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Proudlyblack:
whose name comes first does not matter to me
what matters is if my hubby to be is my better half and completes me

tosyne2much:
Egbon Toks, why ladies come hate you so much like this?.. Make dem never see your thread ni, na anger

Seems you need to be mean with the TRUTH before dem give you name wey your parents no give you

tosyne2much:
Either way, I don't care, in as much as it's not her father's name that comes first

Airforce1:
From what I read here, he's not even a qualified doctor yet they allowed him to treat on a patient in critical condition.

Where were the senior doctors at that he had to call them on phone to seek for guardance..


Or are they short staffed?

olanshi:


It's so sad that many ladies this days are not loyal, they can't be trust!

Imagine this happened the other way round, don't you think world will fall apart with serious nagging!

Many of this things one read up here and there makes young man like me stay away from marriage. I might just end up have a kid with a big hearted woman someday and no other string attached. No dramas!!

One should aways learn from other people's experience.

rogovo20:
Hi Nlanders,

Happy Childrens day to all the daddies and mummies. Quick one, my wife and I are 6 years into our marriage with 2 kids, from the inception of our marital union we have always had issues that stems on trust, we both have that issue, and when I say trust, it has
to strictly do with her bickering into my phone and finding somethings not worth shouting or condemning me for, rather for communication, but she does otherwise. In her own case, it had to do with her ex she always talked about when we courted for a short period before marrying. She told me she called him to seek advise and confide in him, told her to stop and threatened fire n brimstone, but later found out that she saved the guys number with another name, gave me excuse as to the reason she did it.

One faithful day, a year after marriage, 5 years ago to be precise, she had gone to the school she worked as a teacher, there also she takes my dauther who resumes at the day care there. 2 hrs later, she called me crying over the phone that there was an accident, I asked what happened, she said my daughter of 9 months old then had a severe deep cut on her lips that I should rush down. Immediately, I left and branched at the clinic where she was being stitched, I felt for the poor baby, because at that age with such injury was not nice. Immediately, I told her that we'll leave for home for the day. The clinic was not far from the school where she parked her car, so I asked for the key so I could go ahead and pick the car so we can all be going home. On reaching the car, I saw her wedding ring kept in the glove compartment. Was surprised because she always wear it, and wore it out to work. At that moment, was more worried about my daughter.

We got home, and I asked her why her ring was in the car instead of her finger,she said the reason why she removed it was because last Sunday I was staring at a girls ass and she was mad about it. In which I did, but didnt do it deliberately or seemed too obvious, I use style look, and it was more of a reflex, I am human. I apologized that very day, but to think after then, she decided to remove her ring because of that? RED FLAG. I kept my mute. Once in a while throughout the years, when we still have arguments, I ask her that I still wonder why she removed her ring, that it cant be the issue of ass staring that would make it that bad for her to do that. She kept on saying it was the reason. 5 years into the marriage now, we were having a deep discussion, then she started saying things about what happened during our early stage of marriage, that she called her ex, because that was the only person he knew as a bf then, reason why she confided in him, that he talked about leaving his wife too with two kids and run away to Canada with her bla bla bla. But the major thing about her point was that, she discussed the issue of me stearing at another womans ass with him, that was when the guy started packaging some stories that entered her head, which was the reason why she removed that ring on that faithful day. Wow! She now stated that she noticed he was trying to seduce her by seeing her, that he went to the extent of saying, if I should come and see u at that ur place of work, I might be forced to kiss you, stating that was when she knew he was trying to use words to have him come around, so he could have sex with her. I told her that whats the probability that they have not been seeing, she said NEVER. But then I reminded her of the day we had issues, she came back from work late, and I asked where she had gone, she replied by saying, I went to go and have sex with someone that has a bigger joystick that urs. She later denounced that it was a joke to get at me, its possible,, and it could be true.

Nlanders, sorry for my long story, if i dont put it down well, u wont know my stance on this issue, I wont say am a saint when I started this marriage, but I have changed, this woman up until now has not, I have another post to share right after this. Now my question here is, I WANT to keep my family regardless of whatever, but is it wise to Bleep that ex up? Because of what she told me he said, to me hes trying to spoil me to get into my wife, thats if he has not, because I one way or the other found this her ex wife number. And I have evidences to prove that she has been in communication with my wife. Or should I just let God judge? Cos as I bad reach b4 I marry, I have never, and will never sleep with a married woman, nor will I ever try to sleep with an ex who is already married. Sincere opinion needed.

meiyol:
I just lost my relationship due to genotype issues..he is AS and I'm AS. We knew abt our genotype incompatibility frm the very first day..we were cool with it or so i thought. We were together for a year nd some months before we switched to long distance relationship cos of his job. I'm a med student, he is a doctor, so we both knew wat it meant. I was cool with it cos the signs were there that God put us together..everybody knows it, his parents, my parents..we ourselves knew it that our paths were ordained by God.. Then suddenly, from nowhere, he comes up with dangers of having sickler kids, the diseases they face, their pain and all..he suddenly stopped talking abt d fact that we may be lucky not to have any of our kids as sicklers, or medical methods we could use like IVF and all..our parents are both aware of the genotype ish, mine are very okay with it. He said he's not sure his parents are okay with it and yet they call me EVERYDAY to assure me nothing will go wrong and to cheer me up and all.. i questioned him cos it made me feel he was looking for an opportunity to leave..and he didnt give me any reply, just stopped talking to me.
Our introduction was slated for next year, he is my first love, I've been so loyal nd i pray for him.. I feel so used and heartbroken..my instincts tell me something is wrong..I'm back to square 1, where would i start from? He was my best friend, my everything..now, it's just me

Solvik:
I think its the western culture that has the female name comes first but I read a book by Pastor Bisi Adewale "Before you say I do" and he said the groom's name should come first cause its the man that is getting married to the woman and not the other way round and a friend of mine that recently got married followed suit. I don't really like the groom's name first maybe because I'm used to bride's name first.

Princewell2012:
Yes i have been on nairaland for long and these always been there responds. And i don't always like to go on religion section just because of it.
Believe me it is more than a month i visited this section. You will never learn anything, it has just been bashing, railing insulting and abusing just name it.


It is not a force to comment, if you don't know it, good allow others who are good or capable to reply them. I believe there is always answer to a very question, and there are those who knows it. Rather than abusing the person. And that is very very pathetic. Defending God very blinding is very very bad and you re not making God proud. And that is what BoKo haram were doing.

Good evening.

shinarlaura:
Another mother's day is here. And i'm trying to make it through, Because this day reminds me of the things i miss about you.
Every time that I smile, Every time that I sigh, I think of your face, And a tear escapes my eye.
You were my world, My inspiration and my heart, But when you left me, I thought I would fall apart.
You were my best friend, My one true 'amebo' partner, Teacher and pain reliever, And that's not all you were, You were also my mom.
You're no more but your words have empowered me, To become the person I am today.
I didn't want to live without you, I did not want to get married without you, And now I'll have to birth your grandchildren without you, In remembrance of you,I'll name my first daughter after you.
I will give anything to have you back, But I know now that it was meant to be, For you are still watching from up there, And I know in all these you're with me.
I'll make you proud mom, I'll maximise my potential and be all I can be, You're going to see me and smile, That's a daughter's vow
I LOVE YOU MUM ( TU me manques maman)

itsJude:
dont start wit me ooo
Look well i no be ur mate
Creative writing fire , who cares

itsJude:
How does whose name is written first mata biko?

Which kind joblessness be this biko

wunmi590:
I have also thought of that, and anytime I want to ask such question it keep skipping my mind, I guess this got my attention.

Ever since I was born, it has always been the norm, only 1% out of our normal wedding invitation would you see a grooms name coming before the bride.

For me i guess its cool, its makes the invitation unique, i love it that way.

BTW: Even if the Bride name comes first in the invitation, the woman would still leave her surname and be bearing the husbands name, i guess that's the koko.

And lastly, its not about how wedding invitation is written, its about your relationship life is well arranged and writte36n after the wedding.

Lalasticlala, i guess this piece is front page worthy

LalaLushness:
When you start changes things .. not a good sign

1bkaye:
Lool this guy it's not by force to post thread

mercy232:
.... when it's not a must to remarry after separation...

Princewell2012:
The bible says study to show yourself approved..
Why dont you counter his conments or opinion with revevants scriptures. Thats how to do it, then others will also gain from you. But right now you have never made any point.

cococandy:
Or you're a dumb ass. How about that?
I'll go for that option.

Obviously sarcasm is lost on you.
That's how dumb you are.

cococandy:
when you don't have sense, a lot of things make sense to you

ugosco82:
pls my question is this; na woman dey marry man or na man dey marry woman?

Stoicbaba:
I am writing this in an attempt to reason with OR correct the views held by (I hope, my friend) Toks2008.

He holds the view that "a woman is permitted to divorce a man only due to DESERTION(abandonment) and he made attempt to quote 1 Cor 7:15 to buttress his point...

I rather will advise that to understand Paul in his message to the churches in corinthian, one may have to read that portion of the bible from verse 1.

When you do, you will see when Paul referred to God and when he stressed that he was speaking of his own and not from God...from vs 12 -15 (he said that it was his own statement and not from God)
This portion actually was trying to explain the 2nd reason for divorce which is ABANDONMENT or DESERTION by an UNBELIEVER. And it was meant for both men and women.

Matt 5:32 has Jesus confirming the law of Moses again in Matt 19:9...This doesn't mean that the law was meant for only men here rather it is by extension also binding to women...(reason being that in the kingdom of God, there is no man and no woman).
AND REMEMBER
Jesus was responding to the question raised by the Jews who specifically asked due to their selfish and domineering laws over women (Matt 19:1 - 9)...

However, the bible says in Mal 2:16 that God hates divorce...this means that even though there are two grounds for divorce to be acceptable (Matt 19:9 & 1 Cor 7:15), it should be used be as a final resort...barring failure in every attempt for reconciliation...

proudafrogal:
YAYWEH is a misogynist just like Allah

Elesta:
It makes NO SENSE at all

YelloweWest:
Toks is a misogynist.... cursed be the day he came out from a WOMAN!

frenzyduchess:
that bible was written with the mind set of the Jews which also saw women as second class citizens,for me,bible or on bible,divorce a philandering husband before he gives you disease

adaksbullet:
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