₦airaland Forum

furiban:
@ Theblessed     surely I have moved on forever but this story needs to be told so that many young people (both male and female) can learn from this mistake many thanks people  I am stronger than ever!

Yes! Glad you had the courage to warn people on here.  But, there are still people who would say, it will not happen to me! To them I say, wait till it does!

You see, 'Love' is intoxicating and would make you do things you wouldn't normally do and we Nigerians would say, na JUJU it take hol am! As you know, everything in Africa is JUJU - whether na headache o o , ear ache o o, runny stomach o o (that is, diarrhoea - it's still juju. ).lol
It's good you told them!  Good luck!

Princek12:
The Blessed,
First, could you please use the same font (color and size) that everyone is using? Your current font is annoyingly distracting and does not add to your substantive arguments. Why don't you get this simple analysis. While private investors with expertise in airport management would be using their resources for the proposed airport, it by no means affect any other govt. initiatives such as fair housing, among others; and your proposition about using the money to construct affordable housing is irrational because you cannot commandeer private investors on how to spend their money. Also it is not a feasible alternative to have govt-run housing-- private developers would do a better job. In prior years, govt. run housing such as the low-cost housing estates constructed during the Jakande regime failed woefully for obvious reasons: they were aesthetically incapacitated, terribly maintained, and circumstances surrounding those low cost buildings help to breed crime.

Hi Mr

I don't have to respond to your comments on here but I would like you to know something. You see, I hate bullies and understand that Nigeria is fully of them. But people like you can't bully me, why??  Because, we are all same product - Nigerians. If you have understanding and live in a world of 'Live and let live', you would understand that like you, other people are entitled to happiness - whatever that meant to you.

We all have different needs and, approach our needs/challenges differently - so do you and I, but what gave you the right to tell me how I should live my life? You're happy writing in the font you are comfortable with, so do I. What makes you think you know what's right for me? Because, everyone is writing in the same font therefore, I should, eh Does everyone have the same needs If you're a follower, I don't follow - I lead, others can follow if they want! Please understand this, if you want respect you have to accord the same, ok! 

People are free to do what they want even if its hurting/annoying others, as you claimed. It's only ignorants with jealousy in their hearts claims that bold texts are blinding to them. To that I say, you can get blind if you want, my bold texts stays as they are and any more of your threats, will get them more bigger - be warned!! I am comfortable reading big texts than small ones as I have eye problems. If my big texts are annoying to you and others, please don't read my essays/commentaries, they are not meant for you, ok! Sometimes, people should understand they have limited powers to change things around them and, this is one of them. From what I am seeing here, if you have the power obviously, you would have changed my font to suit your need to control me on here unfortunately for you, you can not and I'm glad you can see you haven't got the power therefore, back off!!

I have not done any thing wrong on here, I chose my font like anyone else so what's the heck? Look, if you can not beat them join them, ok! If my font is upsetting you, I suggest you try it and stop moaning! Probably, you haven't the skills or you're having difficulty accessing technical features of this website in that case, please ask people they will teach you.  Personally, I'll be obliged to teach you if you wouldn't swallow your pride and shy away.

Right, let's not get distracted from the issues. Your arguments regarding the above topic is quite unreasonable.  Are you saying that, because private investors are planning to invest their money in Nigeria therefore, we should allow anything they propose in the name of development? What a rationale? Surely, this your emotional blackmail will not wash! You see, Nigerians have suffered alot and have needs that should have been sorted 50 years after Independence and, they hadn't obviously, your new Airport is not one of them. I could hear some people continuously blaming the Colonial Masters for Nigeria's failure to develop herself but hey, I ask since she hadn't grown up after 50 years when will she? It's always someone's fault that Nigeria has done this and not that but when will Nigeria own up to her own mistakes?

Get me right, I am not criticizing the Governor's achievements in Lagos State because, he has done well compared to his predecessors. I am Pro development and growth in my Country but will criticize any thing I consider or see as a hindrance to the development/growth of my people. If for nothing else, at least,Nigerian is blessed with Human Resources and for us to develop and achieve our aims, Nigeria must tap into her human resources and we can not do that when our people are lacking the most important of all Human Rights - Food, Shelter and Clothing - majority of people in Nigeria and particularly in Lagos are poor and have no abode and some people even live below one dollar a day and here you are building a new Airport, for who?

You've got to count one before you can count two, buddy!

As you mentioned, the low cost Estates during Jakande's era was a New Kid on the Block idea at the time yet, according to you, it failed. It did not deliver what was intended but whose fault? Remember, just as this new Airport, Jakande's low housing scheme was someone's idea, someone's plan, someone's construction, someone approval and the masses then supported it yet, it failed. Your argument is, it failed because of aesthetic reasons, maintenance issues and crime. Again, I ask, whose fault? Obviously, that of the Wise men who thought they got it right then, just as these lots are now thinking and you are supporting them.
But, what makes you think this Airport will deliver as promised? With time we will know, won't we? Knowing Nigeria, it won't surprise me when in 5 - 10 years time, someone will come up here on N/L or similar technology, criticizing the Airport's failures. I can not wait to see that and, you will realise all we've been saying that, it is more beneficial to 'modernise and maintain' in order to divert the money to areas of importance in our peoples' lives.

The maintenance argument you put forward is very important to Nigerian development. Everyone know, Nigeria is not a Country that 'MAINTAINS' things. They like new things but they won't look after it and don't like spending time learning instead, they are very smart at copying others and pretend as if, it's their own original ideas. For example, some time ago someone claimed Nigeria launched her own Satellite! Really, I said? To show how stupid some Nigerians are. May I ask, has Nigeria got Satellite Engineers who can  construct, fabricate the materials and assemble a Satellite technology? Or did they have to buy from another Country and pay their Engineers with our oil money to install it up there, instead of training and supporting our own? And when this Satellite breaks down, who maintains it? Obviously, foreign Engineer as Nigeria has not got her own.  Here, we pump in more oil money we should help our people with, into foreign land in order to access Satellite technology, how stupid?

If you want to be like the big boys, you better act like them every aspects. You see, maintaining the technology up there does not cost much to the British, Americans, France, Germany, Japan, China etc as they have their own well trained/equipped engineers but where's Nigeria's own And there you are bragging Nigeria has got her own Satellite when it falls on foreign engineers to maintain it and without them 'No Show' What a stupid claim! Know it now, Nigeria has no claim to any technology past or present maybe in the future, ok!

Based on what we've been reading on here, it seems many of you haven't got it. Listen again, our people are suffering and need help and support they can get to change their lives therefore, they need this money to be put it where it will benefit them and, a new Airport is not the place, it only serve the interests of the rich with excess wealth to lavish, I hope you GOT IT now!

furiban:
Nonchalant how?   In the sense the other party has been discretely calling to see if "we" can get back and trying to block the divorce proceedings       as a colleague said           it is let slapping the full tank of a trailer to draw the attention of the driver             


@radiant            as earlier said this blog is for other people to learn from mistakes               and mind you not really strangers per se but I need not go into details lest the whole lesson would be lost in long boring story     just leaving it succinct           cheers!

Easybaby:
The poster said one reason nah!
your own too much nah

My sister, I understand but I had to bring out all those negatives in some relationships that I could not cope with which steams up inside me when I hear about them, sorrio o o o ! Gone too far!

skfa1:
@ Poster

Cause they`ve not been there to experience it.

Because, you make them think so. By giving and giving and giving at all their needs, you invite stress for yourself here.  Follow this Biblical principle, don't rush out at any of their requests - wait until the dust settles and then decide whether to act.  You see, when Our Lord Jesus Christ was told that his uncle Lazarus died, he did not rush out immediately to check for himself instead he waited for 4 days before going there by then, the corpse has already been buried and obviously, in bad state.  On getting there, he asked that the tomb be opened and commanded Lazarus to come out and, he did.  I didn't say that you are Christ and that you should start performing miracles now, rather be logical with certain thing home people throw at you here else, they will bankrupt you and laugh at you when you return home with only your sleeping mat/bag and a flip-flop on your feet.   Do not say I did not warn you!

DE WISE 01:
god will make a way where it seems to be no way.so,lets pray god intervene in this matter.i beleive

But how small is your God that you write his name in small letter?

sandas:
the problem with nigerian men in abraod is that they think girls in nigeria are beter than the ones in abroad but that is a very big mistake.how can u talk to girl as a man that stays in abroad and she will not agree to marry or date u, all in the name that she want to come to abroad or answer that her husband stays abroad most of this girl dont even love the guys but they see coming to abroad as an opptunity to step up.some are even more rotten than nigerian girl in abroad  and too demading, if any man wants to marry a girl in  nigeria, i will advice she bears 2 children or 1 child in nigeria then bring her over to abroad then at least u will know your effort for flying her over is not in vain.men does not have to go to nigeria to marry ,there are decents girls in abroad also, she even understand the situation in abroad more than girls in nigeria that abroad is bed of roses.

Thank you my dear sister, you are talking absolute truth.  You see those abroad who goes home to find a wife are those who wants to marry virgins. But, these days who is looking for virgins and submissive wives if not controlling men who still thinks girls back home are innocent virgins whose eyes are not open, only to discover the opposite.  Look, it doesn't matter from where you bring them to UK, America, France, Germany or Spain, they will definitely OPEN EYES and develop just like you did, like it or not. No one would say they hadn't developed since they came to the WEST, swear?? Therefore, the home wife you brought over will surely open eyes and develop and knowing Nigerian men, that will hurt!!! For those in the UK, I give them 2 weeks of arriving here and watch British tv/Satellite broadcasting, read the Newspapers and magazine at least, their eyes go bigin open. Then, when she touch the church/workplace and make friends - forget about it.  And then, when she hit schools, college and University don't even bother.

In fact, my advise is, before they leap off to Africa to bring these innocent looking virgins over please, re-watch Eddie Murphy's 'Coming to America'. Perhaps, you might learn a thing or two from that. Eddie Murphy set off to Africa to find a suitable, well behaved and submissive wife only to discover that his God given wife is actually next door, right there in America and not in Africa. This is a big lesson for every Black man considering marriage back home to learn. The women you're all looking for are right under your noses here in the West - no need going home, you hear pleeeeeaaaaase!  Sandas is really saying the truth - the girls here understands the situation here than those back home who thinks abroad is a bed of roses and you and I knows, it is not. 

This experience happened to my own cousin twice. He lives in New York and has now gone through 2 marriages  (in the past 7 years) to home wives. You see, men can't cope with loneliness!!!  He was lucky the first wife left him with 1 child after 3 years of marriage. Not long he remarried, very expensive wedding yet, she left him for a White man after only 2 years and without a child.  Now, he'd sworn never to marry again and play the field because of what girls are doing. It seems this is now, the trend/culture in black communities in the West and even back home, too bad really, too bad!!

KnowAll:
Lagos don’t need an airport, u still have one flight and hour at MM at the moment, there is a flight out of Heathrow every 5 minutes. MM is way below capacity. Lagos State should not waste its land building Airports when the one on ground is still under utilised.

The last time I came to Nigeria, there were only 3 flights between 11:00pm and 5:00am from MM airport and we want to build another airport, what for.  [/b]

debest1:
sad story, wat can i say, what brought the 2 of u together in the 1st place? was it love? or the need for companionship during winter in UK? cos it sounds like someone didnt do his homework very well

OAM4J:
Sorry theblessed, not sure you follow the thread from the begginning. The new airport is to be built by Lagos state goverment. Lagos state cannot do anything about MMA because MMA belong to the federal govt. And Lagos state is not asking the federal govt to contribute to the new airport, as someone said eairlier, it is Lagos state public-private innitiative project.

Thanks for clarifying things, instead of abusing just like the previous guy did - thinking abuse will deter me.  No, it won't! I am not the kind anyone can prevent airing her views here. No matter what they do or say, I will challenge it, period!! Just have a look at my signature once more, you will know what I mean. So, when dealing with me, they should not call up that their primitive Nigerian intimidating behaviour because, it would no wash with me!

Secondly, in responding to your calm and responsible views, I raise my hat up for the governor if what you'd just said is how it is but knowing Nigerian, there's always something behind something. I still believe that modernisation/maintaining what we have is a good idea.  Instead of a new Airport, that money could be spent on our hospitals, housing, transports etc than dumping the whole lot on one project that mainly serve the interest of the rich.  Obviously, poor people can not afford to fly out and poor people are the masses and it's them that suffers most, isn't it Why not meet their needs first afterall, the old Airport is still usable and people are still flying out of it right now as I write, no one has died flying in or out of it. That, I find too wrong to handle!

Princek12:
If the same applies to Lagos, why are you concerned about Lagos's airport project? Why don't you focus on Imo? What is all these jealousy with Lagos? And who says he intends on using Fed. Govt. resources? You and I know that you cannot depend on the federal government to realize the completion of any project. Fashola brokered a concession agreement to fund the project, which parallels the agreement that was used to construct the new local airport. Also if Gov. Fashola was siphoning all the money as you proclaim, he won't have had sufficient resources to effectuate all the projects he has done thus far. Imo state is its own sovereign and can embark on its own prerogatives if it chooses to.

jingoma:
HA HA HA! "As big as Nigeria is??" ,  Do you know that Nigeria is about the size of the State of Texas and you think there should be an International airport in each state (hehn). They cant even maintain one International airport

Princek12:
Who says you can't build another international airport in Lagos while also building an airport in Imo? Imo state governor can use his state allocation or raise revenue for the project instead of embezzling all the money.

Stealthy:
Some ladies in earlier posts said that they need to see a married Nigerian man who doesn't cheat on his wife.

Well, I'm here, defending those of us naija men who don't cheat on our wives! Are u people happy now? Yes, we exist and you probably don't meet many of us cos we aren't clubbing with you (or your friends) or visiting you on campus. That doesn't mean we don't exist!!!

posakosa:
^^^^^^^ Dont you have things to do than to write paragraphs on NL,   

Love to read and love to write, any problems?? When one's done a week's work and chilling out here, what's the heck??  buddy! We all love passionate stories and that's why you are still here reading my contributions and others.  Chill!!!!

chic2pimp:
It sure don't look like she has things to do.

Again! Leave her alone to write what she likes.  She's burst you guys bubbles, that's why you are taken offence.  She's entitled to air her opinions (even to your disgust)110 times on here if she likes.  You keep coming back here to read about it simply because, you are passionate about her topic and peoples' responses/reactions otherwise, you won't be here.  So, if you don't like what she stands for, stay out of this THREAD, ok!

otukpo:
Excitement ke?

And who says thay are getting more exciting sex outside? It is all for the sake of feeling big boy. He has varieties to taste and feel good abt.

Well, as you said variety might be part of it but you failed to see there are certain corners a married woman would not want to reach in her bedroom business with her husband that, these little harlots would be too obliged to reach because, they are paid/wined and dined for it.

The ACROBATIC display a respectable wife would not dare think of performing - these girls would be too obliged to perform in order to keep the man coming back for more. Doubt it?? Please, don't. If the men here can be honest with themselves, they would own up to it.

Generally, men are visual people and they like excitements - that's the only way you can engage them in things.

posakosa:
leave her jo! let her keep yarning DUST. White man go kill am finish and collect life insurance for her name. Shoooiiiir!  

GEW:
madam please tell me in few words are these foolish nigerian men sleeping with ghanaian or cameroonian women? u need the cane man

Rosabelle:
I dont refute these things. Im just scared the world is looking for a kind of Messiah in that guy and he's just 1 man who can only achieve so much.
Obama is a wonderful character and has dreams and nobel visions the world hasnt heard a leader speak of in a while, and so there is this "bug" that bites everyone who looks at him or hears him speak.
But he hasnt "performed" yet. He's a wonderful talker and I think and believe he will achive a lot, but he hasnt "performed" yet. The world should allow the man breath. Give him space to work and stop heaping prizes on him he hasnt deserved.

There are many human-rights activists all over the world. There are people performing unbelieveable feats out there. Everyone wants to clap for Obama because he is the first black president.  Wanderful for him, but SO WHAT. After that, SO WHAT.
Theres much more to being a winner of this Peace Prize than being a half-cast who's father wasnt there when he was growing up. I have half-casts friends who had abscentee fathers too.
I like him as a person, but as a politician he is yet to achieve anything. Chicago is just another State in the US so I really cant be bothered about his achievements there.

The world should slow down on the guy. And thats why I said it seems the "Obama-bug" has gotten to Norway too.
I used to have a lot of respect for this Prize and the committee that does the selections, but I see right now any celebrity can win it.
I'd better go lobby!

deji2009:


so, how would you feel if we say the opposite ? your conclusion is really appaling.

Godmother:
A married man actually told me that it is only women that cheat. When a man sleeps with someone other than his wife, he's just being a Nigerian man. But when a woman does it, she is cheating. That's to sho how bad this adultery thing is.


Of course, the guy is quite right! In Nigeria we have no sense of fairness and justice and what do you expect him to say?  Well, tell him its no surprise to Nigerians - na that ole Nigerian disease wey dey called "DOUBLE STANDARD" or "MOVING THE GOAL POST TO SUIT YOUR NEEDS". Na im we go blame, ok!
In fact, he should not worry, his own daughters will soon be victims of the same ole culture he'd helped to strengthened.  What goes round would definitely, come round for him and that's the natural law! Hope, he receive it with open arms!