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According to such women you are just doing your job as the so called 'provider'. So why be grateful? Pele.
I can bet as a typical African man, you are also pulling your own weight in being an inconsiderable brute when it comes to her own 'roles'.
So the equation is balanced.

Wait o, what am I reading? What's the problem with a girl marrying early if she chooses to? Or you people can't come up with better arguments again other than to rely on these pettiness? Ewwww...

cococandy:
Stillfire
Raging fire.

Lmao. For all their good wifeism, I wonder why our women still remain one of the most abused along with a few other countries.

Don't bring out the beast in him indeed. If someone has a beast in them, do they need anyone to help them bring it out?

Apparently Nigerian wives aren't 'good' after all. They need a punch or two or thousands to keep them in line, lmao. Same way their fathers did taekwondo on their goat-like mothers.

Why won't the husband give her uppercuts? If she can dish out this kind of foolishness to her daughter you can imagine the foolishness she would have displayed in the marriage. The husband has my utmost support. No be only mark, he should have broken her cockroach bones, and saved us from her foolishness. Nansense!

Advice for fools.

Lolllll, those pictures are horrendous...

There is a general misconception that every single woman is praying day and night, for a spouse. This is incorrect.

Thank you o. They think everyone is from their crass and uncouth background.
They expect everyone to think the same way and someone like me will never get it.
I see the way the scurry around in churches, Pastors and those big aunties trying to hamper about the youth getting married. It's fun to me though. I make sure I chip in questions like 'what if you don't want to get married'? You need to see their faces, tehehe
Nairaland has opened my eyes to how the average Nigerian thinks. I thank God for my extreme sheltered life I used to complain about, saved me from mingling with 'razzoids' and having that useless mentality.

Being in love is sweeetttt. And marriage is great with the right person, don't demonize it. It's the best institution to rear kids and in some countries at least you get some economic privileges.

Honestly to be an African politician you don't have to be intelligent.
Prostitution is the consequence of black African leaders stifling and ripping off the economy.
People (male and female) become pros.ti.tutes not because they can't get husbands/wives, but for the monetary dividends.
As a politician, one of your job criteria is to create jobs rather than looking for means to scatter nyansh everywhere.

Even if polygamy is feasible, women would only marry rich men, leaving poor men (who constitute a greater percentage of black Africa) wife-less.
Imagine having hor.ny poor African men on the prowl...Nobody would be safe.

Hanhan, this is a lie now.
Yoruba women are very adamant about marrying from their tribe o. I have a lot of stubborn yoruba girls as friends.
Funny thing is Yoruba men don't have such loyalties though, lol.

Nice atmosphere here.

The guys are also pressured, but Nigerian girls are more desperate.

The ex is so disingenuous. Who goes to a married ex' house, purposely overstays till night and gleefully accepts being lodged in a hotel?

I would like to know and he would be given a good lecture in relationship etiquette, he will apologize for his foolishness and promise not to make such mistakes again.

Woged has come again with her kindergarten threads...lol
Girl, you no dey tire?
When will you post a thread I would like?

ronald4lif:
When a lady complains of constant domestic abuse and sought for advice what kind of advice do you expect she get? When a man/woman complains their partner is a chronic cheat and they have done everything humanly possible to ensure they change and they refuse what kind of advice do you want the public to render to them? Oh they should keep praying till thy kingdom come while they're being assaulted and blackmailed I guess?
Not saying that there are some advices that are extreme and shouldn't be given but some "get separated" are warranted and in order. Except if you want people to provide false opinion in order to appear sanctimonious when they know deep down such advices are sham and not something they'd tell a loved one.
I think some persons are yet to come to terms that the era when people sugarcoat their opinion and persevere some unbearable and inhumane torture in the name of "for better for worse" union or mislead others just coz they don't want to ruin a ceremonial union is so victorian. I'd not go about telling someone to separate from their partner but same time won't hesitate to render my undiluted opinion just to preserve a marriage. Sought for a public opinion and would tell it as it is and its up to you to decide.

Thank you for saving me from writing a scathing remark to the OP, lol.

nnamdibig:
He does that because he already know how you will react to it.

No, he does it because he is a philanderer. He has a problem and nobody can help him but himself.
It is perfectly ok to react when someone hurts you and breaks your trust.

jaybee3:
Na true na

Only a regular man that's willing to break his back will play bruce almighty in western world. Single income can't/won't be far reaching in affording basic luxuries life has to offer!

Absolutely. People need to wake up to our economic realities.

In a family where the husband and wife have good jobs and earn well, what should happen to the salary of the wife?

Some of these questions, lordddddd...
Good jobs, earn well, both should contribute equally to the upkeep of the home.
The man as well should equally be involved in home chores.
The small maths we did in school is not for nothing. You know your total expenses, calculate what percentage each should bring from their salary and voila.

Exponental:
Story story! What we need in the family is grace to overcome temptations.
.
The housegirl that slept with madam's husband nko?
The girl that slept with her sister's/ Aunty's husband nko?
The neighbour that slept with neighbour's husband nko?
The chief bridesmaid or friend that slept with her friend's husband nko?
..... and many more! Are they not aware of the woman of the house?
Pray for grace to be faithful and upright. Remember, no one is above temptation, either the husband or wife, it could be either intentional or not, all we need is Divine GRACE!
ASK & IT SHALL BE GIVEN......

I cannot stand Nigerian christianity. Very annoying.
These are practical, relevant steps to stay away from temptation. And to dismiss it as story, story, is silly at its best.
Before 'grace' comes you must do your own part to stay away from temptation.
You cannot place yourself in certain circumstances all the time and be banking on your prayers or grace to save you.

GoodFaith:
Stillfire:
If you want to have balance view of this issue
you need some facts
What time the man wake up
What time he make it back to the house at the end of the day
Is the wife a full time house wife eg

This is forum where I air my opinions.
Nairaland will not be nairaland if we have to play detective to determine the life history of anonymous people.
The point is a man who throws a tantrum over a meal not dished is an id.iot.
Any African man that does this, oh lord is a self seeking, ego tripping id.iot!

The he-goat must have been itching all along to take a dig. Good I have your time today, tehehe

GoodFaith:
Kid you will tear me apart-- sad we all online
Are a dump bitch
think you know all
Fucker you don't have any life experiences
If you was a smart bitch you will know all marriages are different in terms of needs
Kid go play

Take your immature needs and shove it in your ass. Don't contaminate cyber space with your puerility.
On a last note, all the female members in your family are bitches. Oya die!

GoodFaith:
Lady you have a big problem---- "ego-tripping African man household who cannot love his wife like Jesus is 2 seconds from abuse"

You sound very ignorant

Lady you need to listen to some conservative men speak-- Americans, Canadian or English man

I will use "ego-tripping men household who cannot love his wife like Jesus is 2 seconds from abuse"

The next time you quote me again I will tear you apart.
This is the second time you have used that word, I ignored you.
The so called Western 'conservative' men you highlighted have used their masculinity to create a feasible society for their children.
What have you used your masculinity to do other than cry over and wet your diapers over food.
Get out of here!

TV01:
Stilly, Stilly, Stilly, you are quite vehement on this thread. So incensed you've thrown around terms like demonic and hellfire . And quoting scripture like a fire and brimstone preacher as well !

Was it not you that refused to accept the biblical writ of wives submitting to their husbands? This sounds like confusion You are adamant that husbands should practice biblical love - which no one has actually disputed - but utterly reject wives submitting as biblically prescribed.

I'm not actually sure that you even believe or practice. What gives?

TV

...I am a born again christian who have come to understand with love not any submission principle, speaking in tongues, rolling on the ground, singing in the choir, I have covered everything I need to be a good christian daughter, mother and WIFE.
Submission under an hypocritical, self-seeking, ego-tripping African man household who cannot love his wife like Jesus is 2 seconds from abuse. I ghast to protect myself.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Please go and learn how to love your wives the christian way
Save yourself from hell fire.
Because many women are willing to look away and condone your excesses does not mean you have the right to act like a self-serving brute.

cococandy:
I must say the more I go through nairaland, the more I appreciate what I have.

Lord have mercy on some kinds of mindset people have.

A grown ass man throwing a tantrum over dished food, lmao.
The part of the brain African men are supposed to use to device techniques to bring their people out of poverty, they have used it to be throwing petty tantrums about food.

Give her an inch, she will take a mile
Meanwhile give African man an inch, he will run a marathon.

I can assure you not only my husband will hear of it, the entire village would.

I won't tell my friend. You dunno what kind of agreement the two have. The man though would be very aware I know. Take pictures if you still want to spill. For things like this you must have evidence. Word of mouth is not enough.

But for my sisters I definitely will tell them.

Lol, Chillisauce.

Anyway, yeah she is just using you to fill up a void, sorry. You are not her type.

6. Tell your wife when another woman comes strongly to you. Don't hide it.

Joy1706:
This is no battle of the sexes. This is about love, care, understanding in marriage. Ya'll have turned it into 'I am the man' argument and what not.
I am genuinely concerned about what you men have turned marriage into. Hence, the need to address it

As soon as a man says that he has lost the argument in my books.
You must give me cogent reasons why you cannot use your own hand to dish out your food already served on the table.
If not that he is looking for self aggrandizement.
The bible says all ego tripping, self-seeking entities are candidates of hell fire.
How will you make heaven with that kind of attitude?

sinizia:
Thanks and Amen.


I blame all these madness on the way our society brought our men and ladies up. I love my tradition but not at the expense of my humanity. Imagine what those ladies on FB are spewing!! They have no iota of self-worth at all. Zero self-esteem. Then they will raise their daughters up with that sick mentality and belief and the ill-fated cycle goes on and on. I felt a pang of mad anger reading the stúpid replies of those ladies. Imagine what a lady is saying; "please spoon-feed him if he wants it too before another lady does it for him." I'm dead sure if their husbands sleeps with anything with a Vajayjay, they'd blame ONLY the various women and not the husband with a wandering prick. I don't blame we men for calling women fish brains sometimes, those ladies up there justifies the assertion.

Absolutely.
The ladies can keep on deceiving themselves. Wherever I smell a character flaw I will say it.
You don't treat people like that. You accord people respect and do not diminish their humanity.
they can try to mask the whole think by 'rubbing the man's head', lmao but the truth has to be said that you are married to an immature prick!
#demoniclove

sinizia:
Sir, I'm not "wife-wrapper" or a "woman pleaser". I'm not here to please any woman on earth or NL. I've a moral conduct/compass, a conscience and a common sense that would never allow me to treat a fellow human like a slave much more my own wife/mother of my kids. My main grouse is not that the wife dishes his food, but the fact that even when the wife is extremely busy the arrogant man insisted she must dish his food ALREADY served to him.


I started visiting my grand parents from 7-years-old and have never seen my grandmom dish the food she had already served my granddad. Does that make my granddad a "wife-wrapper" too? Does that make my dad a "wife-wrapper" too? Even if it makes them one would you prefer them to be "wife-wrapper" to another lady but their own wives? So if your wife was busy tending to your baby that's just defecated while trying to bath and prepare for work, you'll call her from your sitting room from wherever she is ONLY for her to come and DISH you a meal she's ALREADY served you? Dafuq?!! What kind of wickedness is this?!!


OMG!! My pity goes out to various women in bondage all in the name of being tagged a "Mrs." I pray my sisters, cousins, nieces and future daughters NEVER meet or settle down with your kind, Amen!!

My future wife will serve my food but will NEVER dish it out for me for i have my hands and that's how i was raised, and if that makes me a "wife-wrapper" to my OWN WIFE, then on this day, let it be known that i, Sinizia, claim the title unabashed, and i'll die a "wife-wrapper" to the mother of unborn kids. To hell with the ego and tradition!!

I will not even mind at all serving this kind of person.
God will give you a great wife that will love to do anything for you by her own self-will, not because you are demanding it or she feels threatened you will cheat.