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 Culture › Re: Nigerian Women Are Becoming Monsters by Theblessed(f): 1:31am On Aug 03, 2009 |
grafikdon:[b] Thanks for your contribution to this topic! It's your prerogative to analyze my writings whichever ways you consider appropriate however, someone else's perspective might be different. Obviously, you find me too bold for your assessment of what a woman should be and sound like - your perspective. From you position, it seems your beliefs and value system does not and would not support such traits in a mere woman, too bad! Well, the story is, its up for takes - anyone could be as bold as they wish. Certainly, shy women might make your day and, anyone targeting this lady should not expect a shrinking violet, ok! And for the comments about Anambra guys, my answer to that is,  lack of education among most of them is the problem hence, if psychologically challenged (I mean, when their ego has been dented a bit) they find it difficult to cope/control their emotions thus, resort to verbal abuses first, and physical if they can't subdue you, assuming you are within range in a physical environment. Get me right, men generally can be physical however, most of these Anambra guys are both verbal and physical and you know that too. So, I leave you to chew on this and maybe educate them. You see, education is very important here and there are more important things in life than the focus on money chasing which kind of distract them from pursuing other important things in life. Not so long ago, someone mentioned to me here about capitalism - what's wrong with it, they asked? My answer to that is nothing but, GREED and, that's why the world economy is on its knees right now and that's what's wrong with capitalism and, wrong with Nigerian politics too - everyone could see that now, can't weWell, without so much distraction from the main issues Domestic violence, it's so easy for anyone to sit down and write how they abhor this wicked act. Its obvious who perpetrates this act more in the family - men. Yes, women can be violent too. Generally, they are not aggressive by nature however, any aggression shown by a woman can only be traced back to years of enduring psychological, mental, emotional, verbal, financial and physical abuses from people she interacts with especially, her partner. It would only take one snap and that's it. In a nutshell, rarely do you see women behave this way. So, there's no excuses for all those broken noses, legs, arms and black eye women suffer from their men just because, men are stronger than us. Personally, I have not experienced violence and would not tolerate it in a relationship, simple![/b] |
| Culture › Re: Nigerian Women Are Becoming Monsters by Theblessed(f): 11:11pm On Aug 02, 2009 |
Aloy_Emeka:[b]Wow!!!! Its official now, people!!! Someone has finally admitted that Theblessed has got a beautiful face, how wonderful!!!!!lol And her lips He wouldn't own up to that, would he? Shame, shame, shame!!! And her back-side? Wait till you see that one too, you'd be flabbergasted. You see, white women are paying thousands of ££££/$$$$ to get BLACK WOMEN LIPS AND BUTTOCKS, ignorant! And for our skin colour Wait till you see how much they spend on TANNING their skins in order to look like us - Big BUSINESS, HERE, silly! So, get well informed before you start ranting, THICK!! Imagine, up here, our Heavenly Father has endowed her with these SHAPELY, SUCCULENT, VOLUPTUOUS and KISSABLE lips to die for, Mwaw!!! What a lucky girl!lol!!!!!! It seems this guy is not only blind but, the last man on earth to know how EXPENSIVE THESE VOLUPTUOUS lips and buttocks are, how thick this fellow is, I wonder! As for your age guesstimate of me, I am unconcerned of whatever age range you are or where you may come from as I'm not one bit interested in a VIOLENT MAN, ok! You are here writing negatively about tpia. It goes to show what I have been saying, you don't like STRONG and CONFIDENT women with opinions. Obviously, tpia is a STRONG and CONFIDENT WOMAN like myself and there's no way we would get on with VIOLENT MEN and ignorant ones like yourself and others. No, way! Boy, you see, all these write ups here are just waste of time. You know the SCORE, don't you? You have no rights WHATSOEVER, to touch any HUMAN BEING without their PERMISSION (I mean ask them first, if you could touch them - if they say yes then, you do it gently, ok!) let alone touching or hitting them in ANGER.huh! You have no rights WHATSOEVER to do that and if you do, I'm afraid you're a goner!!! - you will be a DEAD MAN, period! JUST DON'T SLEEP! So, make sure you don't do that instead WALK AWAY, as simple as that! Glad, Nigerian women are standing up for themselves in horrible situations like these, hope their MEN are learning some 'Dos' and 'Don'ts from these experiences. And thanks for sites like N/L for giving us the opportunity to inform and educate our sisters and everyone here, in knowing and claiming their RIGHTS. As for you, THICK? I think I have EDUCATED you enough here - If you have ears listen, if you don't sorry, you know the SCORE!!!! I now, rest my case! God bless N/L for enabling Nigerians SEE the LIGHT!!!!!!![/b] |
| Health › Re: Is There A Cure For Seizure/epilepsy? by Theblessed(f): 8:37pm On Aug 02, 2009 |
Being a chronic illness, seizures could be effectively managed medically with medications such as Vigabatrin, Clobazam, Clonazepam and EPILIM 100/200mg about 300mg daily. Your GP could help in reviewing these medications for you. However, in severe cases, measures such as neuro-surgery could also be considered but, this could be quite life threatening so think hard before you take such an option. Good luck! |
| Culture › Re: Nigerian Women Are Becoming Monsters by Theblessed(f): 6:07pm On Jul 29, 2009 |
tpia.:[b]Thanks tpia! No point wasting breath with an unexposed ignorant Looser, no need. It's always the case with our Igbo boys, especially, those from ANAMBRA and places around that area. If they can't have their way then, you've had it usually in forms of abuses, intimidations, name calling etc as this one is doing here right now, just because they can't physically hurt you online. Wait to see how these unintelligent ignorants can behave in a physical environment if a woman shows a strong opinion. In fact, an untamed animal would be more preferable, I can assure you. Imagine him rubbishing my BEAUTIFUL FACE AND MY BEAUTIFUL THICK AND FULL BLACK LIPS that, white women are PAYING THOUSANDS OF £££££POUNDS AND $$$$$$DOLLARS TO OBTAIN , imagine this FOOL.lol!!!! That goes to tell you how THICK AND IGNORANT THIS LOOSER IS. Unfortunately, men like him can't win with a HARD CORE as they can't subdue me. I give as good as I get. I grew up with boys and, I understand men very, very well indeed - I thank my brothers for that. So, no problems with this NONENTITY, ok!THE GUY IS A WOMAN BATTERER, period! He's frightened his day would come one day and, it would as he has not yet battered his last. Until he meet somebody like me then, he would regret his A-SE! YOU SEE, A HEAD CUTTER NEVER LIKES HIS OWN HEAD CUT. That's why this guy is concerned he might end up in a COFFIN soon. He has been battering women and getting away with it for such a long time, I can't wait for someone like me to re-educate him in a SIX FEET DEEP CLASSROOM and others like him (and there are many of them) would learn their everlasting lessons. So, don't worry - the LOOSER IS A FRIGHTENED LITTLE RODENT - scared animal!!!![/b] |
| Culture › Re: Nigerian Women Are Becoming Monsters by Theblessed(f): 1:04am On Jul 26, 2009 |
Aloy.Emeka:[b]Well, if you are frightened of your life, RESPECT WOMEN, period! Then, you won't have your life flash in your face, you better know that before it's too late for you. My son would never put himself in a precarious situation with a woman - where did he learn that? It's evident that, 'CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY SEE ADULTS DO', obviously, you are ignorant of that fact. Goes to show how illogical you are when you pose these questions, I quote 'Many men that beat women did not learn it from anybody. In the same way, women that beat men did not learn it from anybody. All those children that grow up to become armed robbers, 419 or ashawo did not learn it from your parents'. Pity you still haven't hark it, have you Children learn these things from adults/events around them, ok! That is, observing violence, threats, intimidation, name calling etc and now as ADULTS, these traits are manifesting themselves because, they were exposed to them and never learned how to control their emotions in childhood therefore, they lash out at whoever upsets them that's how they learn it, ok!!! You said I have murdered someone before well, don't you know that?? Yoooooooooou!!!!! And I wouldn't hasitate to do it all over again, if someone like you continue to physically, emotionally and psychologically abuse me, they'd be game - no quelms! So, RESPECT! As for needing professional help, if the wife batterer himself doesn't need help who else ? You are the one doing the battering, and imagine the lady being battered seeking professional help, that's wonderful.lol!!!!!Anyway, the message is: DON'T HURT ME, I WON'T HURT YOU either. RESPECT!!![/b] |
| Family › Re: Which Is Better Male Or Female Child? by Theblessed(f): 11:42pm On Jul 25, 2009 |
wealthyguy: Are you implying you can't have your own biological children? Thus, don't really care if you can't have them? By implication, it is quite unusual for an African man to say this, as it runs against our beliefs and value system. African men wants their babies and if a woman can produce them she's REPLACED like a FLAAAAAAAASH, immediately! Quite concerned about your comment and if you have problems in this department, SHOUT we are all here to help and if we CAN'T, we know a man who CAN as any thing is possible these days. |
| Family › Re: Man In Prison For Impregnating 13-yr-old Sister by Theblessed(f): 11:22pm On Jul 25, 2009 |
You see, this is where the problem lies - THICK and FULL BLINDED IGNORANCE. Most Nigerians don't understand what 'Rape' is? Too, bad!!! We all know and understand that, it's wrong to interfere where 'Sex between two CONSENTING ADULTS' is concerned. But, IS THIS THE CASE ?? Sex between an ADULT and a Child seems to be acceptable by some people here, WHAT A BUNCH OF EVIL PERVERTS. An ADULT and a CHILD who should know better Whoever supports this, I say WAIT, your day shall come and you will reap what you sow through your own daughters. Obviously, a person who does not understand that this is OVERTLY RAPE, makes me wonder what might have been in his own life world. I wonder! |
| Family › Re: Which Is Better Male Or Female Child? by Theblessed(f): 12:58pm On Jul 25, 2009 |
wealthyguy:How do you mean, having BIOLOGICAL Couldn't understand you here? |
| Family › Re: If You Caught Your Husband In Bed: by Theblessed(f): 12:44pm On Jul 25, 2009 |
Hell, noooo! He's gone and gone for good, no going back! For him to be caught in my OWN HOME? Hell, no! That's the last straw! Only the man above knows how long he's been doing this for him to be caught like this. There's no forgiving. I haven't done it to you, wouldn't dream of it, let alone actually doing it. So, why do it to me?? Or is it one of those CRAP excuses that goes, 'The devil made me do it, sorry! T'was devil's work'. Naaaaaaa! Your time's up, go with the lady before you kill me with Hiv/Aids. Bye, bye!!! |
| Family › Re: Man In Prison For Impregnating 13-yr-old Sister by Theblessed(f): 12:30pm On Jul 25, 2009 |
This sex pervert should count himself lucky he was sent to jail. He should actually be castrated and put away for a very long time. He's sooooooo lucky. I don't blame him, it's the culture where grown men are meddling with babies, even as I write this - shame, shame, shame!!! |
| Family › Re: Which Is Better Male Or Female Child? by Theblessed(f): 9:41pm On Jul 24, 2009 |
[b]You see, you should thank your star you are not infertile because, if you are, you would not be asking this question. You would be even be begging for one with severe condition, TRUST me! I think you are letting your beliefs and values cloud your common sense that, it does not matter the sex of the baby. What matters is that: a) you can not create a single HAIR on you own head therefore, can not create a baby. b) CHILDREN are gift from God and we should be thankful we have them. c) we should also be grateful they come to us without any disabilities i.e. all their features are complete and no DEFORMITY, SERIOUS or CHRONIC AILMENTS, just be thankful to God. d) and if deformed still thank God for only him knows why, as you can not challenge Gods wisdom. So, my dear friend it doesn't really matter which is better for each has their own roles in the family. Generally, every where you go, male children are there to protect the family and ensure stability just as men are expected to do anyway, whilst female children bring LOVE, RESPECT, HARMONY, BALANCE and UNITY/PEACE to chaotic situations in the family. Besides, they are the major CARERS in every family whether married or not. So don't mess with your female chldren or siblings because, when that time comes, as you find yourself doubly incontinent and could no longer wipe your back side please remember this, your MALE child would be SCARCE and your FEMALE Children will be there till 'D'. So, take note!!![/b] |
| Culture › Re: Nigerian Women Are Becoming Monsters by Theblessed(f): 7:23pm On Jul 24, 2009 |
Aloy.Emeka:[b]Well, my son is a gentleman. Having a mother like me, can only deduce he loves women and, has massive respect for them. No 'HELL' in the world would make him pick a fight with a woman, no hell. He is far, far and far above that besides, from whom and where did he learn that? He would never bring himself down to that level. To a level, where a woman would hurt him because of violence Nooooo! As whether I would marry a man that warned me about violent behaviour, let me tell you this, nothing would stop me from marying a man am in love with, nothing! In fact, the warning indicates a peaceful person that needs a harmonious and non -violent enviromment for his family. Hey, you didn't see that, did you? What you were able to identify was the aggression in the woman and not her need for quality home life. Again, it's illogical on your part to even consider that the nice innocent looking girl down the road, that you left me to marry, could not turn out to be a killing machine herself. You didn't realise that, did you? Of course not, and that's beyond me if you'd leave somebody just because they warned you of their need for a peaceful and harmonious married life. Whatever happened to the saying the 'Devil you know is better than the angel you don't know', I wonder!! Warning you about aggressive behaviour is to deter you from actually doing it especially, if the person is a 'HELL' bent control freak that batters a woman in order to show he can assert control and authority as a 'man'. However, such behaviour can only lead to one thing - stopping you in your tracks for good and that would be the end of her nightmare as you'd never come back again to hurt her and the children! As for your query about my darling husband, it only confirms my assumptions about you - that you are 'a violent and aggressive man' with perhaps, entrenched violent behaviour that no DEGREE of Counselling/therapy could help and I'm sorry for the woman that would end up with you! Because, you are certain you can not change, that's why you are quite concerned you might end up with a woman that might not tolerate any form of violence from you and thus, give you as good as she gets. Well, this lady does not tolerate that kind of SH-T, in or out of a relationship. You see, 'Respect' begets 'Respect.' My husband has not given me any reasons, not to respect him. All the time we'd been married, he'd never laid a finger on me and wouldn't dream of it let alone cheating on me and, men like that, have no respect whatsoever for their women and therefore, deserve the extreme anger of a woman scorned. I hope they learn their lessons from what's happening to other people.[/b] |
| Culture › Re: Nigerian Women Are Becoming Monsters by Theblessed(f): 11:40pm On Jul 23, 2009 |
Aloy.Emeka:[b]You're concerned, aren't you? I hope you are not an aggressive man, but you seem like one? Only aggressive men feel threatened by my comment. I grew up being battered about by my brothers hence my determination never to be battered again. Because, I take issues with this kind of a thing, I made it clear to my fiance that I won't have it and what the consequences is going to be. He's never done it and won't do it. If you are affraid of dying then, don't do it. Yes, it heinous killing you in your sleep when your are vulnerable, after years of physical, emotional and mental abuses. But tell me, when next can a woman get that opportunity if not when you are tired and weak - alseep! That's the right time to teach aggressive men their lessons. But hey! it's not heinous punching the eyes of a woman you profess to love out out just because you want to prove you are a man, in control and in charge and a woman wouldn't tell you what to do - Ego in action! Well, to that I say, you will prove your last! Why hit somebody you love? In your commentary above, you said you wouldn't marry me after the warning - but who said if you didn't, no other man would, eh? Well that warning was a deterrant and it worked - setting the ground rules are important in any relationship at least everyone knows their boundaries. To start with, I am not a man's punching bag and would not be punched about without fighting back. Its only cowards that beats women up and beating a woman is not a way to demand respect from her. You see, I don't care your interpretations of what I had just said. All I care for is, I hadn't hit you, DON'T HIT ME, else you'd be HISTORY unless, if you don't sleep. Besides, other aggressive men would learn their lessons from what happened to you - so, it's your choice really, not to go down the aggressive line of punching your punching bag - meeeee! So, don't do it if I were you. If I had offended you control your anger and do what a gentleman would really do - WALK AWAY!!! It doesn't demeans you rather it makes you a reasonable and responsible gentleman.[/b] |
| Family › Re: Are Men Really Scarce Or Rare For Marriage? by Theblessed(f): 8:49pm On Jul 23, 2009 |
Fhemmmy:[b]Yes, I agree with you that 2 wrongs can not make a right. I don believe that neither a woman nor a man should sleep around in marriage or not because, its wrong. The Bible condemns it and some other religions too. Its all too easy for men to cite some biblical verses for us women when it suits them and when it comes to this sort of behaviour, they over look it. Men's double standards are well known, isn't it What I am saying here is, fair is fair. If a man feels it would be wrong for his wife to cheat on him then, he'd better rethink his ways. Personally, why would I still be married to a man that cheats on me? A useless and unreasonable man that would drive me to a slaughter house? Why would I even have such a man 2 feet near me? Is it because I am desperate for a husband or marriage or to be seen to have a man in the house? You see, I don't live my life worrying about what the world might think about me. For all I know, anyone can say/think what they like as I am here to please meeee and not the world. So, who cares if I am an 80 year old SPINSTER who had never been married? Yes, I could hear some Nigerian men calling you names because of their timidity and ignorance as they forgot that, marriage is not compulsory, it's choice. If one like they marry or not and no one should be slaughtered in it, not in it or out of it. IT'S NOT COMPULSORY. I hate aggressive men and would not be with an abusive husband, no way. Some people think of abuse as only physical rather there are many forms - a man that cheats on his wife is not only emotionally and psychologically abusing her but also damaging her health and well being and that's EVIL so, why would I put up with that crap?? Is it because, with time maybe he would change? No, a cheat is always a cheat and let me tell you this, a 'Leopard never changes its spots'. You see, some women would put up with this crap for the sake of saving their marriages, good luck to them not me, not to talk of this day in age HiV/Aids are almost everywhere you look. Naaaaaaaaaaaah, it doesn't worth it being in such a marriage - a marriage without TRUST, nooooooo![/b] |
| Family › Re: Your mother or your wife? by Theblessed(f): 7:13pm On Jul 23, 2009 |
If I was a man, I would choose my mother any time. You see, people forget that marriage love is a 'Conditional kind of love' but the love you have for your mother and family and the love they have for you is 'Uncondtional', There's a saying in the West that goes: Women come and go or men come and go! And that's true because, irreconcilable issues in a marriage can lead to a divorce hence the end of that relationship and the woman out of your hands and into the hands of another man. However, your family would always be there for you hence the saying, 'Blood is thicker than water' and that's true. So, save your mother first - women come and go, so do men! |
| Family › Re: Are Men Really Scarce Or Rare For Marriage? by Theblessed(f): 6:39pm On Jul 23, 2009 |
JustGood:Well, my take on that is: 'IF IT'S GOOD ENOUGH FOR THE GEESE, IT'S EQUALLY DAMN GOOD FOR THE GANDER'. Men have been doing this and getting away with murder for a long time now and it's only fair women should show them how painful the experience could be. Only so would men realise the emotional pain they'd caused to all concerned because, infidelity is very destructive. If women doing it could cause men to change their ways, that's for the best. Enough is enough of these selfish and cruel men who are still doing this to their loyal wives and partners. |
| Culture › Re: Nigerian Women Are Becoming Monsters by Theblessed(f): 6:28pm On Jul 23, 2009 |
Aloy.Emeka:[quote][/quote][b]PLEEEAAASE, don't press that emotional blackmail button, as it doesn't fit. Yes, it's natural for women or anyone else to shout in situations that's beyond their control. Now, tell me which other way can a woman resist the physical power/strength of a man in ANGER if not via her mouth. In situations like that, a woman need some form of defence for herself and our mouths does that perfectly well for us, as that's the only weapon we have. It's upto a guy who call himself a real man to walk away - PICK UP YOUR CAR KEYS AND DRIVE OFF - go see friends or do something else instead of sitting around listening to all that comes out of a woman's mouth and eventually be forced to respond to it - usually by hitting and giving her bloody nose. That's wrong! You see, there's a difference between a woman voicing her hurt and targeting verbal abuses at her spouse. Women only do this in response to their spouse's overt verbal, physical, emotional and financial abuses which they no longer could tolerate. Thank God I have no such experiences in my marriage - our arguements never lasted more than 5 minutes, anyway! I married a real gentleman - non violent and wouldn't embark on any arguement with a lady. Yes, he has his flaws in other areas, but not in wife battering - he was well brought up! No one should batter an ADULT, period!!![/b] |
| Culture › Re: Nigerian Women Are Becoming Monsters by Theblessed(f): 5:49pm On Jul 23, 2009 |
Aloy.Emeka:Yes, the same guy I married and that settled the matter. He's never beat me and it wouldn't even cross his mind. At least, from the onset, we both laid, understood and accepted the GROUND RULES in our marriage and it worked. |
| Romance › Re: My Ex Is Getting Married And It Hurts by Theblessed(f): 4:59pm On Jul 23, 2009 |
[b]Sorry to hear about this your emotional crisis - my advise is, don't let it touch your psych - move on, greater and better things are on the way for you, believe it! You see it can happen to both men/women and it happened to me, when I was dating a guy I was madly in love with. It HURTS like HELL and I know. In fact, he hurt me! You are now, hurting over a girl that is obviously interested in your material world and had left you 3 years ago. Mine never left me, he was still dating me when he was marrying this lady, how selfish and cruel people can be!!! One would say, didn't you know that this was going on? Boy, when you're in love with someone and unsuspecting, I swear you wouldn't have a clue. The guy, hid it so well!. In fact, you won't believe it that, we were together the day he left for the lady's traditional wedding and never told me that was what he was going home for, at Easter. As I was not suspecting any thing, his village cousin felt it wrong and told me two days after he had gone. Boy, my world sunk! A boy I loved, gave everything and, held nothing back, could treat me this way, I felt sooooooooooo betrayed, so used and abused - you should have seen how wretched I was. After the experience, I swore never again would a man take me for a ride. I could hear someone ask but, what was your reaction when he stupidly returned from the Easter holiday? Lol!!!! Well, I pretended not knowing his game, treated him well because, I was still in love with him, though hurting, but moved on emotionally. A month after that experience, I met a gorgeous guy who engaged me after only 3 weeks of knowing him and was planning that we marry and relocate to the West and we did. When my ex heard it, he was shocked and had no face to look me in the eyes - what a blessing! I have lived in the West now for a very long time and life couldn't be much SWEETER. As for my ex, I hear he's still at Idumota selling motor parts and I wonder what my life would have been, if I'd continued with him, God is AWESOME!!!! And in your case I say, never mind, THINGS HAPPEN FOR A REASON and this should be a learning curve for you. Remember, as your heart bleeds from this experience, God is preparing greater things for you - BIG TIME BLESSINGS, your own God sent wife is on the way for you - you better believe it!!! That's life![/b] |
| Family › Re: Are Men Really Scarce Or Rare For Marriage? by Theblessed(f): 5:06pm On Jul 22, 2009 |
No, men are not rare or scarce rather, they are scared of commitment, marriage and responsibility, that's really it. By the way, who would say they warm up to responsibility No, one! As of commitment? Men have always been scared of being tied to one woman hence the high rate of infidelity among men - and its so good the girls are catching up. |
| Culture › Re: Nigerian Women Are Becoming Monsters by Theblessed(f): 4:53pm On Jul 22, 2009 |
Aloy.Emeka:[b]How could any body with a heart support domestic violence of any kind whether perpetrated by a man/woman? You see, I hate it, I hate it and I hate it! I grew up with my 6 brothers smashing me about because I was the only girl in the middle of the boys and they can hit and tell me to shut up any time and that led to so many fights with them. The challenge made me a strong person today as I can defend myself anywhere but that's not really how it should be, should it Violence is learnt from childhood though, there are some naturally angry and aggressive people and as a result, adults should not do these things where children are about. Anyway, my childhood experiences, made me determined never to allow anyone hit me in anger. Why hit any thing? You can't even hit a dog, let alone an ADULT? Why To show you are stronger or powerful? The person hitting other people would not like to be hit by someone else so, why hit another person?? This was the reason, I was upfront with my fiance when I was getting married, I told him - you see, NO MATTER WHAT I HAD DONE, PLEASE, DON'T HIT ME. If you want this marriage to last never ever hit me in ANGER even with the smallest finger on your hands because, the day you did, I'll kill you in your sleep with a HAMMER unless, you don't sleep and God knows I really meant it! My husband never laid a finger on me in anger besides, he's not a violent man and I am not a violent person either. I get angry, I shout and that's really it. I detest people who smash things in anger, why smash things?? At the end of the day, it's gonna cost money to replace those things you smashed, money you should have invested in other things for the family, how stupid! So, my dear, I do not condone violence in any form or shape because, it's not only wrong, it is unreasonable and unnecessary.[/b] |
| Romance › Re: Must Girlfriends Demand An Allowance? by Theblessed(f): 5:19pm On Jul 21, 2009 |
TheSeeker:Hi TheSeeker, Don't worry, my sisters know what I am saying is the truth as they all would not want their brothers sucked dry by a woman at any cost because, she made him happy  . Its our duties as sisters to protect our brothers from harmful women and our brothers are there to look out for us and that's why having a sibling is very important. And should any HOTTIE comes after me, be sure this FIRE will eat them alive and they won't have mouth to ask for another monthly ALLOWANCE ever again, when I myself work my butt off. |
| Romance › Re: Must Girlfriends Demand An Allowance? by Theblessed(f): 4:50pm On Jul 21, 2009 |
[b]Yeah right, on occasions our men should buy us things for example, BIRTHDAYS, CHRISTMAS, EASTER, CHRISTENING CEREMONIES, WEDDINGS, sometime important functions etc, that's normal - not demanding a monthly salary from his very small wage that's absurd and defeats the idea of two people in-love. Unless if you don't love each other then re-classify your relationship as CASUAL in other words: anything goes but be prepared for the implications of that!! This girlfriend we are talking about, why can't she find a job, do any job no matter how small it pays and save her dignity instead of pretentiously selling sex to the guy whilst claiming to be a GIRLFRIEND that's wrong. Better show yourself up as a POLE and TABEL dancer rather than pretending to be what you are not 'AN INNOCENT, NICE GIRL' that has not not been touched by any man except him  . At least, the guy would know exactly where he stands, what he's getting and where to find you when next he needs you probably, on the POLE TABLE as simple as that - eeezy pee eeezy.[/b] |
| Culture › Re: Nigerian Women Are Becoming Monsters by Theblessed(f): 4:02pm On Jul 21, 2009 |
[b] Generalisation I heard someone say maybe! However, the truth about our Nigerian traditions/culture and the injustices/inequalities are overt even to the blind. We can not because, neighbouring countries/cultures can behave in similar fashion or even worse that us and continue with this unfair and wicked culture, that would be stupid. Why can't Nigeria show good leadership in certain things for a change instead of comparing/emulating from other cultures not in the same league as her? How pathetic to even think of that let alone, comparing ourselves with cultures not in our league when we claim to be the GIANT OF AFRICA and boy, we really are. I suppose, we are well travelled people, have more resources, in terms of manpower, high population and to crown it all, more intelligent, and EDUCATED PEOPLE the whole of black Africa or has that now changed? Again, we are more enlightened, why not lead instead of comparing sheepishly with other cultures no where near our league, think about that [/b] |
| Romance › Re: Must Girlfriends Demand An Allowance? by Theblessed(f): 2:54pm On Jul 21, 2009 |
[b] You see, this goes to confirm the question I posed sometime ago no one seems to air their views on probably, scared of what the responses might throw up. The question was whether Nigerian women are as promiscuos as their men? I don't need an answer now to that, thanks to SUGABELLE for clarifying things and gave us INSIGHT into how women in relationships can operate and manipulate their ways, into getting their needs sorted. Thus, this only confirms that our women are as promiscuous if not more, than our men. If they can sleep their way into fulfilling their needs whilst in relationships, why pretend not to be promiscuous? By nature, we women have always been pretentious - the late FELLA RANSON KUTI said so in his music (Afrika woman go sey i be baby oo!lol). So, guys you've all heard it now and there's no guarantee either that both rich/poor girls can not cheat in relationships if they wish to because, they would. So, don't raise your hopes for any of the categories of girls mentioned - poor girls will always sneek at your back and do it anyway, and that's very dangerous this day in age. On the other hand, a rich girl might sound a better option but that's not the case because, people with money as we all know, have POWER, power to do as they please, guys can you cope Beware!! In my view, men should look for genuine Christain women, humble and truely God fearing in their ways - not the designer dress, fake hair, red lips and long finger nails type to which CLUB, I am a member too.lol!!! But hey, before you throw your insults and condemn me, having had a look at my picture on here let me say this, there is nothing wrong in having designer dress, red lips, long finger nails and fake hair if you pay for them yourself - nothing wrong, ok! 'YES I do have red lips, 'YES' I also do have fake hair, long finger nails I do not have and I don't wish to above all, this INDEPENDENT WOMAN WITH A CAREER paid for them all and that's the difference thus, there's no sneeking behind my man here, trying to have something I can not afford, Nayyyy!!! Take note!![/b] |
| Romance › Re: Must Girlfriends Demand An Allowance? by Theblessed(f): 2:00am On Jul 21, 2009 |
[b]But, what's our problem if the guy is prepared to pay the allowance. To me, allowance or no allowance why don't she earn her own money? Is she crippled? This dependency mentality some women have makes me sick. What happened to a sense of independence - taking charge of your own life? Don't you know that when you are always given some thing, the giver can have CONTROL over you and dictate your life meaning your are his/her little SLAVE, huh If I was a man, I'd not even bother - there are many fishes in the ocean to pick from. However, depending on the lady's emotional need for attachment, she should consider herself then lucky to even have a man and then have him run away due to her unnecessary demands. It wouldn't matter if she has no such needs and has a career as not all of us are meant to be married afterall and, this is nothing new - the biblical times would vouch for this as not all the women in the bible were married either so, nothing to be ashamed of if one hadn't because, as it was in the beginning, its now and ever shall be, world without end - Amen! [/b] |
| Culture › Re: Nigerian Women Are Becoming Monsters by Theblessed(f): 1:22am On Jul 21, 2009 |
[b]Well, it doesn't surprise me as unfavourable conditions can impact on everyone e.g. the unfavourable culture/traditions we have in Nigeria that disempowers our women. If Nigerian women are becoming Monsters as cited above, it can only be blamed on the culture that breeds these unfavourable conditions leading to the antagonism in women. Nigerian culture/traditions and even its laws, made no provisions/support for women protection or respect thus, our men have no respect whatsoever for women. Women are considered incapable of any thing else aside, domesticity and baby rearing thus, any achievement by a woman however big or small is never acknowledged or celebrated in Nigeria, why and why not Even as I write this, majority in relationships have no say in decisions about their lives - decisions that would ultimately (good or bad) affect their future and that can not be right. Because, many are now enlightened, educated and have travelled the world and see difference and now, have a point of reference/comparison, their eyes are opened and they know their rights/expectations within a relationship hence, the issues.Therefore, this dis-empowering culture that is still being maintained in Nigeria has to change otherwise, our women will continue to fight against these inequalities and injustices until our people see sense. And to that I say, go girls, go, go Nigeria belongs to all of us!!! [/b] |
| Culture › Re: Which Of The Nigerian Langauages Has The Sweetest Sound by Theblessed(f): 11:57pm On Jul 20, 2009 |
It's got to be Hausa language. Though, the language is a bit bold but man, it's authentic with certain sexy traits e.g. Doctor is pronouced' 'Likita', Last price is; 'Gaskia', and then the famous, 'Allah kawo kwudi', God will provide the money - and he usually does, I can assure you. To me, Hausa language is sweet and easy to learn/understand than any other Nigerian Language, take it from this Igbo girl. |
| Family › Re: Sisters In-law - a blessing or a curse? by Theblessed(op): 6:54pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
[size=14pt]God Bless all My Sisters with Positive contributions on this topic. Its been an eye opener. I am about to be made a sister inlaw, I can't wait to be blessed with one like yours, and if I happen to get a not so good one, so be it - that's life. Thanks and keep posting! [/size] |
| Culture › Re: American Women That Marry Nigerian Men by Theblessed(f): 6:31pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
[b]Hi Chykeo Again, thanks for intervening on this matter! But, this has not changed my views about which side you bent towards and really, I don’t care one bit because, everyone here with good eyes could see the truth. You see some people on N/L are so immature and could easily get jealous of someone they’ve never met before – just one look is enough for their assumptions and conclusion on you but who cares? Now, let me explain further, how unfair you are: In the first place, you got it wrong even though you claimed to have read and re-read page 10 hundred and ten times, you are still wrong. You said that Agathamari came complaining about her home situation and I responded negatively with the quote below instead of reassuring her: Quote from: Theblessed on July 12, 2009, 01:38 PM ,If you haven't got a psychological problem of ATTACHMENT AND NEEDING TO BE LOVED (as a result of your childhood, lack of confidence and self esteem) why even think of such people let alone being in partnership with them? Majority are only out to use you, can't you see that? Or should I say, are there some common sense left upstairs or is it just an empty space up there? Why moan when you let yourself being used and abused by these bastards? Because, you let your emotions cloud your God given common sense - you don't need a degree to get this you know!! You are either born with it or without as this is only showing that some of you have ZERO COMMON SENSE. Please, stop moaning here?, The signs are all there for you to see but you vehemently chose to ignored it and come to N/L to moan. To that I said you are wrong! To start with, I am not a Counsellor and don’t have to give my opinion if I don’t want to. The above was a response to NALIJAH’S topic that everyone was and still responding to not AGATHAMARI, pleeeeeeeeaaaaaaaase! Yes, at first, I did see her posts but I avoided it because, it wasn’t the kind I respond to. Actually, the post that led to all these was rather my response to Euchena; Check Quote from: Euchena on May 22, 2009, 12:02 PM who was responding to the post of NJEAN answering to Nalijah’s original post. You see, I was no where near Agathamari’s issues. It was from my commentary reassuring Euchena that Agathamari caught the flu that now, gave her bloody red nose when she decided to show me how knowledgeable of Asian women fanny she is by depositing this: Quote from: agathamari on July 12, 2009, 01:47 PM aparently you didnt know that oriental womens vag is tilted the oposite direction of everyone else. from what i have been told white women are more adventurous in bed. when was the last time you tied up your guy? he'd like it No offence I implied, everyone is entitled to give their views here without insulting others however, is this the with case with her write up above? You claimed, she did not mean to offend really,? When she put down this 'when was the last time when you tied up your guy'. How dare you say that, when you hadn’t read between the lines? I have always said some people come to N/L to cause friction with others. Such people are Demonically influenced and, she is one of them and in hindsight, I now regret responding to her. I could still hear the Holy Spirit in me telling me not to respond to the above in the first place but I went against and now, see where everyone is. Based on the above, and as she was so determined to convince me with her story, as a professional in this field, I needed CORE Evidence to be convinced. Even, I overlooked her insult (see quote below) and did not respond to it instead, persisted on my need for Research Evidence. So, what’s wrong with that? She could neither relent nor give me what I asked of her and, I persisted asking for my Research Evidence because, that’s the only criteria under which I would regard her story as CREDIBLE. As all this were going on, I maintained a civil stance without insults by any means and on seeing that, instead of her to give up, she continue to persuade me to adopt her way of thinking but Naaaaaaaaah! I wouldn’t have it and then she produced this: Quote from: agathamari on July 13, 2009, 05:58 PM @theblessed. i said vagina not ass. the vagina in most women point toward thier navel (use your finger to find out on yourself if you dont know already) oriental women point toward thier tailbones. ask any ob-gyn who has had dealings with oriental women to find out. btw oriental men member s have a slightly different muscle structure then other men as well. Again, I consider this an insult, asking me to use my finger to find her Head – how crude? At one point, I even asked her to give up trying to convince me if she could not provide what I asked for, did she? Obviously not, and I did not relent either (and I don’t give up easily as you now, know) that’s when she went on to produce this DOUBLE WAMMY: agathamari Re: American Women That Marry Nigerian Men « #312 on: July 15, 2009, 04:43 PM » ________________________________________ wow someone is a prude who doesnt know about anatomy. if you dont want to listen to me i seggest you speak with a doctor who has treated an asian woman or a man who has slept with one. Imagine, calling me a ‘Prude’ because, she could not get into my head and that’s when I decided to sit her where she belong and there comes the INTERVENER, YOU! Now, I am asking you again, since you claimed you did not take sides, that Agathamari meant well and did not mean to abuse and hurt why say all the above. Are these the kind of words/language of a lady that meant PEACE ? Maybe, in your dreams.You have managed to portray her and the other guy (whom, I don’t even want to go into his own issues, right now) as the innocent victims on this matter and I, the trouble maker however, considering my democratic rights to say what I like, N/L can now see who are the actual trouble makers here – the two, including yourself who is siding with them. In a Democracy, people are free to give their opinions (positive or negative) and that’s what I did, it may suck but that’s the nature of Democracy – LIKE IT OR LUMP IT! As a result of your unfairness, I am rubbing it in on your face by referring you to the FAMILY SECTION to see for yourself the negative attitudes (on my topic) of Demonic individuals like these two you are here defending. Thanks for your unfairness!!![/b] |
| Family › Re: Sisters In-law - a blessing or a curse? by Theblessed(op): 3:01pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
mama-gee:[size=16pt]Well, if this is all you can contribute to this innocent post, that's equally good and for that I say: 'Satan get thee behind me' in the Name of Jesus Christ I bind you, your evil thoughts and intentions and all your supporters on here now, and for-ever, Amen! Halelujah, in Jesus Name, Amen, Amen and Amen!!![/size] |
| Culture › Re: American Women That Marry Nigerian Men by Theblessed(f): 11:55pm On Jul 17, 2009 |
chykeo:[b]Well, thanks for your views! I am going to air mine here since its obvious you’ve taken sides. If you are a fair and just person, you would have noted who started these abuses obviously, not I. The two you mentioned responded negatively to my commentary that was meant for another member and when I challenged one to prove her assertion about Asian Women, she could not. I did not insult her all I did was, continuously asking her to prove her knowledge about them but she failed and expected me to take yes for an answer. The other, overtly abused me as everyone here can see and when I responded accordingly, see what happened. You see, like everyone, I am entitled to my opinion on topics I found interesting ok! Trouble starts when one person disagrees and decides to shower others with insults/abuses and expects them not to respond negatively. I can’t help it if some people have psychological issues of projection on others as they intentionally set out looking for people they consider a target to pick on. They have picked on me and from my responses, they had no legs to stand on. I do not go about seeking quarrels from people on here but, I do not shy away from such confrontations either. Maybe, as a man, you find the woman assertion of Asian women body interesting and exciting (what a porn imagery for you!) however, as a woman I consider it not only insulting but derogatory thus, asked her to prove her case with Research Evidence and she failed twice. Why make assertions you can not substantiate People on here, should understand there are many intelligent people on N/L who would accept nothing less than research evidence in support of anything especially, health matters. She wants me to believe her story without evidence? Maybe, you would, I couldn’t. Instead, she pointed to this gynaecologist and that obstetrican – is that how intelligent people behave? Also, you seems to be the judge on matters of insults and abuses but how could you not notice, she called me a ‘Prude’? And, you have nothing to say about that, have you? Obviously, you did not caution her and since you couldn’t do that, I’ve done it, tough! As for the gentleman you mentioned, he too responded to my commentary with abuses calling me ‘AKATA’ but what does he expect? That, I should lie low and take it, is it? Not this one! I give as good as I get, period! With regards to Igbo culture and traditions, you don’t have to explain that to me. I am an Igbo girl – Abum Ada Ukwu Igbo, ok! I know our culture and traditions if what I said offended the guy well, its general knowledge and you even acknowledged this fact in your post below, I quote; ‘MAybe you ve not really seen Anambra guys… decent, educated, exposed, enlightened, ambitous and gentle. Interest in making money which everyone on earth is guilty of (capitalism) shouldn't be the yardstick for gauging Anambra, nay, igbo man’. So, what’s the heck? Obviously, you disagree with what I said and am prepare to prove you wrong by inviting Democracy in this matter via the voting system on N/L and see what people would say. We shouldn’t go there, should we? And, for others with similar traits as the two you supported on this matter please, tell them ‘He who comes to equity, should come with clean hands’. There’s no point in raining abuses on people they disagree with, only to cry wolf when such people respond in similar fashion, ok! I enjoy peoples’ contributions on N/L as well as mine and no kind of intimidation and harassment from people like you, would stop or prevent me from having a say here - that’s my democratic rights and you can’t take it away. So next time (there’s always gonna be another anyway!), before you target me for your cautions make sure you do the same with the others too as it takes two to tango. I now, rest my case! [/b] |
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