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Biglittlelois:
And the father in law cheating on his wife by sleeping with his daughter in law, is he blameless? Didn't he knowingly sleep with his Son's wife?

Do you now see that both of them share to blame not just her?

Not again

Honestly I get scared of ladies who reason this way cis it comes as if they are trying to balance an equation that can never ever be balanced.

A man can chase anything in skirt and Infact a man can be attracted to any lady regardless of who she is but the code of morality is more demanding on the lady.

A man can sleep with 20 friends if they allow him and only a foolish person will blame the guy for chasing 20friends but the onus always falls on the lady to say NO.

AS LONG AS SHE OPENS HER LEGS, NO REASONABLE PERSON POINTS A FINGER AT THE MAN...

Oh yes it is shameful and the man will only share the shame and not the blame.

Please you ladies should stop this unhealthy comments of Blaming the man... What if he says the lady lured him? Will you now blame a man for his sexual weakness?

ImaIma1:
Toks may God grant you wisdom to understand and to communicate your opinions and disagreements more maturedly. I can't help but think that the kind of response you gave is because I am a woman, but that aside.

Blaming a man for sexual indecency of a woman? Didn't he participate? It's not like he was decent enough to say NO. He is also indecent for sleeping with her.

You guys only see wrong from the woman's side but turn a blind eye to the man. God will give you guys wisdom like King Solomon to judge wisely and without prejudice.

You are playing the emotion card but you have to come down from your high horse and accept that you goofed in that statement.

It is totally ackward for any lady to blame her sexual indecency on a man cis nobody can make you do what you are not capable of doing...

It will shock you to find out that the lady in question must have urged the man on but I'm not even delving on that for now.

Incase you don't know that the mindset you projected is a very bad one please know now...

Some men will demand sex from even their own daughters and sisters but if these ladies don't give in then we can start castigating the men but once she gives in the table automatically turns and that is how the cookie crumbles... And ofcourse except the lady is a minor or was raped then you can bring the guy into the picture.

In this case it is very absurd, foolish and out of place for anyone to opine that people are not Blaming the man so please accept you goofed and rest this matter.

Have a great weekend and sorry of my chastisement of your commment appears strong...

tobechi74:
Mary could not tell who Impregnated her between Joseph, Holy Spirit or God

See Blasphemy.

You know why you can do this with Jesus and he will still forgive you?... Because he is a loving GOD.

BUT GUESS WHAT! You have just pronounced an Everlasting curse on yourself if you don't ask for forgiveness right now.

ImaIma1:
If you cannot communicate sensibly, you shush!

That is the best way to respond to that post you made.

It only goes to show your mindset. How could you even write such?

Blaming a man for the sexual indecency of a lady.

May GOD grant you wisdom.

adadike:
What will their parents do Biko nu? Baba God, pls console this family. God pls protect us from the furies of 2021

No consolation in the world can do.

6 children gone just like that.. Haaaa

Honestly the lady needs all the support she can get at this point.

Kobicove:
I wonder if DNA test can reveal the true father of the baby in this instance since the two possible persons are already related by blood

Honesty the thing weak me.

ImaIma1:
So his own father who brought him into this world and nurtured him till he became of age could do this to him. Yet it is women that are the demons...

Will you just shush please.. Gosh!

I love Marwa

Serene123:
That's what I sense. But this is someone that planning the whole stuff with me. She gave me reason to put that ring on her finger.

Guy just negodu there and think.

See marriage is a process...

Wedding ceremony is the first stage then gradually the process of marriage comes in slowly and that includes you and her realising the essence of marriage and some terrible habits will gradually fade away until you both get to that point where you have both attained the marital maturity needed to make a happy marriage.

If you like leave her and be with another lady,... You must still find a reason to leave...

No matter how many times we change partners, there will always be a monster we have to overcome so work it out... As long as she is willing to be with you then build a life with her...

Remember what I wrote... These days men don't bother their head with feelings... Just pick a lady responsible enough to be a mum and raise a family with her.

If she starts giving you problem, you can always go to the village to pick a small girl as another wife... ONLY IF SHE STARTS GIVING YOU PROBLE and ofcourse if you can afford to take care of another lady.

Serene123:
Please I will need your constructive opinion on this. Been battling with this thoughts for some time now.

I engaged my girl last year. Reason why I did engage her was because I saw her intent to be with me. I have seen her gave out her cash to help get somethings for our new apartment. She has even used her cash to buy some properties she wants in the house when we get married.
She has stood and defended me to her family on why she is getting married to me. She has really earned my trust and never regretted engaging her. She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife

In the course of our relationship months back, I noticed there is this guy that call her. I questioned and she said is just a friend. I have told her I am not comfortable with the call. Yes I have listened to the calls and it doesn't sound serious
On 25th Dec I place a call across to her phone and she wasn't picking. She later told me reason why she didn't pick.
While we were together I noticed she didn't pick cos she went out with the same guy I have been complaining about. I got to know via a pic.
She has insisted nothing serious is going on.
I was so angry and I needed to take her phone and check up something. We struggled with the phone and she injured her nails.. She is saying I am a woman beater and I have anger issue.
She started keeping to herself and phone and was bold to tell me that this action of mine has succeeded in killing the feelings she has for me.

She has asked for time to get her mental health back and for close to two weeks now we haven't been flowing well..

I have tried to talk to her so we fix this shit but she said she needs time.

I have decided to give her the time she needs while I focus on something else. Yes, I miss her

I won't lie, is emotional for me and someone is currently trying to fill her vacuum by being all nice. I am getting closer to her, but my heart still yearn for my fiance.

I don't know if I am doing the right thing by being close to another lady. I don't know if I should belivee her that she has lost feelings for me and move on.
I need your advise.

Sorry for the lengthy thread

Your problem is low self esteem and insecurity...

Ladies need men who believe no man can snatch their women.

Why bother your head over who calls her or who she calls? Ladies are professors of cheating so you can rarely ever catch a woman who wants to cheat on you codedly so please man up and stop monitoring or suspecting her... Why should you even drag her phone in the first place?

Please be a man and marry your lady.

See stop fooling yourself o... There are hardly any sexually decent ladies out their so just pick one and raise kids with her.

Las las If she tries to give you too much issue you can always marry another lady to create peace of mind for yourself.

bereavedheart:
Currently not in a relationship.
As for me love isn't a citeria to get married, in as much as there is friendship, partnership and we have mutual understanding and respect.All is good.

You have sense.

I tell people that marriage is not about feelings at all but it is about thinking clearly and letting only the guy that has what it takes to be most importantly a father to be with you cos your feelings means nothing if the guy in question is a jerk.

mabella123:
I used to see forever with him but I am no longer sure if that is what I want.

So stop sleeping with him and put yourself at a vantage position for a better guy.


The mistakes many ladies make is remaining in a relationship they are not too comfy with until it gets too late.

LoveTalk:
Hello Cuties and Fellas!

Let's talk about LOVE!

Nowadays, all we see is unstable relationship and broken homes/marriages.

People don't even want to get married any more. They just want someone they can pay and have fun with, with no string attached.

My question is, the person you're dating currently, can you marry him or her?

Whether your answer is YES or NO, please share your reasons with us.

Well, as for me, I am single at the moment and I'm not searching.

Let's hear you out. We want to learn.

How do you even date someone you can't marry?

More like entering a university without an intention to earn a degree.

I think you are mistaking the word flings with Dating.

womenareapes:
increase in death in your family

you people will just come here and be talking rubbish!

recent findings and discovery which make scientists puzzled. Africa in whole have the lowest death rate which is about 0.1 % of deaths around the world. this is due to our high immune system

there even a proposed suggestion of using our antigen to facilitate vaccine.

so keep wishing your family death from covid!

rubbish

Looking at your Nairaland user ID i can decipher your level of intelligence quotient so i will let this pass.

Separation s very healthy sometimes as it gives a couple time to reflect and make amends where necessary.

The problem is that most separation are borne out the quest to explore and not because the couple cant really work things out.

luvmijeje:
God bless you. It's far higher. There's already community transmission. 3 guys who have Covid-19 came to my office looking for lab who who will give them a negative result simply because they want to travel out. They refuse to isolate. I'm just praying they have not given to me.

If people who knew they were positive didn't isolate imagine thousands of people who don't even know they have it. We are all in soup.

Ironically, we usually have a die at home attitude in Nigeria as many hardly visit hospitals even when they are seek howbeit when we just have funny symptoms so in actual fact i believe many people have died of covid without ever visiting the hospital and they usually attribute the death to other ailments.

I am not rooting for NDDC because of the corruption naija parastatals are known for but all i can see is an increase in death which may even be more but they just might be trying to downplay to avoid panic.

PoliteActivist:
Ok, let's compare today's deaths:
(Note: THESE ARE DEAD MOTHERS AND FATHERS, BROTHERS AND SISTERS. Not just numbers.)

9ja pop 210m
9ja covid deaths today - 23

US population 330m
US covid deaths for today - 3,922

UK pop 66m
UK covid deaths today - 1,564

ANY QUESTIONS??

There is no basis for comparison....my comment is very clear. I mentioned about the increase in the numbers and not the total number of death compared to other countries.

Is it until we start counting thousands that you will realize there is need for caution?

These deaths are increasing by the day. This is no longer about Coviid or no covid but the fcat that these deaths are climbing should be a good reason to exhibit caution.

May GOD help us.

wale377:
Nigerian man beg to be deported back to Nigeria after residing in Italy/Germany for 5 years


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y3PbCUv6ghk

A Nigerian man, Elijah Amusan, who has been residing in Germany/Italy for five years has cried out for help to return back to Nigeria.

The man who spoke in Yoruba, said he arrived Italy in 2016 and has tried without being successful on getting his papers to legally reside there. He appealed to everyone to help him return home.

"My name is Elijah Amusan. I came to Italy in 2016. I tried getting my documents since 2016 to no avail. I tried getting a lawyer as well to help me get my document, I couldn't obtain the document.

I spent four years without a job or receiving any pocket money. I have come to beg everyone in Africa and in Nigeria to please rescue me so I can come back to Nigeria."

https://www.instagram.com/tv/CKBsMGCjNZz/?igshid=1cfwp1vr1v6d3

Village people have finally succeeded

Buharidgeneral:
If she get G wagon for using her destiny is not better because some destiny cannot get Corolla 2007 even if they didn't use it.

Juxtaposing destiny with material things is a great misfit....please don't.

osamz007:
CONGRATS TO HER SHE HAS REALLY WORKED HARD AS IN HARDER HARDER FOR THIS

HOW I WISH OUR MEN CAN WORK AS HARD HARDER HARDER LIKE THIS

Let me break it down..

First and foremost I congratulate her and several other people for their achievements but here is the gist.

You see most of these ladies, they don't really build houses or buy cars from the movies but from men who have so much money that they don't know what to do with it.

These billionaires are mostly politicians, big time fraudsters and ritualists who can splash millions on a lady just to have them caress their nipples... Some senators travel with these ladies outside naija for weekends and pay millions to these ladies...

Some of these ladies also use charms to hypnotise money bags.... Guys who fall into their traps are doomed.

But in all these, I still congratulate them cis it's not easy to open your legs for men who might just be using your soul to catch cruise and they give you miserable millions in exchange for your life...

But one thing these ladies must stop is coming online to showcase their achievements cos it may make the decent legit ladies think GOD is unfair to them.

LaReinaa:
Yeahright, I am of the opinion that a woman that asks for little or nothing always gets the best!
A relationship shouldn’t be parasitic..

Ofcos no one wants a liability as a partner, at the same time, stinginess in relationships shouldn’t be encouraged! When you love and care about someone, you will be willing to give without being coaxed to do so, it comes naturally irrespective of the gender..

This piece I wrote comes to mind.


https://www.nairaland.com/5990784/dear-ladies-please-avoid-stingy

LaReinaa:
No one is disputing that.. you’re very correct..

Also know financially independent women appreciates
hardworking men that can spoil and treat them like a queen and vise-versa.. you can’t claim to love someone and not be generous with them.

Affirmative... But it is the pressure that takes the shine off and I don't blame these ladies.... It is the economy.

Me I can give my woman millions to invest and be fin independent but I just hate it when a lady keeps asking for money for this and that... I can't even be with such a lady to start with.

tosyne2much:
Egbon Toks, I hail

Tosyn it's been ages. Hope you are good and how's my beautiful sis?

LaReinaa:
Come listen to your fellow man ooo
This is how rich dudes reason.. drop your poverty mentality already

See its not about being stingy but its just boring when a lady keeps asking for this and that...

These days guys love financially independent ladies that won't put pressure on them.

Kriss216:
I always put extra N200 in the offering box every Sunday, just to thank God for keeping men like this OP away from my life.



Every sensible and well oriented guy should be a member of this great association.

Lmao!

Organsmuggler:
go Bleep yourself please

Scammer Alert.

Organsmuggler:
I support them, most women are nothing but liabilities

Why are you using another person's pics.

STOP it.

It's because of misplaced priority...

Cc: Lalasticlala
https://www.nairaland.com/5492915/present-day-woman-misplaced-priority-marriage

So what message is she passing across.

Chii59:

Do you even check your inbox sef?

Lol! You must be a very jovial lady.