Nuel4:
I always laugh whenever I see boys saying no means no etc. That's hypocrisy. Girls were told never to immediately accept a guy on a date, to be his girlfriend or have sex. Girls believed if you make sexual move and they agree immediately they will be considered cheap so they were told to always say no, stop etc it's the guy's duty to try and convince her into agreeing to sex. This has been the norm since the dawn of time. Girls liked it because they could form hard to get or guilt trap the guy afterwards. 99% of ladies reading this have told a guy to stop when they wanted him to continue and would mock the guy if he actually stopped. This led to a serious confusion, a young boy out there wouldn't know if a girl telling him to stop actually means he should stop or is telling him to try harder. This has hurt both boy and girls the mixed messages make it difficult for young boys to actually know when the girls truly want them to stop.

For generations, the notion that with women no means no and no means yes, yes means maybe maybe means try harder and try harder means yes etc was all over the place and women never fought against it they loved it because it made them look complicated which ended up confusing men.
You cannot teach people no means no and no means yes and yes means no and expect them not to be confused.

The truth is this, if we follow the line of no means no then every single man in the world who has ever had sex will be in jail. Even majority of girlfriends told their boyfriends no on the first attempt. It was a normal thing.


I'm not talking about the normal rape we all know about, as in forcefully penetrate a ladies intimidating her with dangerous weapons or a group of people holding her her forcefully having sex with her.

You have a good point

But in all honesty, when a woman tells me no, i take a walk.

Her pussy is not gold.

My name, honour, and pride is worth more than a pussy

I dont beg a lady to have sex with her. She is not doing me a favour. So, when i ask for it, once u say no, i walk.

If she laughs at me later, who cares. My self esteem is not dependent on a lady's opinion of me

DominusPrime:
You obviously think what women go through is a joke.

Just change the gender around and tell me ur response

If it was a woman who reported wakijg uo to see a man touching her, what will ur response be

Enwhen:



That's the issue, you keep blaming Physiology, same excuse those rapist will also give when they see half dressed girls...as a man u can control your system ...after three or four round, can physiology still make your Big John rise to any occasion ?, When u see a small naked girl will your John T rise up ?...study physiology , don't just browse through it.

I quoted you when I saw ur first comment. Now that i have read the entire thread, i wont engage with u

The arguments have been made eloquently by many. Somwone even screenshot a research and sent to u. Engage with the research pls

U think rape is only penile. U forget a man can be sexually assaulted by the insertion of something into his anus. Or a woman cannot do that?

Goodbye

Enwhen:



Calm down...Dem still dey nack themselves ...the boy enjoy am that time ...for boys it can't be rape because the burantachi must stand up before any reasonable thing can happen but for girls , Na to tear the thing even in dry state, making it painful without consent and it's a rape , even if it's ur babe it can be rape , cos of she is not in the mode , it will be painful ...but that can't be said for guys , cos the John Thomas must always stand up ...nothing like rape for guys abeg

U need to read up on physiology of rape. Ur assertions are 100 percent false

Humanoid01:
I have no idea what this is, but the part where you said he doesn't know the difference between 17 and 71 got me thinking about dyslexia or dyscalculia. From your narrative, the greater part of his problem points towards arithmetics, so it's more likely to be dyscalculia. It's also possible to have more than one learning disability, so chances are he's suffering from both.

People with learning disabilities are not necessarily dull (or unintelligent), it's just that the parts of their brains that are responsible for the performance of generally easy tasks which are difficult to them, are in a state of disorder. I'm a slow learner, but I don't consider myself dull, and that's because I believe every individual needs specific conditions to enable them learn effectively.

That boy may be even more intelligent than all of you. He needs to visit a psychologist or learning specialist who understands what it means to have an LD. Stop wasting money on lesson teachers.

I got the following from a website and it fits with some of the descriptions you made:
Dyscalculia

A specific learning disability that affects a person’s ability to
understand numbers and learn math facts. Individuals with
this type of LD may also have poor comprehension of math
symbols, may struggle with memorizing and organizing
numbers, have difficulty telling time, or have trouble with
counting. https://ldaamerica.org/types-of-learning-disabilities/

I am a mental health expert, but not in learning disabilities. I am delighted to read a comment like urs on nairaland. It shows we still have some wise people here.

Thank you

XANDERBOY85:
Hopefully INNOSON will use the new plant for the production of hybrid/electric models of his cars. That's the future of the automobile industry.

You are correct that that is the future. But is it in a country without electricity

Innoson has to, for now, bear the Nigeria current and possible future market in mind

Right now, in current Nigeria, electric is not a seller. Hybrid maybe.

In humanly foreseable possible future Nigeria, electric is not a seller in next 10 years

ntyce:


Obviously you didn't get to hear all he said ..

Abusing and insulting Lai's family isn't criticism.

He went overboard.

Is that a criminal case or a civil case?

Why should the insulted person not sue the insulter

Lagosfinder:
Insulting leader's is a crime

Find better medium to present your grievances

Thank you

Did Lai Mohammed criticize or abuse PDP and GEJ

Whatever your answer is, I hope when the table is turned, you will enjoy it. Because if history tells us anything, it is that life is full of surprises

I doubt if insulting someone is a crime. It might be civil case. Which means that an insulted person can take up a civil case against the accused in a court. The police should not be involved, unless their help is needed to bring someone to court (if the person refuses to attend court hearings)

queenice7:
So when I met him, I was in a toxic relationship. I was entangled with my ex and was in love with this guy at same time. This guy tried to make me leave my abusive boyfriend for him, tried to prove to me he was gona be a better man, infact he was like my dream guy and we were fucking even when I was still with my ex, when it seemed like he had gotten me and we were now dating, i eventually went back to my ex and it kinda disappointed the guy. Now av moved on from my ex, I am now very single and lonely, although av been fucking this guy ever since.
It's more like the both of us are just using each other to quench konji, the show of affection he used to give me then, the attention, the calls, the care, is no longer there, he just calls me when he's Hot and I also notify him when am Hot coz he's the only one am fucking, like am very picky, but deep down within me, I wish he can ask me out again, so I'll say yes and the love and affection would come back. Nobody has shown me much love like this and I guess the fact that I went back to my ex scattered the whole thing. He knows av moved on, and I've since been giving him green light for us to start dating aside just fucking but it seem like he's ignoring it, and my ego won't allow me to ask him. I feel like blocking him or sth bcoz it hurts me when he doesn't reply my messages fast or ignores it, but becomes very active and desperate when he's Hot

Ask him out. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. No cross, no crown

Henreez:
Good day everyone, this is a life story of my friend.
She has been married for 2 years now, it seems the marriage is crashing. She needs help.

Her husband has suddenly changed, he no longer compliments her, no matter how good she dresses. As we all know, women are carried away by what they hear, they want to hear to compliment especially from who they love.
Her husband has stopped doing that for a long time now, he rarely talks to her for long periods without losing interest in the convo. Even when she prepares his favourite meal, he doesn't compliment her. He just eats and leaves.

She isn't happy in her marriage.

Now here's the problem, the husband's brother comes around from time to time, he seems to be doing all the right things, compliments her even in the presence of her husband. Tells her how beautiful she is, compliments her meals, listens to her and gists for long whenever he comes visiting. As a matter of fact, she is now fond of him and they talk on phone too. She needed company and thought it isn't wrong.

As time went by, they became so used to themselves. Now she thinks it's not proper but she can't stop. Her husband's brother promised to keep her happy until her husband regains his senses, now it's a problem to stop.

He asked her to visit him which she reluctantly did, now the guy is interested in marrying her, he asked her to file for divorce since she isn't happy.

Please help!

Does she compliment the husband. Or do u think compliment is a one way traffic

Do u think men dont like support and compliment?

A woman who is allowing her marriage to crash, just because of lack of compliment from the husband, is, in my opinion, still immature for the challenges of marriage

How does she treat her husband beyond cooking his favourite meal? Men too need love

ChizzyBuna:
If there is one thing I thank Almighty God foris that my family could afford my university education in europe.

The amount of knowledge I gained was tremendous... And I realized why half of our youths back here in Nigeria today are VERY VERY DUMB

In Nigeria, We go to school just for going sake.. Nothing important is gained, we just waste years decieving ourselves.
Reading subjects that we won't apply in our life..
No real knowledge, profs collecting sex and bribe to pass students..


You have students that graduate but can't even use the knowledge they acquired.
Some didn't acquire any fucking knowledge. Just went to school because Daddy and Mummy force me to go to school..

Graduates that can't think outside the box
No wonder y'all can't create anything for yourself. Always carrying certificate to look for who to slave for chicken change you call salary.
What Skill did you learn apart from your useless certificate??
Can you send for yourself without slaving and hunting for jobs..
An illiterate can own a business and still hire you so called first class graduate and still pay you chicken change..
A word is enough for the wise
If you still think In This Nigeria that going to University is sure way of making it. Then get ready to suffer for the rest of your life.

Doctors and nurses trained in Nigeria are excelling in all parts of the world

True or false?

Do u want me to name other professions too?

Oluromantic:
Those are the set of girls who understand that support and nuture is a 2-way thing. They know it's not only a man who shd pamper a girl, men too need succour from them. Especially if you lost ur mother at early age or u had a mother like you didn't have one, older girls know how to make you feel important. They think outside the box.

But those tiny unripe and underage cockroaches like those dominating this forum, only know one way traffic... Men must be the spender, men must be the lover, men must make the first move, men must care for them, men must pamper them, men must take them out, men must buy them all, men must recharge airtime for them, men must take them for shopping, men must think for them, men must do this, men must do that. At the end of the day what you get back is... Men are scum! As if it's a taboo for them to make themselves useful in a man's life in return

Thanks for ur wisdom

Exc2000:




the problem here is poverty, greed and stupidity

an Oil producing State shouldn't even have Fishermen as indegine... you cant see a Texas , Oklahoma or Alaska indegine in America or Alberta, Saskatchewan, province indigene or residence or Abudhadi, Dubai and Sharjah emaratis who is still a fisherman in 2020 while his state Oil is being sold for billions of dollars..

Oil producing states in the world are known to house refineries , chemical producing industries, plastic and pvc factories, fertilizer plants and gas powered power plant, with plenty white collar jobs for citizens

lets say Oil is found in my very own Ibadan, nobody.. I repeat no fucking body would have the balls to come into Oyo state to come and explore our Oil.. we go don harvest their heads use them for sacrifice

.

Grass is found there, and some herders are doing what they want. What did you do?

frozen70:


If you think your room mate infected you, both of you go naked and compare his with yours to see if he has such

But I believe you got infected through sex unless you want to tell me that you are a virgin

Tinea cruris is a fungal infection, which can be gotten by okirika, sharing towels or even trousers, etc, let alone boxers

I dont know if it is common among women. But it is not an STD strictly speaking. It is a skin infection which can be gotten from many ways.

In addition to getting proper medical help, i will also suggest dudu osun, or black soap

There is a type of soap calleed ncha awusa by Igbos. Ask the seller to add all orishirishi, including lime

From now till a month after symptoms clear, iron everything, including ur towels and boxers

Oga sir, if u cant live with this woman as she is now, separate now before it is too late

Never expect she will change after marriage. SHE WILL BE TEN TIMES WORSE. yes u read right, TEN TIMES WORSE

If you are happy with your wife shouting at u in public, continue with the relationship.

If you are happy with your wife insulting and abusing your mum at the slightest excuse, continue with the relationship.

If you are happy to have hot water thrown at u, continue with the relationship.

If not, separate now.

This girl will not change. No prayers or miracle will make her change. She is traumatised. Her abusive family background has damaged her psychologically. To change, she will need trauma focused psychotherapy.

A word is enough for the wise.

Do not bring ant infested wood into your house, unless u are willing to have lizards come for a feast. Continue with her if u can tolerate her at 10 times worse. If not, seperate now

And when there is no asset left to be sold, where will apc and Buhari get money.

Nigeriaaaaa.

There was a country. Achebe was right!

Make it a short goodbye, and take a long walk

Oluromantic:

Sure I can't slash my belongings with a problematic woman. I'll rather will my properties to my kids.

Yes. If u dont want to divorce, make sure u write a water tight will

Preferably, put ur properties in the name of ur kids

This is because will can be challenged, and fake wills can be produced. This is naija

Oluromantic:

Oga signing divorce papers gives her more right to your properties than when not divorced

U make me laugh.

To each his own. Follow your heart sir.

Oluromantic:

Did I tell you I want to remarry?

No you didnt

But she will also fight ur brothers and sisters over your property. Based on law, unless u wrote a will, or divorce her officially, she has a claim or right to your property.

What will finally happen will depend on the financial and legal strength of your family and she herself

Oluromantic:

Correct.

I don't know why people see divorce as a quick option...too bad. Yes if what he/she did pained you, you can give a gap for a while to get over the betrayal because, you still love him/her. Then you can come back after you've missed and forgiven each other since you never divorced..there's dignity in that. But taking a final decision of divorce and then coming back is foolish. Divorce is an option to take when you're sure nothing can bring you together ever again. As for me, I won't even divorce no matter the offence, I prefer to just remain separated for life than signing some official papers.

If you do not divorce, at your desth, the woman and her children, and ur last married woman (if u married another) will fight over your property

If u choose ur option, make sure u write an official will, a very legal one. If not, their will be serious fight at ur death

Arekpitad:
One thing about these issues is that you both should know what you want and not based on just one thing because thats what determine maturity in a relationship...asking a lady if she is a virgin makes her uneasy especially if she loves you and her fear of she losing you makes her take such decisons of lying to you so you don't judge her as a bad person ...Don't ask a lady this question, if she sees a bit of maturity she would tell you herself or as a professional you would know yourself with your observations..but i personally don't feel being a virgin is necessary because what matters is the heart,visions and ambitions not even the beauty

What if it was the girl who said it without being asked?

Or dont u think they can say that without being asked?

I am sure they do have thier reasons for saying it without being asked.

OP, follow your heart. If you love her as a person, continue. If the lie is too much for u to take, think deeply and decide

Ishilove:

It goes both ways

I am happy you know that it goes both ways

Ishilove:

I am surprised that this kind of nepotism exists in the seminary and by extension the Catholic Church. I would have thought they will be happy to even have your applications. Later later when the one who failed starts misbehaving people will start casting aspersions on the church of God, not knowing the dubious way the person got admitted in the first place.

God is the judge of all. You can still serve God in other capacities so don't be discouraged.

Do what extent do you know if the man who told the story you are commenting on is saying the truth?

Teebaba30:
There is this lady I have been dating now for almost eleven years (11) she was my first love, we started dating while I was still in my final stage of secondary school, things were moving smoothly, as we are both new in the game of love.

I could remembered, then, mtn with their free night calls, we would talk from 12am to 5:00am then, she is the daughter to the king of the town, a well known king in Lagos state, but along the line, as we progress in line, owing to my fine boy of a thing,.

You know we guys when we sense that, it seems all lady want us, due to our cute look, or academic reasons, we take the advantage to flirt, of which she so much detest a cheating guy, she caught me times without number, but still hard for both of us to let go our anyone, after my higher institution,

I relocated to Lagos to start life and keep the hustle real, but this lady was in Lagos with mom, she keep coming to my place even in Lagos, but unfortunately, we lost contact, for seven years, we couldn't reach ourselves, then i decided to relocated to another location in Lagos

But just last month, her call came, that she saw my contact on Facebook, And we try to renew the relationship, that's how we started and doing fine, she's now in her final year At Fountain University, Oshogbo,

Now the problem facing us now is, She is a Muslim, while am a Christian, her parent will never allow her to convert, while my own parent will never allow me to convert, and now we are madly in love, she try to convinced her dad, but all effort was prove abortive.

We love ourselves so much, but religion is the barrier facing us now, we are both planning to run away from the country, she promised to foot all bills for our travelling, but I told her we should try just be friend as our religion is the barrier here now.

If not for the religion issue, we plan to have our introduction this year, and get wedded next year, but religion want to truncate the whole plans,

Pls fellow nairalanders, your advice is urgently needed now, we are both confused, with no option, we can't let go of anyone, and yet we don't want our parent to turn back to us,

She keeps crying everyday, even I myself, and in the state of confused now,.

SHOULD WE QUIT THE RELATIONSHIP OR WHAT SHOULD WE DO NOW..?

Have u thought of each of you maintaining their religion.

Like u remain Christian, she remains Muslim. Is that not a possibility?

Donald3d:

I was about to say it isn't important and you shouldn't bother yourself about it, but I have learnt something in marriage, everything is important .

So, let's dissect your issue starting from the root. I believe starting from the root is the best way to solve problems, to prevent a recurrence.

Let's start with WHY

Why do you want her to share your pictures ?

1. Is it because you want to do what others are doing (the ones you are jealous of). You want online validation ?
2. Or is it because you feel she doesn't love you enough, because she isn't sharing your pictures.

If your answer is number one. You really need to rethink this Sir. Online validation no dey help anybody. Its a gathering of people who really don't care about you or how much you or your wife love each other. It would put your family under unnecessary stress to "keep up" with what everyone else is doing.

You would be subconsciously pushed into basing your love for each other on what people's perception of what your love for each other should be . I hope this isn't confusing.


If your answer is number 2, you really need to take it easy with her and also treat her "issues" from the root. Ask her WHY , in a very calm manner, without looking or sounding judgmental. You need to communicate your worries to her and what you would like her to do and WHY you want her to do it. Also listen carefully to why she hasn't posted your pictures. You would be shocked to get replies like "I don't want anyone to steal you from me ". Just ask her, in a respectful manner.

Away from your concerns and your worries, please understand that people show love in different ways. Look around you carefully, everyday, and see other ways she is showing you love, apart from uploading your picture online.

Offline show of love is always more real than showing it online. Because its done out of selflessness(because no one is watching).Most (not all) people who constantly post their families or spouses online are just looking for online validation, an invisible competition to see who can display love the most. Of what use is it, when love is shown online and you are not treated right offline.

What I am trying to say Sir is, while you try to find out why she isn't sharing your pictures, appreciate the other ways she is showing you love offline, because at the end of the day, that is what really counts.

Can i just say this to u sir

THANK YOU.

U may wonder why i am thanking you . The reason is simply because u spoke with wisdom, knowledge, and experience.


If 20 percent of nairalanders speak like u, this forum will be the best in the world

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll leave to regret the curse of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ......Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

If you become close to your son, hope you know what that means?

Note, if the story is true, i don't support what the man did. If no other thing, the lady should get a refund of her contribution to the rent, minus the pro rata share of her stay there. But when you put in to consideration that she was sent out without an official agreement terminating her cotenancy, she is entitled to compensation.

Royalbloodline:



Well said!

That is the reason why u must know for a fact that Nigeria will keep getting these kinds of leaders till eternity!

Don't waste your prayers, the percentage of sensible Nigerians who cAN think outside the one Congo of rice bribe is less than 5 percent!

Of this number a good 60 percent or more won't come out to vote!

Why?

What is the point?

The fraudulent corrupt individual who can bribe the people or who can rigg elections will still end up winning!

My advice:

Find ur way out of this forest or your children may curse you in future!
Things are bound to get seriously worse! Expect 1 dollar to be N1000 in less than a year time!

You can write this down

Well said sir. Well said

Zico5:
May God give us reasonable leaders that love masses as they love themselves. I am still perturbed that these leaders are still playing politics with this pandemic. It shows the level of rot in our system. That's why none of them could challenge Dino Melaye on the recent outburst about senseless leaders we have in our polity since 64 years ago of selling crude oil. Masses will run out of patience soon with what is going on.

No need praying to God to give you good leaders. God does not answer such prayers.

Next election, vote according to your conscience, not according to tribe or religion

Encourage people u know to vote according to conscience, and not according to religion or tribe

If you are among the few who voted according to conscience in last elections, then i will say THANK YOU. Continue to do the same

We are getting what we voted for.

Until Nigerians stop voting who gave them rice, and according to tribe and religion, we will be in this mess

Charly68:
Who will borrow Africans brain in this generation..these white people destroy many of our traditional values and replaced them with their own ,things are getting worse by the day,I sincerely believe we traditional cute to Covid19 and Madagascar medicine may the magic formula..we should never allow anybody to demarket it's efficacy .

On what evidence are you saying the Madagascar herb will work. Is it on emotions.

meum:
WHO said so?

Dem no dey ever gree say agbo dey work


But Dem no dey ever accept am. Na tablet, injection/vaccine Dem dey recognize.


If you understand the politics in the pharmaceutical industry, you'll endorse confirmed agbo.
Specific Agbo dey cure specific sickness but Dem no go ever accept am.
Don't get me wrong I'm totally in support of agbo being scrutinized but oyinbo no go endorse agbo wey tablet/injection dey.
Tablets and injections are good but E get some sicknesses wey agbo be oga 4 wia Dem dey.

Forget our laboratories. We no dey celebrate our own b4.

I know local herbs can and do work for some things.

But i will never use anyone that is not a herb already used as food, unless it has been tested. My reason is this

Agbo (to use your terms) may cure an illness, but may do damage to your heart, kidney, liver, glands, prostrate, etc. They may do major damage to major organs in the body. Sometimes, these damages only become obvious later on, many years later.

That is why tests and longitudinal experiments are always done on medications. Longitudinal experiments and studies are those research which study the effect of something over a number of years

So lets say a medication is administered to 1000 people. All their body funtions of various organs in the body are recorded before the drug is administered. While the drug is in their system. And at various intervals for years. This shows how safe a medicine is

Obviously, because of time pressure, we may not have time to do that on vaccines and medications developed for Corona virus.

So back to the issue , does Agbo work? How safe is any Agbo. Is efficacy the same as safety?

My answer is that efficacy is different from safety.

Madagascar should release the experiments and studies they did that shows their agbo is efficient and safe for Corona virus. Until then, i will class their Agbo as a candidate, not a cure.

WHO has said it is not even a candidate. I hope WHO said that based on experiments.