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misspicy:
TAH! there

Toks with his small mind as usual your activities is reduced here,hope you finally married
see those asslicking shediots for up there .





Quote me and die

Lol! your Oshogbo weed is really doing its thing on you.

You are a confirmed pepper seller..chai! see post...must you comment and in case you don't know .its a low life atitude to pick on the personal life of another when discussing an issue of different subject.

I have quoted you.

Oahray:
who said one cannot have both? I believe there are ladies that have both traits. Most of the time, we start noticing personality traits after they have satisfied the looks requirements. It's unlikely one would get closer to a lady he doesn't find aesthetically appealing.

However if it ever happens that good looks and a good personality become mutually exclusive, I'd gladly pick the personality. I think one who marries an ugly angel would fare far better than the one attached to a stunning devil.

When you start seriously disliking someone, she starts looking less attractive physically.

You are absolutely right but it is very twisted.

You want a fat lady then you see a slim one with "good character" then you marry her...no matter how hard you try, each time you see a fat lady you will always wish you had one.

When a man marries a lady that is sexually pleasing to him he will be happy with her and will likely tolerate some crazy stuffs from her but if you marry a lady you are not pleased with her looks, if she offends you a little you may over react.

This is a very complicated matter but I will never settle for a lady who is not pleasing to my eyes..in order words..guys should marry their specs to avoid living all their marital life in fantasy.

If I make love to my wife, I don't want to wish she has a better sexual feature...that is bondage.

uzolexis:
naa, he hasn't and he can't. His sexist view of life irks me seriously

I respect intelligent ladies and I had always counted you as one with your post pedigree but this post of yours sounds so unintelligent.

How is it my fault that you hold a contrary opinion to ny stand point?

How is it that it is only a thread or topic that roots for ladies that they accept and condemn those that seem to go the other way.
Show me one thread of mine that depicts sexism and I bet you must have given it your own interpretation.

I have passed the age of reproach and if what I write is too mature for your mind then how is that my problem?

Please get this straight...I'm responsible for my opinion but don't go nauseating on me for the meanings you read to my opinion..live and let's live..have a good day.

wowmenow:
How come Saudi Arabia is not in recession

Obviously you are ignorant of what is going on around the world.

Saudi Arabia is going thru hard times laying off millions of workers in various parastatals...

The ignorant people kept abusing buhari and APC.

While crude sold for 100usd per barrel what did Jonathan do? syphon the money with the help of heartless looters in his cabinet.

When they ought to diversify they did not.Our problem is simply foolishness cos we have depended solely on oil.

Even if Jesus rule us now the miracle he will do is to make the price of crude go higher or suddenly create other income source for Nigeria which is exactly what we should be thinking about.

Buhari is only a victim of avoidable circumstance.

Oahray:
Marry a woman simply because she's sexually appealing? Seriously? What happens when familiarity creeps in? What happens when you start noticing irritating habits? You think sex would always compensate for that?

Sexual chemistry is important but it is unwise to base a lifetime commitment solely on that one factor.

When people say they prefer the inner person, it doesn't mean they want an ugly person. They just think some things are more important than mere looks; that they wouldn't stop at looks but dig deeper; and so would be more tolerant when it comes to looks than they would towards the presence or absence of certain inner traits.

Well said...but get this straight...if you marry a lady with angelic character but does not appeal to you sexually then be ready to live in fantasy cos you will always wish you have what you want.

I'm not asking anyone to. choose sexual appeal over good character but marry a lady that is not your taste physically because she has wifly qualities and you will understand my stands.

darkenedrebel:
I am aware of no such norm, and that's because it's nonexistent.

Nobody gets married to someone they do not find sexually attractive—physical attraction and emotional attraction are like lightening and thunder: the former is bound to happen before the latter, but the former should not take precedence over the latter i.e her physical beauty should not override the emotional connection you have with her, or the other pertinent qualities like her character, intelligence etcetera.

Unless you are not looking for a long-term relationship, or what would you do when stress, pregnancy and the other things that tend put the years on women makes her lose her sexiness, would you then take to extramarital affairs?

Taking a woman to the altar based solely on how sexy she looks or how skilled she in on bed is shallow and foolhardy.

It is apparent that some factors must bring about change in the outward beauty and there is absolutely Nada anyone can do about that.

Nevertheless these sexual attraction will hold true for years.

My point is that it is a norm to hear words like.."its the inner beauty that matters " making it look as if outward beauty is a synonym of bad character.

Many guys marry ladies they are not sexually attracted to dude..they say she has good character which of course is vital but then why marry a lady who is not your spec because of good character just for you to start running after your spec after marriage....does this make any logical sense?

My point is this..as a guy go for a lady that her physical appearance turns you on and as a woman go for a guy who is really crazy about her and not the one she wants but does not want her..Shikenah

That a guy proposed marriage to a lady is no sure proof that he really wants her..Guys marry for various crazy reasons asides true affection and this is a topic for another day.

darkenedrebel:
I am aware of no such norm, and that's because it's nonexistent.

Nobody gets married to someone they do not find sexually attractive—physical attraction and emotional attraction are like lightening and thunder: the former is bound to happen before the latter, but the former should not take precedence over the latter i.e her physical beauty should not override the emotional connection you have with her, or the other pertinent qualities like her character, intelligence etcetera.

Unless you are not looking for a long-term relationship, or what would you do when stress, pregnancy and the other things that tend put the years on women makes her lose her sexiness, would you then take to extramarital affairs?

Taking a woman to the altar based solely on how sexy she looks or how skilled she in on bed is shallow and foolhardy.

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darkenedrebel:
Men are visual creatures and women are what? auditory creatures? Hogwash!

So you're saying we should forfeit character and personal qualities in a woman and get into wedlock based on how sexually appealing she is?

You lack wisdom and haven't had a slice of life yet.

I'm sure your first paragraph is not referring to my write up cos there was no place auditory was used rather I wrote about ladies being an emotional creatures..that is totally different from your twist.

Furthermore it has become a norm to believe that sexually appealing ladies generally are potential bad wives..abeg there are sweet sexy ladies out there that will make super excellent wives but the fact remains that if you marry a lady you are not sexually attracted to, you may likely not have marital fufillment except you just decide to live in marital illusion.

BeeBeeOoh:
mehn! I won't deny the fact that u are very right & you really caught me red-handed...


Men Are Visual Creatures And Whatever Pleases Our Hearts Will Likely Please Our Soul- Toks2008 2016


Cc: Ademoladeji

Our eyes not heart...and that is so true.

dollyjoy:
Who are you referring to as "kids" the op or yourself because the op's article is very insightful.



Must you drop a comments self?, its better to pass if you don't have any reasonable thing to say.

Abeg ignore that toddler.

BeeBeeOoh:
Padi mi leave matter for mathais, I fall for the inner beauty yakata presently..


She's gat a heart of gold, she ain't gat the prettiest face but her heart is like a mirrow. She's so o real, reads my face like meter, nice melons & my perfect size of ass.


As a guy just pray for God to give a woman with a beautiful heart...

Lmao!

Exactly my point dude..read your post again man..

Nice melons..your perfect ass..exactly my point..who dey talk about face lol?

Lalasticlala i don't know if this is front page worthy..you decide.

No romantic affair is perfect and it will take lots of tolerance to co-habit with anyone we choose to spend our marital life with but nevertheless, i have learned that while we tend to seek for good qualities in the opposite sex, in most cases we often realize that what it seems is not what it is but there is an important quality we need to see in a partner that will keep us endeared to that person long enough to form a great bonding.


FOR THE WOMAN:I have heard many ladies list the qualities they want in a man and i need not go into rhetorics of the various qualities sought after by women but im sorry to burst your bubbles that many marriages and romantic union are dead on arrival because many ladies tend to look for the wrong qualities in a man.

Lets cut the chase...there is nothing bad in wanting a cute,tall,dark/fair,rich guy and so on but I want you to know that you are an emotional creature and the type of man you should look for is the type that will reach out to your inner soul not by the money he gives you,not by the six packs he has,not by the way he blows your mind in bed but you need a man who is truly crazy about you.

Many ladies know the man who is truly crazy about them but they tend to complicate matters by longing for that guy they are crazy about...YES it is important to desire a man before allowing him into your life but you have no business with a man who does not truly desire you.If that tall,cute,sexy.sazzy rich guy treats you like pooh i bet he will look like a monster in your eyes but if that short fat and ugly struggling guy treats you like a queen,you will simply find yourself loving him in no time and he will look so cute in your eyes...That is the way a lady is wired but most of them are ignorant of this.


FOR THE MAN: Men tend to look for decent ladies,homely ladies,ladies who know how to cook,GOD fearing ladies.....but i have seen men who got married to very virtuous ladies but still end up looking out frantically for romance and i tend to wonder why this is so.

Yes it is very good to look for good wifely qualities in a woman we want to marry but believe it or not,there is really no bad or good woman but its about how you handle your affair..even a witch will use her power to protect a man that treats her well..FACT

I will not discourage men from seeking the so called wifely qualities in any lady they want to marry but the truth is that men are visual creatures and whatever pleases our eyes will most likely please our soul(FACT)

If you desire a lady with certain sexual features why settle for less in the name of inner beauty? so the most important quality to look for in a lady is for her to be sexually pleasing to your eyes because if you marry a woman who has every other good qualities but not sexually pleasing to you then you may spend the rest of your life in perpetual marital sexual bondage as you will always fantasize about another lady who has the sexual features you desire.

Hope this makes sense.

Rexhenrex:
I Am Very Confused What Should I Do?


[b]For sometime now i have been trying to hide this problem of mine,but now i can't hide it any longer because its really getting out of hand i just had to muster courage to type this because a problem shared ,they say is Half solved.

whenever i see a girl i like i would want to get her and assure my self that i will date her and eventually marry her i will also tell my friends that once i get her am not going to date any other lady.but when the lady agrees to date me after highest a month i would get tired of her and break-up with her. the longest relationship i ever had was 2months and it made me feel bitter when i heard a guy saying he is in the 3rd year now with his g.f i was just wondering how he did that. its really not funny i told my bestie bout it and she said maybe its because am an introvert and its because i don't have sex with my g.f so it gets boring for me and currently am dating a girl but am getting bored again as usually and i really love this lady but i fear i will soon break-up with her again and i don't want this to happen...pls how can i enjoy a relationship without involving sex ??

Matured minds please its really important and perhaps others might benefit from your advice also.thanks![/b]

How old are you? An answer to this will determine how i will approach your matter.

JustHere2Observ:
Oloshi, if wife has nudes of other men or sends to another, she gets sent out. She finds nudes of other women on Hubby's phone, she gets sent out still. Either way she looses.

See yourself?

You purposely omitted the slapping part.

seunlayi:
Her former husband should be a top member of the vaseline crew by now

They are still married until divorced.

MizMyColi:
Toks2008
Likes specs like this

lol...you are so very wrong,..she is not my spec.

hesilo:
Why was it in Buhari's tenure dat everything turned down, why...why...why, if not dat he has been rejected by God himself. Hw was actually d badluck Mbaka tagged GEJ. I wish I cld jas catch dt Mbaka and give him a heavy....

lol

Buhari is just a victim of circumstance and even a Jonathan at the elm of affairs won't change a thing..Let's just pray

PoorUgly:
Emefiere is not getting this.

They should reverse this dollar float. Its not working.

Buhari never wants it in the first place. But was convinced by IMF, CBN, and Bank chiefs.

The best subsidy now is to give Oil marketer's dollar at the rate of 197. They should be top priority until we start refining.

This is actually BAD CBN policies. US is restricting the dollars from international market to strengthen their economy.

Every country is feeling it. Even China. Yuan has fallen from 6.4 to a dollar last year to 6.7 now.

Smart countries has moved to Yuan. What is CBN still doing with our Yuan agreement?

Emefiere seems to be too incompetent. Sanusi was better and smarter. Thats was why it looked as if GEJ was better.

Moreover, someone should talk to these NDA they are crippling our dollar income.

Your last paragraph is the big issue.

in the past we heard from unverified sources that a chunk of money in fx is paid to militants lords to ensure steady production of crude when a barrel still sells at good price but today even if Buhari wants to continue paying them there is no funds to do that and as long as we don't produce good number of barrels a day I guess we can't make much...

OBAGADAFFI:
Buhari is also among the past leaders.

History has it that he ruled for a very short period before Babangida couped him out and in that very short period he made impact.

I'm not rooting for Buhari but please let's be realistic.

ultimate73:
when we hear sai baba in 2019

You have no clue that this is beyond said baba..

Venezuela jerked up pump price by over 1000%. Saudi Arabia in the middle of serious economy meltdown and many other countries and it may get worse.

When you depend so much on one business without diversifying and people no longer patronize you the way they did please what happens next? bankruptcy.

Blame the past leaders for not diversifying.

mynduu44:
Nigeria under Buhari is in Deep Mess..

Nigerians re still groaning on the recent increase and another increase is being anticipated.
Kerosene would also increase...

Please what is the benefit of the poor in this dispensation
Is it a crime to vote for Buhari

Instead of addressing the pressing issues, buhari is bringing back War Against Indiscipline (WAI).
Is being poor an indiscipline

Pls Zombies, Epp us beg this "Schadenfreudian"

At this junction we all need to pray hard.

We have depended so much on crude oil and those years when it sold for 100usd per barrel, our leaders were busy embezzling the excess profits rather than use it to developed other sectors.

Unfortunately Buhari is only a victim of global downturn in oil price as it now hovers around 40usd if not lower and this has caused global economy hardship and not only in Nigeria but why we feel it much is because of the preexisting hardship in the country and I won't say its pretty late to diversify...what a sad situation .

No matter the Party that takes over, as long as we don't have other viable source of generating income for the country, I'm afraid ....

msingrib:
hmmm
Reserve my comment

Please don't

MizMyColi:
You would have simply dropped your opinion, without having to add the part I cancelled.

These "microscopic featured" smallies you talked about have people whom they mean the world to. Sure, they don't need your validation to feel worthy or valued, but I'm a bit taken aback that someone who is so heaven conscious and talks about Jesus Christ in his signature can be so myopic to besmirch ladies whose size and specs aren't in tandem with his preference in ladies.

You of all people should not lack the understanding that your GOD and Jesus Christ created them all.

Your hypocrisy and double standard stinks.
#NoOffense

Lol...

I'm so happy you expressed yourself but trust me sis, I meant no harm at all..infact I had no intentions of talking down on anyone.

Every lady is beautiful as they are but as I wrote..smallies meaning they are still small with of course microscopic features which was not demeaning my view...most teenagers are not that endowed WHICH IS THE CONTEXT OF MY POST

My ex has a very microscopic features at 19 but as she turned 25 I looked again and was amazed. I was only referring to most contestants of miss nairaland who are still growing.

I'm awfully sorry for the gross misconception...every lady is beautiful the way they are.

MizMyColi:
You would have simply dropped your opinion, without having to add the part I cancelled.

These "microscopic featured" smallies you talked about have people whom they mean the world to. Sure, they don't need your validation to feel worthy or valued, but I'm a bit taken aback that someone who is so heaven conscious and talks about Jesus Christ in his signature can be so myopic to besmirch ladies whose size and specs aren't in tandem with his preference in ladies.

You of all people should not lack the understanding that your GOD and Jesus Christ created them all.

Your hypocrisy and double standard stinks.
#NoOffense

Lol...

I'm so happy you expressed yourself but trust me sis, I meant no harm at all..infact I had no intentions of talking down on anyone.

Every lady is beautiful as they are but as I wrote..smallies meaning they are still small with of course microscopic features which was not demeaning my view...most teenagers are not that endowed WHICH IS THE CONTEXT OF MY POST

My ex has a very microscopic features at 19 but as she turned 25 I looked again and was amazed.

I'm awfully sorry for the gross misconception...every lady is beautiful the way they are.

Seun biko we want miss curvaceous nairaland or miss endowed ...whichever of the two...We want to see the real nairaland hotties not all these smallies with microscopic features.

"I vote Fynestboi Cc: NLjega"

Tanyabee:
This is an inspiration to ladies out there who depends on boyfriends and sugar daddies to cater for their needs

many ladies should understand that guys are smarter now.

Your ass is not enough..you need to be productive.

Airforce1:
I will never marry a jobless woman God forbids.

I've said it several times that the reason why Nigeria is backward s because we placed so much emphasis on education.

The world richest men and women today didn't finish high school but they invented so many things because they used their "head".

Good to know our so called graduates are beginning to use their head like the lady on display.

Blessup young woman.


**Billionaire Ambition**

I'm in love with this babe already...God bless her hustle

missingrib:
lol fyn pickin thats all u gonna say?

You fine nah and even pretty join..

missingrib:
The white will always and always be better than us. I remembered back thén when i use to tell my dad that God really took time to create them they are just good in every aspect. We need to stàrt learning the positive way the white lives and stop imitating them in ways which ain't adding good stuff to us

lol

Fyn pickin.

Very possible
She should wait till she is 18 then she can marry him even if he is 70.