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Vikky014:
so what is the solution dnt tell me "bami ni jamb question

follow your heart

ClassCaptain:
I quite agree with everything stated here except number one.

An adage says what an elder sees while sitting down, the young ones might not see even if they mount on something..

What will seem to forget is that..when u marry someone, u dont marry only he or she.. You marry her beliefs, you marry her customs, rituals and every thing associated with her including the inlaws.

You may say you and your spouse love eachother regardless of tribe or customs but what about the inlaws. What of when they come and say ... This is the way its done in our tribe and we will do it as such.

You and the wife may understand each other but the family members nko.

This is what happens when one of the couple dies, and the other is made to go through inhumane treatment..what happens if your spouse tribe insists that every first son must get an incision or die according to their customs.

It is paramount to be careful concerning not the tribe of the spouse but the customs and secret traditions of the spouse as u are not only safeguarding your marriage but that of your life and future generation.

Remember a man can be converted from a religion but it is rare if not impossible for one to relinquish his tradition beliefs, etnics and custom.

A love affair is primarily about the couple fist before any other and that is why we call the person we love BAE(Before any other).

Yes i agree that what the elders se while siting bla bla bla but whatever they see is to give them insights which serve as template for their advice and not to force their decisions on us.

BTW Lalasticlala have you seen this?

ebosie11:
Thirty-nine of the reported 172 Nigerians who were deported from Libya on Friday 11th March 2016 were received by Pastor T.B. Joshua of The Synagogue, Church Of All Nations (SCOAN) during his church service on Sunday 13th March.

The deportees were each given the sum of N100,000 by Joshua, who is well known for his charitable gestures.

Fidelis Onos, who spoke on behalf of the group, said most of them had been imprisoned for up to one year in Libya after they were suddenly arrested.

The majority were working as bricklayers in the North African country where they had sought ‘greener pastures’.

“We are not here to blame Libya,” Fidelis is quoted as saying. “If Nigeria was okay, we would never have left in the first place. It’s the war in Libya that turned it to what it is today – in a place where there is no government, what can you expect?”

He explained that United Nations officials visited the Nigerians in the Libyan prison and were touched at their plight, promising to arrange their repatriation back to Nigeria.

They were finally able to travel under the voluntary returnee programme organised by the International Organisation for Migration (IOM).

Arriving in Lagos with only the clothes they came with, the deportees were provided with a meagre N6,500, leading to resentful outbursts from many at the airport.

“Frustrated, angry and despondent, a group of them decided to seek refuge at The SCOAN, having watched Emmanuel TV in Libya,” the church said.

“Upon learning of their arrival in the church, Prophet T.B. Joshua immediately sent evangelists to provide food, alongside medical aid to some of the most malnourished in their midst,” it continued.

After giving the young men N3.9million ($20,000), many were emotionally moved and shed tears.

“If not for a man like T.B. Joshua, most of us would have ended up going into armed robbery, kidnapping or even joining a group like Boko Haram,” said Godspower Chibuike as he appreciated Joshua for the gift.

“If youths were encouraged like this, we wouldn’t even think of travelling to places like Libya,” another deportee stated, adding that he had never seen such an amount of money in his life.

The group were subsequently provided with toiletries alongside brand new clothing, as they had worn the same set of clothes since their arrival in Nigeria.

“Remember, what you make happen for others, God will make happen for you,” T.B. Joshua stated in conclusion.

Source: http://www.trezzyblog.com/2016/03/tb-joshua-gives-39-libya-deportees-n4_13.html

He may be called a sorcerer but he is far better than the so called greedy and self centered overseers of other churches.

Dexema:
I dnt agree with 1-4, but number 5 for me is VERY important, any man going into marriage without adequate "consultations and counselling " from genuine sources is just playing nairabet with his marital future amongst other things.

lol..abeg which source is genuine? Baba,Alfa or Pastor?

amokeme:
Me: mummy, ezekiel is asking me out o, and I think I like him... what do you think?

Mummy: do you think he likes you or you are just bored

Me: hanhan, no naw, I like him. He is nice, makes me laugh bla bla bla

Mummy : ok o, if you say so.. (We start gisting about something else )
******few days later,

Mummy: ehn how is Ezekiel?

Me: he is fine, we are now dating..

Mummy : ehn ehn. . (With a sarcastic smile on her face)

Me : ehn (rolling my eyes )

Mummy : I will sha be praying, if it is not the will of God, it will scatter..

***** during devotions (morning and night )

Mummy : Lord I commit my daughter's relationship into your hands, if it is not your will let it scatter And let them go their separate ways peacefully in Jesus name

Me:

Mummy : *noticed I didn't say Amen, will repeat the prayer and hit my laps to say Amen *

Me: reluctantly says Amen (then says God for bid in my mind )



My parents don't really care about these things. So long as you both feel the same way about each other, then they are fine.
They can only assist you both in prayers

Her prayer is still in line. IF

Omotayor123:
On point OP! Lol at number 5

I once had a friend who went to bribe the spiritualist when the younger brother of the lady leaked the move to him that the sister and their parents are planning to consult one spiritualist to know if their stars match.LOL!

STFUareyouGod:
well, your guess is as good as mine

Ori e fo

STFUareyouGod:
well, are you the 'he' I was referring to?

Apparently it seems so but if not just let it pass.

STFUareyouGod:
He never gets tired

Everyone has at least one thing they love doing and will never get tired of doing.


That is called passion.

Lalasticlala what do you think?

nedu2000:
I'm in the middle of that very issue now

Ja ara e gba(Emancipate yourself)

YorubaWoman:
[color=#8C001A]Mama mo mi lo
Baba mo mi lo
E fadura simi o
Kin ma sirin, kin ma padanu nile oko

Only prayers and advices I seek from parents, I always tell them to respect my decisions.
I know the right from wrong [/color]

Good.

In many families especially those of African descend,parents tend to believe that they have absolute monopoly over their children and you will see them express such autocratic disposition with words like "I am your mother,I am your father,we are your parents and we know what is good for you""

Yes i agree that most times if not all the time,they tend to believe they have our interest at heart but the unfortunate fact is that in most cases,they are only forcing down our throat what they belove is actually good from their self centered perspective.

The most bizarre twist to this is when they cross the line by wanting to dictate the tide of our emotions and will always want to lay down a module for our heart to follow thereby practically complicating the lives of their children with their autocratic,self centered and archaic mindset.

Here are 6 ways many parents complicate the marital future of their own children.

1.They tell us not to marry from a particular tribe::Like seriously! What has tribe got to do with matters of the heart? What if all the people i meet from my tribe are not what i want?i guess i must marry one of them just to boost my parents ego...Nah!

2.They want us to marry from a particular religion::This will make sense to some religion fanatics but i guess if my dad obeyed his parent i will not be in existence today. Religion as important as it is must never create a divide when it comes to matters of the heart and in-fact my growing up was fun as my dad calls me Lukman(My Muslim name) and i will gladly answer while my mum calls me by my regular name.Each of my siblings were christened the Muslim way in the morning and the Christian way in the afternoon During Christmas we enjoyed the chicken and during Muslim festivals we enjoyed the ram .

In-fact my dad loved my mum deeply till he passed on at 73 so in my own world i see nothing wrong in the wife and husband practicing different religion as long as there is religion tolerance..

3.They use their children as battle pawns::This one is indeed a very crazy one.Have you seen a situation where a parent realizes their son or daughter is in love with another person from a family they have discord with?

Please if you want to continue your fight just leave your children out of the issue,you have your life to live and your children hav theirs..please live and lets live.

4.They tell us not to marry from a poor background::This is the most pathetic of all and this usually happens among the rich and the poor. The rich parents believe every other person from a humble background is out to milk them dry so they tell their children to look for a fellow rich partner from a rich home and even when this becomes a Herculean task,they will resort to arrangee wedding thereby destroying the matrimonial lives of their children as the marriage usually breaks down even before it starts.

For the hopelessly poor parents,they will tell their children especially the females to shine their eyes and not bring home a poor guy thereby forcing their daughters to sell themselves to highest bidders who will see them as nothing more than a bought object and discard them when they are done with them. That is why many struggling guys shy away from visiting some parents of their partners because by the time they drill you and they find out you are still a hustler,your case is a sorry case .

5.They tell us that our stars do not match ::Chai! this one is beyond me. You will see a situation where some parents will take the name of any man or lady that comes into the life of their children straight to one baba,pastor or alfa to check if your stars match(Whatever that means) and most times these spiritualists will just tell them trash and they will come back to their child to say "Ehm,you see we went somewhere and they said.." Taarh! Rubbish and nonsense. Are they GOD?

6.They make insane demands from the suitors of their daughters ::This is seen in some tribes in Nigeria where they will give you funny list with items amounting to hundreds of thousands and even over a million not minding how you get the money and this has turned many ladies from such tribe to be objects used and dumped by guys who are not ready to go through that greedy and extortive process not because they don't love the lady but they just can't afford it.

Many children have eloped for life and some committed suicide out of frustration and many have killed one of their parent just to have their way so i will advice parents to respect their children's decisions and let them make their choices.Yes give them advice as parents but let them make their choice.

Hope this make sense.

Getikebusy:
I don't know if its an appropriate question to ask. But is it proper to date or more so marry one's age mate? There's this lady that's tripping me a lot. We seem to have this chemistry... She understands me and I do likewise. Very mature too. Though is still an undergraduate but I don't care. I really do like her. The only problem is that we are age mates advices needed from experience or otherwise please...

Cc toks2008, lalasticlala

Age really does not matter at a certain age gap which is about 30 and above. Let me explain.

If a lady is say 21years and she dates a 21 year old guy i guess in most cases she just might be wasting her time because at that level there is a case of immaturity from both ends and asides from this,the guy may just not be ready to settle down at 28 and the lady may certainly not have much time.

But if both of you are of matured ages,it becomes a different ball game because you are both matured to understand what you feel so the conclusion is that age does not matter only if both of you are advanced in age to know what you are doing but it is very unrealistic at younger age.

My take.

My top 3 male Nigeria Music artistes..

1.P.Square
2.2baba
3.Flavour

If P-square ever splits then 2baba steps up to #1 and flavour follows suit while i look for a new number 3.

TheSpellChecker:
Actually, it's thought not taught.

Wait a minute, are you sure you're really intelligent yourself?

Thanks for the correction the spell checker lol.

Nevertheless i believe that it is only an intelligent person will not jusxtapose spelling error with intelligence...No human being is above spelling error so retract your unwarranted sarcastic crinkum crankum.

Have a great sunday...Puma

funnynation:
As if this is the first of its kind.. The case go just die like that.. Nigeria is the more you look..the less you see.




Nairaland official comedian

And some clueless people will start blaming Buhari.

Our socalled rule of law is a strong hindering block on its own.

If this were to be the military era,we would have recovered all the looted funds and even more but today,the crazy rule of law will allow a looter of billions to get bail when jungle justice is served to a petty thief.

Crazy rule of law.

kristen12:
I've been praying in Jesus name ( without mentioning Christ) and God has been answering my prayers.

What you believe in, works for you.

Definitely.

The bible says all things are possible to him that believe...so apparently if i pray in the name of Marijuana and i believe,i will definitely get results.

Neverthess this is really not about your believe but its about doing things the rifgt way.

If it is not Jesus the christ,it can as well be Jesus the famous footballer.

All i see is immature rantings from e-masturbators.

Change is progressive and change can never have a time stamp but it is continous.

That moment when you enter a flat that has records of piled up unpaid bills,broken walls,leaking roofs and so on please how will it be easy for the new occupant to adjust?

As far as im concerned,i will pass my judgement on the present regime at the end of their fourth year in office.

For now the best thing any progressive person should do is pray and hope for the best rather than rant and complain like the isrealites.

It is a known fact that a positive drastic revolutionary change must bring hardship first before the changes are effected.

Enough of all these baseless hasty rantings from odoriferous online masturbators.

DrWillie:
I totally agree with you. I thought I was the only one thinking this way. With the rate of vodoo and fetishes in our society it is very possible the Jesus some pastors are calling when they pray is not Christ. You have to be specific as people answer Jesus and you could be calling anyone else.

Glad to know that you see sense in this.

Lalasticlala i believe this will be an eye opener for many.

Happy sunday.

dovelike:
People measure smartness with their own level of knowledge. It's pitiful. "If she knows the things you know, she is smart. If she doesn't, she is not".

Hmmmm

taught provoking.

F22RAPTOR:
this is nonsense and child abuse. no wonder Nigerian kids grow up with low self esteem.

Honestly it was hell.

Imagine your mum will warn you never to eat at her friends place yet when you follow her there she will be practically insisting that you take the food offered...

Devil punish you if you ever obey her by eating the food...very crazy.

cekhoe:
I went through comments, I couldn't help but let out a deep laugh,I would like to know on what ground a person is categorised as unintelligent? is intelligence based on gender?,I have sighted some unintelligent comments here,yet unintelligence turns them off,hypocrites!,70% of Kim k's fans are guys,yet they will let their eyes and attention wonder away from "a so-called intelligent conversation",and drool on the sight of curvy lady while their Johnny jesticulates in-between their thighs,even some of them apart from girls and sex the only thing intelligent about them is football, hehehehe

lol

Realistically hilarious.

agarawu23:
Toks
Give us your normal relationship write ups. This one don make FP weeks ago.
Not romantic gan

lol
just saw it today tho..very funny and strange.

LORDSAMURAI:
ALL I SEE IS CHILD ABUSE

Child abuse is an understatement. I call it child destruction.
Infact they beat us for an offence in advance or an offence they preempt for us.

Today's kids are so spoilt that they don't know that in our days you could be beaten for any of the following reasons:

1. Crying after being beaten.
2. Not crying after being beaten
3. Crying without being beaten
4. Standing while the elders are seated
5. Sitting while the elders stand
6. Walking around aimlessly where the elders are seated.
7. Replying back to an elder
8. Not replying back to an elder
9. Spending too much time without being beaten.
10. Singing after being admonished
11. Not greeting visitors
12. Eating food prepared for the visitors.
13. Crying to go with the visitors when the visitors are leaving.
14. Refusing to eat.
15. Coming back home after sunset
16. Eating at the neighbour's home
17. Generally being moody.
18. Generally being too excited.
19. Fighting with your age mate and losing.
20. Fighting with your age mate and winning.
21. Eating too slowly
22. Eating too quickly
23. Eating too much
24. Sleeping while the elders had already woken up
25. Looking at the visitors while they are eating
26.Stumbling and falling when walking...
😀 hw u toDay.

To think i went through all these..Na wa for our parents o.

Source; Watsup message.

Lalasticlala did you go through these?

Ugwoji101:
1.A woman who is too materialistic.2.not domesticated and. too lazy.just yesterday I sent a gal out of my house out of anger!the only thing she knows how to do is to ask for money,everyday she comes up with one problem or the other.she can't cook and she is too lazy to do anything.she stayed with me for 3days and never swept the house nor washed the dishes,my apartment looked like a refuse dump within the 3days she stayed in my house her excuse was that she grew up with maids surrounding her and as a result and that as a result of that she couldn't learn how to do anything and also that she can never enslave herself all in the name of relationship.even the jellof rice she cooked with chicken was too bad that I ended up discarding it.the jellof rice looked like akamu and tasted like agidi jellof.she demands money from me every now and then with so much audacity and impetus and if i don't give her the exact money she asked for she will start threatening me with break up.I got fed up with her yesterday and told her to her face that she is the worst gal I have ever dated,that she is a disgrace to womanhood and good for nothing!I told her not to step foot into my house again that I'm fed up with her.I deleted her number in her presence and gave her tfare to go back to school.our relationship is barely one month old.good riddance to bad rubbish!70 percent of our gals nowadays are so indolent,exhibits high level of lackadaisical and laissez-faire attitude.

Dude i say a big congratulations but i guess you dey harsh small.

You would have sat her down to talk sense into her and if she refuses to adjust then let her leave your life for good.

HaneefahRN:


Hearing people talk about beauty with brains or without brain nauseates me, like we don't have dumb guys. They'll keep talking like only females can be dumb and all guys are smart. Being dumb isn't gender based and being intelligent can sometimes be subjective, what interests you might not interest the other.


So my turn off is being dumb, insensitive and arrogant, behaving like the Earth revolves round you

no be fight o.

I will suggest ladies carefully read different turn offs and try to adjust and you can always create a counter write up.

desire222:
Still writing like an educated illiterate.

lobatan.

But i try small abi?

desire222:
Intelligient man that writes I with small letter. Since u are Wole Soyinka, u should know that anywhere letter i represents u,it should be written with capital letter.

lol..tho i dont know wat you are talking about but being iintelligent is nothing near wat you are pointing out...Abeg TRY AND BE INTELLIGENT ENOUGH TO KNOW THIS.

noblegrex:
don't call them dumb.its very bad. Its their nature.that's how their mother is. She was given fruit by the DEVIL to eat.Someone that did not feed you yesterday ask you to eat and you ate.will you call that dumb. Its too harsh.you can always be caring enough to tell her what to do. Besides,your own Turn offs becomes the topic.

kai..you are mean.