You will know a brilliant person by the way they talk, their philosophy of how a reasonable should behave and their reaction to unforeseen events. Face card is only for stereotypical judgement. Attraction is relative. I get your angle of thinking but these things don't often work that way in every urban area. Some people will definitely prove you wrong and change your perspective.

kinzation:

Thanks for this lesson for smart way of saving..

In summary spend on things that makes u mentally and physically prepared for subsequent days
If u need a pen, buy it
If its a cloth
Buy it..

But don't spend on what you want
Spend on things u need...

Wow, perfection. You summarized it wholesomely the way I couldn't. Thank you.

That shii hurts man. How can she say a stranger can see through her while the ones closest can't decipher, on her status publicly, trust me. She's writing you off.

And using the same turret to gain attention. People wey wan chop your babe clean mouth will appear like a good companion now since she made it open. Easy target with blandishment. Savour this moment, count your losses and leave before your respect diminishes completely.

When a lady loves you, and you fvckup. She forgives but her mind still replays the fvckup in her head. They begin to act like this, do everythin' under inherent pain to inflict same to you and commensurate it with your past action. Its an emotional thingy.

Talking from experience. You have to do the non-casual breakup. Emotional one. Breakup on the ground that you hurt her and staying in the relationship will only hurt her more. Whatever she's feeling right now is a glitch. Don't rekindle nothin', let her cry, give her the space and purge herself of the hate she still harbors for you and come back on her own terms.

If she doesn't come back, she has gotten over you. The pain in her life, at least you left with some dignity not when you catch her spiral cheating and ruin every hope in your cloying love life.

When you want to stop a forest fire, you don't apply water pressure instantly tryin' to rekindle shii. You cut down trees untouched yet, give it space and keep the fire isolated. The situation is already lit, limit the collateral.

gloryhomemaker:
This is a quick meal idea on how to cook healthy vegetables egg sauce and boiled unripe plantains. This meal is so healthy and contains most of the nutrients you will need for a healthy living.

Ingredients:

Unripe plantains
Eggs
Fresh tomatoes
Peppers
Onions
Ugu (pumpkin leaves)
Cooking oil
Curry powder
Salt


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=noLzMjhnwQg

STEPS:

Wash and cut the unripe plantains in big chunks, add water to the same level and cook till its soft.
Add in salt, cook for few more minutes and drain out the water.
Slice the onions, tomatoes, peppers, ugu.
Break in the eggs in a bowl, add in salt and curry powder or any seasoning of your choice.
Whisk in the eggs to combine properly.
In a dry pan on heat, add in little oil.
Add in the chopped onions and fry for 30 seconds on medium heat.
Add in the tomatoes and peppers and stir fry for a minute.
Reduce the heat to low, add in the eggs, mix with the tomatoes and peppers.
Cover and cook for 5 minutes.
Add in the chopped Ugu and stir fry for a minute.
Take it off the heat.
Serve and enjoy with the boiled unripe plantains.
Very healthy meal.

Thank you, I will keep learning from you.

kinzation:


My bro ❤️
I'm so impressed with your work experience honestly..
I need you to shed more light on " only the rich save"
How do you mean?
Do you mean as a trenches guy I can't save for raining days ?

I'm glad you found the aforementioned helpful. "Only the rich save" was optimized into a short demise to avoid a verbose comment under the topic.

My helm of reasoning was that; as a trenches nihgarr like me too. I don't do 100% savings. I saving flexibly. The alter ego of success is reliability. So I spend money on things that will make me happy and mentally ready for the next day. Someone counts me to be healthy tomorrow. It might be dark chocolate, one trophy, 30mins of listening to my Playlist, buying a new shoe. These things will cost money but will make me look like an Aficionado to others.

So I can save 60% this month, next month 30%, the next 80%. Its flexible. As you earn you spend not splurge, on yourself. Anything can encumber you and leave you cashless for a while and make you regret not buying as at then.

Avoid splurging. Buy things that will uplift your morale at work and make your mental belvedere healthy.

LincolnOnyeabor:


This ought to be made into a Bible for Workers


Bless your soul for this sir

Thank you. my Learned Boss, you're too kind and ebullient.

TWoods:


You're running side businesses with the time someone else is paying for... the problem here is you.

Availing myself to a single source of income is alderelde and highly influential lecturers kick against it. My work ethics and quality input remains unfettered. Everybody will be satisfied, same way I will be contented with the pay accrued from each source. Companies don't pay for time, they pay for value.

hucknall:
This guy was waiting for this thread

Lolz no lies. I just woke up to this. I had to say a word or two. Because my neighbor works and comes to my room to complain how she hates her job. The stress and all. Sometimes people need a doyen with a particular work ethics to adapt to tough situations or just go with whatever works for them.

olola4:


You are just using all your mouth to talk and confusing yourself, how will you say rich men save and you are also the one who said you are hitting business when you are done gathering money If you don't save how will you gather money for business? Lengthy write up filled with thrash.

It will be dumb to think nobody saves. The illustration i used already explained my position. I spend my money to do the happy things that keep me mentally happy and ready for work the next morning. The rest goes into savings.

Your comment is a decanter of misunderstanding and being insultive don't make you or me a panjandrum of best tactics to life.

Facts, yet staying at home doesn't expose you.
No work comes easy. After the first month of working in a new place, my manager told me that; the top boss was asking why should they keep paying me salary?

I wasn't surprised. I replied her; "I understood where she was coming from". The next day I started hearing rumors of me getting fired soon. I went to meet the oldest worker and told him what I heard, he told me what I was doing wrong. That he has noticed me too. That im not always around in the office. I told I can't sit down in the office and be waiting for command. It leads to sitting back pains & unnecessary gossips that will come back to hurt me and I was happily doing small errands outside to get small change for my pocket.

So they increased pressure from top to hold me down. Every impromptu job was sent to my table. Instead of folding, I got an expensive airpod and kept receiving. I give dates for collection. They didn't care, they kept coming. They wanted a reaction, they received only dates to come back for collection. Everybody starting taking advantage, work wey no come oga, they go dey send am. No shaking. I kept tabs. I call you, this work is done. Send me your email for receipt & review.

Positive energy is variola, you would be bewildered with the times people look at you and wonder why you are looking bright and not sitting down and discussing how better other places treat their workers better.

Work i couldn't complete before expiration. I will call the Senior before he calls me and tell him his job is done. But my laptop is dead, as soon as I power it up I will send it to you. - "Thank you, I didn't expect you to do that quite fast". So they know. But you gave me unrealistic time range to see me fail. My laptop is not dead, I needed to buy time. Maybe a little 10hrs or more.

Give the image of seriousness, work smart, use reasonable lies to your advantage, and spend money on yourself. I have a friend earning more than me, this guy can't buy himself a pair of sneakers because he is always saving while looking unhappy and stressed up to work. I earn, I spend and save peanuts. Multiple peanuts every day rollover to something tangible at the end of the week talk less of month.

As a trenches nihgarr, you are not entitled to save. Rich men save, Expose yourself, don't be expendable, I don't engage in gossips but when you tag me I comment, laugh and don't give my opinions. Before you know, I don insert my airpod. I'm tired, I move out, goan take one cold predator or one trophy bottle and better swallow. I press my phone for an hour there.

If I'm sacked tomorrow, I can't feel bad coz while I was there. It never changed me. I did the same me, adjusted on my lassitude. Some people will earn, buy two donuts, trek 30mins before and after work to save and all and then think you can manage that for a week, one small malaria hit you. Your weak body escalate it to three weeks sickness. No company will accommodate that work ethics.

I work 8 - 5. I take my breaks, video chats, peppersoup - beer moments and laziness stretch seriously. I don't plan to work for anybody for long. I'm hitting business when I'm done gathering my capital from work.

OhiOfIhima:


You have said it all here. Just like d same things I went through. When I met my woman 2yrs+, she was barely 18... She's now 20. I have to be matured and strong enough to tolerate her childish behaviors with the help of her mom n Aunty, whose so much take me like their brother. Now, I am enjoying my woman to the core bcoz she has realized I mean so well for her. She is so matured and kind-hearted woman I ever wish to have. Thanks for being patience.

In that teen and early twenties age, they must surely misbehave. If she didn't cheat, with time her childish behaviors will fade away gradually

Learned Counsel, I'm proud of you. That's the reality. May God bless your family.

OP is spitting fire. He knows what he is saying. He has experienced this and warning the rest of us. This issue is sempiternal, based on the human need for companionship.

Some ladies are ready to compromise selfish gains for a splurge of emotional bonding. Protect yourself feelings and be open to surprises. Regardless, OP is right for the majority.

He's spoilt, he's not spoilt. The truth remains
He fvcked up, you fvcked up. Never press your phone to 0%. Emergency can come up anytime. What if you climbed into the house and you met your brother gasping for air out of drug overdose, you can't even order bolt to hospital coz your battery is dead. You see where you fvcked up too.

Enroll him, plumbing or tiles work. Sth that will expunge his energy. He's energetic. You don't train a bulldog with water balloon, you keep it running laps and jumping hurdles tills it falls down and sleep by itself. Then slap his ass out of sleep. You fvckin' pusssey.

Until he starts stealing your money to sleep with hookers in your street. All those weed energy will be expended somewhere and you won't endure it. Sending him back to your mom shows your lack of senior energy. You should have been the 3rd born.

Don't wait till he brings Ignominy to your personal quiet life. Don't ostracize him coz he smokes. He's fighting his demons his own way, just channel all those energy.

She will be graduating soon. And she is Yoruba. There is no better joy for a Yoruba lady to get married right after finishing her studies. And bro you are 36. And people are worried about the girl? I'm worried about you. Nothing a woman will do, will shock you coz your age should have exposed to the most already, so you can absorb some of her childish attitude and manage your marriage well.

Just make sure she is financially independent. You don't have problem. She's your spec and you have had enough years to roam around. Knot that girl and knot in her. Your woman, your own kids. Time for a new adventure.

You turn up in PH anytime, you have one bottle on me.

He wants you. He will have you. You will love everything that comes out of the lil thingy buttefly feelings comin' through with this. Chill & relax. I don't know the guy but he ain't shy, he's experienced. I take time to eat my own favorite meal and I bet he does too.

Einterest:


Thanks for this, I also understand where ur coming from, but the fintech is not assured...
You know how difficult it is to get an employment in Nigeria. What I even went through to get this one was not as easy. what if after 12 months da don't offer another contract that is my biggest fear. Then I go jobless again ?...
I want to see if the bank can place me in their I.T team as they can't give me any assurance, if they don't I would most likely drop them and if its too stressful I'll do same. Im just looking to be in the bank for like 2 to 3 months.

Since graduation I've got nobody there for me, no connection nothing. That's why I have to try to be as smart as possible

Don't mind him. I have been your position before. It's stressful. I hit a some loads of caffeine anytime I feel tired to the bones. And I wake up prepared again. I get too many calls. Some impromptu jobs will clash. So I got used to some many excuses. Diarrhea, Stuck in traffic. E.t.c. so. Its all for money and posterity sakes.

So I saw the advice of one person saying stalling the pension reg. of one first. THAT'S COOL. Eventhough you can receive two in an account. Bank records will show and God forbid someone blows a lead on you. There will be solid evidence in court that you can't erase with br"b".

So this leads me to my second advice. Be discreet. Keep this information to yourself only Of course this platform is faceless, this your best medium of communication. Trust me. Corporate world; whether finance or tech is hard ball game. Don't be sloppy and don't too much. This is a quick fix, not permanent solution to your financial encumbrance.

THIS THREAD'S COMMENT SECTION is a Bible of wise men writing their edicts and proficient principles used in curtailing a lot of species of women. Women are not the same. So you will unfortunately meet one advice that seemed familiar to your Ex or present.

priceactionx:

You are the second class in your own house now either you believe or not. You are a nanny now in your own house.
As you allow her to be the primary holder, then expect alot of shitz in the coming weeks and months when she is totally settled.
She has interest in that guy too may be to update her account and meet up expenses.
Sorry for now, there is nothing you can do than to work your self out personally not minding what ever she does. Zero your mind totally. Abroad is difficult now to survive and every opportunity thrown to a naija girl, she will accept not minding if she is married or not. The handwriting is there. Abroad is different from naija. If you over step your boundaries with her, you might land back to naija in a tinkle of an eye And loose all.
The choice is yours. You can't control her and she won't listen to you either.

This is the BEST ADVICE have seen.

ZERO YOUR MIND. I was going to say sth close this but Egbon has capture everything. You're second level now. She has you now, she can't do shii without her most likely. She understands her position. Feelings can make her emotional towards you or the other man intra days. So expect crazy calls$no calls.

ZERO YOUR MIND. Pet her (don't be extra) and remove jealousy from your actions. Before she starts calling you insecure. I have been in a similar position not married, but my girl earned more than me for a while and I saw EVE. Sorry EVE. Wtf. Why do I keep writing *Evil and gets changed to EVE.

No amount of precum will get her pregnant. Any doubt now would have been erased, if you were confident that you didn't release inside. Now, you're doubtin' yourself. As a man of honour, take care of your baby, baby.

A job in a fintech company pommels your CV into a higher class as you progress with them. It gives you more credence. Same CV you can get a better job offer in a bank any year you wish. Joggle the two for now, get paid twice and when there is a clash of schedules, pick the Company and respectfully quit the Bank.

VictorUSA:
Can you imagine?



Since I met my lovely gf she's never, for once, demanded for money or anything material from me. It makes me wonder when other guys complain about Nigerian girls' entitlement mentality. Is my gf different? She is not half-caste; her parents are all Nigerians; was she born in planet Mars?



Victor Jalingo

Once in a while surprise her. She's rare. And doesn't mean, she's cheating if you understand your babe.

20k? A week! I should better put my prickk in hold and increase my earnings. 80k cost per month just for family. I never include friends and beer gatherings at weekends.

ohduz1988:
For greener pasture. From Lagos to osogbo and now Japan. God bless our hustle

Amen. I want to go to japan too. Any advice??

You can MANAGE in PHC with N50k per month (least).
- Get a selfcon 120k - 140k in PH. Accommodation cost should come from your savings already, you will get it back over compound savings on your salaries accumulated over the year.

- Bein' friendly with your indigene/Ikwerre neighbors will make aware of cheap markets to manage your spendings. Not everybody living PH are rich and they are still livin', coz of this

- Accommodation close to work and limiting your data usage would help you. Those two are slow poisons. If you can't get cheap accommodation close to work. Take cheap one far from work + ability to wake early for cheaper t.fare cost + ability to trek short distances will suffice.

- Cut your main & side chicks to zero. So that you will have small to spend on yourself. Ladies when they see you lookin' clean, they will come. Neighbors, neighbors' friend or the chemist daughter opp your street. Pussy will find you to trap your clean lookin'ass. Swipe your waist through their hotline, buy lunch or dinner, Ghost off durin' big spendin' moments like their uncle's burial or friend's birthday. Come back to apologize with a big bowl of ice cream. 1,250 ice cream will save you a couple bucks out of that 15k that will have scooped off you.

- I will never advise you to stay off women. Never!, they are sweet lil beings. They just need money to keep up with the other babes shining. Most will show your where to get the best cheapest wears, even cook for you, gossip and flirt with you to reduce your stress.

- I have lived in the 3 biggest cities in Nigeria. Abuja, Lagos and PHC. And I can tell you, they are accommodations for Rich, Middleclass and Less privileged. Same goes for market, stores and eateries.

- With all these, you can manage. But if you lose your job, yuar dead. So. Let's go. You can't invest. Your money is too small for that. Unless you have saved much and invest in CRYPTO or Buy units of NIGERIA COMPANIES' STOCK, for long term. Buh for short term, dedicate 5k/2k for sport bettin' each month.

- This will let you know your strengths and weaknesses. If you can't cope, go back home. Get closer to God and your ancestors and try it again. Nobody ever gets it right, the first time.

MajesticD:

How much is your self con?

#170k

I believe I'm goin' to say this too for the 2005 -2010 people; so that they will quickly fill up my selfcon in Port Harcourt, Trans amadi way when I'm settled. Coz If you take your time to listen more n say less nowadays Yu will see market in every stupid post you see on Facebook & Twitter. Tule!!

GCFR95:

Well, send me a DM. Can't say much on this platform.

Alright

GCFR95:
I graduated from the University of Nigeria, Nsukka in 2017. I landed my first job in 2019 after my one year vocational Law School training in Lagos.

I worked briefly at the Port Harcourt office of one of the largest law firms in Nigeria. It wasn't quite a pleasant experience with the Managing Associate. So after NYSC year, I decided to leave the firm.

I relocated to Lagos in 2020 and landed a job in March, exactly 3 weeks before Covid-19 lockdown. I currently work for a Senior Advocate of Nigeria who is super successful.

I'm doing great, all thanks to God. They say lawyers don't earn well. Well, I'm proud to say that I'm a major exception to the rule.

Please, what's the name of that firm in Port Harcourt?
I was posted to PH for youth service. I'm currently looking for a law firm to work with, any advice would be of help.

Piroll:
Does nysc now write date of birth on certificate now?

Yeah, I guess that's NEW.

mrhighcliff:

Thanks alot

No probs.

It won't affect you in camp. Nysc has no business with your BVN personal details.

When you get to bank registration stage in camp. The bank; which ever chosen for you, will give you a form to fill. Fill it with your BVN n your real date of birth.

Nysc at the end of yur service will only just give you a cert. with a wrong date of birth, which you can still use together with an affidavit of change of date of birth during job applications.

a large portion of corpers have this problem. And still, they move. Just stay cool.

Lolz. This OP na cruise guy oo. Hv been following up your posts till they recently posted me to Rivers State
I have a request letter, buh the woman in charge of posting don come out tell us for one of those boring lectures say she no wan see any request letter from anybody (seems like a lot of people came prepared this time around) - So where did you drop your request letter? I wan run my own too abegg