tevinsolt: Security - Decentralise the Police, given the constitution makes provision for that. Establish a zero-tolerance policy in the Police Force and the Military. This approach is a strategy to eradicate the abuse of power by law enforcement on citizens. Push a bill that allows for a jury of citizens to serve as the balanced check that needed to keep the force accountable. This will reinforce the idea of a government by people in the our democracy. Nysc - Mandatory 1 year military reserve service for all citizens. Eligible for enrollment by the age of 18 and must be completed by age 35. Citizen database - for identification
Infrastructure - Leverage the service of the enlisted Nysc members in a Govenrment driven accelerated infrastructural development, obviously cooperation with experts. we'll create 3000 miles of roads and 1500 miles of rail line respectively every year. Increased infrastructural capacity will positively impact investments in logistics and transportation and industrilization. I'll further deconstruct power distribution, will allow distributors to compete for customers without location restriction.
Education enormous investment in Public schools starting from Elementary all the way up to the University. We'll rennovate our schools, provide adequate supplies for the classrooms, build Federal public Libraries in every capital city. Open up Federal Universities for international research purposes, sponsor research in Medicines, Science and Technology Incentivize computer and information technology/science/engineering studies all across the country.
Tourism, allow ease of access for innovative ideas from local start-ups, international brands to launch their businesses. this will be another avenue for job creation creation through small businesses, and possible investment opportunities.
And finally use my execute powers to push for a decentralized federal government, and more independent states, a change to the constitution that will define clearly the rights of persons and institutions and firmly uphold those rights with the necessary checks and balance in place.
You try. But your agenda isn't far reaching enough. You might be good for my vp though. I will be cunning and skillful. I will use the first year to entrench deeply my root and and buy the youths loyalty to my cause. Then I will start my craze. I have seen that many government policies are not really taking care of the simple but necessary day to day activities and need of the populace. Hence, I will start by fixing electrical power supply . I will make the prepaid metre mandatory and available for every household. The populace will get value for whatever they are purchasing, data, TV subs and electricity will be 'pay has you use'. This will eliminate the feeling of being cheated that do result to depression. It will also make the companies in charge of this services to sit up and make there services appealing to people. eg if you don't get light, you don't pay, consequentially, power holding companies don't get salaries. U get? I will then do a thorough and sincere data collection of the populace. I will get to know the real numbers of Nigeria, there religion, tribes, gender, age, morbidity and mortality rate. Or how can a father really take care of his household, if he doesn't really know the number of his children? Then I will make our border more secure. *tge population of each tribes will determine the states you have and the representatives you have at the different federal houses. This will encourage equity. TACKLING THE CURRENCY PROBLEM AND INFLATION: I will skillfully and tactfully pursue the west Africa intra-economy emancipation. I will make it look more like the euro market. I will take advantage of our influence and population. (I know fully well that strong countries like France will try to undermine this). I WILL NEVER BREAK NIGERIA, but I will pursue real federalism. Different regions will enjoy to high degree what they produce. Others with limited means though will be helped.we will find a balance, not the type of sharing mode we have now though. This will encourage hard work and ingenuity. INFRASTRUCTURE: I will build durable roads all over taking into consideration various soil, composition of different regions. I will focus also on water transportation. I will dredge the major rivers and the Chad basin. I will construct canals too. I will focus more on railway line though. I will find a system of maintaining this infrastructure. Take for example road, I will make sure I tax every user of a particular road, and whatever I get will be used to maintain it, down to the paints. ECONOMY: nigeria isn't doing well in tax collection. I will tax everything; chewing gum, ogogoro etc. I will do it reasonably and shrewdly though. Population control; I will discourage abortion but give people sex education. EDUCATION: I will radically uproot the system we have now, reanalyse and reform education. I will give prominence to practicals (if you are being taught atoms can be split, you have to be able to see an example and relate with it. If you are being taught diffusion, you don't just know it in the head, you know it in the heart too, by seeing how it really works. This will make learning real and easy, not abstract). Teaching and learning of our history too will come to the forefront. I will encourage the knowledge and expertise of ICT. teachers and doctors will earn more than our politicians. I will make those two profession competitive *(and politics less entising. It will only attract people with real passion and love). This means those in that line-medicine and teachers, will undergo another schooling, reorientation and examination. Teachers course will not appeal to the dump of the societies again. INDUSTRIALISATION AND INNOVATION: I will tactfully encourage us patronizing our 'owns'. I will be careful so I don't look like trump that is pursuing a closed economy. I will give out grants and introduce competition on innovation and give huge prices to people that invent things (this is how the west got to develop planes 100s of years ago) or that clone perfectly an already available useful technology from abroad.(this is how China was able to develop at the neck breaking space they did). SECURITY and CORRUPTION : I will encourage local polising. I will also introduce a check and balance. In fact, their will be check and balances and auditing for all institutions. This means, their will be people polising our police, military force, managers of industries etc. Those policing will be policed too. REGULATION: there will be bodies regulating our schools, hospitals and companies. They will look into things like abuse and workers right. Seeking redress at court will be cheap, enticising and accessible. You will be able to sue company like MTN and DSTV if they cut your #2 and get #20000 as compensation. This will create jobs for our lawyers. Government will have bodies of boards that will ensure even private companies are being managed well, they will also have the power to take over floundering companies. This will make sure companies do not go moribund. JOB CREATION: I will take all the jobs in the car parks, ticket people,....menial jobs and give it to the people that went to school. If you must do any job, even boy boy for an igbo master, you must be educated. Why? This will make everybody be able to represent the country properly to outsiders, because it's these people-police, market people and 'agberos' -that people meet on daily basis. It will also ensure power don't belong to stupid people. So, if you create a company and you are not educated, you must employ somebody educated to manage it and be the face of it. This will end the 'education na scam' shameful slogan. I HAVE PLANS FOR ALLT THIS OUR TRADITIONAL RULERS CAUSING PROBLEMS IN OUR POLITICS, BUT I WILL PUT IT IN THE COOLER FOR NOW. SO LET ME ASK, HAVE YOU SEEN SUCH A WOULD BE PRESIDENT IN AFRICA, LIKE ME BEFORE?
UzorChinonso: Good day Nairalanders, I have been married for just a year now and it has not been easy here! My Husband wants to know every thing about my finance. He has disturbed me to know how much is my salary worth of.
I have always denied him of the fact, what I know is that I used my money to refurbish our flat, got some new things to change the outlook of the place....
But I am not really finding it funny any longer. As we speak, he collected my ATM card since last two weeks, said I must tell him the pin or I should forget having it back. I went to my bank, told them that I lost the card and they changed it for me last Friday and he collected it again said it's either I tell him the pin or he will do something funny ...
I don't know what funny thing he's gonna do but I am worried! Pls is this how marriage is? He claims to own me and own my salary! Is it fair? This marriage is too early instead I would have quit and I am pregnant at the moment! What do I do? I don't want anybody to know anything about my finances including him till I have my baby whom my spirit accepted that I should make my next of kin.
What do I do ?
Those are the actions of an abusive and possessive man. You don't seize or damage somebody especially a spouses things with the purpose of getting things from them. It's physical abuse and blackmail. I will advice you to be more transparent with your finance as you would want him to too (especially if he is transparent). Still, trust is earned not forcefully demanded. I have a partner that earns more than me, she does a lot for us, I have been transparent with what I get, but I have noticed, that whenever I have money, she demands and get me involved in things she normally would do on her own, till my LAST DIME. after she exhaust me, she takes up responsibility but I become powerless after and dependent on her whims and grace. I have decided to be more shrewd with my finance from now onward. She will not be disappointed whenever she discover I have been keeping back in the future, because of how she has misused my transparency now
Aroma Ufodike, from Nnewi, Anambra State, who appeared on the popular TV Show “Who Wants to Be a Millionaire in Nigeria” on September 11, 2009, and won 10 million naira. He was the first and only person to win the top prize in Nigeria, I think.
He got all the questions without using any life line.
When he was on the last question, he said “I want to use my 'phone a friend' option to call my family at home that I’m about to win 10million Naira.”
My thoughts also go to the intellectually balanced Frank Edoho
Where is Gulder Ultimate Search? �
These are the type of programs we need to see on air not the extremely immoral Big Brother Nigeria.
This is worth celebrating indeed, but I'm not trying to shame BBNaija either.. I'm just saying..
I wish these intellectually stimulating TV programmes could return back to our homes. #GodBlessNigeria
many people we get now no wan watch am. E go give them headache, unlike bbnaija that they can masturbate with
Yeah we all know marriage is an institution between 2 persons with the aim to have offspring and companionship, but is this all we see and make of it?
I am a person that believes in relationship/marriage and tries to go far in making it work well except when it starts to affect my mental health (i cant go mad all in the name of i want it to work)
Some say marriage is easy while some say its a hard work, we all have different opinions.. I for one been married before, it didnt work not because i couldnt try but (my choice anyway)
I am considering going into another and all the things that we do that counts now may not in few years, I mean the sexiness, the kamasutra and all, well ofcourse i am not just gonna be offering just sex, we both got more to keep us going for a 100years to come (my favourite part is the friendship and companionship)...
I am scared sometimes waking up to him every other day and same way it excites me
How has it been with those married for 5years and counting? the joy, feeling, the tears, the arguments, the sex, I mean all of it....
let me leave my opinion here: 1) I think we see too much in today's world compared to the time of our parents. This has caused more pressure on marriage. we read about others seemingly 'magical' marriages, we hear about how others are enjoying their marriage etc. this leads to comparison. 2) Many people, especially ladies marry just anybody that is eligible and fit into their physical expectations in marriage. This is why you see ladies marrying someone from abroad just within a month of courtship. ladies don't want to manage and suffer with anyone, they constantly look for the better life and decide to take the risk. but in reality, long courtship and allowance for time to get to know each other is hugely important. These are some of the reason for failures in marriages. pressure due to the fact we see a lot of things online, insufficient time to get to know each other, and I must add a third, (3) social media, pornography (images of perfect body) and the internet in general, have made seeking out and keeping relationship outside marriages more easy. you don't have to write letter to organise a meeting in this age, you can actually be chatting to a concubine while you are on the same bed with your wife.
Yeah we all know marriage is an institution between 2 persons with the aim to have offspring and companionship, but is this all we see and make of it?
I am a person that believes in relationship/marriage and tries to go far in making it work well except when it starts to affect my mental health (i cant go mad all in the name of i want it to work)
Some say marriage is easy while some say its a hard work, we all have different opinions.. I for one been married before, it didnt work not because i couldnt try but (my choice anyway)
I am considering going into another and all the things that we do that counts now may not in few years, I mean the sexiness, the kamasutra and all, well ofcourse i am not just gonna be offering just sex, we both got more to keep us going for a 100years to come (my favourite part is the friendship and companionship)...
I am scared sometimes waking up to him every other day and same way it excites me
How has it been with those married for 5years and counting? the joy, feeling, the tears, the arguments, the sex, I mean all of it....
let me leave my opinion here: 1) I think we see too much in today's world compare to the time of our parent. This has caused more pressure on the marriage. we read about others seemingly magical marriage, we hear about how others are enjoying their marriage etc. this leads to comparison. 2) Many people, especially ladies marry just anybody that is eligible and fit into their physical expectations in marriage. This is why you see ladies marry someone from abroad just within a month of courtship. ladies don't want to manage and suffer with anyone, they constantly look for the better life and decide to take the risk. but in reality, long courtship and allowance for time to get to know each other is hugely important. This are some of the reason for marriage failures in marriages. pressure due to the fact we see a lot of things online, insufficient time to get to know each other, and I must add a third (3) social media, pornography (images of perfect body) and the internet in general, have made seeking out and keeping relationship outside marriages more easy. you don't have to write letter to organise a meeting, you can actually be chatting to a concubine while you are on the same bed with your wife.
ejosh4: Messi during his peak days had no beards.... Are those days coming back?... Let's wait and find out.. Like for Messi, Share for Ronaldo, Ignore for Salah & Co
if you have an idea of how many if us ignored this, you will know that Sallah and co actually carried the day
FeliciaOja: It is now I understand what being strict does, it makes you live a life of pretence, cos when I got into University I wanted to explore everything I didn’t have the chance of doing at home.
I drank alcohol like crazy, smoked weed, hung out with rich boys, partying, doing drugs but when I go visit my Parents, I still act like that innocent girl they have always known.
My Dad’s strictness led to my Pretence, if he had drawn me close like my mum did, I would have been a better kid.
When parents use strictness to shut down a kids curiosity instead of guiding them, you are making matters worse for that kid. Because eventually that curiosity will lead them into adventures and exploring all those things you refused them to..
Looking back, al the flogging I received from my dad only made me more stubborn and ruthless.
Nothing really changed? Until my mum made me change for good.
Parents need to use wisdom not force..
see she has valid points that has been proven over and over again. a parent might not be abusive, but they might be overly protective of their children from outside influence. this kind of children don't develop properly. everybody needs the right mix of exposure and experience about the good and bad in the society. it's like a child from a wealthy home that has been kept away from dirt and soils too much, such children to not develop the needed immunity for flourishing in all the environment that is out there in the world. she put it nicely when she said children's curiosity doesn't need to be covered but guided.
Calabar1stSon: Back in those days, parents would always advised their female daughters that talking to boy who get them pregnant.
Infact religious organizations preach against it even more but you find many of their members involved in the act.
Do you know even at 18 I still thought that kissing a girl would get her pregnant?
What went wrong with the society of today? Why is Pre-marital sex a norm in the society today?
MARRIAGE BOOSTER
AVOID PREMARITAL SEX
Premarital Sex is The Mother of Extramarital Sex.
If a Man Says He is a Christian, Yet He Has No Problems Knocking You Up, Having Premarital Sex or Living in Sin With You
My Sister, You Have to Ask Yourself, “What Version of Christ Does He Believe In?
If You Can Eat Food Before it is Yours Then You Can Also Eat Food That is Not Yours.
Any Woman That Allows a So Called Fiance Sleep With Her Before He Marries Her is Only Training and Equipping Him to Cheat on Her if He Does Go Ahead to Marry Her.
Sex is Not an Entitlement. It's a Privilege That Goes With Marriage.
Premarital Sex Defrauds The Future Marriage Partner of The Person With Whom You Are Involved.
You are Robbing That Person of the Virginity and Single Minded Intimacy That Ought to be Brought into a Marriage.
Thus, Sexual Impurity is as Much a Social Injustice Against Others as it is a Personal Sin Against God.
And Do Note That There is a Difference Between a Fiance and a Customer.
If He Sleeps With You and Gives You Money, He is a Customer Not a Fiance
Surrender to Sensuality Paralyzes The Powers of The Moral Person.
We Have to Begin Giving Our Youth the Whole Truth About Premarital Sex and The Difficulties it Can Cause.
iamyemiakins: SEVEN THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO WHEN MEETING YOUR PARTNER'S PARENTS FOR THE FIRST TIME.
This is a major step in a relationship, so the first impression can be a lasting impression, believe me when I say that.
1. PLAYING WITH YOUR PHONE
Avoid being on your phone, texting, checking your mail, facebooking or chatting. Sometimes most of us do it unknowingly. It is true some chicks do that just to keep themselves busy, but your spouse parents might feel dismissed and think you are not interested in getting to know them, especially, So avoid your phone at that first time.
2. LIE TO MAKE YOURSELF LOOK GOOD
Being fake instead of who you truly are is a mistake that can upset your partner's parents, and even your partner. Remember, they may get to know who you are later or in your absence, and it could really hurt your relationship. If you have told your partner the truth about you and your partner has accepted the kind of person you are, his/her parents should be able to do same. So there is no need of lying to attract their likeness.
3. BRINGING UP A CONTROVERSIAL TOPIC FOR DISCUSSION
Please don't bring up a topic like Religion, Politics, or s3x for discussion, even if you know that your believe are in line with your partner's parents. Some people still consider it bad for bringing up such topic for discussion before them. Concentrate on getting to know them more rather than those topics. If they keep discussing such topic among themselves, do more of listening.
4. DON'T GIVE LONG SPEECHES, MAKE YOUR SPEECHES BRIEF
Despite the fact that they are very interested in getting to know you, they also do not want to spend the entire time listening to your life story. Don't tell them stories about how your father divorced your mother when you were a teenager, how your community people burnt a woman to ashes for insulting her hubby, and all that. Make your speeches brief and interesting.
5. PUBLIC DISPLAY AFFECTION
Yes, public display of affection can be wonderful,but there is appropriate time for it. This does not mean you have to become cold, distant and robotic. Feel relaxed, interact with them gently, smile and be friendly, but make it neutral, rather than behaving as if you are desperate to have them as in laws.
6. DON'T FINISH ANY FOOD GIVEN TO YOU
Whether the food is small or plenty, and no matter how delicious it is. Never ask for alcohol if you are asked to make a choice of drink. Don't be carried away. This is very important.
7. DON'T PASS THE NIGHT THERE
No matter the persuation, don't pass the night in their house on your first day of visit.
I concur with the rest except no. 6. I don't see the merit in not finishing the food. as a principle, I don't like waist, except if the food is really much
larryking540: Bro in as much I respect your point of view,but not every battle man day stand to hold on ,some times there is wisdom by just moving on . I am sure it will be more deadly when the woman makes him a laughing stock by his neighbors when they gradually find out op wife has been codedly visiting the ex ...
The best is op should just quickly pack out of the vicinity
OK, the truth is my reaction was more about the 'betrayal of snatching someone else's girlfriend', I don't really know the advice to give the guy. He has heard alot of opinions here, it's left for him now to consider the options and make the best decision as he is the one wearing the shoe
Alvyn69: Your story is the typical Nollywood film... I hate guys who knows a girl has a boyfriend but still dive in to manipulate them to dating and eventually marrying them. From your statement it is obvious you've been envying that guy for long cos even though you knew he was dating your current wife you still went ahead to capitalize on his absence... You see God no dey sleep, as a matter fact I no get any sympathy for your kind face the music!
I am surprised at a lot of peoples advice and opinions here. There is nothing like betrayal in taking someone's else girlfriend. You only betray your friend or someone that trust you with/aboit something. He wasn't even unfaithful as it wasn't someone else's wife he took. I suspect that a lot of people that respond to issues here are 'smallies' that are just starting out in life. Or if they were adults, or married, they would have known their present spouse was most likely someone else's partner before. where can one find virgin in this age? The bible understand the possible complications of doing things you should do in marriage while courting. There won't be talks of betrayals if one only have sex to someone he/she is married to not courting. the point is, it's completely allowed and fair to take someone -that is not a family or friend-else's girlfriend or boyfriend. My advice to the guy, is that he should sit down and analyse the whole situation honestly and seriously. he should consider if the womans reaction is a one of, if it doesn't affect her general and continuous behavior? If I were the guy, I might not even move away. I will take up the challenge and try be a good entrepreneur.
adontcare: yea. I like this. But I had to say it bluntly without sugar coating it. As parents it's our responsibility to mould the child from 0-14 years. After that, they tend to learn from d environment and d society at large. But with little effort and prayers, the child will come out right at the end
still the foundational upbringing, which his how parents help mold children , goes a long way. most often than not, it guides the children in selecting which factors from the environment to imbibe
adontcare: God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt
when I first started reading this response I was revolted, then I later see he has a point. only maybe he is mixing the reasonable point with a silly one, or he doesn't know how to express himself very well. Many of this kids that mess up may have parents that are generally good, but that doesn't take away the fact that some of this parents indulge this kids when they were young (some even keep indulging them till adulthood) in the hope that somehow they turn a new leave by themselves. I have a relative I lived with at a point, and I noticed with anger how after he threatens and/or complains, his mum and sisters end up giving him money. this guy being the last born and only boy, developed an irritating sense of entitlement. I used to advice the family that they are only postponing the bad day(s) . I do show them example from the bible of the prodigal son. his father, after settling him once allowed him to stray. he never assisted him again (he would have only reinforced him, if he had). at this point, the Father knew the best thing to do is to let him go his way and live with the consequence. thankfully the guy came to his senses and retraced his steps. that's what has been allowed to happen. but what can be done? I will still refer to that guy I know. the family ended up spending millions of naira on rehab, police case, and constant treatment of injuries he sustain when he gets involved in troubles. Recently I sat him down, talked to him candidly. I let him see that his lifestyle of almost 18YEARS as only resulted to one predictable outcome, which is unproductive, shameful life. I showed him picture of when he came back from rehab(he was looking good with few or no scar). I told him he needs to strengthen his will power and stop associating with the bad companies. he is showing sign of a new life. I thank God for this. Still, has a well read person, I suspect I was able to help in this way, because the guy, still had control over his mind somehow. sadly in the case of your brother, he may have pass this point where he can grasp things. I advice you take him back to rehab with the hope that he get control of his mind back in some way. Make videos of every stage of his life from now. And stop indulging him. IF HE WILL DIE, LET HIM DIE NOW. NOT AFTER YOU HAVE WASTED YOUR MILLIONS. You may have to finally come to terms with reality. if he beats your mum again. lock him away. Give the station his story and be giving the police stipends to watch over him so that he doesn't have access to drugs even in the cell. He should learn. only if he still have his head with him again though. if you feel he doesn't, access that option of another rehab and stop indulging him after.
Faithful4real: You missed the point. I did not say you are making comments because of likes. Go back and read it again.
shut up mumu. ode. a wise Chinese adage says it's an offence to cause harm but it's more evil to keep quite when harm is done. you inferred the guy made that statement for mental gratification. Coward
Ope88: Please don't read and pass, also Pardon all my typo, I'm typing out of duress.
I am from a family of six, 3 girls, 1 boy including my parents. I had a horrible childhood experience, My Mum (no thanks to her) was something I can't quantify, I can't start writing every of the things she did and I can't say If the religion she practiced contributed largely to the devilish attitude she put up while growing up.
My mum has no good record anywhere, in the church, with the neighbours, with her siblings, we the children, her in laws and even at work, She was always at war with people, if she dreams that someone was trying to attack her in the dream, if she sees the person the following day, she was ready to attack the person.
Also, she would curse her children at any slightest provocation and leave only my brother out(last born and spoilt), She doesn't have any good relationship with her siblings and won't allow my dad visit his family member, I remembered them (Mum and dad) always saying this (don't be unequally yoked together with unbelievers). To them anyone who isn't a Christian (deeper life) is not supposed to be associated with.. My dad on countless occasion will call his mum a witch just because she was a Muslim and one of the oloyes of allasalatu(Muslims will understand this) and had nothing to do with his family members.
This went on and on like this until my elder sister moved out of the house and in the process of trying to find her feet, she got pregnant and my mom practically tormented her life, she later got married to the man, and for that act alone, she's always at logger heads with my sister and her husband..
Later, I got married and then my younger sister followed suit, leaving my dad, herself and my younger brother (whom I have disowned).
Ever since the three of us got happily married, and left the home, my dad slipped into severe depression. Although he has been depressed given lots of things he encountered, job loss, no social interaction, unforgiveness amongst others, it became severe when all his female children left, then from severe depressgion, he started having mental issues, he would wake up and leave the house talking to himself, or start preaching and going out of point with anyone he finds on the street, sometimes he would leave and come home at night, my younger brother who is supposed to comfort and help him, treats him with disdain, my mum who is supposed to check mate his excesses would leave him to his folly and now he has started standing up to her and everyone else in the house..
At 26, he doesn't know his bearing and obviously we have been seeing signs of him wanting to inherit the houses my father built in the same compound.. (and we have noticed that my mum has been making him understand that every of the property belongs to him).
The last straw which broke the camel's back happened one week ago, my elder sister ( who is 9 year older than him) took advantage of the lockdown and visited my father, he is usually exited when we are around him whc helps his severe moodiness. There and then an argument broke out between my sister and my brother, she asked why my brother was insulting our mum for an action that happened in the compound, he beat my sister up and her three children and boasted that, the rest of us (my sister and I) dare not do anything and that by the way we must stop coming to the house, that if he sees any of us He will beat us up, My mum who was supposed to resolve the matter started blaming my sister, asking her why she always love to come visiting, that she's supposed to be in her husband's house or father in laws place and immediately called her hubby to come pick her.
Its been one week my sister left for her house, my daddy who enjoyed her company when she was present started misbehaving again at home. He started roaming, he started cursing everyone.
The reason I'm writing is this, my dad is no where to be found, he left the house yesterday Friday 15th May 2020 and was last seen in ITAMAGA IKORODU, we keep trying his number but he is not picking and now his number is switched off, I'm sure he is still wandering about.
My sisters and I have decided that even when he is found(by God's grace) we do not what him to go back living with my mum and brother.
What other alternatives do we have to care for him, as his own siblings are not happy with him either for abandoning them and their mum (his own mum),, when they needed him the most..
I AM SO SORRY FOR THE LONG POST.. PLEASE HELP ME.
Modified..... My dad has been found today Sunday, 17th May 2020, my sweet mother (elder sister) found her, she has been on her feet since he went missing, luckily he was found but in a terrible state, I saw him via video calls and I wept, he can't recognize even my sister again, and just muttering some words we don't understand, he closes his eyes while saying this and asked everyone to go and leave him, he looks so faint and weak and would not leave where he his...My sister has called his siblings and she's waiting for the next line of ACTION from them.
I'll keep updating the house with reports from our end..
sorry for your upbringing. your parents especially Dad may have had mental issue -i suspect paranoia or schizophrenia - right from time, it just increased and became more obvious with age. see Nigeria sadly hasn't come to grasp with mental health. many people's choice and action, relationship and even religion can be linked to there mental state. this is why, apportioning blame to a parent that abused there kids or that 'caged' them up out of fear of the society is too easy. Many at times you have to go deep down into a person's mental world to understand them. earlier today, I revisited the story and confession of the portharcourt serial killer. your younger brother may have the strain too. But it would have helped a bit if you and your sister had used 'woman's power and influence ' to organize soldiers to beat him up 'small'.
Ope88: Please don't read and pass, also Pardon all my typo, I'm typing out of duress.
I am from a family of six, 3 girls, 1 boy including my parents. I had a horrible childhood experience, My Mum (no thanks to her) was something I can't quantify, I can't start writing every of the things she did and I can't say If the religion she practiced contributed largely to the devilish attitude she put up while growing up.
My mum has no good record anywhere, in the church, with the neighbours, with her siblings, we the children, her in laws and even at work, She was always at war with people, if she dreams that someone was trying to attack her in the dream, if she sees the person the following day, she was ready to attack the person.
Also, she would curse her children at any slightest provocation and leave only my brother out(last born and spoilt), She doesn't have any good relationship with her siblings and won't allow my dad visit his family member, I remembered them (Mum and dad) always saying this (don't be unequally yoked together with unbelievers). To them anyone who isn't a Christian (deeper life) is not supposed to be associated with.. My dad on countless occasion will call his mum a witch just because she was a Muslim and one of the oloyes of allasalatu(Muslims will understand this) and had nothing to do with his family members.
This went on and on like this until my elder sister moved out of the house and in the process of trying to find her feet, she got pregnant and my mom practically tormented her life, she later got married to the man, and for that act alone, she's always at logger heads with my sister and her husband..
Later, I got married and then my younger sister followed suit, leaving my dad, herself and my younger brother (whom I have disowned).
Ever since the three of us got happily married, and left the home, my dad slipped into severe depression. Although he has been depressed given lots of things he encountered, job loss, no social interaction, unforgiveness amongst others, it became severe when all his female children left, then from severe depressgion, he started having mental issues, he would wake up and leave the house talking to himself, or start preaching and going out of point with anyone he finds on the street, sometimes he would leave and come home at night, my younger brother who is supposed to comfort and help him, treats him with disdain, my mum who is supposed to check mate his excesses would leave him to his folly and now he has started standing up to her and everyone else in the house..
At 26, he doesn't know his bearing and obviously we have been seeing signs of him wanting to inherit the houses my father built in the same compound.. (and we have noticed that my mum has been making him understand that every of the property belongs to him).
The last straw which broke the camel's back happened one week ago, my elder sister ( who is 9 year older than him) took advantage of the lockdown and visited my father, he is usually exited when we are around him whc helps his severe moodiness. There and then an argument broke out between my sister and my brother, she asked why my brother was insulting our mum for an action that happened in the compound, he beat my sister up and her three children and boasted that, the rest of us (my sister and I) dare not do anything and that by the way we must stop coming to the house, that if he sees any of us He will beat us up, My mum who was supposed to resolve the matter started blaming my sister, asking her why she always love to come visiting, that she's supposed to be in her husband's house or father in laws place and immediately called her hubby to come pick her.
Its been one week my sister left for her house, my daddy who enjoyed her company when she was present started misbehaving again at home. He started roaming, he started cursing everyone.
The reason I'm writing is this, my dad is no where to be found, he left the house yesterday Friday 15th May 2020 and was last seen in ITAMAGA IKORODU, we keep trying his number but he is not picking and now his number is switched off, I'm sure he is still wandering about.
My sisters and I have decided that even when he is found(by God's grace) we do not what him to go back living with my mum and brother.
What other alternatives do we have to care for him, as his own siblings are not happy with him either for abandoning them and their mum (his own mum),, when they needed him the most..
I AM SO SORRY FOR THE LONG POST.. PLEASE HELP ME.
Modified..... My dad has been found today Sunday, 17th May 2020, my sweet mother (elder sister) found her, she has been on her feet since he went missing, luckily he was found but in a terrible state, I saw him via video calls and I wept, he can't recognize even my sister again, and just muttering some words we don't understand, he closes his eyes while saying this and asked everyone to go and leave him, he looks so faint and weak and would not leave where he his...My sister has called his siblings and she's waiting for the next line of ACTION from them.
I'll keep updating the house with reports from our end..
sorry for your upbringing. your parents especially Dad may have had mental issue -i suspect paranoia or schizophrenia - right from time, it just increased and became more obvious with age. see Nigeria sadly hasn't come to grasp with mental health. many people's choice and action, relationship and even religion can be linked to there mental state. this is why, apportioning blame to a parent that abused there kids or that 'caged' them up out of fear of the society is too easy. Many at times you have to go deep down into a person's mental world to understand them. earlier today, I revisited the story and confession of the portharcourt serial killer. your younger brother may have the strain too. But it would have helped a bit if you and your sister had used 'woman's power and influence ' to organize soldiers to beat him up 'small'.
funkmrflexx: We Have Been Dating For 1 Year and 6 months now. I’ve met her parents, we wanted to get married last year but her dad told me to wait till she finishes school which is supposed to be next year. I’m 25 years old and she’s 22 .
I live alone in the city while my mom lives in the village. My younger sister who I’m sponsoring through school sometimes comes to my place during holidays and weekends. My girlfriend practically lives with me because she comes from a type of an Abusive family. So she lives with me and I even assist her with school fees and house rents sometimes. I’ve spent even more than her father for her school.
Everyone In my family knows her and she’s a very wonderful girl. Typical wife material. She supports me every time even when I’m broke. I’m not the type of guy that dates a lot of girls . I don’t even cheat on her. Since I met her I’ve done away with a lot of ladies. I’m 100% committed to the relationship
But the problem is that she Has very bad anger issues. I mean she can destroy your property when she’s angry and I’m the quiet type. I don’t like hitting a lady execpt once in a while a general brain resetting slap. When she starts she doesn’t listen to anyone. Not me, not even her parents. So anytime she’s angry like this I will just find a way to make her laugh. Both of you can just be eating and she will get angry if you ate the fleshy part of the meat and left oily part for her (we have quarreled because of that I mean serious quarrel) . Sometimes I get tired of the whole situation. At the end even when she’s wrong I’ll let her for peace to reign. So I try to manage the anger at home so it shouldn’t go out
So we went to visit my mom in the yesterday. Because of curfew we slept over. So my mom bought us mangos this morning and told us to carry.
My girlfriend then said she doesn’t like mango that if I want to eat my mango I should carry it myself. Then my mom (she is the type that always shouts at every body. The real wahala woman) told her that if she can’t carry the mango then she should just put it on my head for me to carry na (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na).
That was the only thing my mom said. Then she sparked. Started shouting at my mom. That she should stop talking to her like that, that she doesn’t like it. In fact she’s going home. So she carried her bag and started going home. Every one in the compound started saying it’s ok (Na dat thing why dem tell u Dey make u Dey vex so) she was still shouting. I was even try to calm her down but no way. She was still shouting. Even my sister who had never seen her angry before became angry (na so you b? She said). I was really disappointed In her
The issue is what even made me angry is how she reacted. If she didn’t like what my mom said made her angry. At least she should have waited till we got home (this was the first time we were both sleeping over) then she would tell me. Or she could have called my sister and told her what my mom said. After all the fracas, she went inside the room till we left. I just told everybody to just leave her.
So when we got home I told her what she did was wrong that she shouldn’t have reacted like that. Na there war start. She started yelling and shouting at me that if my mom talks to everyone like that she won’t take it (my plan was to tell her that she should apologize to her. Because my mom already apologized that she won’t talk to her again like that. Which I know she will o . So we can just forget about the issue. But she never accepts she’s wrong ) She said I took her to my village to intimidate her in front of my family people, I was really angry and called her uncle and told him what happened. He said there was nothing wrong with what my mom told her (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) and that he would talk to her .
I even scolded my mom before I left that I didn’t like what she said what she did that’s she was just causing issue. My girlfriend said when my mom said the word (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) that I should have immediately rebuked my mom. But me sef no see anything wrong with what my mom said( If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)
I just Dey follow her uncle advise and leave her be until she calms down and I talk to her
So my people what’s offensive in this word? If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)
But this her attitude don tire me. Break up is not on the card for me at least not yet. She always thinks that they are other guys out there because she has a lot of toasters but I know they can’t do quarter of what I’m doing for her. In this modern time it’s difficult to see a guy who will allow his girlfriend stay with him thereby losing his freedom to do certain things. A guy who doesn’t cheat, a guy who takes care of her does everything for her .
I just think the things she went through in her family is affecting her physiological. And sometimes when I think about leaving her I feel pity because she can’t go back to her parents house.
you your girlfriend, una no well. from your idea that you can give a girl-your partner 'resetting slap' I had seen you are one of the many idiots. If you add your miserable self to your girlfriends ridiculous temperament, one can scientifically deduce that you both will have a hellish marriage if una mumuly marry
funkmrflexx: We Have Been Dating For 1 Year and 6 months now. I’ve met her parents, we wanted to get married last year but her dad told me to wait till she finishes school which is supposed to be next year. I’m 25 years old and she’s 22 .
I live alone in the city while my mom lives in the village. My younger sister who I’m sponsoring through school sometimes comes to my place during holidays and weekends. My girlfriend practically lives with me because she comes from a type of an Abusive family. So she lives with me and I even assist her with school fees and house rents sometimes. I’ve spent even more than her father for her school.
Everyone In my family knows her and she’s a very wonderful girl. Typical wife material. She supports me every time even when I’m broke. I’m not the type of guy that dates a lot of girls . I don’t even cheat on her. Since I met her I’ve done away with a lot of ladies. I’m 100% committed to the relationship
But the problem is that she Has very bad anger issues. I mean she can destroy your property when she’s angry and I’m the quiet type. I don’t like hitting a lady execpt once in a while a general brain resetting slap. When she starts she doesn’t listen to anyone. Not me, not even her parents. So anytime she’s angry like this I will just find a way to make her laugh. Both of you can just be eating and she will get angry if you ate the fleshy part of the meat and left oily part for her (we have quarreled because of that I mean serious quarrel) . Sometimes I get tired of the whole situation. At the end even when she’s wrong I’ll let her for peace to reign. So I try to manage the anger at home so it shouldn’t go out
So we went to visit my mom in the yesterday. Because of curfew we slept over. So my mom bought us mangos this morning and told us to carry.
My girlfriend then said she doesn’t like mango that if I want to eat my mango I should carry it myself. Then my mom (she is the type that always shouts at every body. The real wahala woman) told her that if she can’t carry the mango then she should just put it on my head for me to carry na (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na).
That was the only thing my mom said. Then she sparked. Started shouting at my mom. That she should stop talking to her like that, that she doesn’t like it. In fact she’s going home. So she carried her bag and started going home. Every one in the compound started saying it’s ok (Na dat thing why dem tell u Dey make u Dey vex so) she was still shouting. I was even try to calm her down but no way. She was still shouting. Even my sister who had never seen her angry before became angry (na so you b? She said). I was really disappointed In her
The issue is what even made me angry is how she reacted. If she didn’t like what my mom said made her angry. At least she should have waited till we got home (this was the first time we were both sleeping over) then she would tell me. Or she could have called my sister and told her what my mom said. After all the fracas, she went inside the room till we left. I just told everybody to just leave her.
So when we got home I told her what she did was wrong that she shouldn’t have reacted like that. Na there war start. She started yelling and shouting at me that if my mom talks to everyone like that she won’t take it (my plan was to tell her that she should apologize to her. Because my mom already apologized that she won’t talk to her again like that. Which I know she will o . So we can just forget about the issue. But she never accepts she’s wrong ) She said I took her to my village to intimidate her in front of my family people, I was really angry and called her uncle and told him what happened. He said there was nothing wrong with what my mom told her (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) and that he would talk to her .
I even scolded my mom before I left that I didn’t like what she said what she did that’s she was just causing issue. My girlfriend said when my mom said the word (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) that I should have immediately rebuked my mom. But me sef no see anything wrong with what my mom said( If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)
I just Dey follow her uncle advise and leave her be until she calms down and I talk to her
So my people what’s offensive in this word? If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)
But this her attitude don tire me. Break up is not on the card for me at least not yet. She always thinks that they are other guys out there because she has a lot of toasters but I know they can’t do quarter of what I’m doing for her. In this modern time it’s difficult to see a guy who will allow his girlfriend stay with him thereby losing his freedom to do certain things. A guy who doesn’t cheat, a guy who takes care of her does everything for her .
I just think the things she went through in her family is affecting her physiological. And sometimes when I think about leaving her I feel pity because she can’t go back to her parents house.
you your girlfriend, una no well. from your idea that you can give a girl-your partner 'resetting slap' I had seen you are one of the many idiots. If you add your miserable self to your girlfriends ridiculous temperament, one can scientifically deduce that you both will have a hellish marriage if una mumuly marry
Mike Bamiloye's biographical movie titled; THE TRAIN is making waves and impressing viewers worldwide as it hit the internet on May the 3rd; earning a comfortable number 1 spot on the Nigerian YouTube cyberspace. It has raked in almost a million views so far.
The movie which details the true life story of popular Gospel Drama Evangelist Mike Bamiloye reveals the passion the younger Mike had for God hence taking a step of faith that changed his life forever.

Mike Bamiloye whose other name was revealed in the movie as "Abayomi", started his life just like any other person would in Nigeria in the 1960s. The movie began on a rather solemn note showing how his mother passed away and the amount of pressure and grief it brought on the young "Abayomi" (Mike Bamiloye)

His childhood lifestyle portrayed in the movie, showed him gathering young children of his age, in a bid to make them act a short biblical movie "David and Goliath" He demonstrated his directing prowess by trying to direct the movie, but his effort failed miserably as no one wanted to act as Goliath! Lol
The movie continued as it showed Mike Bamiloye transform from a troublesome child to a well reserved and respected "bro" who took God and the work of God seriously.
 The movies' setting, casting and general character is highly impressive and generally good, too standard for a normal, everyday gospel movie. The movie started with a 1960s setting and environment which was hugely successful due to the blend of 1960s architecture, furniture arrangement, clothing and language.
Indeed, the movie is a classic for Christians who cherish Christian movies; even beyond the fact that the movie fared well, its godly essence and relevance will last for a long time in the Christian world which is in dire need of godliness and its propagation via movies.
The movie encourages total faith in God amidst the raging storms that might try to weaken or make one compromise.
We will be pointing out some lessons that can be learnt from this great Christian movie of a great Christian of our time; Relax as lists out 10 lessons that can be learnt from the movie;
1. Always Believe in God:
Who doesn't even know this one? That's the first step for a successful roller-coaster ride in the Christian faith. Belief in God is beyond faith alone, it also involves taking a step of obedience and diligence in the study of the Bible.
 2. Never Give Up On A Child Whose Future Doesn't Look Bright:
From the movie, the young Mike seemed to have no clear direction in life, with his future looking incredibly bleak, yet he overcame all and was a surprise miracle to those who once mocked him.
3. The Present Doesn't Determine The Future:
Your current situation now, doesn't determine your future, it is not a stamp to your destiny tomorrow. Who thought a small, village boy would end up becoming a world renowned evangelist? No one! His marriage to Gloria Bamiloye also had an ugly look then, but look at them now! This is a great lesson!
 4. What Irritates You Could Be An Assignment:
"Abayomi' (Mike Bamiloye) was not happy with the apparent and obvious glorification of the devil via the television and it spurred him to action to cretae Christian content and movies that would rather glorify God. In his zeal for God, he set out on a journey of faith that God honored. His journey of faith is currently blessing thousands of people globally. As a Christian, there might be some evil, negative things that you may have noticed going on around you in your family, your place of work or even your church; it is time to speak up! That could be an opening door to your God-given ministry.
5. Your Marriage Partner Makes You or Mars You:
God helped Abayomi to pick someone who had the same passion with him; hence helping take him to greater heights. The lesson to be learnt here is enormous because when anyone chooses the wrong marriage partner, its resulting results becomes highly disastrous. However, the right spouse came because he trusted God and that spouse (Gloria) became a supportive pillar for his ministry.
6. Virtuous Women Still Exist:
Even amidst the chaos and confusion in that time, Abayomi was able to find a virtuous, godly lady to marry. Of course we cannot expect less because his trust was fully on God who he heavily relied on. It also teaches that it is worthy and honorable to wait on the lord in holiness and patience without being involved in immorality currently ravaging the lives of youths in our days.
The lessons are too numerous to mention but we have mentioned some which are worthy of note.
Factboyz dot com rates this movie high and it is recommendable for Christians struggling to answer the call of God upon their lives.
let Mr tell you something you might not have given mind to. Mike Bamiloye and his kind shaped to a large extent Nigeria and Africa idea of Christianity and believers relationship with the spirit realm. There portrayals of Satan, witches, marine kingdom, Devils struggles with angels to influence minds, Christian adornment and dress etc
KingBaba1: The scripture says the fervent prayer of the righteous availeth much, and this will want me to know the best way to pray according to the Bible and Christian belief.
1. We all know we are different type of human being and our approach to things differ alot. We have the cool and calm beings, and also the stubborn and aggressive ones.
I see how pastor Adeboye preaches the gospel and pray in a cool and calm way and there are signs, wonders and testimony to that effect...
I also know some agressive preachers and prayer warriors like pastor Paul Adefarasin, N. duncan Williams and TD jakes.
Now, here is why i am writing this write up.
1. I sometimes feel i am too cool and calm in my prayers hence the delay or no answer i have in my prayer requests to the most high.
2. I believe in strategic form of prayer and i also do fast and pray when seeking the face of the lord on something... I don't usually think i am too cool or calm in prayers not until i started waiting endlessly for results. If i am in a religious gathering, it depends on the leader of the prayer points and the prayer point itself that will determine my ginger and how aggressive i can be, but i don't see it going too hot or too cool.
3.what could be the delay of prayer request of somones need I feel satisfied inside of me when i pray in my own way and style. I don't really have privacy at the moment, and i am someone who really doesn't like people hearing my prayer point if it isn't in a religious gathering and general prayer.
I was born into Christianity and i served the lord in a church unit, but I will like to ask maybe there are ways i need to start praying that i don't know or practice for effective answers from the lord.
N. B. I know jehova witnesses don't pray loud or aggressive prayer, and i also know some other religious organization that doesn't do aggressive praying too.
So which one is which and how do one pray effective prayer with fasting without being aggressive Your views and opinion will really help, and i will be more than delighted if u can do that with scripture references.
Thanks
use these ideas to help in your prayers (be warned, it may appear a radical readjustment) Before I commence though, you must know a basic truth, that it's not your actions that determine your answer, it's God's action. the ideas: 1. Pray with respect to God as you would a very strong king. 2. Pray with faith to him as you would your earthly father. (think, if it were my Dad I need something like this from, would I shout at him? would I cry? on some occasions, maybe when you have persistently ask for your school fees and the situation is getting tough, u might cry. 3. Don't have bitterness in mind. 4. don't ask for selfish things especially things that don't honor God. 5. ask always with the awareness that God is nearer to you than even your ears. 6. it's OK, if your emotions, temperament and personality take the best of you. God understands. know though that you can't order God about. 7. ask always in the name of Jesus Christ, having in mind what the name means and what it stands for i.e all that Christ has done for us.
CAPSLOCKED: BY NATURE OF OUR RACE, DADA IS THE NATURAL FORM OF OUR HAIRS IF WE LET IT GROW FROM THE ROOTS WITHOUT COMBING OR TOUCHING IT.
THIS IS WHY YOU SEE MANY MADMEN AND PRISONERS WITH DREADS. IT HAS NOW BECOME FASHION, AS EUROPEANS AND AMERICANS PAY MONEY TO HAVE WHAT WE HAVE NATURALLY. IT'S THE SAME WAY OUR WOMEN PAY MONEY TO HAVE THEIR HAIRS LOOKING LIKE THAT OF EUROPEAN WOMEN.
HOWEVER, I EXPECT US TO ASCRIBE IT TO MARINE SPIRITS AND WITCHES BECAUSE WE'RE STUPĮDLY SUPERSTITIOUS IN THIS PART OF THE WORLD.
I love you my brother /sister. please how do u type in red color
Harllaby: [color=#000055]It pises me off when I see the way some fellows thinks. Some just dish out comment like a programmed robot being controlled by religion indoctrination. Op, the bias is deeply rooted in traditional religious beliefs and myths, especially in this part of Nigeria. Often times, people with dada are tagged negatively in likes of mentally challenged person, Yahoo guys, mad person.
These superstitions and beliefs ignite fear and portraited evil in the society which have been deeply entrenched into people's mind and certain religious group renforced the belief among their followers. Only certain people who questioned their culture and belief become emancipated from their culture and religion dogma.
So if you like dada hairstyle, feel free to go make one for yourself. Dreadlock is the style name. Basket mouth, Olamide, Rema, Flavor, formal Psquare, Zlanta once rock the hairstyles and some are still rocking it. No spirituality, no cause, no negativity, it just vibe, trend and lifestyle [/color]
my brother u are among the few wey get brain. The problem you see is not religion, the problem is false religion
SKhanmi: Would have loved to reply the poster above but looking through his statements again ,one can hear the uninformed religious society speaking as usual, coupled with his escape clause about carnal minds not being able to comprehend. Smh.
To others reading this, Man is not just a PHYSICAL BEING of meat & bone. He has other bodies, up to 7 to the best of my knowledge, now the black man is more naturally attuned to the spiritual realm than the other races and as such possess different gifts that other races have to train hard to get. The white garment churches know the usefulness of that type of hair even if they eventually chose to pervert it for their own uses. Ever wondered why Moses, Elijah & most prophets are portrayed with very long beards & long hair? It is based on the same premise. Find that out and you'll get your answer. The black man's bane is ignorance, preferring to ignore his soul, his roots & identity for a pseudo one and then turn around to blame the world for treating him like turd. Knowledge is really power & the black man unfortunately is not ready to learn anytime soon.
this your assertion can't be collaborated by the bible. there are a lot of falsehood everywhere, even with portrayals of biblical figures, many prophets and apostles must have carried moderately trimmed hear and beards. Jew's customarily kept beards, but it's something of a shame for them to carry long hair. Paul inferred this. You are sadly propagating further falsehood. You are not a Christian. because if you were, you will understand that their is no partiality before God; he created all-blacks and white-equally
MistarT: The best and surest adviser is the Holy Spirit, however with little knowledge about dreadlocks, there's a comma somewhere, if you have a child with dreads, prayerfully cut it, that is why most believers cut their children's hair before dedication, the words I write are not comprehendable with a carnal mind, they're spiritually discerned. God bless you.
the words u write is nonsense if u can't collaborate it with the Bible. the bible said we should be fearful for nothing, but with prayer and thanksgiving we should make our supplication known. Dreadlocks, especially the natural one, appears naturally. if you like it on your child keep it. its not stated in the bible anywhere or advised by science that one should cut a new born baby's locks. you are right about Samson however, when you said his case was ordained by God. moreover the bible didn't say he was a 'dada', it just said he was asked not to cut his hair
Politics › Re: If You Were The President Of Nigeria, How Would You Make Nigeria Better? by thinkmoney(m): 2:48pm On Jun 13, 2020*. Modified: 3:19pm On Jun 13, 2020
