₦airaland Forum

Xtracoool:
I used to sound like you until it happened to me. Although when I look back now I think to myself, I was really silly to have let it happen

Gbam! it needs to happen just once and after that you become so strong that no lady can ever break it again.

Let me ask lalasticlala if he has ever shed tears over a heart break...and this mention is not just about calling your attention to the thread but I dey ask you for real..you don't cry over heart break before?...

As for Seun I no sure sey he don even fall in love before.

dorothy111:
You have converts ? You call yourself a Christian yet taking the glory away from Him.

You for sey make I no speak English again...smh

waley007:
When you truly love a woman and she breaks up wit you,it will surely make you cry...but the more heartbreak you get the stronger you become...as for me,after my heartbreak in April,I vowed never to love again,until we came back again in July ending,just this week she broke my heart again and made me look foolish...I have promised mysef now to treat every woman like she treated me,am stronger now...no love again lailai

I always tell ladies that 9 out of 10 cassanovas were at a time in their lives faithful to one lady until they got heartbroken.

mightyhazel:
fine,..its bad enough dat we know we have violent prone animals as countrymen,..wot do u say abt ppl now suporting dem? Instead of calling out dia violent nature. Akin 2 blaming a victim of rape for wearing a bumshort(or evn daring 2 hav a vagina) rather dan blame d rapist. Get ma drift now?

My broda the best we can do is to give them space and I silently pray that we should revert to the old structure of eastern northern and western region if total division is not possible or better still northern Nigeria Eastern Nigeria and western Nigeria at least if na to retain the name Nigeria...

Asides from the few educated northerners I honestly don't see how we can ever cohabit with them because we are so different in many ways.

I have some northerners as friends and they are so tolerant an sweet to be with but some are just too overbearing.

sinaj:
lol u no serz

If u no see dp, u go complain, u see selfie u go complain, u see full pic, u go complain say face no de show well


Kilode

You get fine face but I no dey look just face..a lady's overall frame is a major determinant of how outwardly fine she is...I'm not saying you are not fine cos so far so good as one can see but ladies can do more and its got Nada to do with notice me..just that nairaland no be Facebook where your face is OK but here if you must display let's see your full frame biko....don't mind me..just whining you...but I serious small lol

mightyhazel:
ofcourse I don't support d guy in anyway.I'd admonish him if I saw him one on one. But hey! Wot has dat got 2 do wit arresting and threathnin his life? So we shd be afraid of northerners,..dia whims n caprises?? So if som1 calls u stupid on the road,ur justified 2 kill him ? because 'he is insultive and provocative'?? Dats d crux of d matter my guy! No be say reasonable pasns no sabi say the guy act na foolish one!

As I wrote, we need wisdom in certain instances.

Do you know that I have converts in Iran and even Saudi Arabia who are born again? how did I preach to them? your guess is as good as mine but look at that redeem woman who got killed by extremist..do you know that she went too far going to the territories of core extremists alone?

In a case where you have some people ready to place your heart in your hands because you dare talk down on a prophet then you should know better than to give them space.

sinaj:
Wooow I love the old school pre wedding pix




It's kul



Cutehector ogini

All these nairaland babes self..na only fine face dem dey show but pesin no dey see their frame to score their overall outward beauty.

From now on all female dp must have their full frame pics or no pics..signed Seun

mightyhazel:
I wonder how many ppl were incacerated and threathened wit death because of dis! Just imagine,..a goat( a far lower animal) was named after a sitting president,..a name tag hung on its scruff,snaped and uploaded on internet,..but no ijaw nor southsouth man batted a lid,no political outcry. Infact I doubt if any nigerdeltan nor evn a southerner evn took a second notice of it.

Now a delta man supposedly named his dog buhari(no pictorial evidence o!) and demonic hypocrites are all over d place baying for blood!
Who wud blame nnamdi kanu and ipob wen dey state it as it is?

Just negodu there...

Any wise person will understand why the police arrested the guy.

What exactly was that guy thinking?

Can you compare the psyche of ss se and sw to that of the northerners?

in a country where some regions are volatile in actions common sense should tell that guy that some illiterate jobless Hausa youths can start war in the north because of that and start killing the innocent igbos all because of the vague action of one dumb guy.

We need wisdom in whatever we do.

Jay542:
No story. I was talking love heartbreak here,not just meaningless heartbreaks.

OK sir..I hear you.

Debbywills:
Ok ... I won't be like her

If to sey I never promise myself that I won't woo any lady below 27 I for woo you.........cos you look like responsible lady.

Jay542:
Yea. But not everyman it pains would cry. I know Some guys that wouldn't cry. Those guys always feel it's bitchy to cry for a lady. But people are different.

My brother leave story
the thing never pain the guy...wen you put in years into an affair and the babe waka you go understand.

Some guys have dated countless ladies but have never really loved even one but just playing them.

before my first heartbreak in 2001, I have dated lot of ladies and even as at the time I shed tears for this particular one, I had two other ladies fighting to have me so its not about the number of babes you are capable of dating or have dated.

TheMascot:

make street cry because of babe?? how??

Wen babe wey street love break street heart,street go cry like ta ta.

Just pray make babe wey you really want crack your heart, you go know how far...even Casanovas dey cry.

Jay542:
It can happen to anybody. You'll be amazed.

Except the man does not really love that lady.

Icon79:
Please let's get it straight: masturbation, with or without pornography, is a sin - pure and simple. It's very simple to quit masturbation; all it takes is self control.

And by the way, once addicted, getting married would not liberate you from masturbation. Millions of married folks are living in that bondage, believe it or not. If you want to know how to stop masturbation, read this book:

https://www.amazon.com/Homosexuality-Explaining-Zeitgeist-Emmanuel-Ekwo/dp/1452047618

This is actually the most informative book on sex perversion in the market. Try to get a copy....you'll thank me later.

O pari

I am not here to argue..i have been born again since 1987 and i will never be caught preaching heresy.

We have bad habits and we have sinful habits...Masturbation can be seen as a bad habit for those who are not comfortable with it while doctors recommend it for some patients and some people see it as a seemingly innocent way of releasing themselves of sexual urge.

Many believers enslave themselves with personal belief of what they think is a sin and that is their choice.

Self servicing was never mentioned a a sin in the bible because GOD did not find it necessary to see it as a sin..he made us to have urge for sex,he created that urge and if you dont have it then you are not normal.

Self servicing is a way many believers have prevented fornication so the truth is that if you can do without easing off, good for you,if you can't please do it rather than fornicate and if you believe you can cheat nature then be ready to have wet dreams.

The point is clear, watching porn at all or while masturbating is a sin but when you feel the urge and ease off with whatever is at your disposal be it candle or your finger or Vaseline as some people say...i believe you are only acting normal as a sexually active man or woman.

Nevertheless, whatever you do in excess and whatever has a possibility of addiction must be minimized to avoid getting traped in excessiveness.

Marriage is one great cure to self servicing and if you still see yourself doing it after marriage, as long as it does not affect your sex life then i wish you well.

Lets stop this self imposed bondage on ourselves.

BlindAngel:
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My God, this is just me.
I have vowed to God several times that if i ever masturbate again then let God take my life or let me sleep that day and never see the next day, then with in 3 - 6days max am back at it again, i always crave for dirty and most intresting oily bf and at the same time my body is already boiling with the urge to masturbate. That nothing will stop me from doing it, its either i do it in the bathroom or in the ceiling. Most expecially in the ceiling, because i have the most and best privacy there. No soul will know that am at home, i will masturbate and after i cum, then the intresting bf i was watching looks irritating to me and i will mark all and delete with so much anger in my heart that i will cursed my s@elf severally but with in a day - 2 - 3days am at it again, downloading again with full urge to masturbate with, the highest i have vowed and gone without masturbating is two weeks maximum, i have prayed, vowed, cursed my self writting many notes like the side effects, dis-advantages and consequesces of doing it and vowed never to masturbate again but with in some days am at it again.
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Maturbating without viewing porn to me is ok as long as you dont allow it to take ful control ,of you.

Lets stop fooling each other here.. you were not created to stay long before getting married but the economy has caused it and sexual urge is a biological urge that comes naturally and you cant wish it away or even pray it off but you must get married to overcome it.

Yes some people even in marriage masturbate and that is a different ball game but trust me, as human and i mean normal sexually active human, it will be pretty hard for you to keep the urge for long without easing off.

But watching porn is very wrong and watching it while self servicing is 200% fornication.

bezimo:
God bless you brother.
The thing is you have the urge to go back to continue watching porn and masturbating because a demon is sponsoring such desires in your members and it would continue that way. You cant deal with porn in the energy of the flesh or human effort, you need a counter spirit to help you resist the urge.That is were the Spirit of God comes to help you.
You first need to repent and forsake, cast out the spirit of porn from your life in the name of Jesus, engage the blood of Jesus. Then immediately open up and invite the holy ghost to come into your life to help you out.When the Spirit of God comes, he kills the desire or urge for porn, also you can make covenant vows.

Nigerian economy is not helping matters.


I have a very sweet looking lady friend who confided in me that pornography has eaten deep into her and once she watches it she just pleases herself sexually rather than fornicate.

I told her plainly that masturbating while watching porn is fornication cos you will definitely lust after the character you see.

But in all honesty, naija bachelors and spinsters are trying cos if the economy is good, guys and ladies will marry early enough to avoid any regberegbe passion to watch porn.

May GOD help our unmarried youths.

Unfortunately pornography is all around us...in the music videos,nollywood,and semi nude ladies around us.

May GOD help us.

mumumugu:
lamentation of a broken hearted guy

I can bet that people like you will cry an ocean if jilted by the woman you love but will come online to start forming macho.

joe4real12:
Heart break Weak guys everywhere

You need at least one heart break to be strong.. until then you really can't tell how weak or strong you are.

Debbywills:
Some Ladies are like that.
That's sad, its all over now I guess?

I dunno, I'm trying To be like that Your Ex .... Enough of being soft. People do take me for granted

Please dont be like her o cos she realized how dumb she behaved about 8 months latter but then it was already late.. i had moved on with another lady..no time to check time.

Vikky014:
lol. i trust u sha...hw r u doing?

My only nairaland sweetheart i dey o.

Debbywills:
Op,
I know You heartbroken and One Sissy is Trynna cheer u up by giving you those words of consolation.

Cheer up, There are plenty girls out there

LOL! i actually cried in 2001 when a lady broke my heart and i loved her like kilode..

She had warned me that if i should ever date another lady,she will leave me and i kept to the promise.

But unfortunately she was the one who messed up because she thought i was dating a lady and without confirming or asking any questions,she just put an end to it...omo i nearly died.

Vikky014:
show me the girl that messed with your heart. i will fight her

LOL! No girl do me strong thing o..i just dey ask

taylor88:
that's exactly d same advice u'll giv to ur male siblings



but blv me if uve neva been heartbroken as a man u won't understand


wen it happens Beyonce won't even b enough for u


ifs not her at dat tym blv no other

Very true

Ok we know that a man represents the stronger gender but he is also human with emotions and vulnerability.

When a guy breaks a lady's heart people tend to curse and say stuffs like he is wicked,all men are the same,if he knows he won't..why waste her time and so on..

But in the case of the guy getting heart broken they say stuffs like "Be a man, there are many other ladies out there to choose from,don't tell me you are crying because a woman breaks your heart..."

Why is this so? Don't they know that considering a man's ego, it is harder for a guy when he gets heart broken by a lady he really wants and have invested his emotions and time on?
did he not see other ladies before settling with that one and what if he is not interested in any other lady except that one?
it becomes even most painful when the lady breaks your heart without prior notice and you start going bunkers talking to yourself and asking yourself funny questions.

I strongly believe that if you truly desire a lady and she breaks your heart and it happens to be the first time for you...na cry sure pass because if you bottle the emotions,you may react in a terrible way by harming yourself or the lady so its better to let out the pains and anger by crying out loud.

Please when next you see a guy sulking or even crying like a baby over a heart break just let him cry his heart out because we are humans too and it takes so much pain for a man to see the woman he truly wants in the hands of another man.

But I want any lady reading this to know that if a man ever shed tears because you opt out of his life,please go back to that guy because for a guy to break just a drop of tears for you,then that guy really desires you so why lose such for another who will most likely make you cry?

So guys let's drop our macho attitude and do a little confession...Have you ever been heart broken before? and how did you react? Did you cry?

Over to you guys.

smileysmiley:
you seem to know alot... what should be done to those stalkers who refuse to take no as an answer and decide to go violent on you... I don't see any reason whatsoever to blame the victim, I've been a victim of obsessive admirers and there is really nothing one can do to stop them, the only option is relocation and changing details... how possible is that in a country like Nigeria, do we have to keep changing location cause of an unstable human being? In developed countries, we see cases where the psychopath relocates with his victim sef, The perfect guy is one movie that describes this situation very well, the lady had to kill the guy to be free from him... you don't even need to collect a dime from the psychopath for him to decide to frustrate your life, just pray that nobody you know becomes a victim of this, it's not an easy battle, believe me

Please please dont twist my message.. i am not blaming the victim in this story..please get that straight

What i am saying is that ladies must be very careful not to lead a man on or say yes to a guy because they want some things from him because you never know if that person is a demon in man's flesh.

If you see a stalker biko report him to the police as long as you know you dont want him....we have innocent stalkers but when you strat to get uncomfortable please bring the police in and make him sign undertaken as well as get the police to know his family members and get them involved.

If the lady had allowed her mum to take that step i guess she will still be alive today.

BTW:I dont know too much...i am only very opinionated and once i discover im wrong about an issue i take corrections.

NgcoboP:
if any man allows himself to be led on then he must be st.upid...... your position on this topic reveals a vulnerability in your person that reeks of emotional and possibly mental instability... I hope am wrong though...

On the contrary you are enmeshed in perpeptual hypocritical denial of a possible incoherence in the reaction of humans.

It will be insane for anyone to support what the guy did but i try as much as possible to see issues from a realistic point rather from the hypocritical side.

We hear stories of ladies chopping off the manhood of guys,pouring acid on some guys and we even have a case where a lady poisons her hubby cos "she heard" of his infidelity...so what is my point?

It is better to always play safe and not do things that may aggravate the other person. There are some humans that are too jealous to a fault and these are Scorpios and leos..they are highly possessive and can harm themselves if they are heart broken while i am a gemini with a fickle touch and i can never react the way a scorpio or leo will react to a heartbreak.

We must play safe at all time by not saying yes when we are not interested or allow a lady or guy to spend years with us just for us to shatter their heart.


If you don't understand my point then im sorry i can explain further.....I dont support what the guy did but i have seen ladies who stole their dad's money and organize robbery just to use the money to help a guy who latter dumped them and unfortunately the robbers went extra mile to kill both parents at teh time of the robbery...Abeg if you are this lady will you leave judgement to GOD if such a guy fvcks up?

I repeat, i will never support any beastial act against another human for any reason but according to the law of dynamics, "for every action, there just might be a bigger reaction"

Begonia:
The monster lead himself on.
No means no not "murder me if you can't get me"
Whatever so called story behind his madness is surely not connected to her.
You guys on this forum should stop this constant female victim blaming. It's shows an extreme lack of moral values brought about by chauvinistic stupidity.

Scientist have proved that the feelings derived from heart break s same as the effects drug has on us.

We can talk till tomorrow on this matter but the truth is that the did is done and no one is saying what he did is wrong but even if we preach against it till tomorrow there is a possibility of a recurrence somewhere else tomorrow.

We can only prevent cos you can never preempt the reaction of a man or woman when it comes to matters of the earth.

Some commit suicide due to hbreak and some take out another cos there is a loss of mental coherence for some people when faced with heartbreak.

Sis believe me..some ladies are heartless that they will lead a man on and crash his heart to pieces and if the guy commits suicide they call him a fool, if he goes mad they say why but if he loses it and take the life of the lady they call hi. wicked.

As I wrote, I'm not in support of taking a life except in sincere self defence but our ladies must refrain from leading a man on.

Don't take his dime if you know you don't want him..font say yes just to waste his time and on and on.

koladata:
I hope other ladies learns from this. Though I Won't support murder. But if there was a court for relationship judgment, some ladies needs to be sentence to life in personment or dead by hanging . Some stupid girls will just wake up one morning and say she's not interested again without considering the pains guy go through, the memories, money spent , time .... some of them are here on nairaland, you will see them castigating that guy.... generations of eve ... shi o. Rest in peace if you were innocent

Insightful..

herbie27:
It was stated that she had a job with MTN, a car, and apartment of her own, obviously she's an independent woman.
She has someone she wants to get married to, why not let her be, instead he was doing his best to win her over.

That man is a psychopath period!.

There is no justification whatsoever for killing another human cos of heartbreak...nevertheless ladies must be extremely careful about how to lead a man on cos there are many beasts in man's flesh...unfortunately we may never know the story behind the guy's madness.

Richiy:
Oh, you are still talking? As per your last mention thay I was trolling, I decided to shut your shrill voice out. Anyways, as per your question, I would never advise someone else to marry an already married and still married man. A lifetime of unrest and unhappiness follows which simply is not worth the hassle. Can you now stop talking? This thread is definately NOT frontpage nound.

Apparently you are still basking in the euphoria of ignorance...when the time comes,you will remember this thread and appreciate it the more.

And for the records, anytime i crave indulgence of lalasticlala, i do so because i believe i have a good piece to share...I dont write what people love to read but facts that goes on around us.

I have a lady friend who is a 39 year old widow with 2 children and when she was telling me that in her life she has always talked down on polygamy but after her husband died, she tried her best to keep away from married men but most single guys are only interested in playing with her emotions and milking her finance but she latter found a married man who makes her happy and i was just confused as to what to tell her.

It may make no sense to you now cos you dont picture yourself in that situation but for ladies who find themselves in such situation, they will relate to this better.

There must have been a time when the likes of Funke akindele, Tiwa salvage,mercy johnson,mercy aigbe, stella damascus and so on would have raked about never marrying a married man but all these names mentioned actually married men who have not divorced their wives so please what can you make out of this?

These are hard facts we get so hypocritical about yet it lives with us.