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Leshurr:
We write threads and blogs about how men are this and that.. how "we are the prize" and are doing men a favour - yet, a few months into the average Nigerian relationship, women are already pressurizing their boyfriends to meet the family and propose to them.

We claim we are 'scared' of marriage and yet we join groups like Sisterhood Africa-Global on Facebook where thousands of women can be seen praying and fasting for a husband and posting thier wedding testimonies.

We tell each other that marriage is not an achievement yet the married ones shame others for not having a spouse.

We claim our traditional duties of cooking and cleaning is a shared responsibility but refuse to share the 'traditional' duty of financial responsibility with our husbands.

We insult men under the guise of feminism but cry blue water when they start to injest 'redpills' and decide to go thier own way.

You say you can not marry a married man yet will gladly be a side dish to a married man.

Insanity

The Queen followed by the Prime minister ought to be the first to get it followed by the cabinet members then the public will be encouraged to get it.

kombats:
Hello Nairaland, this post is mainly to know the Demographic of Nairalanders in this forum.
Please like the post below according to your age.
Seun, r231, Freiburger, Lalasticlala

Wrong pairing

Should be

0-17
18-29
30-39
40-49
50-59
60-69
70 and above.

I just love beautiful boobs.

GOD did a great job creating those molds.

My own problem is that I don't really have an ex in the real sense cos they don't ever let go of me.... Not that I have many exes tho.

doayt09:
Are you really okay? Did you smoke weed?

No vex.

Please help me out, maybe it is my brain not comprehending...

What exactly is he accusing the lady of?

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

After reading through your long post I'm still searching for what she did wrong that is making you suicidal.

I was expecting you to write that you saw chats where she was attesting to a swell time with another man.

All you wrote points to nothing. Many married Ladies still communicate with their exes for one reason or the other and as long as it has no sexual angle you have nothing to worry about... Even me I still chat up my exes.

Guy abeg you have nothing to worry about.

Tony142:
your number 3 is wrong, independent woman are the worst gold digger u will ever meet, na them they gold dig pass, because of female hypergamy a women who earn 5millions monthly will hardly settle for a guy with 500k monthly, she will prefer the one that earn 5m or higher





even rich guys do not like a broke lady, not to talk of an independent lady

You are still confusing number 3 with 2

You can never stop having feelings for someone you once truly loved.

You can only learn to get over the person.

Cant even remember, e don tey.

thebosstrevor1:
I have never seen a woman that doesn't want a man to spend on her

You have digressed...everyone knows that.

thebosstrevor1:
It is a lie.

Both women want money.

One is upfront, the other is subtle.

Those are in the second category.. I just modified...

My brother there are three types of ladies and these three have different types of guys they want.

1.The broke lady.

She wants a guy who can take care of her and will rather prefer a rich monster to a sweet broke guy...

2.The Huslters or oloshos who will only follow a guy that can pay enough money to lay them. Some of these ladies in this category claim to be financially independent but the truth is that they are not.

3. The truly financially independent lady

She is not so keen on finding a rich guy but all she wants is a sweet legit hardworking guy.

Unfortunately the Nigerian economy has made most ladies fall into the first category.

My advise for guys is to find their level.

Some ladies will die for a guy that can give her as little as 5k a month and some ladies won't even look at any guy who can't throw millions at them.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Though I dislike you now for that your covid 19 and 5G conspiracy theory

But a real niggarr is left with no choice than to congratulate you on your birthday


Let me go dragg my morning tie....although I woke up at the right side of the bed but the need to light up my weed in the morning can not be over emphasized

Asides from his recent masochistic utterances on Covid-19, predicting the rapture and the U.S election I still see him as a great teacher...

His teachings made me realize how deeply Jesus cherishes me and that I'm justified by faith and not by my imperfect actions...

Happy birthday boss.

As long as they understand that all these show of affluence is not what marriage is all about then no problem... Cos in most cases all these wedding with razzmatazz lacks the real substance.

I wish them a happy wedding life.

Denique:
Rich guy: I can only date girls in my circle
Redpillers: Way to go nig.ga
Rich girl: Wants to maintain status quo
Redpillers: The energy is lost! “You wee die single...Shiloh awaits you...” yen yen yen


Every human being should be independent and firm with their life choices once they are within the confines of the law!

Ignore NL redpillers.
Most are Insurance brokers.
Some are undergraduates...

The others are just wannabes: they are the real SIMPs!
Only few know when to be either of the two. A man shouldn't be too soft nor too hard. I call them Simpillers

#IComeInPeace

I agree, not too soft and not too hard else he will just be a lone ranger for life.

So so talk but no action.

Flytime:
Let us talk about programs going on in unis

Most of those programs aren't available I'm public unis,I'm not talking about courses but side programs awards and scholarships

If you check the statistics of that majority of the schools in nigeria there are private unis and convenant wins most of the awards

Private unis provides more opportunities

My cousin and I were arguing about something and she was like a friend of hers whose father is working I think in a petroleum institute an is in charge of employing said they prefer private uni graduates to public uni graduates

The only advantage of going to public u is is being street smart and you could learn most if not all of that during your nysc

If private unis are more affordable then of course people would rush it and they'll produce the best students

Best students depends on the students,the school is a minor factor

Your last paragraph sums it up

Flytime:
you are wrong
What statistics

This is just like the case of those saying vanity up and down

No go huzzle they shout kids who go to public schools are better off

I would rather send my children to OAU, Lag, Uniben and even Lasu rather than waste my money on overhyped institution.

Till date, UI still produces the best doctors followed by Lag then Unilorin,

Till Date Lasu still produces best law students in Law school..

I don't want to stress myself listing many areas that other universities products are way ahead of these overhyped private unis.

Don't get it twisted... My emphasis is on the OVERHYPE status and I'm not condemning any institution... Its all bout choice

divinecode101:
Shame on you son!
How old is your OAU, Univen etc?

How old is Covenant?

Na poverty mentality go kill some people

Who this one dey call son?

You know my age?

You must be in your late 60s before you could accidentally have me as a son in your teenage years. Please take your time.

Enjoy your Sunday Grandpa

costandi:
None of my business bro. All I know is that the quality of education delivered there is commensurate to the fees paid. Nobody was forced to donate and nobody was guaranteed free or affordable education for donating. So, stop crying and wailing, just make money.

A faceless forum like this breeds ignorance. You don't know me so please stop ranting about someone been poor or making money and focus on the topic.

With all the hype, OAU, uniben and unilag rank above it but as you rightly said, it is all about choice.

james1:
Toks.
If you had looked up the great happening coming lekki's way,expansion of the free-way,dry dock:there already and free trade zone,friend,you won't compare lekki to ikeja not to talk of mowe,haba!

Just making comment here after 11years wow!

I have settled for ibeju Lekki.

Thanks

costandi:
The fees are not crazy. You're just poor.

Apparently i am as poor as 90% of the church members whose tithes and offerings were used to build the citadel yet they can't send their children there.

It is all about choice but that does not change the fact that it is overrated.

ghettokid1:
https://dailypost.ng/2020/12/05/lagos-bye-election-i-was-rigged-out-gbadamosi-reacts-to-results/

Are people still voting

I laugh seeing these crazy fees charged by an institution that has little or no influence on your success after graduating...

It is not the school that determines the quality of the graduates but it is how good an individual is.

A brilliant smart school drop out can achieve better in life than a redundant harvard graduate.

Statistics have shown that graduates of public universities do better in life than products of private unis regardless of the huge charges by the latter.

Ironically covenant University still ranks below Uniben, unilag and OAU so why the hype?

If you have the money to spend please go ahead.. It is all about choice but no hyping.

Chii59:
Hehe. Old papa youngie
Come and spoil me with Christmas gifts.

ok let me give you small gift.

Send me a PM

Chii59:
You see why I have issues with you? What is the meaning of the bolded?

Most ladies no get sense. If you are one of the few with sense. Thank GOD.

Amah70:
Resource Control? Unless you quench or relocate from Nigeria as presently structured and governed, there will be no resource control in Nigeria. Mark today’s date.

Not when a man that believes In such becomes the president.... Except he becomes possessed

Amah70:
Lol.

Osinbajo who says Nigeria does not need political restructuring; thus apparently does not understand that Nigeria’s skewed and lopsided political structure created by northern soldiers to favor northern region of Nigeria, is reason why a Professor of Law, Osinbajo, is VP to a man of all men, Muhammadu Buhari.

A man who does not understand from where rain started to beat his people in southern regions he is using their position as VP.

. He is 100% right.

What we need is Economic restructuring and with resource control, we don't need political restructuring as the center automatically becomes less powerful.

He fought the federal government when he was the justice General or whatever it is called in Lagos clamouring for lagos to have autonomy over some key sectors

Jackson105:
Why are u calling him stupid, are u sure u don't want to be unfortunate? Why not support ur own candidate and let him support his own.

Osibanjo is Nigeria president in 2023, u can go and die.

He is the Aaron of our time...

I wrote this thread 4years ago.

https://www.nairaland.com/3326707/buhari-osinbajo-moses-aaron-time

Zeesugar:
There is no other person fit for that position other than Osinbajo. He is a good leader

Gbam!

And he is a strong advocate of resource control.