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Missyajoke:
You're right100%, I use to make my hair at a woman's place just because she's a friend so one day I saw a better place where I can make my hair at a cheaper rate and I stopped making hair at her place and ever since then she stopped replying my greetings though this does not relate to what you're talking about but in life one must learn to please his/herself don't try to please anybody at the end of the day you'll be the Judge whether those you do good to actually love you.

Never feel bad because someone didn't reply your messages cause lots of things might have happened or they had a bad day and they forgot. OP things like this makes people feel ignored thereby becoming depressed. OP you can chose to react or just ignore.

It relates with the subject.

Anybody is dispensable.

Lalasticlala Happy boxing day.

I chose to drop this quick one with the above title cos there is no better way for me to caption it. Have you ever received a message from a friend or family member accusing you that you don't call?, have you ever called or texted a friend or family and then you hear words like ''so it is now you remember me....?''

I viewed a WhatsApp status yesterday and i was blown away by a video of a lady practically asking people who don't usually call or text her throughout the year not to bother sending her Christmas Greetings and i began to wonder...

1.How many of our friends or family member can we remember considering the fact that we all have personal issues we are dealing with?

2. How many of the ones we remember can we possibly call or chat with on regular basis?

3. Don't you think they have a reason to accuse you of the same negligence?

4. And since you have their number what stops you from also calling or texting them?

5. Do you have any idea of the struggles and challenges the people you accuse of neglecting you are passing through?

The point is that It is perfectly OK if you don't fancy calling people or checking up on them but just don't pick offense with anyone if you are given the same treatment.

We all are very important in many ways but there is a very thin line between having a sense of self worth and a subliminal inflated sense of self importance.

Some people also have this bloated feeling of importance when they feel they have attained a certain status or in certain position that could easily make them feel they are better than others even when they relate with old mates or friends.

This feeling can also creep in if you feel you are doing someone a favour and you expect the person to be practically subservient to you.

What about the Blockers that are too quick to block people off from their social media or offline over matters that can be easily resolved or guys and ladies who expect their partners to dance to their tunes or risk losing them.?

And what about those who send people messages and get angry if they don't get a quick response, those who call and get pissed if their calls are not answered.. Or those who post on social media and get bothered if they don't get likes, views or comments? I guess they probably feel too important not to get the level of attention they want... And ironically, most people with this mind-set hardly like, share or comment on other people's posts.

The world does not revolve around anyone and no matter who you think you are, anybody except GOD is dispensable.

Let us Humble ourselves.

TemiBami2020:
Pls help me people. My world is collapsing. It's a marriage of 10years and blessed with 3kids (2 boys and a girl). Like every other marriages, we've had our own shares of ups and downs. No marriage is perfect.

Last month i went to work. By the time I came back the children were no where to be found, including my husband. Initially, I thought they went out or something. Around 11pm I got worried and called my brother in-law who is a police to track my husband numbers

He contacted other family members and he found out my husband left for UK with our children forever.

I don't know what to do. I'm running mad. Pls is there any authority I can contact in the UK? Or can I go to the UK/ British Commission in Nigeria to lay a formal complaint? Is there any NGO I can contact?


Modified For those saying I'm a bad wife, I'm not. I've been very supportive in a every way a wife can be. I've lived in both physical and verbal abusive marriage within the last 10years of my life. He's a violent man, adulterous, alcoholic and a fervent smoker. He gets drunk and get home and beat me up Infront of the children unprovoked. I have evidences and witnesses

I often threaten him I would take my children and go away cause I can't watch and allow them to grow in such a toxic home.

Until we hear his side of the story we just might be able to have a clue of the situation but one thing I know is that no sane man will do what he did if he has a loving wife.

She no suppose put this on social media... Maybe after marriage.

Most guys are very unreliable.

joyousever:
If I'm told how I offended the person and truly I did, why won't I take the responsibility of apologizing.? What's the big deal?

That is the problem...

Trying to know if truly you did.

You can offend anyone in anyway that may even sound awkward to you.

Happy boxing day.

SimpDetector:
Simp spotted.

Apologizing to a girl is simp behavior. Under no circumstance should you apologize to a girl. It sounds like bad advice but it works. Rather than apologize, you tease her. Or just deny her allegation with boldness and make her doubt her sanity. This makes her emotions go hay wire and as long as you are constantly stiring that pot of a girls emotions, she gets hooked to you more.

Contrary to what women say, they actually do not want your apology. It makes them look more in control and whenever a girl feels she is in control, she begins to lose attraction for you.

STOP ranting and understand the word simp.

What you wrote up there has nada to do with being a Simp but a true definition of an arrogant cocky guy.

When a lady says you offend her tell her you are sorry and mean it then switch back to being an Alpha male.

You cross the line when you act the way 9ice did the other day coming out on social media to appeal to people to beg his lady for him... That is what being a Simp is.

Respecting a lady does not make you a Simp.

joyousever:
I strongly disagree with the apology part. Me, if you're too proud to apologize, I get turned off real fast. When you admit your faults and take responsibility, then you've got my loyalty.

I hope you are also able to apologize not only when you are wrong but when someone tells you he or she is offended by you even if you have no clue.

Salex007:
pls, can someone tell me how to be a tough guy? Although she was not the first female to tell me so.

You are dealing with the most complicated creation of GOD and the 7th wonder of the world so please if you know you want to live long just be yourself and don't force any relationship with any lady.

When you meet a lady who will appreciate your persona, trust me, you will be blown away.

Don't allow any confused lady complicate your life.

Zzor:
Now I know your religion

https://www.nairaland.com/4303658/does-god-permit-polygamy#64403042

I created that thread in 2018. You need to read it with an open mind

hstar:
I'm ur fan nah

And I thought u wrote sth about Christianity long time ago

Henceforth, as a Christian dat u are, show me in the Bible where you can marry more Dan a single wife

Read these threads I created few years back. You will find anwers to your questions.

https://www.nairaland.com/4303658/does-god-permit-polygamy

https://www.nairaland.com/4956917/legitimate-concubine

hstar:
But I thought u Christians don't support dat Na

And u said Bible doesn't support it, that it is a sin as a Christian to marry two wives

Any clarification on this?
And some backups from the Bible?

How can you accuse me of what I did not say and then ask me for clarification?

Zzor:
There are men out there who are monogamist, stop generalizing

Continue to fool yourself.

Every man is a polygamist until they are found out and those who claim to be monogamous probably are not in a vantage position to be with more ladies but believe whatever you want to if that will make you feel good.

My stance on Polygamy is a realistic one and it has nothing to do with m lifestyle.

I may decide to be with one woman all my life and I may choose to marry a thousand... It is entirely up to me. Polygamy is not a crime, it is not a sin, it is a matter of choice.

gypsey:
errrr.. each to their choice, what does a fine figure mean? how do you define that also?

It means having nice curves and molds where it matters and not the misconception of just having a pretty face without a banging body.

mariahAngel:
Se eyin ni yen?

Yelp

Tumbulum:
The bible never said they were three wise men but only mentioned of wise men from the east. It possible they were twenty in number who came to see the new born king

Exactly.

Zzor:
Merry Christmas Mr polygamist

Call me any name nah you sabi.

Most guys are polygamists whether they marry one wife with many side chics or they marry 2 or more wives.

NdigboWorldwide:
I never wanted to reply you, but seeing you going tribalistic with that your big head in this peaceful thread makes me smug, Na joke o.

I was jokingly responding to the guy I quoted.

All tribes are sweet looking.

shizzy7:
I don't like stress, if his wahala go plenty I go run... that's why there's a caveat on my post to him.

If I see an average looking guy with sense, I opt for him. I'm finer than average too.

How do you define fine? No be by face o.. Nah body figure be the real deal

shizzy7:
Hiiiii...���

You're fine ooo, I'm officially toasting you.
Ignore my post, if you have a babe. I no sabi wahala.

Be with an average looking guy you no go hear but nah to dey chase guy wey go dey give you high BP

Zzor:
See as op is fine,the rest won't dare because of obvious reasons, merry Xmas op

Trouble maker... Merry Christmas

Abigarnics01:
Thanks for the compliment. Yes I wish you could, the freedom is out of this world. I don't stress about changing hairstyles or the pain of making a new hairstyle.

See raw beauty. More beautiful than ladies with fake bone straight crazy wig.

Kudos

czarr:
You sure say you be yoruba?
since when yoruba dey fine like this?

you sure say your mama no be igbo?
finest yoruba man wey i done see for my life

We Yorubas are not just the finest but much more

Abigarnics01:
This is me just waking up from sleep. I cooked, ate with my family and went straight to sleep after taking a refreshing bath. Local woman cannot comman can.
MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE AND A WONDERFUL NEW YEAR IN ADVANCE.

Naturally pretty

Nice thread

cassidy1996:
dem nor dey hear word

HYIP, MLM, FOREX, binary options, and cryptocurrencies na the same shirt all of dem wear. be wise

I keep saying this that it is not so.

See I am a fx expert and I mean if I give you 10 signals be sure that 7 must make profits but guess whaT?... I tell people not to aim for more than 10% profit in a month and use leverage 1:1 and that the first success in fx is protecting your capital.

It is the stubborn ones that end up losing all their money.

Leshurr:
... good idea, il consider another write up on this..

Are you presently residing in UK?

Congrats to her.

As long as she has also has a mansion in Heaven she is good to go.

ghettochild:
How much is it been sold?

You need to find out the price in naira but the new one is about £600

Curiouscity:
I did this about 7 years ago. I live in deep regrets everyday. My marriage may likely end soonest!

Were you both dating in Naija before you travelled out or did you meet her when you wede aleady outside naija?

I have made a careful observation and all my Friends who were dating their ladies in naija before they travelled are still having a wonderful union with their women years after they brought them in but you see those ones that met the ladies they brought in after they travelled out, they are regretting it.

So I have made that conclusion that those who were already dating or married before the man or woman brings the other party usually hVe a glitch free marriage.

It may not apply to all but in most cases it does.

Idonije8:
You nor see woman marry there?? Too many stories about men helping their girlfriends to America then along the line something happened if I was you I will marry someone there preferably a white sweet lady : abeg leave this Nigeria girls they are so ungrateful when they finally get what they want

Have you ever wondered why Nigerian. Men usually come home to marry?

It is because the probability of getting. Suitable lady is very low.

Trust me, there are hardly good ladies out there to settle with whether white or black