₦airaland Forum

mikkycoins:
A collective beating from our wonderful soldiers would have reset his brain and body to factory settings
That day was not meant for him. On his rapture day,even pleadings from the whole of lagos won't save him.

aaaaabbbbbccccc:
This guy is trending today in Nigeria not because he’s a criminal but because Nigerians find joy in seeing the downfall of their country men. ~

youmour:
Na so I don negotiate with one smallie for inmessage she don agree for 5k TDB ,assuming na ritualist she dey meet now na so she for don go.our women no get shame anymore for this life. As if na only their sex dey suffer pass,perhaps if I be woman I for be runs girl too

MarieSucre:
Cheating is a already an impunity and an indignity inflicted on your spouse. Check my message below.

yazga:
Why are so many men scared to date single mother's?

MrBrownJay1:
The fact that most African men cheat certainly isn't a reason for anyone to accept cheating, FAR FROM IT.... all women expect their men NOT to cheat and to be respected. The minute a man does cheat, he sends a clear message that he has absolutely no respect for his wife. Any sane woman would leave this disrespectful unfaithful untrustworthy human being, and only a very desperate woman would stay in such marriage...

Sadly, because marriage in Nigeria means "being happy" (even if you are the most miserable person on earth), many will cheaply accept any rubbish from their husbands OR marry any donkeys out there, in order to be/stay married at ANY cost.

obowunmi:
Until they get HIV and DIE

MrBrownJay1:
Bro, because of that tie that these women have to their husbands, they are being abused and treated like trash, and sadly, many are so desperate to" stay married" that they would accept much more than just being OPENLY cheated on.

Give me another word for low self esteem and I would use it in this situation, but these desperate women can't be having a very positive view of themselves, while being treated in such a way.

A man openly does NOT respect his wife and if she accepts it then we have to call it for what that is.
NO man can cheat on his wife then turn around and say he RESPECTS her. Makes no damn sense.

ednut1:
old papa youngie go marry

Lexusgs430:
License to cheat.......

MrBrownJay1:
Low self esteem African women...doing what they do best to stay married at ANY cost

unikprince:
And I was envious of these guys, never knew they ain't clean. I will hustle legit and wait for God's blessings that adds no sorrow.

Adeling:
some nairaland folks right now to take down their real identity (& pics

hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.

(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)

I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.

In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him).

I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.

She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.

In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf.

In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped).

Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that she's already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.

Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone.

My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.

I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

miss00000:
We met in school during my pre-degree and dated for 7 years before he proposed to me. Before the proposal, both our parents had been pestering us to get married and start having children.

We started trying 6months prior, and 6 months after proposing I got pregnant. Few months later we did our introduction and got married (registry) march this year.

About two years ago, he met a lady where he was supplying his goods. According to him, the lady has been doing everything in her power to push his business. Every time I suspect there was more to their friendship, he always assured me there was nothing, that she's just a friend. sometimes he would even travel with her to Abuja to sell his goods which I had to allow since it was helping his business.

8 months into my pregnancy I noticed a drastic change like coming home very late, he hardly eats at home, he barely talks to memos he's always on his phone. I knew something was wrong and every time I talk to him, he always assured me that everything was fine.

After the delivery and naming of my baby I expected things to go back to the way it was, but it became worse. he changes his phone password almost everyday and still hides his phones from me.

One day I cried and begged him to tell me what was going on, after hours of begging, the first question he asked me was "where was it written in the bible that marriage has to be between one man and one woman and not with different women", "why can't a man marry two or more wives if he has the resources to take care of them equally"(the lady is a muslim btw).

He confessed that he has been dating this lady for over two years and has no plan of leaving her, and theres a possibility he's going to marry her. I'm just 26yo with a one month old baby, I didn't sign up for this.

While growing up, my mum has always warned us against polygamy. although he's promised to be there for me and still wants our marriage to continue, but the thought of my husband being with someone else is killing me. I've tried to reason with him several times but I end up hurting even more. I've been praying but still no change. He's been trying to compensate with gifts and money but thats not what I want. he doesn't want me to tell anyone and I feel reporting him to his family will even worsen the case. We've always settled our issues ourselves without involving anyone. I've tried everything I can just to take my mind off it. I need someone to talk to, prolly a friend or a counsellor. I've been crying for days now, I've not been eating well and I have to breastfeed my child. I never knew my life would be this complicated. I don't know why he got married to me if he already had this in mind. I hate my life right now.

Onyi22:
Congratulations, money is really good, I must end up with a rich guy by all means...
Poverty is a curse

maxiuc:
When you look at how poverty has ravaged your life and family Mehn Many thoughts go dey enter your head

Oh God reason my matter

Naija corrupt naija corrupt yet some people who doesn't know you are smiling home with money the never merited

Jacob stole something he never merited but you allowed him because you saw his

Baba God transfer the riches of the Gentiles to me even if na 1milla I go appreciate am

Which kind life be this

Good people that has mind of giving poverty is ravaging them, money only falls in the hands of the wicked

Lamentations of a broke ass nigga

Cioccolata:
[color=#008080]When it comes to marriage,
Dudes, stay away from pretty ladies.

Most especially if they are non virgins.

They have a very stùpid entitlement mentality.
Bearing a miracle, they'll destroy what ever you build. [/color]

Eze2000:
Lol, the babe is a lawyer, bro. or will soon be. very soon. She's a 500 level student, with brains, beauty, and ambition, one can hardly do better. You see, I spent nearly 2 hrs tunneling into her chat history to understand her. I didn't just make a decision on the spur of the moment.

I compared what I found to my situation and my needs. I thought about compatibility too and the answer was always "not a match'. Now if I was a deceiver I would want to lay her and move on, right? She's so lovely and just my type only minus the height which can be overlooked but did I do that? No.

I want a wife bro, not a girlfriend. I wanna marry before the end of this year but Titugirl will still be in school by then. After I marry, my woman will help me in my ambition but she has hers, which is to rank alongside the likes of Falana SAN. You can't reformat dreams like hers without a lot fight which you will lose.

No sir, I didn't just make the decision. In fact, I had been thinking of her all afternoon. She has everything I want in a woman, physically and mentally, and then so much more.

Being too good for her didn't even cross my mind. I was just being bluntly honest with me.

Eze2000:
Did you see my email yesterday?

kiyosaki1:
She better had the proof, but my question is that

1) was she a minor when she was allegedly raped ? and

2)what stopped her from reporting same immediat ?and

3)being fired from work if she was really raped whay stopped her from using that as a leverage to retained her job? or

4)blackmail the pastor to land stupendous wealth .

She was sacked and she kept quiet until now, and even coming out under pseudo identity ,and if not for aunty kemi that reveal her true identity . I don't doubt consent sex but rape that's questionable my opinion

lordskid:
I - Introverted,

N - iNtuitive,

F - Feeling

J - Judging

You are welcome!

lordskid:
NL_NATION

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