₦airaland Forum

deols:
Ries, 30, the pastor of the Sterling Drive Church of Christ in Bellingham, has decided to join Muslims in fasting Ramadan to get a better knowledge of the Islamic faith.

But may I ask again, who made Mr Reiss a PASTOR?? Or did he do it himself like some other Penticostal preachers who call themselves 'Bishops' Is it how he stumbled into Pastorship??  You see, from his comment I quote, "I'm not so narcissistic to think I have everything figured out." suggests a man not  serious about his faith - whether Christianity or Islam.  In fact a confused man.  Even the name of his Church is suspicious too and alerts one to his real motives in setting up a Church for that matter - to make money because it's easy these day for anyone to set up a Church and become a millionaire the next day. Imagine the name of his Church 'STERLING DRIVE CHURCH'. It could have been named 'DOLLAR DRIVE CHURCH' at least the motive would have been clear and obvious for people to understand.  Now, you all know some of these Penticostal Churches set up in every street all over the world are not Spiritually led and from this, one can deduce such churches are nothing but devil advocates so beware where your worship and who you give your tithes.

deols:
Ries has also started reading the Noble Quran and is keeping a journal about his reflections and experiences during Ramadan.
"I'm not a big breakfast person, so it's been difficult for me," he said.

The US pastor hopes that his experience of fasting the Muslim holy month would be a healing step towards a better world.

"As a Christian, I believe this world is broken," he said. "It's not as it's supposed to be."

Salam, who has made a documentary about his experience and his family as a Muslim family living in American society, agreed.

"He's breaking some ground here," Salam said.

He said sharing Riess experience with other church members and non-Muslims would have a better impact on understanding the Islamic faith.

"Hopefully, in the future, we'll have more individuals doing it.

Wait, wait and wait!!! This pastor is curios hence his meddling with religions.  And this curiosity in my view, would eventually lead to jumping of ship with some of his members.  For Mr Salam to say that Mr Reiss is doing it to understand Islamic Faith in order to heal the world's problem is a good excuse but how about Mr Salam doing the same for Christian Faith during Lent?  Wouldn't it serve the same purpose he is on about  Hmmmm!  I smell some hypocrisy here.  Hey, Mr Reiss, it would be nice you're honest about your intentions, you see, Christian Religion is the most tolerant of all Religions and no one this side of the Religion divide would object to your plans, you know.  Afterall, you are not the first nor the last to jump ship instead of hypocritically riding on the bandwagon of the 'Christian Faith'. Naaaaaaaaaaa!  Go, no one's stopping you, ok!  And for those who are considering to the same, wouldn't it be nice you do it noooowwwww?  We give our blessings and good luck!!!

dapsycool:
I can't anyone    Getting a permit to study in Sweden is 500 times tougher than getting a visa to USA especially as an undergraduate. Nigerians in Sweden and Finland don spoil ground already. So brothers and sisters, I'm not discouraging you, if you can't have about 4.5 million in your OWN personal bank account, don't waste your time and money.
It should be about 3million for two years masters. Don't play smart, boosting, manipulating or knowing the MD of a bank can't help, if the exact money is not in your account.

Finland is about 1.3 million naira, but also in your OWN personal bank statement. You MUST have TOEFL or IELTS , then go to Ghana to sit for entrance exam. Any false documents, you are in deep shit    Cos at the port of entry in Vantaa airport Helsinki, your ass will be scrutinized, you may even sit for exam    funny right  and if you screw up, back to Lagos 

ezinne1212:
It's all down to choice and opportunity. Like someone mentioned, studying overseas doesn't give you an advantage in the Nigerian labour market, and it's a heck of a lot of money to bet on if you've got options here in Nigeria.

Shola2009:
Increase their salary!.thats the simple solution, the only reason why they collect bride and can be easily manipulated is because they income insnt sufficient,  if that can be settled i dont think they'll need anybody's money

You see, Shola it's a good idea.  It's one thing asking for salary increment and hope that the Nigerian Police attitudes would change, as a result. But I say 'No', their attitudes won't change!
If you like raised their salary level higher than that of their British, American, France, Germany and Swedish counterparts respectively, the Nigerian Police will always ask for BRIBE.  It doesn't matter with how much you raise the salary scale, Nigerian police would not get enough because, CORRUPTION is in their BLOOD therefore, inborn in their psych.  In addition, Nigerians are GREEDY PEOPLE BY NATURE - the never get enough. There's no covering up here because, we are! Always, comparing and competing with each other.  They see their neighbour, friend etc has got a 4 x 4 hey, they want it without ASKING HOW MUCH DO i MAKE, CAN I AFFORD IT?Huh!  Instead, they say I
must get one and they usually do at every cost mainly, at the expense of a hardworking innocent victim hence, the trouble we have in Nigerian today with the POLITICIANS, ARM ROBBERS, KIDNAPPERS demanding or stealing a fortune that's not theirs.  And after few week ask for the Ransom and see what you get.  They can't account for the money because they have lavished it and even have the gut to gone back for more. Now, tell me how could someone without a job own a car?  Or someone that earns less than £100.00 a week (if they are lucky!!) own a car an expensive one?  Probably, an inheritance from that rogue Senator called uncle, maybe! Hmmmm!!


In terms of reform, I believe there could be a cure to this problem but we must all help, no matter how small by overlooking our tribal lines (if we can) and vote according to what we believe in and the BIG DREAMS we have and share for our beautiful and blessed country.   As for reformation of Nigerian Police, have we tried:  (a) Clearing up the whole MESS and check out RECRUITING from SCRATCH (b) Have we considered strategies involving HARD WORK and REWARDS - whereby Officers with GOOD conduct are highly REWARDED for their positive acts. (c) Also, a strategy that encourages INFORMANTS within the police telling of the bad eggs among themselves and gain rewards for doing so.  But beware of trap settings here, as some Officers can go to high mountains and seas in order to spite colleagues they don't like or get on well with.  Hmmm, human nature can be cruel!!). 
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tensor777:
Actually that post was in answer to one of Chukwudi's questions.

Ok, pardon me o o!!!!! I did not know what transpired earlier, just following what's on screen in front of me.

tensor777:
Actually with the death of Jesus on the cross and the consequent abolition of the Levitical priesthood there is no need for any Christian to make animal sacrifices.

JustGood:
Methusella, it sure suits you to advocate promiscuity among girls. Are you hoping some of them might then join your bandwagon of no gooders?

What kind of irresponsible woman advocates that girls should be unfaithful.
Did you say you were married? In your dreams. . .

WOMAN!  Your see, I know those women traits you got are still there and will be there forever because, they are biologically innate and ENTRENCHED in you.  I know you can not avoid responding to that and would also respond to this, WOMAN! Come my sister, come join me in this ranting, mouthing warfare!! I challenge you!!! You are well invited, ok!  Show up!!  THERE HE IS, lol!!!    Imagine, the world's number one MORALIST - The holy man of SODOM.  So, marriage is compulsory where you come from, eh

Did I hear him say, irresponsibility?  Of course, your partner (doubt if you have one) is already into it and getting her own back from you - keep deceiving yourself.  In this economic situ down there, think you're the only man RUBBING her back, think again! Sorrio o o o! Let me tell you, most women are already doing it, just don't deceive yourself, ok!  You do, those of us who can, will do too.  That way, as your ego is dented, you learn to RESPECT women.  It's called EQUALITY IN EVERY ASPECT, ok!  And that's the nightmare for cowards like you! If that's not a good thing then, men should think twice about the HURT they cause in the family as a result.  So WOMAN, make you sidon there de look, sand go enter your GARI.  Abi your iba shaa!!  Dey there de advocate morality which you haven't got either!  I challenge you to SWEAR IN THE NAME OF GOD you haven't been unfaithful even once in any of your relationships Mr Righteous? Of course you can't do it then, STOP MORALIZING - sinner of the last order!  Go, girls, go, go, go!!!  Make them dey there de think na them only wise - Dunce!!  You do, women will do too and that's part of the deal to greater happiness in the family, right now.  Men have always created and advocated this behaviour and the world is dancing to that tune, you know!  See how happy most marriages are? Instead of him to caution his fellow men of the heart ache and pain they cause in the family as a result, he's blaming women.  Typical of Nigerian men double standards? Shame!

aonom:
Hello Naira Landers,

I was just curious to know exactly how a man and woman who have gone through the two  stages of marriage in Nigeria, Traditional and Church. But would like to mutually end the marriage without any issues coming up, such as custody of the children or child as the case maybe. I was having a discussion with a friend of mine and we were both curious to know exactly how this might end up in this present day and age in the Nigerian context. Also we would like to know who would gain the custody of their issue (child or children) especially if they are both financially stable. Please note that we are both not married yet and do not have any intension to divorce when we eventually do, IJN.

Kindly throw more light on this issue.

Thanks.

Hi Baby

Nice you asked and people will be too happy to enlighten you in this area.  There are 4 types of marriages that are recognized in Nigerian Constitution.  Church wedding, Moslem or Islamic wedding, Registry Office wedding or the so called Court wedding and the Traditional local marriage - all of these are legally recognized and can be legally enforced in Nigerian courts.  Just as many have commented on here on how to end these kind of marriages especially the traditional one, mainly the local Nigerian way of doing it.  However, enlightened people would prefer to go through it formally through the courts system but whether justice would be truely secured is another thing  as we have none in Nigerian legal system.    

Yes, even the traditional marriages can also be dissolved through the courts but because, most Nigerians do not know their rights, and have no resource to fight their cases through the court system, they end up doing it the local way which is far, far and far too unfair in many ways.  For example, how could it be fair for a man to send back his wife of many years and equally has the gut to ask for the return of his bride price on her when she has not only given him 12 to 100 children but also, helped built the wealth in the family?  How could this be fair  Now, you can see, a tip of the iceberg of INJUSTICES in our culture.  It is not FAIR!!!  For it to be fair, Nigerian women should be financially compensated well when such situation arises so that they can be able to take care of themselves for the rest of their lives since their chances of finding another partner in that culture can be very, very, very slim as such women are considered by our society as SECOND HANDED ARTICLES of which, no decent Nigerian man would want to be associated with.  They can only do so if, she has TRILLIONS OF NAIRA then most men would swallow the bitter pill and take her on.  I challenge Nigerian men to tell me otherwise because, that's Nigerian way.  Also, Nigerian men are not known for getting involved or marrying a girl who had a baby out of wedlock because society considers her second hand and a spoilt article no one would want.  Afterall, who made these girls pregnant in the first place?  Is not Nigerian men?  Now, you can see their DOUBLE STANDARD! That's why I dislike our culture.  However, I am glad many are beginning to travel the world and seeing the light thus, having a point of comparison as those entrenched attitudes of theirs are now beginning to change however, the up take in this department is quite small.  Again, if the girls have money or potentials their chances of finding a husbands could be bright otherwise, they are going no where as they are considered SELL-BY-DATE and many do end up in prostitution as they can not help themselves.  In that situation, unless they have money then, they might find a husband as MONEY TALKS IN NIGERIA and everyone knows that, don't they

Finally, may I draw your attention to the highlighted area in your post.  You see, no one goes into marriage vouching and planning for divorce.  Divorce can happen in any situation if the couple involved wants it.  Things might trigger it especially, where there is lack of commitment, lack of communication, lack of respect and tolerance from those involved then, if they don't change their ways, expect it to happen in most cases.  So, if I were you, I wouldn't make that claim because as a young woman you may have mental image of how perfect your marriage is going to be and thus, work hard towards this ideal but remember you are TWO in it -  your husband/partner might not have the same ideal as you and that's where it all can go wrong and your LITMUS PAPER would then be TESTED for you. 

I suggest you go into marriage with open mind and pray that God give you a God fearing husband that would love and respect you and likewise you.  That's all!! Good luck!

JustGood:
I can actually imagine what you have seen in life and what you may have been through to make you turn out this way.

Kiddie, like I said - no point, ok! It doesn't SUIT you behaving like a GIRL - PICKING unnecessary quarrels and RESPONDING to all sorts of wits that came out of womens' mouths.  Honest, it doesn't SUIT you!  Any one who regards himself a REAL man would not bring himself that low obviously, with this kind of behaviour, INTELLECTUALLY, you're LESS of a man, sorrio o o o!  

Again, stop ACTING like a woman, will you?. 

sley4life:
I love both & its difficult to choose,  But i'll go for my wife if she is faithful to me

JustGood:
This, coming from a supposedly married woman, is shocking.

Shocking? Really? Goes to show you ain't seen any thing in life as you haven't  been around long.  So, no much words for you with regards to that topic, ok!!  Bye!!!

GEW:
mmmmmmm from an alledged blessed mind.

GEW:
mmmmmmm from an alledged blessed mind.

GEW:
mmmmmmm from an alledged blessed mind.

rasputinn:
And how many metres or kilometres are we looking at here?