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Benita27:
My dear, real love exist, and poo happens.

Whatever exists in 1 out of 10 cases is negligible so to save yourself from avoidable heartache..forget searching for real love and just be realistic about the whole thing. .these days its about what we stand to gain first then love can follow.

The only real love is from GOD...human love is a facade.

alexialin:
So because baby mamas are on the rise and some people tend to divorce instead of working on their marriage.
Does not mean we should throw in the trowel and live our private lives like its every day business. Soldier come, soldier go

You may tend to follow the society and where it's menace is pushing you towards.

For me? I ain't following such route at all.

I still have faith I will. Marry well and live long , prosperous and happy with my partner, even if everyone is divorcing.

For me, I can't date a baby daddy, how much more take him serious. And I know there are some men out there, who cannot be with baby mama no matter what.

It's all about choices for yourself, as an individual.

Even in US wey divorce yaapa! And baby mama's and daddy's everywhere there.

Rappers still dey marry, the rich still marries and also the poor and average. They follow it through to the end, hoping they will have a Happy home and be with their loved ones till death do them part.

Some. People still have hope and faith they will get it right, even when majority are failing.

For me, I don't give up. And as a human being, u can't afford to give up to the pressures of society. Hell no!

I agree with you but my point is clear but unfortunately it is difficult to see in the write up.

Treat your affair more like a partnership thing and you will get the best out of it.

Every divorcee be it a man or woman had hoped at a time to be married till death so this is not about wishful thoughts but reality on ground.

Treat your affair like a partnership deal and you will experience a better romance...that is the message

Benita27:
Your points pointed towards that. No love involved, purely transactional to avoid losses. You want a win-win situation for those involved but life itself isn't fair which makes your assumption impracticable. I understood what you wrote abso-fùcking-lutely.

And I still ask you. with all these sermons about real love....why do we still have breakups on the increase? could there be something unrealistic about it?

R0ckefeller:
all those one are story just say you are looking for baby daddy or mama

The easiest way to get a baby mama is to lead a lady on...promise her love,take her to your family then do introduction and make her pregnant then give her stories why the marriage should wait....

So the point is that this so called love talks is for rookies who want to be decieved.Its better to think straight so that you can know what you are getting into.

alexialin:
Nope! It doesn't make sense.

An intimate relationship between a man and a woman is not a business transaction, one carries out with any customer who strolls in your office and shows interest on what you are selling.

It's more delicate than you imagine.

Your write up is unrealistic in real life.

Unfortunately ladies keep reading this with emotions attached. What is up there is the ideal way most ladies want their relationship to be cos at the end, they still get a partner like treatment.

With all the sermons in the world,baby mamas are on the rise,divorce is the order of the day so why all the stress...?

Benita27:
If e no help you, e help others. Marriage/relationship of convenience is one based on agreement rather than mutual feeling(love). Do you really understand what's like to be confined in a room with someone that all your relationship is about is documented and must be agreed upon?.

This reminds me of Christian Grey's agreement with Anastasia Steel #Fiftyshadesofgrey.

Maybe you need to read again before making comments. There is nothing like marriage of convenience here.

Benita27:
You can never be fulfilled...relationship wise, if you find yourself in such a relationship. Going by what you've stated here, the parties involved would be emotionally unavailable 'cause your relationship is transactional which makes it pure business for those involved. It's human nature to want to love and be loved. Imagine yourself in a relationship the lady/guy in question doesn't have an atom of feelings for you, it's best to have a one night stand than getting entangled in such affairs. On this note, I totally disagree with this write-up 'cause it didn't make sense to me.

And who love and feeling epp? Go to yaba left and see the result. The bottom line is that by trying to be a great partner, you automatically become a great lover.

obi4eze:
I don't agree with the sex part

Kilode? it's partnership so you can't just order as you do in the usual love affair.

tosyne2much:
And here goes Toks again

Wish I could do away with this crazy passion for freelance writing.Let me call seen or mynd44 to see this and decide.

Everyday we see people who had vowed to love one another till death turning around to detest each other and despite the clamor for someone to love,many people are left with heartbreak with single mums and dads on the increase which makes me wonder if this thing called love exists.

I think the reason many relationships fail these days is because we don't ask the right questions and we allow that crazy emotion gets the best part of us simply because we seek for love rather than seek for the real deal.

Wouldn't it be better if we have a different approach towards this facade called love affair?

I present to you 10 reasons why we should rather settle for a partner rather than an unrealistic lover...

1.A partner does not bother about us being compatible or whether I love her but she is more concerned about what we stand to benefit from each other. We are not parasitic but symbiotic in our partnership and both of us have something we bring to the table.

2. We are both ready without being melodramatic...we are not controlled by our heart but we use our heads. She sees what she wants in me and I see what I want in her...we ask the right questions and do due diligence to be sure and we get it on without fear of the so called heartbreak..we take it as a deal and not an unrealistic love affair.

3. We are less concerned whether we are meant for one another, if one person wants kids and the other does, if one person wants to commit and the other doesn’t, if one wants to live somewhere the other doesn’t, etc...all we do is weigh the options and if it is still worth it,we become partners and if not,we go our separate ways.

4.It is a deal with little emotions attached.You don’t find yourself trying to piece together “evidence” that they love you. You don’t have so much subconscious doubt that you feel you need to prove it to yourself, or anybody else. And more interesting is that you don't feel betrayed or hate on each other if either of you decide to quit.

5.Just like business partners, you can voice your concerns about the relationship without fear or being sentimental or emotional...communication is more frank and sincere.

6. Sex is never on demand but more pleasurable cos you will get it when the other person is ready unlike the must have in the case of marital love affairs...this simply means that If you stripped away the sexual part of your relationship, you’d still be best friends.

7. You can simply be yourself. You’re more desired and appreciated in a realistic manner everyday moments than you are when you’re going out or trying to impress the one you love.

8. You are more cautious,responsible and dedicated just like in a business partnership...You’re not necessarily completely certain, but you are absolutely willing to see whether or not you can become certain over time.

9. You’re happy and will remain so on your own regardless of the outcome . You could continue to be happy on your own, even if you lost this person cos you are already prepared emotionally. This is to say: you are not clinging to this person because you’re just terrified of being alone.

10. You actually want to spend time with them. A lot of time.You feel more at peace than you do anything else. At the core of your relationship is a very calm knowing, not a hectic need to prove anything to anyone.

In my opinion,if everyone can look for a partner rather than a lover,the world will witness the best union imaginable cos by trying to be a great partner,you inadvertedly become a great lover.

Don't know if this makes sense.

psalmhorah:
those ladies uve thrust initially will find it difficult to forgive you ...congrat anyways ..medium is the best

Anything longer than 7inch is too much...the girth can be wide.

OboOlora:
Hope that's not a Bible beside that guy in the first pic.

Bad gaul.

Crashed again bawo? thought it crashed last year? Chai! desperate naija people still continued.

shinarlaura:
Goodmorning hun. How re u doing?

Doing great.Do have a profitable week and try to maintain who you are.

shinarlaura:
Wooow... thanks hun.

Goodmorning

Morning swerrie.

MhizzAJ:
TRUE

But men really don't appreciate virgins these days na

We still very much do but its just that we believe we can't find one hence the need to console ourselves by saying "we don't care if a lady is one"

Just be like shinarlaura and very few female nairalanders i know offline and I'm all yours.

Be calm,humble,intelligent,friendly,sweet looking,God loving and a great cook...that's all.

jtjohn:
USA visa is the hardest to get....Recently I was denied USA visa even though it was my uncle who invited me for vacation and he work with a reputable company (Verizon wireless company) and I was still denied.

It's very easy to get...just pray that your number drops like that of baba ijebu Game.

The hardest visas are really that of U.K and Canada cos you must really have every document meticulously scuti ized unlike U.S that you just have to act up and pray for luck. So U.S visa is cheaper cos anybody can get it if lucky.

Story for the gods....as far as I know...getting a visitor's visa to U.S is pure gambling...advanced baba ijebu..

U.K and Canada visa application process are more reliable,transparent and realistic.

U.S makes about N1billion monthly from Nigerians who troop to their embassy to gamble over 60k and the worst part of it is that with your money you go dey fear like sey na in front of judgement throne you dey...tarrrrh!

My advise for intending applicants. ...use money you can avoid to lose if you must take part in the gambling.

Her life, her choice and the consequence is 100% hers.

tosyne2much:
That's it my brother.. Most of the people you are far above in all ramifications will meet you on a faceless forum like this and will throw tantrums against you.


You just have to cope with it

So Tosyn talk true....where you meet your own?

chinedubrazil:
sometimes, what i see on nairaland, makes me feel like shutting down my NL account. it is quite obvious that NL is full of kids.
mtchewww
for goodness sake this is serious, if you dnt have a serious thing to say rather don't even open the thread!

Relax br....it's part of the fun...you can't control it so just embrace it.

Many posters who yabb me on naira land are way way below me in age and some young enough to be my children but that is the fun....I enjoy it...it's a faceless forum so just ignore and be indifferent to it.

Florblu:
Beneath the sea

Spiritual husband

Still searching for one...Any female nairalander in lewisham London?

Oyindidi:
they gave you something to chew for them to take one shot @ baby pix

Na so o...lol!

Lol!

The question is...."WHY NOW"?
But GOD knows best.

cuteguy123:
So ladies and gentlemen why do you love your current partner and why do you love him or her, what is it you love about him that makes you stick to him or her and won't be with another person other than your current partner?

On a scale of 1-100%, rate how much you love your current partner.

Just a nairaland survey

Well for me, I love mine because she is caring, insanely romantic, she can kiss and do crazy stuffs to me in public, she is not shy, she is proud of me and I am also proud of her, she has a good character with a killer hour glass figure 8 shape, back and front package complete, light skinned with natural facial beauty.

Oya Lets drop our comments and keep the fun going.

Oga lalasticlala, why do you love yours?

Seriously looking for one but no time to search.

Joephat:
Emeka Ike, na only you don marry come divorce?


my uncle has married five different wives and he is now single.

he married the first one n divorced her, nobody heard abt it.

he married second one n did the same thing. Instagram no hear em.

until this fifth one. no one hear em and he is planning to marry the sixth one which he will still divorce.

if you no get any movie role to play agn. go farm or start printing recharge cards

He obviously loves her and I really feel for him.

ekems2017:
This man should go pick up the pieces of his life and move forward. You never treated her well. Because she is not begging to eat as you thought now it has done on you that she can live without you.
Never lay your hands on a woman men would not hear.
Since she left you, you can't suceed in anything you do. This is what the bible says never maltreat the wife your youth. Now see your life. Go ask her for forgiveness so that she can remove the curse she layed on you. It's not a social media thing.

Another kangaroo judgement....as if she dey stay with them.

stellytwinkle:
To your amazement, i dont exercise. Btw, how does oat reduce muscular fat?

From your pics your hands are OK

neoapocalypse:
Opinionated isn't actually a good word , and it is INTELLIGENCE not INTELLIGENT

Like seriously? Tell me you are joking.SMH!