poshestmina:
I gatecrashed a looooot when I was small.
I went to every and any party in my area .
.

After beating me,my siblings will still eat the food ...till One day ,my mum got tired , cooked plenty Jollof rice and Meat ,was flogging me as I was eating . I was crying and eating ...I almost choked on Jollof rice.

I hardly attend parties as an adult now . I have a phobia for parties .My mama flog the craze comot for my life.
I buy aso ebis and end up not attending except they are extremely unavoidable.
can't remember the last time I did .

Loll. Nigerian mothers are something else

ModestGal:
I hope this helps, I know the boys would be happy. Truth be told ,one of the main causes of rape is undiagnosed mental problems that many Nigerian MEN are suffering from.
Because I dont know why a mentally healthy man would rape children.


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What about women who rape children

Or do u think it doesnt happen?

hesilo:


Like is it not possible for me to get a VISA if i'm married to her inclusive of the fact she's also a citizen.

Bro, interviews are done on Microsoft teams.

Begin applying for jobs in her area

The only problem u will have is that if they want u to start, and ask for ur visa status, u dont have it yet

But that will give u an idea of ur opportunities

In any case, invite her and see if you two can bond

Or go for q holiday over there

Finally, dont quit ur job. Take a study leave. In that way, u have a route back in case

Judeerons32:
I do not want to believe a governor said those. I hope it's fake news.
Edo election will be peaceful. We do not want war just elections and campaign based on issues.
Speaking to the fact of Wike calling hope Supreme Court governor it is laughable. Wike is the definition of a Supreme Court governor. Wike was declared winner with over 1m votes in 2015 even though card reader indicated less than 400000 votes cast. The Supreme Court had to jettison card reader and ruled that the voter register alone is valid for election purposes to accommodate wike votes. And for this he thanked Mary Odili at his thanksgiving for showing him who to MEET.
Let the elections be on issues the edo people are concerned with.

While i am not for pdp or apc, the question is

Why did the card readers not work

Rivers state is pdp. Thats d truth. Any attempt to deny that is like saying Christians rule sokoto state

novakk:
I earlier posted this story:
https://www.nairaland.com/5694171/4-out-5-pastors-said

In the initial writeup, I said how someone I wasn't getting along with someone I was dating, prayed about it with different people since we were very serious, and how majority said we were meant to be together. I however wasn't fully convinced as we seemed to be different, constantly having little issues, different views and values in life.

Moving to today...
I decided to move on from the supposed "wife". I went with someone that gives me peace of mind. I also thought its better not to live my life based on "pastor said this or that"
However, I've had recurring dreams about the 2nd lady (that gives me peace of mind). The dreams always center around us been together and she suddenly leaving, I won't be able to find her later in the dream. 2 days ago, was the 3rd dream of the same nature.

I am now slightly worried, I don't want to give in to dreams, and want to believe I can pray things are successful and go well between us. Conversely, based on our traditions, maybe I am the one not listening to advice. Between the 1st lady and I are no longer on talking terms.

What do you think? What advice do you have on how best to move forward? I want to learn from other's experience, those who have traveled this road before me.

Do u realise that the dreams could be ur mind replaying ur fears back to u

Answer this question please. Before u began having the dreams, did u have any doubts about her, or fear she might leave, or be pretending?

Ur answer to the above question is significant

Most dreams is just our minds replaying our thoughts back to us.

flyingpig:

And pharmacy?

I am not sure of that. So i dont want to say what i dont know. Its likely that pharmacy is good. Research it and ask those in the know.

Oracle55:
Please my fellows i need your advice, i am in between 2 choices. I have this land i just bought and wana build my house i have fenced it and out gate but i am thinking if to use the money i got to develop the land or i use it and travel abroad (uk ) for my masters pls advice me.

For those abroad is it easy there and can i get a good job after my masters or i should remain here in Nigeria and get married?

I will need to sell my car and properties if i am to travel.

Please help move to front page for more views and suggestions thanks

Listen to those telling u not to go to uk.

I am in UK, and i know they said the truth.

Right now, once u finish ur studies, u are shipped. They are planning to relax it, but the covid19 situation has made unemployment high here, and i dont think they will extend time for students to get a job after graduation, when their own citizenship are jobless due to coronavirus

If u must come to UK, come if u are in medicine or nursing. If not, or u are not coming to study medicine or nursing or CBT or social work, DONT COME. Wait until they relax their rules. Or go elsewhere

powalez:
My friend told me he lost his sense of smell, before you know it,them come carry am go isolation center.now, everyone has just been thinking if they had contact with him,but the guy keeps telling me he has no Corona and that they are not even treating him,they are only giving him medicine for ulcer,I don't know who to believe now,he is at the Benue State University teaching hospital

What treatment are you expecting them to give him

Covid 19 has no cure

Its management of symptoms

Since he is still breathing well, nothing to be done for him

It is isolation . He is in isolation so that he wont infect others. He is NOT in treatment

skimena:
The first time I heard this word I just couldn't stop laughing. do girls really have fish brains? The girls of nowadays seem to be smarter than this or is it olden days women they are referring to? May be it's a personal view and not a general view. Just thinking aloud.

Because some of them are interested in things that are meaningless to men like hairdo,compliments, etc.

Some focus so mucj on these ephemeral things and forget about investing and planning for the future

I know a friend. As a fresh doctor on housemanship, he bought 2 plots of land.
His female colleagues were interested in Brazilian hair

DeGenius3:
I'm A Man

And Frankly Speaking, No Real Man Ever Lifts His Hand
to Hit A Woman

I Just Read How A Guy Punched His Girlfriend (Not Even
His Wife!) to Death Because She Denied Him Sex

This is Absolute Madness!

No Real Man Ever Lifts A Hand To Beat A Woman - No
Matter The Level of Provocation

....Sensible Men Control Their Temper, and It is a Man's Glory to
Overlook an Offense.

Please, be Self-Controlled. Self-Control is Learnable. Learn it
if you're lacking it

Also, Learn to Walk Away From Provocations and Never Entertain
Offense in Your Heart, Your Heart is too small for it

Learn to Let Go Guys, Learn to Let Go

Never Allow Little Little things that dont endure destory your destiny

Most of the things we fight for are just not worth it at all

Let Love Dominate and Rule Our Lives

One of the Natures of Love is that, Love is Never Offended


Thanks



P.S - Dear Woman, Please Learn to be respectful, and just possess
an excellent character - you'll be a real blessing to your man.

And no real woman ever insults a man.

Untill u subscribe to this, u are simply preaching a one sided sermon

Waiting for bullion van investigations

ibkayee


Hahaha. I get u are laughing.

You know, i am not involved in the gender wars. Men bashing women and women bashing men. Because that for me is myopic. People who say we shoukd believe every woman who accuses a man of rape, often change their stance when it happens to their son. Also people who say men should be allowed to cheat often change thier stance when a man cheats on their daughter and infects them with std.

Evil is evil despite the gender of the person doing the evil

ibkayee:
Nice write up

I couldn’t care less about men being victims of paternity fraud in the current Nigeria since they aren’t any better.

When the men go low, ladies take it lower to the floor and let him raise a baby that isn’t his lool at least you are ‘kind’ enough to hide it, same men that will force the baby on you in your face and in front of the world without remorse

When it happens to ur son, or ur best brother, we can talk again on this topic

Where are all those who state that gender based violence is a crime by men against women

Where are all those who state that domestic violence is always by men against women

Only God knows how many times the victim was physically and verbally abused and molested, and battered by the alleged perpetrator

Evil is evil, and knows no gender

Evil and violence in women is equal to evil and violence in men

People who demonise men forget that they make it difficult for women and men who are victims of violence by women to speak.

Say no to violence, irrespective of the gender if the perpetrator

Op, when was the last time the tenants paid rent

People are always quick to blame landlords, forgetting that landlords are human beings who also need money

Unless u become a landlord, u will always jump in defence of tenants

As a landlord myself, while i don't support inappropriate behaviour, i will never condemn a landlord until i hear what the tenant did

I have had a tenant who lived in my dad's property for years without paying, but built his own house at the same time.

A tenant in my own house refused to pay rent, but was building a house for himself.

adecz:



You are suffering from simple
shortsightedness or myopia, which
can be corrected with prescription
glasses. You may also use contact lenses
if you are not a glasses person.

Once you get it, it will remain with you
forever; nothing can cure it..

However, there is a surgical procedure
routinely available abroad that can
correct it & give you eagle vision, it
is done using laser.

The condition doesn't take away
anything from your lifestyle. Most guys
you see with glasses have one eye
condition or the other..

I know people who did laser eye surgery and regretted it because of side effects after some years.

OP, as many have said, go to eye hospital. Use glasses recommended for u. U will use glasses for the rest of ur life, most likely. Its no biggie

GeneralShepherd:


African Americans are the cause of their poverty. Let them quit being victims . Africans are very successful in America when they migrate ,yet those born there keep complaining.

This is what guys like u dont get. Tell me this. What type of Africans are able to migrate? Is it the poor Africans who are uneducated and have no capital.

or isn't it the rich Africans who have the finances to emigrate, who have the education, who hVe the socio economic backing

How many Almajiris have emigrated successfully. How many people from Ajegunle have emigrated successfully to US

To emigrate as an African, u are most likely already educated, connected, enlightened, have the finances, and the dream. Poor black Americans are like the Ajegunle residents and almajiris. Ricj black Americas are there too. And they are successful professionals and entrepreneurs

GeneralShepherd:


Let's look home first? Is Nigeria not filled with prejudice and discrimination even more than America.

Where are you more likely to die at hands of police, America or Nigeria?

So is the answer that we should not support the change in America

Or should the answer to that not be that we Nigerians should also insist on change in Nigeria?

jaxxy:


Nobody is against black lives matter bt themselves because they don’t know what black lives matters entails. This racist cop aggression is a systemic issue right b4 bt more evident during Obama’s time. They did nothing bt now they want to blame trump for everything rather than focusing on solving the problem political interests have hijacked it To attack trump.

It is just a shameless political conspiracy by democrats.

You are changing the goal post.

Are u talking about the systemic and intergenerational racism and its effects on blacks, or are u talking about politics of trump v obama.

If the latter, if u are interested in republican v democrats politics, i am not interested. But i think u are changing the goal post because i am presenting u with good points.

If ur focus is on democrats v Republicans, dont conflate it with issues of racism. Or blame blacks for being poor (which u seemed to do in ur previous posts, when u said they can leave the ghettoes)

sexylassie2:


If they don't employ you, you create your own and employ yourself

Indians and others do that in the Uk and are wealthy today

How do u expect the child of a poor person to start a business? With what capital. With what support.

I think maybe u have not experienced poverty.

My profession has made it possible for me to know in depth the lives of many, the rich and poor alike. I think you do not understand what it means to be poor, to be born into a poor family, live in a poor gheto, surrounded by drugs and criminals, and have no or little good examples to follow.

There are alos poor whites who are in the same boat as poor blacks. They are all the same. Their luve story is so similar. Brn into poverty. Parents drug users and alcoholics. Damaged psychologically. Name it.

Some of them can change. But to progress, they need to be treated without racism and prejudice. The blacks are not asking u to give them money. But just treat them fairly. Is that too much to ask?

The study i told u of above is the reason why employers are here in UK, encouraged to shortlist candidates blindly, that is, without looking at their names and addresses, so as to make it fairer. But then, at interview, u cannot hide the colour of your skin

sexylassie2:


Sorry it not. The issue here is black on black violence in america, is black on black violence caused by social economic deprivation when there are lot of African Americans who are successful.

Nothing stopping a black from leaving the ghetto to have a better life.

I think uou really dont get it.

U said nothing is stopping someone from leaving the ghetto to have a better life. How will that be done when people refuse to employ u because of the coloir of ur skin, or the only places that give u jobs are in and around ghettos ? Or do u think that doesnt happen? That is why people are calling for justice.

There was a study in UK in which the same cv was submitted to different places of work, and names where changed. One name was a common British name, say John Thomas. Anotjer was Muslim name. Say Ibrahim Muhammed. And another sounded strange, like Anambra Zamfara

Although the cvs were same except for names, the british name got invited to interview all the time. The muslim name was invited sometimes. The person with the least invitation to interview was the person with the name like Anambrq Zamfara. That is institutional racism. U are already discriminated agaist even before u leave ur house, just because of ur name. .

One of my best friends is a white british girl from a poor background. Although well educated, she worked in pubs and bars until recently . When i got to know how well educated she is, i asked her why she has not been doing professional jobs, she said bwcause she did not know she could.

This story is true.

I met her in my previous work place where she was working in assistant support role. She had already stopped working in pubs and bars. But she was working in a position too low for her education.

I have been supporting and encouraging her to dream high. The problem she faced and still faces is her family background was poor and dysfunctional. She is the only educated person in her family. But she has been following the examples of her family members by doing only those jobs her uneducated family members do.

That is the impact poor background can have on someone. There is something called intergenerational poverty. Read up on that maam.

sexylassie2:


We are talking about black on black killing in america not Ireland

Statistics dont lie. The common indices in American blacks, and those whites in Limerick and Glasgow is socio economic deprivation

sexylassie2:


Go tell that to African Americans who hate and discriminate against you because you are African.

How about black on black violence, not long again, 56 blacks got killed by other blacks in Chicago.

How can a robber like George Floyd who violently robbed a pregnant woman and went to prison for it, become a hero.

Don't be emotional, is it trump that created laws to harass blacks, the state were this laws were created and where the event happened is a Democratic elected state, so how is this trump fault.

Read my post which is just above urs

BeauBragner:


Oga stop playing the victim card on Trump.
The black race has always been endangered and at the mercy of cruel brutality both from the white folks and blacks alike from time immemorial..Obama was president for 8 years, but what did he do to stop black killings?? Or you have selective amnesia??

As a matter of fact, this 'black lives matters' movement was formed during Obama's administration...that speaks volume.

Infact black on black murder accounts for over triple of black deaths instigated by the whites.

They should use same energy to protest black on black killings too....

Believe it or not, this continued protests has been hijacked by opposing political forces and stakeholders to score cheap political points.

US general elections is just 5months away..

U keep quoting the statistics on black on black murder. But u refuse to reflect on y it is so.

Do u know what centuries of oppression can do to the collective soul of a neighborhood or city or race or group. Why do u think the child of a conductor might want to be at best a driver, but the child of a bank manager will aspire to be the governor of central bank.

When u oppress people and remove their opportunities, crime rate increases. It also happens among whites

Limerick in Ireland was once the murder capital of Europe. It was white on white killings. Glasgow in Scotland was also once the murder capital of Europe. It was white on white killings. The common indices in Limerick and Glasgow was socio economic deprivation and poverty among whites. This led to high crime rates, and high white on white murders

Crime knows no race. Deprivation and poverty breeds crime, irrespective of race, location, gender.

Take away oppression that keep blacks in poverty, and black on black murder rates will reduce

Bozopan:


Lesbian relationships are in my opinion the most healthy. None of the partners feel naturally obligated to control the other or to be submissive towards the other.

.

Sir, u need to do more research on the dynamics of relationships among lesbian couples.

Have u not come accross wicked women. Or do u think the tendency to dominate and control is reserved to men?

My only advice to u is to read up on research into domestic violence among lesbian couples. U will be surprised

CanadaOrBust:


U don’t understand human psychology. If someone tells a lie nothing they’d want more than to disappear from that place so they won’t have to keep repeating the lie. Time exposes a lie. Eventually they won’t be able to maintain eye contact. With time people close to them will know they are lying. With each retelling they’d add or subtract to sound more credible. Also anger based on a lie is not sustainable.

U are a learner

U have not yet dealt with liars and criminals.

CanadaOrBust:


YOU SHUT UP!! U think mere attention seeking has sustained anger for 20 years?? Unwarranted anger quickly dissipates. Also people hate having to repeat a lie. This lady, without having to, has repeated the same exact story to even wider audiences

Accurately repeating a story is not evidence of wrong doing by the accused. It can be evidence of rehearsal and practice by the accuser

ENGINEERG:
But if he raped her I hope your daughter will pass tru the same scenario

But if he didnt rape her, i hope ur son will pass through the same condition

Do u now see why we should say let justice prevail.


I am not for the accuser, i am not for the accused. Let justice prevail.

If the accused is guilty, let him go to jail.

If the accuser is guilty of false allegations, let her go to jail for the same number of years the accused would hv gone to jail.

AWFCNAIJA:
"For further advice and necessary action" do not mean that there would be a prosecution.

The DPP as the government's advocate is expected to look at the report of the police and determine if the facts presented is enough to bring to court.

Sensational social media captions, sentimental judgements or arm twisting tactics have no place with the law.

Thank you. This is wisdom.

The police present what they know and have discovered to DPP, then DPP decides whether to proceed to court or not . If there is evidence of wrong doing , they charge the accused to court. If not, they dont

Jaynom:
how? Loopholes you say? You want an ACCURATE picture of what happened over 14years ago? Do you know how hard it is to remember traumatic Events you've buried in your head?

Bro. That was Biodun's defense. He didn't deny the rape allegations instead he used statue of limitations. An honest upright man would want to clear his name but not Biodun. Biodun did that shiii and his wife is complicit

Do u have any evidence that the qccused us guilty.?

Why should he waste his time arguing he us innocent if and when statute of limitations has apready meant he has no case to answer?

Do u take a brand new car with a sound engine and tell ur mechanic to change its piston and rings?

I qm against rape. But i am also equally against false allegations

If she has any evidence, y did she not present it to court. Why does she present only words and emotions?

Do u know how many men in history have gone to jail because of false allegations. Until it happens to ur son, brother, father, maybe that is when u will get it