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Toks2008:
I decided to drop this after I read a thread on the front page where a lady advised fellow ladies on the criteria to look for before they give a man attention on dating sites.

The truth is that there is no rule when it comes to dating except one basic rule..BE OPEN MINDED.

It is quite understandable if a lady is very sure she does not want a guy and tells him out-rightly but we have some ladies who are just difficult for the wrong reasons...this set of ladies will like a guy but will still be acting up with the notion that if the guy truly wants them, he should sweat blood in the bid to win them like a trophy.

When a lady is too difficult, she may remain single for a very long time or most likely attract the wrong guys cos Players usually find difficult ladies very fascinating.

Real mature and responsible men don't have the time and energy for drama but they will express their sincere intentions to a woman they truly desire and will move on if she shows no interest not because they don't want the lady and it's not about pride but it is simply because they are too responsible and focused to waste their time and energy chasing an unresponsive lady.

That a guy chases you for a long time does not mean he truly wants you but he just might want to prove a point to you.

Agreeing to date a guy quickly does not mean you are cheap but it is the way you comport yourself whilst dating him that matters. Proving hard to get is old fashioned and only for ladies who don't know what they want.

I hope this makes sense.

It does bro

Thank God ..
FTC for the first time

I remember I once went for a show of comparison
I wore my three piece suit that is along time in my wardrobe .. Definitely no one is like the sweet man

I then wear my vulcanised soled rubber shoe that gleam when light reflect it ..

I entered the stage .. I never notice the audience were due of their withheld laughter just then .. One bursted into laughter .

A huge fresh wave of shame charged for me and before I could dodge it hit my face and courageous enough I continue ..

And then alas !! Not one any more but two ... Three..four ... Five ... Ha !
The crowd busted into laughter .. My face went red and I wonder on earth why they were laughing .

And slowly I felt a hole at my butt and then I remembered I once saw a rat rushed out when I was taking the suit out of my wardrobe ..

All I could remember was that I felt my bowel thundering and wish there is a tunnel where was standing.

We thank God ooo... That roads no be hear
I dey come back house sef I think say them purposely dig the pit ni ..
Chaii. . make them do abeg...

olanshi:
What have you been smoking lately?

Where did you see a pink short in the pictures ?

Color is relative bro ...

erifeoluwasimi:
That baby quick recovery to all

It so sad fellow ... But I think his heart went cold ...

bukatyne:
I am happy you have realized that adultery kills a marriage so we know that is a no.

From all your posts on this thread, I would say that you have a healthy libido and you are still sexual interested in your wife (I would guess she is still sexy/good looking).

Your wife knows this and has decided to make it a weapon.

I do not know what the problem is however, of she can laugh with you and relate normally till it is time for sex, then it is a non-issue except if she is psychotic or she has issues with your sexual performance.

You know why playing with her, doing more chores etc. Would not work in your case? Because you are rewarding bad behavior. She misbehaves and you keep dancing round to please her. It has registered that if I sexual starve my husband, he will bend over to please me.

If the issues she had with you was not giving her attention or not helping with chores etc, the above would have helped.

Don't just reward bad behavior in your spouse.

What is the solution?
1. Engage her once again, apologize for breaching the trust in your marriage and assure her that you have never cheated again. Whatever the issues are, look into them genuinely and adjust where needed.

If she does not change, then:

Learn how to control yourself sexually. It will be hard however, don't let her feel you cannot do without her.

Stop playing with her or giving her attention. If she ignores your sexual needs, ignore her need for attention and learn to be self sufficient. If she wouldn't cook, feed yourself. Whatever leverage she has on you, learn to provide or beat it.

By now, she would start trying to get your attention by throwing more tantrums... Let her be. If she offers you sex because she is turned on, don't oblige her.

If you do not care about your appearance prior to now, please do. Change your haircut, mode of dressing, get good cologne etc.

When she finally comes around genuinely (not because she needs sex or something else), respectfully lay down the ground rules. If she has issues with you, discussion is the way to go.

Now, if after first engagement, she says your sex life is the problem, get self help books on sex and seduction and up your game in the bedroom.

In all of this, do not cheat or behave in any manner that you will have a blame.

Couples should not treat sex as a treat or reward. It is a duty (I am even taking live out of the equation) you pledged to do.

Goodluck.

K
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... I wish lala give you a cold can of origin .
Just kidding .

tenderheart:
My mum will say"Mo palu fun eee"""

If I hear dat, na to pick race ooo..

Somone shd hep wt d translation

I set band for you make you dey dance

She go just look me ..
And then probably if am few metres away, she will change her inertia and I will also sense evil lurking.






















And on that moment without talking we both know our move .. I know she is coming soon and she knows am gonna run ...


And then bump (eni yara logun 'n gbe ) ...
She will descend and I will wish I've been faster than I am
At times I escape .

noble2faith:
Na wetin ur mama dey talk be dis when she dey vex?

Na was for you o ...

CharlesJok3r:
Violence

Laugh wan kill me here ...
When no be Rambo Rambo

kevweflex:
I don't understand. LASU fresher or LASU Police?

I tire oo ..
Them send them go fetch water for river na fish Dem dey catch .

Kobicove:
False accusation is a very serious offense...

The punishment the girl got is very 'small'

Per say it should be death

princeSammyz:
The cause of his death needs further verification... The phone charger gives out DC and also is not capable of allowing any voltage surge through. A voltage large enough to electrocute will just destroy the charger before it gets to the user. Maybe there is another angle I'm missing sha

Yea it shouldn't ...
Also there might be exposure in the phone charger or a small link of p.d to the phone ... And as indicated here .. Their transformer blew and in a probabilistic view ... The current might deviate a bit to AC and there is instantaneous peak voltage supply that travels in fast move before it reaches the victim...
And it the charger got burnt . AC killed him .

musicwriter:
Whether you believe its for beauty or charm, you're the one making it up in your mind. Then, it would become real to you because your brain (which is very good in finding pattern) would associate what you believe to it.

Whatever you believe it represents, is what it would mean to you because you create your reality.

You're right ...
In fact ... According to quantum mechanics
reality does not exist if we are not looking at it

See as that one ......





























I wan talk before .. But I fear nairalanders insult
And beside they might come for my head .

frbona:

This is exactly why we love Nairaland
Savagery at its peak

exactly ..

God bless nairaland

Trustnews:
My love for dogs can never die

The dog only tends to be a good dog

franzis:
Those who compared Yemi alade to ASA must be high on some special kind of weed

Maybe chlorinated weed. mixed with sulphuric powder

OyiboOyibo:
Have you eaten today?

He definitely have not eaten. .. Awe lon gbo

IamD18:
This is why I will always advice men to go for virgin ladies whenever they are ready to settle down.

These generation ladies are nothing to write home about when it comes to being responsible and mannered.

Spit

Indeed ... Some will do it all in the name of love. ..
Not knowing the magnitude of d'':ks that have pas tru them...

wifeesnatcher:
have you heard the word contradictory before?

read your two paragraphs and compare to the last one. maybe you lacks grammatical consistency or you're on one Brain in vat programming

they shouldn't marry a broke asss nigga even those that look for job and didn't see, so who do you want them to marry if not yahoo that aren't broke assss


your post stinks of hypocrisy. you're a Nigerian though, so is expected

Bro that not what he mean.

marvin906:
what da fvck did i just read..
can't believe am trying to imagine them having sex..

yucccccccccckkkkkkkk

But wait oo
Is he /she now having Virginia ? ..

frenzyduchess:
its not about rejection, I have brothers and I have heard them argue over this issue time and time again, the relationship might take off, but that mentality of "na she carry herself come give me jejely for where I dey my own" is always there.

I can tell you that most ladies are not scared to ask guys out but the aftermath is the problem here. While you may think the relationship has flourished he may be still stuck on "na she ask me out" thereby be laid back in the relationship.

Once again ... Stop concluding base on your own subjectivity. .. How varied is what you're saying ? Just from your brothers opinions ? C'mon stop statisticating !

franchasng:
Op, I am sorry to say this to you, the guy is right, he isn't attracted to you and therefore no connection.

I will use myself as example for you to understand my point.

I have met so many girls and ladies, but there is this two or three super hot ladies I met, my friends were all like oh boy, this girl is hot, this girl is this bla bla bla...but the truth is, I know they are pretty, etc, but honestly I never felt attraction to the point of thinking about having sex with them. And let me tell you, if your man doesn't have that sexual feeling towards you, the relationship will never work. It is safer that he is sexually attracted to you, makes move to devour you, but then whenever he makes the move, you disagree, and he comes back to his senses and you guys stop than for him not to ever have that sexual urge or make sexual move towards you, its a sign of no attraction.

Two out of these cute ladies I am talking about are what every guy would want, even me wished it was possible to maybe marry someone and not have sex with her, maybe I could have considered one in particular, but I told a friend about it, and he laughed at me like kilode guy what's your problem

I like this lady so much but no sexual feelings....and she is a v.....I have never tried kissing her cos I have never felt like and one day she tried to initiate it, it was funny to me....it was kind of weird to me so I playfully stopped her, not because I am a born again oh, but I feel no connection/sexual attraction towards her despite her beauty that every of my friend keep screaming of...but in other areas we are so cool....but sexual/emotional feelings, no!

So I think that might be what your guy is passing through....a lady maybe so beautiful, have wonderful shape but then you as a guy won't even have sexual feelings towards her, and then another may not be as beautiful, but anytime you see her, you feel like tearing her into pieces

A man may like a lady because of her good character, family background, her class, her looks but he will still not have sexual attraction towards her. A man may hate a lady's character, background, etc, but has a strong sexual attraction towards her.

The reason for this, I can't explain....so don't cry much, let him go, and allow yourself appreciate another person that values you

Man .. I must say ... You hit the nail...
That exactly the point ... Nothing more ..
Nice and impressive ...
I also remember a girl that use to love me ... She is sexy and hot ... But no connection, I never felt a urge of sex towards her and all ... Some are just like that .
That the real problem she is having .. And a girl like that anytime I see her my emotional brain receptor turns on immediately regardless of location and my body moves towards her .. That the connection !!!
It important you feel a urge towards you spouse than not .. If you feel a disconnection try to detect it in fact any girl you've seen (love) and you never have sexual urge towards is not likable of any probable good outcome in an affair .


Nice one bro ..

oboy81:
Aawww, I Love You Too Baby

then dog love both of you as per zeroth law of thermodynamics

TheFacelessMan:
Let me finish my story. I have your medicine

Kikikikikiki .. this guy just get bad mouth.

ishowdotgmail:
Life is too short oo, mk him die abi

I can't date fat girls I swear, hiaaaaaan

Hey watch out ...!!!!
nairaland fat girls fat nairalanders feminist are charging for you .

TANID:
Or Nairaobserver

Or naira picker

Bossontop:

Meh......

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