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Biglittlelois:
What is wrong with single parenthood? Marriage is not for everyone, why can't you guys constantly saying this understand this simple fact?

There is something wrong with single parenthood.It's an anomaly rather than a norm.
I do understand that there are people who have to raise their children as single parents for one reason or the other e.g widowed,divorced etc.It still doesn't take away the fact that children are best raised in a loving family with the father and mother present to play their roles.

The thing is telling him about the child is not the first thing.You both don't really have a relationship.You need to develop one first.
Telling him you have a child won't make any difference to him if he's the kind of person you said he is.He will just berate you even though he never played his role raising you well.

Like Bukatyne asked,why don't you want to marry?
Make sure you are not following your parents' path of single parenthood.

Where does this friend of yours stay?He needs to be beaten with a broom....the Cele way.
What kind of mentality is this in the 22nd century?
A newborn is sick and what you do is put incisions on his body and introduce infections and kuku kill the baby.Bush people sef.
If he doesn't want to come home again,tell him not to.He will be better off at Yaba left.

safemywife:
Big Amen to your prayer. As for the bed scarcity at the general hospital, its not a new trick by the doctors there to refer patient to their private hospital. Thanks though

Most times,there is really no bed.You have no idea of the population in the city compared with available facilities.There are times patients have to be treated on the corridors.
Doctors and health workers are not perfect but you guys don't have an idea the enormous sacrifices many of them make.

She probably knew she was not well and yet went through the rigours of camp
RIP to her

Why are people becoming hardened with evil in their hearts?

Op,while I acknowledge the spiritual,the biggest issue is your mind......Bible says 'casting down imaginations'.
Stop thinking you are yoked or cos you fornicated,God is forever punishing you.

The job market is tough and a lot of people are unemployed so your case is just one of them.Work more on hands on skills.The biggest issue you have with finances is the child you have to take care of cos you're doing it alone.
As per the men moving away,the honest truth is that you are a single mother and that may be the reason some of them move away.Review your positions with men that come around.Leave the fluffy feeling called love and look for purpose.The men that claim to want you,how serious are they?

mercyib:
It's my own apartment not rented one

You could contact the environmental agency in Lagos but from experience,there little that may change.

You didn't see the house before paying?

Well,there are better ways to get this across to the people concerned.
He's the loser here.

bukatyne:
Amen!

Aba ide?

Idi oko.

Congrats Op.God keep baby and mother.

I pray they know the difference and most importantly not just what they also want but what is of good and enduring value.

safemywife:
She did not register antenatal with them and you know general wahala.

They normally won't reject you though you will come in as an unbooked case.It's still way cheaper.

Graxie's advice comes handy for every expectant couple.

bukatyne:
I am assuming the virgin is the wife because it can be easily proven.

If the husband married the wife JUST because she is a virgin and it is spelt out:

Finding out the wife is not is marriage under false pretenses.

Is it grounds for divorce, I do not think so as the marriage has been consummated (they have had sex) and the wife did not cheat.

My wonder:
1. Why would a wife lie to a man she wants to marry/sleep with about her virginity?
2. What man marrys a woman just because she is a virgin?

Some guys want to be the first and if a lady knows that she has found such a man and she wants to keep him,she may lie

If it is not too late,take her to Alimosho general hospital.It's cheaper there.

Vyvyanvyvy:
He didn’t do anything to him when we got home he was in the parlour watching tv and my son greeted him he stares at him and didn’t respond back. When my son was playing with both his sisters he tried to keep our 2 years old daughter away from him he took her to the bedroom and locked the door I decided not to say anything because I knew he wouldn’t keep away from him for long because he won’t take her to work with him and after like an hour my baby was crying to go in the parlour because she wanted to be with me and her siblings so he let her in and locked himself in the room. I decided to ignore his childish behaviour and slept in the same room with my children. Nothing bad has happened really

Don't worry about your husband.Just do your wifely duties and ignore his tantrums.
Work on your boy to be of good behaviour.. that's all.

Smartchoiice:
But I am reading a lot of Igbo names here.... Not to be insensitive..are you sure it's not a plot against we Igbo people?

Your thinking is the problem.Change your mindset.
Festac is densely populated with Igbos so it is expected.

Maybe your husband don dey follow Jehovah's witnesses.

Vloml222:
I dont have money issues , I just feel lost n tired of trying.my life seems to be an episode..I really cant say...this pain I absorb , there are days I cry, happy n really frustrated...and now I feel nothing but hate to life...
Dont judge me!
But you can never know how it feels like to walk in such shoes .....n believe me I appreciate ur words..
I came up here to drop a note for evidence ....
So when it happens , no one should feel guilty..
I chose the part I took.
N am glad I will be leaving all behind..

Let's talk about it.Holla

Can we talk about it?Call me.

I'm tired of this man, whenever I see him I start feeling murderous. But I do not want another person raising my kids. I feel terribly sad.

This statement of yours sums up your decision to make.
You either stay or leave.If you decide to stay,you have to keep up with all the bu@#sh*t.
If you don't want another man raising your kids,raise them yourself......you don't have to marry another man.

You obviously didn't do your due diligence before marrying this man.A man like this is so easy to spot while dating.

Yorubas will say orisirisi.

FreebiesGRAM:
That coconut water mixed with small original honey will do wonders

Person fit use am for Coronavirus?

Go back to your father.Tell him all you have been through and let him know you are not going back.

She probably overdosed on drugs.

It's the law of nature Poor male.

Your wife is not doing right but the onus is on you to show her the way and that is by leading by example.If there is a way you want her to act towards you,show her by example.
Do you compliment her.......her cooking,dressing,taking care of the home e.t.c.?Do you help out with chores in the house?Do you give her attention and try to spend time with her whenever you are home?

It's obvious she grew in a loving family relationship with her brother.Now you be that loving brother,husband and lover.
You wouldn't have an issue with your wife if you create the atmosphere.

Op,with the way things are,your BEST choice in my opinion would be for you to make your move alone,go there and settle and when you are comfortable,bring your family there.
Your wife can do without being always with your in-laws then.

I would have said move to another country but you want the UK(your reasons are genuine though).

CyberWolf:
Thats puff adder not Gabon viper

Those rectangular markings like on an Express road is distinctive of a Gaboon viper.

That's a viper.Unlucky fellow.

Wasted dumbos.