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Chii59:
Better the soul is shattered than another's life destroyed due to selfishness.

Leave story abeg.

How many people even do the Genotype test?

Even if AA marries SS or AS marries As there is still a good chance of having a healthy child.

Love is not that easy to throw away cos of genotype issue.

Chii59:
Uncle when are you inviting us to come and eat jollof rice?

You go wait sotey

Chii59:
Not everyone can afford the prenatal testing y'know. Or the emotional turmoil that comes with aborting a foetus of its SS. How many kids will one abort before conceiving a "healthy" child?

I agree with you cos aborting a baby is not a good thing.

But when it comes to matter of the heart it can be soul shattering to break up with the one you love because of genotype.

PRETTYPRINCES:
Please do you have an idea how much this test cost? Thank sir.

The test is expensive though... Costs above USD1k

MrMacinterchi1:
how did it end? she got married?

Tantafo... Wettin you wan know

PRETTYPRINCES:
Please can you kindly explain. Am interested to be enlightened by you sir.

Yes. If you or your partner has SCD or sickle cell trait, you can have a prenatal test to find out if your baby has SCD or sickle cell trait.

You can have either of these tests:

1. Chorionic villus sampling (also called CVS). This test checks tissue from the placenta for birth defects and genetic conditions. You can get CVS at 10 to 12 weeks of pregnancy.

2. Amniocentesis (also called amnio). This test checks amniotic fluid from the amniotic sac around your baby for birth defects and genetic conditions. You can get this test at 15 to 20 weeks of pregnancy.

The arguemmet here is that is it OK to terminate a pregnancy if you find out the fetus has sickle cell?

That I can't answer but I sure know it makes no sense to bring a child into the world to suffer.

bukatyne:
This is funny in a sad way.

Wettin dey sad there?

Not all relationships go last so just learn to let go.

If it looks too sweet to be true then it is definitely a hoax.

Such relationship usually ends up abruptly. I was in one for 6 years and the way the thing ended was like film trick.

Bola146:
Yes! But it came to an end when we did video call where I asked about his genotype, he thought I was joking or I wanted to free him because of the distance ( he based abroad) How I wish a miracle could happened when we both did the test again I have never met a wonderful man like that since. He thought I was scared of him, so I came up with the genotype . I can't be scared, since I know what I want, unless I see some fake and wrong flags

Who breaks up cos of genotype in this present day of medical advancement?

The practice is symbolic of the belief that a pen which is used to take away a person’s life should not be used ever again for other purposes.

In other words,the pen has ‘tasted blood’ and thus it needs to be broken so that it doesnt take another life.

Dangote has spilled so much blood in the name of truck break failure....i don't want to start insinuating things but the families should sue his ass.

mattmogan88:
So recently I started working as a bet9ja cashier. Today one guy came to the shop with a bundle of money, I told him its very dangerous to visit betting shop with such amount, he said its money for her sister's traditional marriage. He said he wants to double it. I tried to change his mind but before I could say a word, he has already printed ₦7200 ticket. Then the premium tears started loading. He has already spent 40k before winning 50k. I tried to convince him to stop playing which he agreed. Unfortunately he said he wants to play the last one and from the there he continued. To cut the story short , the guy spent approximately ₦79,200 without winning a dimme and it ended with a premium tears….

Say no to gambling

Gambling is a serious problem, people who. Gamble rarely have a headway in life.

You can break thar addiction if you are willing to stop and if you pray to GOD to help you.

okoroemeka:
imo state the land of beautiful women,I am from arondizuogu in idea to north LGA,#150k will get you the requirements in the list,while the bride price is #25 naira,you are traditionally married,if you like you can call Lady Gaga to be your mc we don't care.

As if the elders follow this

DiegoMaria:
U're correct man
The president of US is the president of the world

Nah before no be now.

mezico96:
Good day cuties and gentlemen of NL

Lemme just go straight to the point

I attended a friend's traditional wedding last year December and after all the stress and struggles to settle the bride price, the father of the lady forbade she stays with the husband until after their church/white wedding which is two months from now

So guys, is he right to say that?
What is your opinion?

Madness.

The man is cursed with a slavish mentality.

Is white or church wedding even in the bible? Is it in our tradition?

Iranu.

jaxxy:
Are u sure that’s not a movie?? Who Dey video am?

You get sense jare

Is this one slap?

Clout chasers

DEmejioba1:
I got married in 2018,since then I have been battling with some unimaginable experiences with my wife even when I thought I married to a religious lady.

To cut the story short,

Prior to our marriage, things was not so good enough for me but because of age consideration of both of us we decided to wed with the help of our families.

The first thing that happened which caught me thinking afterward was that during our make up to wedding,my wife insisted that she's receiving 50k dowry which she knew I wouldn't be able to get it just shortly before the wedding. I told her that there is no way I could afford it then that she should reduce it may be to 20k, she said I should not worry that things will be sorted out. A day to the wedding she told me that when it's segment for dowry collection that she would pronounce that she had collected it. I said no problem. Since then I have not been able to pay it because she wants full cash. Now, any slide misunderstanding she refers to it.

Secondly, immediately after the marriage,I was left with 60k which I thought we would manage to get a room and a parlour apartment for a start, just to do according to my pocket in my present rent house. But my wife insisted that we should let 2 bedroom flat at 100k but knowing fully that my source of income would not maintain it couple with other obligations that I would be discharging. She said, she would lend me 40k.
Thank God I was able to pay her the money. But still thinking over wasteful of almost 50k,while 150k can secure a land for bulding house in my area.

Thirdly, few months after our marriage. We were having misunderstanding and I carelessly said if the marriage can not work it better we go our separate ways, my wife holds on this statement and continue saying that she just need me to say it twice more and the marriage is over.

But I used to think over all these with other ones that I cant write, then, I ask myself if truly she loves me or may be am with wrong person.

What is your thought about this?

Which kain wahala be this...

So you had to bother all the elders on nairaland on nothing cos I don't even see any issue here.

You are married to one of the most amazing women on earth. Please keep her and don't ever let her go.

And less I forget, please try your best to look for money to pay her dowry fast cos until you do that, you can't call her your wife and paying her dowry will add to her value and will also make her happy and valued...Apparently she must have used her money to pay and only waiting for a refund.

My regards to her... Cheers

pocohantas:
Ofe Owerri is a luxurious soup straight out of Imo State. The soup is well rated that it has a song named after it. So, if you know the classic song, Ofe Owere by Oriental Brothers and you still haven’t gotten to know its history, you will know today, but if you haven’t ever heard the song, check YouTube.

The day my madam cooked this for me, I dashed her huge money just for cooking such a delicious delicacy.

Ofo owerri it is.

Sex is overrated.

Very shameless guy.

How could Keyamo, a guy i so much admired for his tenacity in upholding the proper status quo throw his integrity to the dogs simply because of an appointment he can't hold forever.

Posterity will never forgive him.

E2000:
Me I have made up my mind. When the result comes out positive I will love my wife even more. She does not need to know the details

Exactly.

Ladies will not like it if you ever tell them you want to do DNA... Infact you will only start a war you can't win so just do it secretly...

Uprightness100:
Pls Shut up sir

Haaaa! Uprightness has become a rebel.

Where are the prophets?

Funny clowns speaking their minds and calling it prophecies.

Nice recovery

Righteousness2:
What a Death!
Condolences

Some Die at work
Some Die while asleep
Some Die through sickness
One way or the other, thousands of people are crossing over to the other side as the clock ticks.
This Earth is not our Home.

Preparation is Key!
Preparation for Eternity is key!
There is Life after Death.
Heaven is Real!
Hell is Real!
The Difference in places is Having JESUS or not Having JESUS.

Please stick to posts like this and choose the appropriate threads to post it and stop being masochistic on every thread.

Righteousness2:
GOD BLESS President Donald John Trump..
The Greatest President of the United States of America.

The Mercy Period is Over...

Babylon the Great is Fallen!


And he cried mightily with a strong voice, saying, Babylon the great is fallen, is fallen, and is become the habitation of devils, and the hold of every foul spirit, and a cage of every unclean and hateful bird.

For all nations have drunk of the wine of the wrath of her fornication, and the kings of the earth have committed fornication with her, and the merchants of the earth are waxed rich through the abundance of her delicacies.

And I heard another voice from heaven, saying, Come out of her, my people, that ye be not partakers of her sins, and that ye receive not of her plagues.

You no get Shame at all.

First it was prophecy now this. Too bad people like you and other masochistic god of men are bringing ridicule to prophecies...

If I were you I will simply shush.

omojesu202:
It is no news that most marriages are collapsing.
Mine is just two years but I also see signs of collapse.

What's happening in my brothers marriage is painful to me because I know the financial investment and sacrifices he puts into it. I don't know what he did to his wife but she has turned his children against him.

Imagine that you cannot tell your 20 years old first son to wash your car like 7am, the mother will tell you that you should allow him to enjoy his sleep. Not once, not twice and not thrice.
This is the children you'll go hungry and borrow money to pay high school fees to make sure they go to good schools.

It is painful to me because I knew when he was paying 200k per term each on three kids while his basic was just 300k.

Now the firstborn and secondborn will disobey him on ordinary washing of car just because he can no longer meet up.

Please how would you handle such issues?
You might just hear that a man killed his wife and three children in the news. That would not be our portion.

From outside, she has been a good woman but she didn't blend the children to their father. The nature of his job takes him on transfer always and not stationed with his family but regular monthly visit is always there.

Any small thing you people will be talking about collapsing marriage as if marriage is one useless thing that can be discarded at will.

When there is issue in marriages especially the type that does not threaten life it can always be resolved.

Tiwa savage and her husband are back together after all the drama and public ridicule...

Sometimes we just have to learn how to tackle matters in our marriages cos no marriage is made in heaven.

Vevejoy:
Plesse forget the errors and focus on the content.

So here's my issue.

I've been married for 6yrs and it's been a blissful journey- of course with minor issues here and there but nothing to worry about until May 5th 2020 when I'd say things turned upside down.

We live abroad and struggled to have kids but God finally blessed us with a beautiful daughter in Sept 2019. Child care being super expensive here, we wanted one of our moms to come help us with the baby when I return to work after my maternity leave. So on the eve of our wedding anniversary which was the 4th of May last year, I asked my husband for the say 10th time about beginning the procedure of bringing a mom over to help since I'll be returning to work. He asked which mom and I said in my exact words; "of course my mom" because I know that when a woman gives birth, her mom usually go to help her. Did that change our story? My God, marriage has been one hell of a thing since that day.

My husband said I am selfish, disrespectful, and want to dominate him. He said things will never be the same again and since then, my marriage has been a stress zone.

My husband is numb to my feelings. He's been ignoring me, I've been a nag I'll admit since tue incident last year. I now talk alot and mostly complain about everything whenever we are together. It's sad and I've actually had conversations with myself to ignore him and stop nagging but I continue to do it, I need help on how to shut up and observe.

I can cry from now to die kingdom come and this man wouldn't be moved. He cannot shift his stance because of me at all. He does whatever he likes and disregard everything I say. E.g before this crisis, we had an appointment to see our Dr to start trying for baby number two because the Dr's advised that since we just had a baby, it's best to try for another soonest given that we had challenges conceiving the first one. This man cancelled the appointment with our Dr and has blatantly refused to start trying for a baby right now. He says when the time comes he'll let me know. Up till now the time has not come despite the fact that delaying may impact our chance of conceiving again. What a life!� � �.

Also, he has decided that no parent will come and I'm back to work already. My poor baby who use to sleep till 9am now suffer in this winter getting up at 6am to be dropped off at daycare all because her father is angry and want to make sure he doesn't do anything that will make his wife smile. He'll rather spend thorns of money paying for daycare even after I've told him that I don't mind his mom coming. Mind u, I have a very good relationship with my inlaws, especially my mom inlaw so it's not an inlaw fight.

The worst of them all is that despite living abroad for 17yrs, this man believes so much in native doctors to the extend that I can't even explain. Infact it's something that I've always fought him about and talked against. I've even complained about it to his family. And guess what, when I talk against, he tells his native drs who of course has ignited the fire in our home. Can you believe that in this chaos this man took me on a vacation in August last year that he wanted to clear his mind so we can start a new chapter and be happy again only to tell me that I have been trying to use a charm on him in the past months thats why things got rough. He said the 3 women I am using appeared to him but he is stronger ����. I am laughing because I felt pity and ashamed for him. How can a grown man be this vulnerable to suitsayers? I have never in my entire life visited a native doctor for myself not to talk of going to take a charmI didn'tvisit the native drs when I was strugglingto have a baby and this man thinks I'llvisit one now to charm him. Wondering y he will even believe such a thing. Infact I don't even know any native doctor. So when he said that, I told him that if I had known that his change of attitude is because of this stupid reason, I would not have fought for my marriage like I did. Of course I got so mad and told him a piece of my mind. I am even ashamed of telling people that despite this man's exposure he consults native Dr's in Africa more than even the people in Africa. Infact if they say yes that's what he listens to. He has even paid a flight from here to Africa because a native Dr told him that his dad who raised him to be the man he is today is trying to kill him and he should come for protection.

I decided to tell his mom about the accusation. His mom told me she scolded at him and warned him never to say such nonsense. Well I just pity him and I'm praying for him. But truth is I regret my marriage to him because of these his believes. I just don't believe in divorce and don't even have the heart to move out I would have done so. Mind u, I am 100% independent so it's not an issue of being scared of surviving alone.

Well one Sunday night as usual I talked to him like crazy and he said "all he wants is for our relationship to work and he will put in his best effort with support from me. I said I want same and will put in my best effort with support from him too*. This happened around september and things have been like normal on and off since then.

I have a few worries which I'd like you to advise me on the way forward.
- My husband is heartless. No matter how I lament, cry, beg, approach him nicely. Infact no matter the manner in which I bring up an issue to him, he doesn't get moved at all. He stays on his stance and doesn't care. How am I suppose to live with a man like this. He goes mute when I try having a conversation with him.

- I have a weakness of talking alot which I acknowledge and I'm doing my best to work on it though I'm yet to change completely. But I can say there's a huge improvement. Infact I'm able to walk away now.

Can a marriage really work out out without a compromise from both parties? I feel like I am compromising alot but this man is doing whatever he likes. In all of these he doesn't cheat but has abused me physically 4times in our 6yrs of marriage which I'm still pained about. The worst abuse right now is emotional abuse and I've told him so several times.

We use to be an exemplary and happy couple up till this may 2020. What will you do in a situation like mine With? With a man like my husband who I'd say lacks empathy and a concience how do I deal with him? His mom said she talked to him but I don't see any difference.

I feel miserable right now in my marriage. Since I got married this is our hardest hit and unfortunately it got prolonged probably bc of his native Dr's who told him I am using a charm on him which he believed.


Help me out please

Sis there is really nothing to worry about... Just work things out, tolerate and have the right mindset.

No marriage is perfect and there is always a monster we need to subdue in any marriage we find ourselves..

If you leave your marriage there is no guaranty that the next guy will not be a proper native doctor... Shebbi this one dey consult..

So please just work things out.. Cheers.

Warrgidanairala:
Yes I'm the one and is there anything wrong with being curious and wanting to know more the penis?

Just wondering though cos all your topics are about Penis.

Dede mirawo.

Warrgidanairala:
If I had seen more penis I won't be here with this topic

But no vex o... I just checked your profile n I would like to ask you two questions...

1. Are you the one in the pics?

2. Why the strong affinity for Penis topics?

Just curious.

Warrgidanairala:
You are kind of wrong as biology has proved that our body structure also contribute to the development of the organs in the body,I was told that the penis sizes of men is sometimes hereditary which I shall soon create a topic on that

Exactly.. Heredity it is. Nothing more.