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onatisi: she will be siding her daughther and telling her not to be a fool for the man and to be demanding,u dont know all old women

are you the op

this is soo touching....

Beync: In Nigeria, how many of ur children calls on police when u shout @ them, even beat them up?
how many times has ur wife called police on u for battering her or even for isolating ur manly responsiblities @ home?
How men can take it when a woman relax in parlor and watch her fivorites sport channels etc while the man prepare food in the kitchen? what's wrong with these things,our culture isnt it?
Nonsense!! i dont get, it is that we cannot be honest and tell ouselves the truth? we have a conservative culture, we tend to have this we feelings. when it come to families we are supposed to be keepers. she only beat the girl and she did not kill her so what's the drama abt? the girl herself is rude and is not well brought up to have reported her aunty to her father instead of the husband if she was that hurt. In as much as it's wrong to maltreat any child it's not a crime to discipline a child who did wrong. No sane man should Slap another man's wife cos the woman disciplined a child. was there any bruis or cuts or was she beaten to coma to mean that she acted cruely to the girl? the man is not responsible at all. may be he used the avenue to avenge for something he has been nursing for the woman.

did someone say it's a taboo to beat a sister inlaw becos she is supposes to be a mother in law but she is free to insult and misbehave in my own house? to hell with that nonsense primitive taboo.

EOD...

drnoel: I believe that only a lady can make the statement u made and go free making that statement. Even when my elder one told me they restrained him, I can confidently tell u, it left a bad taste in my mouth. I didnt want to hear something like that. I found it unfair then, but after I opened this thread I have spoke to my elder one and some older relatives about the issue. I realised as we were discussing the issue, that although my relatives restrainting him at that time may not have been the best thing to do but it certainly was the wisest. Yes, his wife was not happy on hearing that cos she now believes she doesn´t have any allies among us (her in-laws) and I don´t mean any disrespect by saying this but "women see things only in certain ways (pls someone correct me if am wrong).
I have repeatedly assured my cousin´s wife, that she should be patient and that the issue would be tackled appropriately. Have told her that it was clear she was wronged but that it has to be tackled by the family cos the slap was not just an insult to her but also to her husband and her husband´s people.

what kinda brain does that man have in his skull i think that woman who was slapped husband too should go and give his elder brothers wife repeated slaps too. That way the man will no what it feels like ant there wunt be any need to resolve any issues. Since they held him back in oder th fight his elder brother......

[quote author=Busy_body]Hello Aunty T, ikunle mi re oh, how pickin and how body and how are those delicious cakes of yours doing in the oven [/quote]me sef dey postrate oo,we all good and the cakes are all well on point. O n gbona feli feli...

[quote author=Busy_body]This one pass me oh [/quote]aunty bb,eku ojo meta oo. Na your face be this. Shey alafia ni ewa??

This is realy a hard one oo, in my own opinion i think d wedding should be shifted to honour the late father.... Even if at all they would have a wedding considering the fact that they love eachoder and a child is on the way, it should be a very quite wedding, only at the registry with very few pple around and they need a whole lot of prayers. The lady in person needs prayers,so her late father can forgive her wherever he is,she also needs the suport of her family in this else i fear for the future of their union.....

jhydebaba: So this was your plan all along? Can you just imagine my unfaithful wife, the people you want to eject from "your home" do you know their individual contribution in building the place you now refer to as "your home"? I remembered how my family stood by me when I was building the house even offering assistance in the process. My dear wife, where were you then? You are nothing but an ungrateful gold digging housewife, thank goodness you confessed that my family is not giving you problems.
So, what exactly did you want? Get me to send my family parking, kill me and inherit my properties?
If you know what is good for you, don't bother to come home this night, open another thread and ask NLDers to apologize on your behalf.

are u kidding me?? OMG this as got to be a joke or some sort of a prank.... If this aint a joke... Op u are finished... As in u are in deep real s. H . I. I .t

debrief08: Thank You For your recommendations especially the one about SCOAN , However we prefer to Go to Doctors and pray God uses them and skills they have learnt to treat him.
Thank You all for the positive prayers, even though this is not my thread, I am happy to report that He is Much Much better, Gradually recovering, has started taking walks, postive reports everyday, Surgery very successful, We expect them back at the end of August.

all praise and adorations be unto God. Am most delighted to hear the good news. Congrats to you madam and a bigger CONGRATS to him. Our God as never failled and he will never faill in our homes and towards our loved ones IJN... I share with you the euphoria of the celebration as you await his safe return.....

Sagamite: I bet you are scared and biting your nails.

The title of this thread is for people like you.

I will humilaite you intellectually any day.

It is not mouth, na fact. It does not take me long to gauge people's intellect and I know the ones I should tell such facts.

hmmm........ Orisirisi nko.. I hope you do the same in real life too

@tgirl wetin u cos this early monday morning no go allow some persons concentrate for work oooo... Lol

woow this thread is getting spiced up with lot of fun... Make i just tanda for my chair,crossed leg while i relax and watch as the fun unfolds with a chilled bottle of kunnu and chops... **winks**

Oga ooo, i dont even like to read his post @ all. Reason is cause its always to long for me to read. But my hubby sometimes reads his post cause he is nairalander too, he tells me wen saga is on a thread,the thread gets as long as 5-6 pages or even more and i reply him by saying '' let him strain his fingers and vent all his anger and pressure on his keyboard on faceless id's,afterall na him get him time''

Me personally dont like to argue with someone i cant see physicaly. I like it ''eye ball to eye ball''

@ efe thank you soo much, this is realy gonna help me a long way.tnx a lot God bless u.

@uyogabie tnx for d advice realy apprediate it.

@Johndoe tnx to u too.

freecocoa: You sabi read english so?

freecocoa u go wicked small oo. LWKMD @ ur comment

I have intentions to wheen my son before he marks his 1st birthday which is in 3weeks from now. I tried it yesterday and succesfuly dint give him breastmilk throughout the day,thoug it wasnt easy at all coupled with d pain,sweeling and urge to vomit. But at midnight when he woke up was a diffrent ball game entirely as he refused to collect anything xcept from breastmilk which i eventualy gave him. Pls mothers kindly share your tips how you carried out this task as i need ideas urgently..

Pls note,my son never accepted fomular or bottle,exclusive for 6months and started solid imediately,he started walking as early as 10months and 2weeks.... Tnx as a await your response.

Idowuogbo: Tayo.....he-she do exist ya no!

no be small thing ooo. I just dey hia dey laff..

kandiikane: Male.

intresting..... So that means you are gay Enjoy your life.

kandiikane: Lol! I think he knows or suspects. He said I spend too much time on mý phone.

He saw the screen once when I was on here and he wanted to look at what I was doing. The guy come vex because I said no, told him I was on google. He was not a happy bunny at all.

He knows nairaland and I pray to Gawd, he doesn't know my user name.

wooow,, are u gay Your gender is M and you refering to your spouse as ''HE,HIM,GUY'' just wondering..


@post yes my hubby is also a member on nairaland,we both know our user names and passwords and we both dont have a problem about what either of us post here. If he gets to read an intresting thread here befor me,he tell me and i do the same too. Its fun and am catching fun......

ronkebp: @ pOSTER....not that i really want to know who the person is, but i want to know who he is, if he is on this forum, ]only because it is high-time irresponsible men stopped giving advices on here, when their lives is like a scattred broken china-glass on the kitchen floor.

It is a big shame and inhumane, for a man not to care for his own child, irrespective of whatever the mother might have done. If you do not think that she is your daughter why don't you take a "paternity test" and save yourself from the woman nagging you to take care of your child, or step up to the plate and take care of your child.

You (who is the father of this child) have forgotten that she has a "God" watching over her innocent self and would fight for her. You are such an irresponsible man and to think that you would hold your balls high to say you are "a man".

Cotton..expose him here....let the whole world know...nonsense.

seconded..
@op if you can post his identity here and everyone knows his real person,alot of nairalander can talk some serious sence into his skull,you never can tell,it could go a very long way in makin a diffrence,even if its just a little diff.....

Funny enough i realy wish to know this man id,would love to go tru his past topics and post.....

cotton101: I left the door wide open when she was a little baby even thou I would be verbally abused on the phone - b4 anyone says o it must be my fault please tell me what a woman who has just given birth and 2 days after the baby has been born i'm still being insulted (nursing my body after a CS and loss of blood - i'm reading insult in HDU). anyway he has the financial means - he has been spoken about in another area on this NL and he is a bit well known.

I kept the door open but he was never interested - i did all the calling and updating until one day it hit me that this man never asked after his child it was me updating and trying to form some sort of relationship.

anyway I am about to remarry so that kind of changes things.

I really have to go now and drop little madam at nursery, b4 all her little fans start crying cos she is late.

well i will advice this hoping it would work for you and thats if you can do it,it has worked for someone i know...
Locate his current workin place and were he loves to hang out with friends, it has to be a very good timing so you meet him unawares. Go there with your child and have a strict disccution with him, i know he would want to listen to u,if u have to shout on him or embarass him infront of his co workers or boss then do. Your main aim is to let his co workers and friends know the kinda person he is. And since most of them would be family men and women,they are sure to talk some sence into his head after you leave which would make if ashamed and take up his role.

Note that that action is realy goin to embarass him if you dont mind. Do it twice if u can. Hope it works for you. Have you also tried talking to a lawyer??

chaircover: For a while I couldn't understand what you were all talking about and then I went back to the beginning of the thread and started again and discovered that we have one person messing about with two user names and responding to her own posts

Esemaro/rol you are a very foolish girl and I dont mean this is an insultive way but as a fact. You come on here looking for acceptance on a terrible thing that you plan on doing and then you top it up by giving out your BBM pin on a public forum. You then say that your husband logs into NL. Dont you know that a simple search in google of your pin number will bring up this thread. How do you think I was able to track down and retrieve my stolen blackberry? All I did was to wait a few weeks and then google the pin number. The twerp who had the phone had put it in his facebook profile and from there he was very easy to locate.

Did you say you are a medical student? Dont they carry out intelligence tests before they accept students in medical school these days? Is this the caliber of doctors who will be treating our loved ones back in Nigeria? How have you coped in school all these years with such low intelligence?

Anyway I dont blame you; I blame the older man who inspite of his age is unable to discern good wife material from shoyoyo. . . . Brazilian & mary kay powder will not kill some men. Look at the trash this one has put in his house and he will be beating his chest that he is married. Shioooor

hahahahahahahahahahahahaha

EOD..oti parri

[quote author=ese-maro]Ok am out.NL just ended for me cos no one would ever take me seriously on dis forum.Tanks for d earlier advice anyway.it helped.[/quote]you are out indeed.. Am sure you will comeback soon with another id and start replying your own post yourself. Afterall am not suprised at ur display of posting your bb pin here. At 23years,you should be alot smarter than this....

[quote author=ese-maro]How does having two ID's makes me so unserious.am not sure I will be Foolish enough 2 make you guys look like jokers.Tanks anyway.[/quote]wow so you actually own the two id's. So now its no more you feeling unsecured about your husband being REAL cause he dosnt cheat on you. You now want to cheat on this same man God as given you as a husband,with your ex for that matter. Young woman i dont pity you at all,cause you know what is right from what is wrong.... You better find ways to spice up your marriage, read books and browse....

debrief08: From the little I can understand, you liked her but took her for granted, she found someone who didn't and moved on. God has nothing to do with this, you don't take people for granted and expect sane people to hang around waiting indefinately.
If you still like her, talk to her, its her decision, no one here can help you. But I must ask, what is different now? When you have more people paying attention to you, won't you fall back into the same circle? Ask your self if you have learnt anything from this experience before you drive away another person who likes you again. If you want to be with someone treat them well.

seconded

[quote author=ese-maro]I reallly dnt knw too.u get married and stay apart.I thot marriage was for companioship not just giving birth.I tink the problem is from the men,if u insist u want ur wife 2b wit u,den she will be.My hubby hates distance and will neva encourage it,while some men don't really care.[/quote]do you realy have a hubby? Cause am kinda confused due to your previous post of posting as with two diff id's on the same post.... Just wondering sha...

[quote author=Efemena_xy]What a question! You sure know how to throw the spotlight on someone sha

Okay, how do I answer this without sounding too crude?

One of the joys of married life is that you get to explore different bedmatics with your hubby. As long as there is mutual understanding between you both, anything goes. It's a constant learning process and as long as I'm comfortable with what's being done to my body, then why not? Like Ronke and CC mentioned, your hubby is no mind reader, so if you want something, then ask.

For example, I found out that during my pregnancies (especially at the late trimester where the missionary and wheelbarrow positions were uncomfortable) - one of my favourites was to lie back and get hubby to sit ontop / pin me down, i.e sit on my b[i]o[/i][b]o[/b]bies so I could go down on him while he did the same for me. He never would have done it if I hadn't initiated it...and this was at 8months gone

Yes, lightly applied B-D-S-M also works for me (won't go into further details here). But having said that, getting spanked loudly on the rear before entry is one of my favourites

Pls I'm a good girl o! Just attempting to answer your question honestly... [/quote]eeeeeeehhhhhhhhh, Efeeeee. If i hear say i no try dis one tonight eehhn....

Abeg wetin be B .D .S .M make try dat one too......

Time to give my son aburo...*winks*