₦airaland Forum

oloyolo:
This is hilarious.
Adon tell all this NL girls make dey no dey listen to all this feminist
Most of them ar not married some married and divorce
And then come to advice u on how to make a man respect u yet they unmarried

Here is a word from the wise

Respect is not forced it is earned by doing the right thin
It is how u treat any thin that u threat every tin and men know this

Those thins feminists say ar just gimmicks they ar theories forget the logics behind it
They ar imaginary thins on how men should behave they ar not actually how men really behave

Hehe a desperate g don collect am from u the funny thin is that u might be more of good behavior than this girl but she played her cards right


Bae u just lost

But here is the bright side


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.It made front page

This has nothing to do with feminism please, feminism doesn't say you can't help your man do chores,so long as he can do same for you.

Feminism is about everyone being treated with the same amount of respect, I don't know why you lot attribute every bad thing to Feminism, educate yourself biko.

Pamcrest:
Op, don't mind d guy....he's just lookg for excuses n subtly lettg u know yr stand ......he won't marry u.....period!
Any man keen on marrying u will be happy pampering u, not complaining abt everything!
My humble submission

I'm sorry but what you wrote up there is absolute rubbish, why should you be pampered when you don't deserve it? Or you think it's your right to be pampered by a guy when you can't even pamper him?

How can you lay on a bed and just leave it scattered in someone's house? Where are your manners? You are dating someone you hope to marry, yet you can't help with little things but expect to be pampered? git outta here puleeze.

I'm all for not turning into a man's maid before and after marriage but how do you get up from a bed and not dress it?

I probably will not marry you too if I were him.

$ex workers kwa? Is that what those girls are?

It's hard to feel pity for such a useless man, how can these teenagers be involved in a party, more so with their fore father? Who are the parents of these children biko nu?

I believe the actual number is way higher than that.

How can you be asking if the beast is to be blamed or not? He should be given an award for his excellent service to humanity instead.

The mother of the girl has also failed, your little girl is been abused and you didn't know.

babyosisi:
These are the same type of people that will capture a small girl selling groundnut and have carnal knowledge of her and blame it on her walking style
Eediots

You can't help but wonder how some people think, it's sickening.

Mscheew.

tiredface:
MEN USUALLY DON'T DO THINGS LIKE THAT UNLESS THEY THINK THEY CAN GET AWAY WITH IT. WHAT'S YOUR GENERAL BEHAVIOR AROUND HIM AND YOUR HUBBY'S OTHER MALE FRIENDS. YOU MIGHT BE SENDING CONFUSING SIGNALS, LET'S SAY, UNKNOWINGLY. AS A MARRIED WOMAN, THERE'S A ACCEPTABLE UNIVERSAL BEHAVIORS. YOU'VE ALREADY MADE YOUR POINT WITH THIS MAN BY WALKING AWAY. IF IT HAPPEN AGAIN, MAYBE IT'S TIME TO TELL HIM[HUSBAND] AND I WISH YOU WELL

I don't want to sound rude but I have to tell you, to shut da hell up, thank you.

babyosisi:
Imagine that
I wonder if that's what they would want their wife to do while faced with the same scenario
Even if the man is his employer,does that give him the right to be pushing up against someone's wife in such crude manner

These ones will most likely blame their wives for it.

babyosisi:
I wonder
Maybe a pastor's choice where someone convinced themselves that he was the " will of God"

This kind question na iwe'm iwe to say the least.

How can people not love themselves? That should be a crime walai.

onatisi:
even police officers release bullets just because 20naira

It's really a shame, that's how they killed one young guy last week in a viewing centre, for no reason.

I don't understand how it's okay to shoot an unarmed person, especially when the person isn't even attacking you.

What kind of country is nigeria for crying out loud?

This is really sad and annoying.

These f00ls released bullets because of bags of rice? My god!

What is wrong with these women biko nu?

That's absolutely not right, what kind of a married woman has friends who aren't sleeping over stay as late as 11 pm? Is this story for real?

farem:
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You mean the way cigarette smoking has not been banned in Naija?

There is a warning on every cigarette pack, smokers do so at their own risk.

You probably don't know the implication of what the OP says.

urchbarbie:
For d love of me bae, u av done enuf to show dis op dat a child has been abused.....shikena. I dnt seem to understnd y he is on d defensive. Dis is a baby lawd av mercy. 4yrs old. Like u said bringing dis boy close n letting him confide in uncle op wld av done d magic, yet uncle up tinx its a better approach to threaten his dingdong (dis is d point i lol) i was born in d igboro (bush) too n i can relate with dis. @dat age i had a near experience. If its d mothers exposure or some1 z abusing dat kid, or he is d spawn of d devil as some1 said, dat kid needs help. Psychological, spiritual or otherwise. He is just a baby pls

Thank you my sister.

ileobatojo:
Precisely why I've given up. May God help that boy and his siblings. So the mother leaves the kids all by themselves from 5 am, men and older kids come and go at will but it's still this child's fault for behaving like that. lets leave the main problem and heap all the responsibility on this 4yr old who should definitely know from birth how to handle all manners of inappropriate sexual conduct. He should be able to take care of himself psychologically and maintain all decorum at all times. After all, he's a 4yr old village boy, not like those spoilt city children.

I just weak abeg, and I wonder why many people in Nigeria act the way they do? I must be a learner .

demelza:
Op do you know gay has other meanings?
I think he was referring to the other gay which is being lighthearted and happy or brightly colourful.

And you stole the words outta my fingers.

I really bet it is, it's not easy being eccentric.

Having to come up with all those weird colors and outfits to stay happy.

Can one person posses all these traits? I highly doubt that.

Except you are saying any guy with any of the above trait is a potential wife beater.

grandlexuz:
Sweetcocoa, I think we both leaving in two different communities..Mind you I began this thread by saying I am not a fan of child beating as a means of discipline. To say Ali didn't understand why he was being tied definitely means we are on two different pages.. I am talking about a kid putting ON A FACE! Like I mentioned before most people in this neighborhood hated this lady when she moved in. Apparently because of the child beating thing.. However when they got to know Ali, her mum was excused! Mind you I have got a nine year old daughter and 3 year old son! I have also been living with another twelve year old child ever since she was 2. So mind you I know when a child is innocent, unaware of things or just being head strong and unrepentant! Really funny we are having this discussion because my wife and mum personally think this my do not beat a child attitude do spoil kids!

Wow, just wow!

Ali is 4 years old, 1,2,3,4 years old. How can his mum be excused if he has a horrible behavior?he is too young to be blamed for who he is becoming.

I didn't ask you not to beat your children, beat them all you want, I just think it's no the best way. I probably will spank my kids but reasonably.

grandlexuz:
First I must begin by inquiring if you got any kids of your own? I must also ask if you have lived in Nigeria or ever lived in Nigeria? Are you saying a four year child is never responsible for whatever he does? Are you saying a 4 year old child deserves no punishment for doing what he did and eventually showing no remorse.. Mind you tying of his hands only had to be done when he virtually refused to say he was sorry and will never do it again! As much as I accept with you that parents should be responsible and try to protect their kids, I ask again if you have ever lived in rural Africa. Some women leave their homes at 5am to go to their farms or businesses. They return late in the evening. They do these because they must put food on the table, their kids need to have school fees paid. In the course of the day most of these kids move around in groups. Each teaching the other what they have learned or seen in the movies! To these parents their only tool of discipline is the cane. Why? Because it will prevent the child from doing it again!

I don't have kids of my own but I'm around kids alot. I don't think this is about where I have lived as I currently reside in Nigeria.

I'm not saying a 4 years old shouldn't be taught responsibility, I'm saying, this is not an average 4 years old normal behavior therefore should not be treated as such.

I don't see what his mum going out by 5 a.m has to do with this, since you claim he could have seen her doing it and want to experiment. She can't be excused if he picked it up from her.

If you think the cane can stop the boy from doing it again, why is he still doing it? Isn't that why you opened this thread?

grandlexuz:
For the life of me sweetcocoa it is not normal for a four year old child to do what he did and show no remorse! That is why by the end of the day he deserved some punishment of some sort to let him know what he did was bad.. This incident happened a few months ago and after those threats I have noticed some positive change in his attitude. He now knows climbing ontop of his sister would cost his dingdong..Period!
P.s.. Very funny how angry the mum got at me that night for not disciplining the guy enough!

How funny, climbing on his sister will cost him his thing, how about letting him know it's not just his sister he can't climb on?

Kid probably showed no remorse because he doesn't understand why he's being beaten, force and brutality only makes one hardened, especially children.

Interested in this thread.

nodullin:
Fought with a tom boy while in JS3... omo if you see as this girl take dey land me blow like say she be floyd mayweather ehn!!!

I sha give the girl injury...

but we were both punished as we knelt down @ the principals office and given some lashes....

I can't hurt a fly anymore tho... all grown up now.

Sad.

May his soul RIP.

faitheverest:
Man dey, woman push am, him fall......as in, woman push man??

What's this supposed to mean? Like you don't know there are violent women and they are just as deadly as their male counterparts.

Evil woman.

Didn't even come down to check, she should be found and severely dealt with if all that has been said is true.

menix:
Madam disgust I ve noticed u..

what won't I read on NL, noticed me? Get real please.

grandlexuz:
No one is talking about her sister as the victim too! I do not know where you live, but this is Africa and beatings to most parents is the first line of discipline or punishment. Some parents would cut off a child's finger for stealing a slice of meat! However like I already mentioned, when I moved to this neighborhood I despised this lady because I felt she was over beating on this kid. I barely answered her greetings. However hearing her story did allow me share some of her plight while letting her realise hitting on the child at every offense was never the best..Mind you I was the little guys messiah for tying his hands that night..If that punishment was too much for him wanting to molest his sister so be it! Imagine you were living in this neighborhood and returning from work one day you found your daughter playing with this little guy..The little fella right ontop of your daughter.. Who would you say is the victim.

For the life of me, please understand that it's not in the least bit normal for a 4 years old to behave that way, you can't hold him responsible for this, he is 4, only 4.

Asking who i'll term a victim, if I saw such, just shows you clearly haven't been understanding what ileobatojo and I have been saying.

grandlexuz:
Ever since this incident I have been spending sometime with this family...My biggest guess is that he might have seen the mum 'DOING" and definitely wanting to experiment too!

let's agree this is the reason for his action, how then is the boy's behavior a fault of his? Is his mother not supposed to be the one receiving lashes from a cane? Is she not the one who has failed as a parent to protect her child from such exposure?

grandlexuz:
Oh no far from it sweetcocoa. I was only being a sarcastic there! I am a loving and dedicated father no matter the environment I find myself. Agreeing to tie the little fellas hand was the only way of sparing him from getting 100 lashes from the mum. However you must understand that life in rural Africa is different from life in the US, UK, Victoria Island etc. Counselling, Psychologist etc are not part of the system here... In most Government Secondary Schools in Cameroon there is a counselor who gets paid for nothing. They barely make it to work because no one carries their problems to them! To 90% of African families you don't expect them to give their 4 year old a piece of chocolate after trying to insert a plastic container into their mother's V...

I get the sarcasm but unfortunately, it wasn't humorous(not to me atleast) I do understand that life in rural areas is not all that, I do expect however, that as someone who knows better than the kid's parent, you should have done something to help educate her, instead, you applied the same method you claim to know isn't the best.

The thing is that, you don't believe that kid isn't acting on his own volition so you won't see the sense in giving him chocolate, drawing him close to earn his trust and have him confide in you.