to the present day, this guy has this girl who comes around every weekend and sometimes during the week and I have been working from home throughout this month and I my ear is full really. They have sex almost every minute and the lady moans really loud, I can't get in between them na. Some times, if there is light, I play music very loud, to help protect the other neighbours from participating in their ceremony as their young teenagers also in the compound.

But guys, the frequent moaning sound is kinda tormenting. I am not single, I have a girl, we are practicing celibacy, but Omo!

Guys, how can I manage this kind of situation please?

They are actually in their space. And again, the sound may not be that much but your subconscious is amplifying it because of your current state of being.

I hope the decision of celibacy is really being observed judiciously by both of you because she might just be getting it else where.

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Literature/Writing Ads › Re: Proofreading Reading Services by Stevenbright(op): 2:10pm On Sep 27, 2023

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Family › Re: I Feel Hatred Towards My Husband by Stevenbright(m): 8:07am On Sep 26, 2023

PaigeTaylor:
I'm not perfect either. Never said I was. And that was my past life, something I wanted a solution to because I want to forget it, that's why I brought it to nairaland. Didn't you see where I said I didn't want a broken home? It's my past, Why bring it up?

You claimed this "He disvirgined me on my wedding night" in your main post. So, at what point did you accumulated the said past you are talking about?

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Business › Re: Economist: How Can I Spend 70k A Month. by Stevenbright(m): 8:03pm On Sep 25, 2023

Use your car to do short route transport business as a part-time side hustle to earn more money.

Just look for a route that all those road transport enforcement agents don't disturb that much and then carry passengers during the evenings after your normal work.

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Family › Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Stevenbright(m): 10:02am On Sep 23, 2023

Openfortruth:
I'm the one that clean the house, wash his clothes when I wash my own, fetch water and do anything in the house.

Last night, I openly told him I haven't eaten and I'm very hungry. He told me I should bear it till this morning and he dropped N500 for me before he left for work this morning. I don't know if he wasn't even happy about it, he said I should help myself and not expect much from him.

Ok, I see.

He doing what he wants to do. But then you have to appreciate the fact that you have where to stay and ensure you don't nurse any grievance against him.

Just continue to manage till you start being able to get something from where you are apprenticing.

If where you are learning is a busy place, you can ask your oga to also permit you to do marketing by standing in a strategic location and asking people if they want to repair their phones and any customer that comes through you, your oga should find you small thing to hold body. You can ask him to give you one or two hours for this daily.

Family › Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Stevenbright(m): 10:17pm On Sep 22, 2023

Openfortruth:
I greet you all Nairalanders.

Please permit me to share this thing my brother is doing to me.

As my life was about to become useless in the village, I came to the city to stay with my older brother and learn phone repairs.

My plan is to have this handwork so that when i gain admission, i wont rely totally only on education which has failed many in the country.

But my blood brother I'm staying with is behaving unkind to me as though i am a total stranger to him. Even total strangers deserve better treatment.

I'm only an apprenctice and yet to start making money. Most of the days, i trek to the place and return because I dont have transport.

He leave house first before me and return before me too. Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me.

Except there's another way for me, that is how I would go hungry throughout the night and as early as possible in the morning, he would leave the house without reasoning anything food.

I'm seriously starving. I thought he would share the little he has with me till I also start making money. Is this how a senior brother should behave with the junior one?

He's being unkind to me and now I feel like hiding the Garri I brought from the village from him.

But is this how we should behave as blood brothers?

He can't even be there for me to free from this apprenticeship.

Do you do house chores and do you respect him?

How is your communication with him like?

Your sincere answers to the above questions and changes where necessary, might be of help to you.

Family › Re: My Mom Doesn't Appreciate Me. How Do I Handle This? by Stevenbright(m): 4:14pm On Sep 21, 2023

Undilutedme:
How well can I make my mom appreciate me more?. How can I please her?.

You want to live a life of pleasing someone else, then just know that this "It's really eating me up emotionally and psychologically" your confession just started and it will only get worse.

Save yourself from this path to destruction by never seeking any form of validation from any body not even your mum because they will always use it to manipulate and frustrate you.

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Family › Re: Reproduce What You Can Cater For by Stevenbright(m): 11:29am On Sep 20, 2023

You are very right.

No one should rush into marriage just because your body is in need of copulation.

Rather, prepare financially, emotionally and mentally for marriage and it's responsibilities. And when you finally made the decision, give birth to the few number of kids you can confirmably care for.

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Family › Re: What I Noticed About My Elderly Parent by Stevenbright(m): 1:48pm On Sep 18, 2023

KiNg0G:
Why is that when I give my parent money like 50 to 80k for upkeep within a month it's finished and I start getting calls and so forth which is quite okay. But when I am broke as in really broke that I can't even carter for something's myself my sisters comes in and from her low paying job she drops like 10k or thereabout that can take them for sometime with enough of gratitudes from them and they spend it quite well . But mine is just like seen normal and it's almost likes it's lessed valued I mean that's how I feel.
I am not here for any abuse on my parents I love them and like catering for their needs but man has to think sometimes and wonder if other fellow men like myself experience such.

Nlfpmod

None have told you the truth thus far.

See ehn they think you have it in excess and should be able to do more.

Solution: If that range of amount is what you can comfortably afford, fine. Otherwise, cut it to the range you will be very comfortable with no matter what. Also, learn to sometimes complain to them about your own needs too so that they will realize that all you do for them is not from a comfort zone but sacrifices of love.

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Family › Re: Is It Worth It For A Broke Guy To Date by Stevenbright(m): 7:56pm On Sep 17, 2023

Jennyclay:
Personally, I can’t even date a broke man because I would just be cheating on him anyhow. I won’t deceive myself.

I’m just being truthful here.

Rather, you are cheating yourself not him because it is your body you are sharing up and down!

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Education › Re: Uniabuja, AAU, MAU: No Accreditation On Engineering Courses - Coren by Stevenbright(m): 8:36pm On Sep 16, 2023

politicoNG:
https://leadership.ng/uniabuja-others-running-expired-engineering-programmes-coren/?utm_source=&utm_medium=facebook&fbclid=IwAR0_MBoxCdLwmJgkr3poqRlW-4GT8EIORohb_ULTq1hOhJ3LrsP39T0TsI0

What expired is actually the money that COREN wants to get from these schools. It is not about the quality of the services these departments offers. So, it's all cruise and blackmail!

Family › Re: Help Needed On What To Do by Stevenbright(m): 9:27pm On Sep 14, 2023

DonLala1:
I have been married for 17 years and have 3 beautiful girls. Lately my business had some issues and I ran into some serious debts that for the past 2 years my wife have been the one taking care of the house expenses though I chop in bits sometimes.
Crux of the matter,, for the past 15 months my wife have starved me of sex and I haven't had sex with nobody since. I am being honest. Some weeks back my wife says she wants me to give her space for 6 to 12 months so she can sort herself out if she will still continue with the marriage.
I lately found out she's having a discreet affair with her friends husband and unknown to them I have serious damaging details about their affairs. I kept this to myself because I still love her and had even forgiven her in my heart and coupled with the fact that I don't want any scandal for her and shame to my girls.
She doesn't talk to me at home any more.
Please what do I do?
Do I confront her?
Do I tell the guys wife? Hell will break loose.
Do I confront the guy in question?
Do I just walk away and pick up the pieces of my life and forget ahead?
Please no abuses, I have enough on my mind .already. just your candid advice.
A part of me wants revenge for the betrayal and another just want to put everything behind me.
Please advice.

Don't revenge. Just move on totally out of the marriage but remain responsible for the care of your children.

Don't take custody of them for now because it will be too much for your mental and emotional state to handle ( Konji na bastard, they are girls and the devil can be very stupid). But once you are fully back on your fit financially, mentally and emotionally, you can go for them if you are convinced she can't give them good and befitting upbringing.

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Family › Re: See Why My Mother Cursed Me by Stevenbright(m): 7:41pm On Sep 09, 2023

Don't fight as some people are suggesting. It will be difficult since your mom is against you.

Think about it. With the early nature of her moves, you might not be safe as because if care is not taking, your dad's death might even be suspicious!

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Family › Re: See Why My Mother Cursed Me by Stevenbright(m): 7:37pm On Sep 09, 2023

efelicity:
I live with my mother, a single mother, since I lost my dad over a year ago and we haven't been having issues until recently
The problem with my mother is that she wants to remarry but I never wanted that because she planned to move in to the house my father built. After a heated argument, she claimed the house as hers but I rejected! I didn't stop her from marrying any man but what I am against is moving the man into my father's house. More to that, she planned to open a business for her husband to be on my father's land. I know the consequence of allowing that to happen: he will later claim the land.
Since my mom met this man she stopped treating me like a son. One of her sisters told me that the man was disturbing my mom to send me out of the house so he can move in asap.
When I approached my mom with this, she cursed me because she believes I'm against her will.
How do I prevent this man from taking what belongs to me?

Your mother is the problem. Ask her if she is sure you are actually her son.

Also, if your dad has many properties other than the one she planned moving into and the land she planned setting up business on, ask her to give you your share of your father's properties from those other ones now otherwise you may lose out totally later.

Once given your shares, if they are lands, sell them off and either buy lands in other locations or startup a business for yourself and stay away from them henceforth.

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Properties › Re: My Landlord And His Dad Just Beat Up My Co-tenant by Stevenbright(m): 9:54am On Sep 09, 2023

Mustiboy:
Hi, everyone,

Plan and leave that house because if they could do it to him, it means they can also do it to anyone of you the other tenants. In fact, they did it in order to put fear in you guys mind and so that none of you will ever try to stand for your rights again.

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Family › Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Stevenbright(m): 7:56am On Sep 09, 2023

Separate from him and focus on yourself and children. This will remove the irritant he has become to you, thereby uping your energy level, focus, mental health and productivity.

Such partners are killer agents and therefore need to be done without.

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Family › Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Stevenbright(m): 10:08pm On Sep 08, 2023

ADURA123:
There is plans for them...and the plan is intact

Ok. Do whatever you think is to your best interest.

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Family › Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Stevenbright(m): 9:49pm On Sep 08, 2023

ADURA123:
Front page pls...I need to hear from people...my head is running crazy right now

In the picture you painted, you didn't factor in your children. How about that?

Also, why not move away to the new location without issuing the divorce and watch if she will realize her mistake, be remorseful and with the promise to change. So that you guys can have the chance of getting back together.

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Career › Re: Deep Down Inside Me, I Feel Guilt And Hated Myself For What I Have Been Doing by Stevenbright(m): 11:22am On Sep 08, 2023

Meerahbel:
From DM

You are not confused. You are just a bad person like most average Nigerians. I won't be surprised if you are one of those overzealous people that pretends to hate corruption and supports one of the current political gladiators against the other!

See, you better change and stop trying to blame the very company you are fleecing by saying that they refused to hire an auditor.

Your change will come from within and the earlier the better before you are caught.

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Family › Re: Apart From Money, What Else? by Stevenbright(m): 5:39am On Sep 08, 2023

This is Nigeria! It is here it works the way you have experienced it.

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Family › Re: Should Marital Advice Be Taken From An Unmarried(single) Person by Stevenbright(m): 5:14pm On Sep 05, 2023

TimT:
I am single... I have a friend who is married. We always hangout at least every weekend... But last weekend, he didn't come around I called but he didn't give me a tangible reason...
So yesterday, he came around my place, I noticed his mood isn't as cheerful as it used to be... I asked, what was wrong?. He said "You Neva marry you no go understand".
He wanted to say more, but I said no need, he shouldn't say anything.. till he left I kept quiet.. I didn't say anything...
So I want to ask o, if na only married person fit give advice to who don marry...

Don't mind them. But they can take financial aid from those who are yet to marry.

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Family › Re: How Can I Help My Son Unlearn This by Stevenbright(m): 3:11pm On Sep 04, 2023

Iyaebube:
but I noticed kids thinks there teacher is more intelligent than their parents

On the above, you are right.

Explain to the Sunday school teacher. Then take the boy to him or her to undone the damage of feeding a child with an incomplete information by clarifying what she meant to the child.

Family › Re: How Can I Help My Son Unlearn This by Stevenbright(m): 2:14pm On Sep 04, 2023

Iyaebube:
It started last two Sunday at the children's department. They were thought covering of the body as a child of God and ever since that day, my son has not remain the same again on his way of reasoning. My husband n I was all joking about it but it's getting out of hand the way my son is going about it

What he does now is he doesn't allow us especially me to wear skimpy wear at home anymore.whenever I put it on he will be shouting mummy cover your "private part" even my last baby that's not up to 2 was playing with the sleeveless top she was wearing the chest was showing immediately my son started shouting baby cover your private part. The private part he use to shout instead of another word cover your body provoked me to flog him to stop using that word cos he's just 4.

The incident that happened yesterday made us speechless was my family n I went to have a nice time because since that last two Sunday my son haven't stepped out of the house. We decided to have fun yesterday only for my son to screaming mummy see this one she or he is showing there private part. It brought alot of attention to us that we quickly ended what we came out to do.

How do I handle this issue to clear it off his head cos I have spoken n spanked him to stop but this is what he refused to stop saying n is embarrassing. Of all they where thought in Sunday school, why did he chose this one to practically implement?

He was given an half-baked information. That is people should dress modestly by covering up their private parts.

Now, you re-educate him in full what is the essence of that lesson. Tell him what is being referred to as private parts in the body and what parts of the body needs to be covered properly to dress modestly.

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Politics › Re: Igunbor Sarah: Avoid Benin Men When Looking For A Romantic & Caring Partner by Stevenbright(m): 9:32pm On Aug 28, 2023

What about Benin women?

Family › Re: Good Morning House, Pls Help Me Anyone by Stevenbright(m): 12:30pm On Aug 27, 2023

Ozommadu:
So you have the right to support the party that has destroyed Nigeria?? After supporting and defending clueless buhari for 8 wasted years now is tinubu??

You have the right to support the party that successfully divided Nigeria along ethnic lines with so much hatred and bigotry??

You have the right to support a party riddled with corruption, threatened voters? Intimidation? Rigging and in return put Nigerians in this mess we are today??

There's consequences for every action you played in this world...so you have the sole right to your suffering, don't disturb our peace mbok

This is the reason I don't normally comment on political issues here.

I never made my comment about me! I made it clear that everyone irrespective of anything what so ever reserve the right to which candidates or party they support and this is a universal Truth.

But please don't insult me in any form or raise all these your woke curses again towards me.

Family › Re: Good Morning House, Pls Help Me Anyone by Stevenbright(m): 12:13pm On Aug 27, 2023

I am not saying he is entitled to get help from anyone here or even on his street! But those of you using his political affiliation to judge him are worst than him.

Everyone has the right to support whoever they want politically or belong to any political party of their choice without being crucified for it.

In fact, how many months have the current government spent in office that you guys are writing it off. If this government eventually succeeds, will guys come back to apologize to this guy.

The funny thing is the one you guys are putting up as the needed magician to save this nation might even perform worse than this if given the chance. After all, he was a governor of a state for 8 years. Is that state a Singapore or a mini Landon right now?

Lastly, the problem of this country is the rot in the society and lack of moral values which led to corruption, aiding and abetting crimes, quick money syndrome, unnecessary competition and lack of patriotism/ home training.

All these have to be defeated if Nigeria must change for the better. So, at the end of the day, we all need to change for Nigeria to have a chance of getting better.

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