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violent: Gone were the days men had ballz!...Any man in control of his home will not be so embarrassed by his wife in Public. The very least any man should do is to make sure his inlaws understood there and then that he doesn't think their little joke is funny....just responding by saying in a very firm manner that "It's very rude to call your husband dumb " is likely to jolt everyone to reality and make them realize that someone means business.

i agree

Yomieluv: yes that's true sha,sorry about the funky text,aint using my phone then...can't we have a wolrd of no Divorce?

hmmmm

Op,how often do u buy gift for ur parents or grandparents? Is there anyone u av promised a gift and u are yet to fufill? Do u give alms to d needy and offering in church?do u give ur tithe regularly? If u are a married man,are u comfortable with ur kids skulls,is ur wife workin or doin a good bizness?

I guess u feel bad after purchasin items only to realise u ad more pending and very impotant tins to do with d money. Causion ur spendings and buy only tins dat are very impotant,dont buy tins on impulse cos u just myt never use dem. Ensure u send gift or cash to ur parents as often as u can, thier daily prayers are very important in our lives. And pray very well.

ifyalways: ^Yeah,I should think so.

@Topic,The man actually is not just a dumb dump but also a spineless,toothless bulldog.The wife have obviously been insulting and he,like a perfect MUMU is sitting,watching and praying.

Which kain "skunk" or "ogogoro" go shack me sotay I go get liver and morale insult my husband I wanna die?lol

Anywayz,no advise for ur friend.Everybodi get him own burden/load/portion so maybe living and accepting an abusive and disrespectful wife na him portion. . .God wud make a way!

Btwn,this story might not be true sha.Never heard of 9ja women disrespecting and verbally abusing their men abi na paper marriage?Is the man a "house-husband" ?

Lol.
D wife should also try it in d huabands parents house too and make sure his siblings are there too.

chrizfasa: most time i imagine why most women do put to birth @ night.
I want all the mothers in NL shd pls make us to understand this reason.

Is dis supposed to b a question? When ur wife wnts to put to bed,tell her to wait endure d pains and put to bed in d morning or afternoon. U hear me so..

ITbomb: My question . Why do people divorce when they still feel the need to stay close to each other if not for anything , their children.
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This is what I see in my crystal ball:
A lady goes close to her ex cos of a child and gets another

i couldnt have agreed more with u

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Eh Taryour, just thought to inform you (before you crucify me again for not alerting you) that Prof Ronke may resume the Successful Milking 101 class. Shebi you've seen her comment on the thread?

Oya, I delegate you to carry out her instructions o! [/quote]my dear i hail u jare. I no mis dat lecture for anytin anytin. I just dey follow both of una,i dey any thread u both dey. I no trust prof ronke,she fit deliver impromptu anytime anywere,na so she don do for anoda thread on catwalk.

How family? My love to ur kids,wishing dem a happy childrens day..

ronkebp: if that is the way she walks, how can she tone-it down again? Cat-walking has been the way i walked since i came-out of my maama's womb,[ nope] since i took interest in modelling, and i was like 5 or 6 and i used to walk like the models just for fun and it became part of me, in my secondary school days, my seniors used to punish me like hell because of the way i walked, university nko? don't even let me go there, you will here guys singing ( i love the way you're walking......) and babes would be eyeing me as if i would snatch their men, but it is something i can never change or don't even know how. Married now, and i am still cat-walking and having fun... .

There is nothing to tone, unless her hubby to be does not like it, even at that, she would have to learn to walk anew, or embrace yourself and love the way you are.

ronkus baby abeg com teach me how to catwalk na,, make i use am trip my oga on my b.day jare...

Op is dat all or u are still typing?

cantell: @op,
No offense to you & your cousin, but you guys are really stupidd with a capital "S". Even people in casual relationships check out their partners before they go in deep.
Are you guys that desperate? For the love of God, Gino vegetable oil can also be classified as an oil company!

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@op, ur cousin as made a grave mistake n am sure she is regreting it now. D deed is already done n cant be reversed. Snc u said d guys parents are ok too,chilax n dont raise any mony for him yet,but if his parents dont,den u can asist with little to start with and c how he handles d little funds,if u are impressed and still willin to suport in a large way,then u can go ahead but not without u havin a serious man to man talk with him. I realy hope for d sake of ur cousin and her unborn child,he changes to a responsible man.

chaircover: I'm Nigerian, and I love Nigerians; but judging from how Nigerian men act in the UK, I don't think most of them make good husbands.. The typical Nigerian husband is loud, controlling, a club freak, and most are fond of having extra marital affairs..Nigerian husbands are also one of the biggest 419 ers in the UK, and most are baby fathers(after chasing who would have been their real wife away); jumping from one womans bed to the other... They're also very fetish, and too lousy for my liking...

If what I wrote up there makes no sense, then the opening post makes no sense either We should learn to stop generalizing. There are good and bad eggs in every single culture

right on point !!!

Is dis for real

ronkebp: Stay unmarried.

GBAM!!!
Op nawa for una oo

ronkebp: Taaa!!! taryour, as i pronounce am, na so i spell am,

gaskia i hear u oo. Lol

mollytinrox: Pls let's not be so judgemental. The husband may have gotten it through any other means but sexual intercourse.

i kinda agree with u on a second thought but dat will b almost impossible for d wife to believe...

maclatunji: I don't know; talk to the person about it but if they reject the idea in entirety, you may have to choose between the pet and the person.

very true.

I love dogs and used to av one befor i got married,my hubby never liked it but befor we got married he picked a little intrest in mine cos he visited often befor married,now we are married i dare not raise d issue of gettin one into our home cos i already know d rely i would get. Him liking it dosnt mean he wnts one as a pet in his home. I only get to see my dog only wen i visit my parents..

ronkebp: Sun na-nan!!! how you dey

OMG ronkus don kill me with laff today oo. Is dis supposed to b HAUSA or SPANISH.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Boy, go study for your JAMB and get off this section. It's for mature minds not little boys.[/quote]Lol

akmid: since she is not in her 30's,i wld say when u guys are financially,emotionally and physically ready! moreover she is ur gf,not ur wife,y d hurry? abi she wants to tie u down? y not do the first things first,get married then u guys can talk abt children!

well said.
Op asoon as u think u are fit n finacially ok to b a father then go for it untill u are ready keep using protections with ur babe so she dosnt tell u it was a mistake if she gets pregnant. Dont rush so u dont regret ur actions.

Motun mi: Good day all,

I need sincere and matured advice from nairalanders on an important issue.

I am a working class single lady and I will be getting married in less than a year from now. I have a guy whose attitude, character, disposition to life, etc anyone would desire but I happen to earn much more than him since I have a good and stable job unlike him. This however has NEVER caused any issue between us.

I just bought 2 plots of land and the documentation needs to be done.

Where I am confused is, do I make these documents bear my name since I'm not married to him yet or should the document carry our names since we are getting married soonest?

He is fully aware of the transaction and was not against the land acquisition. I want to be safe and at the same time I want him to feel it that what belongs to one belongs to the other.

What is your advice to me please? I need to see my lawyer for the documents SOON.

for now let it be in ur name,later on when u av been married and u love him enuf n feel comfortable to add his name then u can put his name if u choose.

But dont ever make d mistake of putting it to his face dat u bot d land with ur money wen u av any misunderstanding in future. All d best.

OYINBOGOJU: 10 years

You tried,you really tried.


Could you tell me the gain of your believe since that has being the force holding you for long time?

If your church and your believe is against se.x before marriage,now tell me who is feeling the pain now. points for those who are planning to get married.

My advise

Don't divorce yet, get another young lady pregnant first,to be sure that you are not the real problem,if possible let your family do the arrangement for you.
After that you can confront your wife with full courage and assurance.

Do u support d op commitin aldultry...

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]WARNING - IF YOU ARE GOING TO ANSWER THIS QUESTION HONESTLY, MAKE SURE YOUR SPOUSE DOES NOT. . .I REPEAT DOES NOT KNOW YOUR NL USERNAME.

You are now free to open Pandora's box.

Thank you!! [/quote]Lol. He sure knows mine and will post his soon...

D only tin u avnt done here is keeping ur faith. Divorcin ur wife isnt a good idea. Meeting anoda woman outside isnt an assurance dat she would bear u any child. Ur wife must be feeling more unhappy than u feel.

I realy dont understand dis. Is she using d pills in her pregnant condition

Very nice thread n am hopin to learn from it.

kulyie: I read a horror novel some days ago and since then i'm always scared of sleeping alone in dark places .when nepa takes away light,its worse.i couldnt even sleep all through the night because of this fear and i think this book has really messed with my mind.each time i look @ my phone to check the time,it feels so slow.how can i get this fear off my mind,i dont even want to remember what i read cos it feels so real

nawa for u oo.. Pele.
But u for no complete d novel na when u started getting scared. It will pass away dont worry. Pele

Yes yes yes and yes. I would marry him allover again and again if given d 3rd,4th,5th till forever.... We simply just cant leave without eachoder. Still loving each other like we just meet. He is d best man ever created by God,d best hubby,father and friend. He is unique and he is my WORLDSGREATEST....

dbisiback: Yes i am holding on to my marriage i am not leaving, we have 2 beautiful kids. I just need to know if anyone knows where i can buy love.

He is good looking, everyone likes him, he is generally an ok person. Though he has hurt me in the past but to be fair he is not the worst man. He is not violent as well. He provides the little he can i help out as well.

My only problem is i do not love my husband, we have been married for over a decade i have tried and tried and tried as much as i can but i just cant find any emotion however small for him. Something happened shortly before we got married and i found that the love i had for him grew wings and flew away but stupidly believe i could grow the love back with time but after 12 years i still cant find it.

Sxxx is a challenge for us we do it for marital obligation not for pleasure infact i never for once enjoy it with him, its sad, its killing i wish i enjoy it like every other woman but as much as i try i cant find any emotion. We dont kiss i find it disgusting, dont hug it makes no meaning to me, we dont make love it irritates me we do however manage to have sxxx

I feel nothing, absolutely nothing for him, we relate as friends not husband/wife. He has tried his best he has resigned himself to fate, i have as well but sometimes its killing to live this way. I feel for him i really do no man should live like this. He never consider leaving, i do at times but i cant, i am not.

Where on earth can i buy love?

op if i av to b very frank with u,wot u av done is wickedness. U shoulndt av gone into dis in d first instance knowing u avnt forgiven completely,all u dis was marry him out of pity and not being called alesheju like d yoruba call. Now u are not only punishing dat man but urself as well and ur kids inclusive. If dis goes on without a change,ur kids would most likely grow up thinkin couples should live as u both are leaving now, they never see u both laff together,gist,eat togetha,e.t.c dat every happy couples do togeda.

Secondly i must comend u staying dis long,even witout d love u av stayed commited to ur family witout comiting any form of aldultry. Realy u are a stong woman.
Thirdly wot u need to do now since u av made up ur mind to stat with ur family and make it work means u still av a small spot for dis man.
Go to God in prayers,tell God to help u forgive ur hubby completely,Talk to ur hubby from d depth of ur heart,tell him how u feel and apologise to him. Beg him to teach u how to love him. This will take a while but u need ur hubby to coperate so u can achieve ur aim.
Wish u best of luck in ur efforts.