canttedra: The recent topic on the home page motivated me to make this post, anonymously of course.
We were dating before I left Nigeria. We've been dating for about three years. Sometime last year I got a new job in the US (I schooled there so it was easy), and moved away from the country. Until a few weeks ago, we talked nearly every other day. It's always fun talking to her. But lately, things have started to get a little rough because of something that came up, and which I would like to believe is not my fault.
Prior to dating her, since I was a kid in university, I made myself a few promises relating to women:
1. I will never pay a woman's school fees 2. I will never rent a house or apartment for a woman, nor furnish an existing apartment 3. I will never sponsor a woman abroad.
Of course, this does not mean that I won't buy a woman gifts (I do that regularly), or take her on a nice trip. I just do not envisage myself pulling a woman up the social ladder. I prefer she makes her own growth moves as it relates to finances or relocation.
I made these promises based on the fact that I expected that whomever I make a partner should be able to make something of their own selves. I do not want to be anybody's savior or anyone's get-out-of-jail card. This resolution has made lose a few women in the past who thought the relationship should be based on what they can get out of it, and my girlfriend knows this.
The situation right now is that there is a path for her to come to America through studying. We already talked about her applying for graduate studies and then transitioning here into a better job. However, she now feels that would be stressful and may not work. Instead, she thinks it's better if I return to Nigeria this December to marry her and then sponsor her eventually to the US. That's not going to happen. This has created a rift and we have not been talking for a while now.
Am I being unreasonable here? How can I make her realize she can be her own person and not have to depend on someone else to "sponsor" her? It just drives me nuts that she knows this about me but is now vehemently insisting that this is the only viable option.
Please take her cos I have observed that in most cases, couples who were dating before either of them relocated usually have a great union outside the country.
It is those that you met when you are already outside that you should be careful of.
Yankee101: Anyone that can trade forex properly does not need anyone's money. You have access to 'leverage' or borrowing up to X times of your capital. So if you win or lose it's big.
Don't ever ever give anyone money to trade forex for you. They likely need your money cos they're losing
You make some sense here.
That is why I prefer to give profitable signals and let people pay monthly subscriptions.. I just hate trading for anyone.
easyboycom: even me I no kill my self I borrow 500000k from bank take trade and I lost everything duo I feel despresd but friend and mum really help me over come and I still hope for better day but suicide should never be an option
When people contact me for fx training and I charge them N100k Nigeria money they usually say its too much but they will be too quick to invest huge money just to lose it.
Fx is not for the faint hearted but for those who are disciplined and very knowledgeable about technical analysis
Willie2015: Whao ! Never a fan of forex... Despite my finance background & qualification... Just too volatile and v high risk Prefer to stay on stocks, bonds, etf and real estate.
Very volatile but the solution is greedless trading.
Trustedpro: Forex can turn you a billionaire if you know how to trade. I tried with 100dollars in 2018 and before mid of same year I already made about 6000dollars. But greed set in, I use to trade with 10dollars or at most 50dollars...I began to trade with 500 - 1000 dollars at a time...that was how I lost 5500dollars...I gently withdrew 500 out of depression. Uphill now I never balance. Many people were willing to give me money to help them trade, but I refused.
Fx trading is a real legitimate business that is extremely profitable ON THE CONDITION THAT YOU DON'T GET GREEDY.
waze63: This guy is a fvcking smart businessman, he keeps diversifying in everything while his other brothers are just all about music I wish him all the best... The sky is the limit Mr P
Diversification is not a guaranty that one will make money and sometimes it is a sign of panic.
You can do one business in many ways and make lots of money and you can do many businesses and still meet a brick wall in all.
Jodha: I'm not really looking for who to mingle with... I'm looking for true undiluted love in it's real self... someone that'll love me unconditionally...not just for how I look...or for my body ...or what I say or do ...but just to love me for me...
As for the expectations and standard....i don't think I can go below my standard.... it's personally what I want....
I am sorry to break your heart...there is nothing like unconditional love between humans.
You must be loved for something...Maybe your outward look or your character but there is nothing like unconditional love between humans..it only exists from GOD towards humans.
Lovethaa: Love is a beautiful thing, I still remember the first time I fell in love, I was 28 years old. I have been dating but have not really experienced Love ..
It was a Tuesday and I saw that babe walking by with her friend. My eyes were locked onto her and my senses flown away.
I was admiring God's beauty in a human. Like a man under a spell I immediately left what I was doing and started pursuing this babe like a lion after a prey..
I don't know where the courage came from but I walked up to them and started vibing with both friends without letting them know who I was into.
She got near her house and told me to go back, so I collected the numbers of both of them. Deleted the friends own immediately and saved my crush. Her name was Bukola.
Then my mumu started .. First I bought mtn card 400 to load so I can call her .. at first she gave me tough time , I'll call in the morning she won't pick , call on the afternoon same thing. Then in the night she would pick and then tell me "sorry I did not see your calls "..
Infact when I knew I was in love was the day she flashed me by mistake, I was hungry as hell that day, and me and my friend was already drawing map on how we are going to spend the last 200naira with me.. i'mmediately I saw that call. Hunger flew away . And because I don't have credit to call her back I quickly used the last 200 to buy card so I can talk to her ... Only for her to pick and tell me "Pls I'm very sorry you're not who I wanted to call ".. I was disappointed but still want to talk to her then she told me "I'm busy right now , maybe later "...
Omo I received insult from my friend tire that day.. infact that momth was hell .. my friend was so angry with me that he called me woman wrapper..
But still yet I love her the same . One day I texted her that it's mu birthday and that even if she won't call she should at least text me happy birthday..
After about 2 hours she called me for the first time , wished me happy birthday and ask if I'm celebrating it . I told her m not celebrating but I would be happy if she would follow me to a fancy restaurant..
She agreed..
And it started from there. From tastee fried chicken I took her to ShopRite and we did small shopping..
After that day she started picking my calls and I never stopped showing her how much I love her .. I make sure I always send her Good morning and good night text .. I also make sure every time I buy airtime I buy her own too..
But with everything she told me she's not interested in a relationship..
One day I stopped.. no more calls no more text .. o forced myself to stop talking to her . After about a week I woke up to a text from her that says "I miss seeing your text messages and missed calls "...
I was happy so I called her back and like a miracle she came to my house that day and we kissed .. the whole skyrocketed from there .. after a while she allowed me into her paradise and I realized she's tear rubber .. long story short we are married now with 2 beautiful kids ...
MODIFIED
Marriage with her was heavenly.. I remember I was working at GTBank when we got married, while she works with a private firm...there was no kids involved yet . We were so close that you would mistake us for siblings,,we do have our fight sometimes but anytime it happens. She knows my mumu button And I know hers too.
We eat and bath together... There was this time I traveled for a week.. Before I came back she fell sick cos she's not used to staying without me . Life is so easy with her .My car is her car .most times I go to work with Uber while she drives .. When I'm broke we eat what we have no pressure... ..
Pls dear youth Love still exists
Human Love is a Scam. Only GOD's love towards man is real.
Don't be carried away. Love all the same but get a grip of yourself. Just prepare your mind for the unexpected and work towards a better union.
Jah1: Ex wife of popular Nigerian Actor IK Ogbonna, Sonia Morales reveals reasons why she'd never date a broke man during an Instagram live section with her devoted fans
That is her choice and everyone must respect that.
The only issue I have is the definition of being broke and being broke is very relative.
And lastly what happens if the rich guy she dates become broke? Will she leave him to start searching for another money bag?
I think it is utter foolishness, lack of vision, leech mentality and a deluded sense of importance for a lady to utter such word cos any reasonable lady would rather strive to be financially independent so that she won't place a flimsy transient condition such as money as a predominant criterion for her to be with a man.
Dizzyrascal: the truth is that not everyone is as smart as you are.
Trump is playing a psychological game, he is discrediting the elections in the minds of the people that love and voted for him. He is not so much interested in Biden voters because he already knows their stand on the matter. As long as he keeps casting aspersions on the election results and the election in general, his supporters would also continue to tow that line of sentiment creating credibility issues for Joe Biden during his tenure. This is regardless of whether or not there is even a shread of evidence to back his very wild allegations up. It all psychological and Trump knows it
Then his supporters as well as himself are the biggest mindless losers to evr grace this world
Arrant rubbish... He is only making a mockery of himself and the entire country of America.
tyup: Without going into much stories. My sis in the UK bout last month or so once shared a link to me bout the Hospital she works in had Vancancies for some foreign qualified Doctors or Nurse either practicing or internship worker. I had these besties one happened to be my Ex but we still vibe real good whilst the other happened to be a good friend of mine at school.
To cut the story short, after reading of how 9ja girls are really not appreciative of favors and reading of stories of how guys go the long length to help either their GF n friends and they later get to change in a shocking manner and especially those guys that would be like after all I've done for her she did this bla bla. I later got to finalise these girls are all the same no matter how close you think you're to them or what doubt you have bout them. Another problem was I had no Nursing Male friends, I really wanted to share the link with a guy but I checked thr I had no Gee who did or studied Nursing, the other MBBs friends I have are still in school/ serving. Well that was how I let the link slide and my sister probably found other people to fill in IDK sha
But do y'all think I wasn't at all fair to both girls?? Insults of any kind are welcomed sha
You are wicked.
To even think you are not dating any of the ladies that would have suggested any form of fear of breakup so why withold the help?
Family › Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by Toks2008(m): 6:48am On Dec 23, 2020
