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torqque7:
Seriously.. This is why alot of guys go back to marry their ex..anyway the way they present themselves is exactly how I treat them,if she is cheap well I just fvck her silly and never take her seriously, but if she is reasonable then I treat her like a queen,unfortunately there is a higher supply of loose girls so more fun for me lol

walahi an ex that you know is better than a new lady you have no clue about.

Except my ex is jinxed i can boast that not many men have used her since we broke up but some babes you just meet might have done all the guys she calls just friends.

i really fear for the unmarried guys.

torqque7:
Seriously.. This is why alot of guys go back to marry their ex..anyway the way they present themselves is exactly how I treat them,if she is cheap well I just fvck her silly and never take her seriously, but if she is reasonable then I treat her like a queen,unfortunately there is a higher supply of loose girls so more fun for me lol

more than enough free things.

I laughed wen one frustrated lady just wrote about wishing i die single..smh

If only she knows...free sex every where with some even ready to spend to have it expecially ladies of advanced age.

torqque7:
Bro just leave these girls joor..can u imagine instead of them to take correction she is there trying to justify their wayward lifestyle.. What a shame

Unimaginable.

Guys are in deep shit to think these are the type of ladies mostly available for guys now..i better start considering my ex who i guess have learned her lesson and stylishly staging a come back...at least she no go don too spoil.

These ones commenting here seem to have lost coount of the guys that have sampled them hence the need to justify their shamelessness.

ariyike23:
Yu had beta nt know wat to write again with yr self righteousness,if evry guy risons like yu,dis world will be no beta place,marriages wuldnt come up evry saturday,our parents wnt be togeda,yu need to check yurself and deal with wateva prob yu have wid d female folks before coming in ere to rant and i hope ur love for christ is wat is teaching to be against d womenfolk.. i feel like giving u a dirty slap right now,unfortunately u wnt feel it,people like yu make me angry.. Love for christ indeed,hiding under christ to say rubbish..Anyway God is a God of grace

Arike or watever your id is ...i dont know you and i dont even wish to but with no fear of contradiction i can say you have a chronic issue of diminished mental coherence.

First look up again and you will see that this is not my thread and until you learn to discuss a topic leaving out the writer,you will forever exhibit an atitude depiting how wasteful your folks are in sending you to school to have basic skills in writing at least simple english.Please learn to discuss issues and not the personality of who you are discussing with.

Nevertheless, You can believe what you want but pleasei beg you to teach your daughter the exact opposite of your mindset.

Guys will be guys while ladies are
expected to be ladies.

Our mothers who married as virgins were
also exposed to sexual temptations so please cut the pooh talks about some men also being indecent because guys will forever be demanding but it is for you ladies to either fall or maintain a status
quo..

Enough of these lame excuses.

Come to my house today and offer
yourself to me and see if i will not use
you silly despite my spiritual inclination.

Even as a sexually active guy,i have very
high moral standards.I have rules that
prevent me from sexual recklessness so
why will a lady give lame excuses that it is
the same guys that sleep with them....?

It is our right to make sexual propositions
and it is your right to say yes or no and
when you say Yes,dont ever blame us but
blame yourself for your inability to say
No.

Iranu

Recherche:
Stop being a hypocrite

Why is your pot calling another's kettle black?

You here bashing the girls for the same act you shamelessly engage in without remorse.

The question should be, "are there any decent men around, that doesn't lack scruples, men who think with their brains and not their junks?

Now this is no longer a joke.

I think the fundamental reasoning of ladies of today needs serious resetting.

Look here lady,in the world of men,indecency is their ways of life so please enough of this bitchy mindset ladies now carry in their brains.

Guys will always be guys but it is for you as a lady to act decently.

if this is too hard for you to comprehend then im sorry i cant help further.O ga o

ariyike23:
So tell me d guys that planned a fake party just to get gurls should be patted on d back and given an award for decency?? Lets call a spade a spade,some guys are jes too bias,a guy that sleeps with a gurl he met barely 2 hours has no atom of decency either. If d lady in question had formed,he wulda come ere to bash her as forming had to get,if she had requested for money frm him,he wulda called her a prostitute and im very sure d gurl must av liked d guy for her to go down with him and she must av tot it as normal adult fun nt knowing that he will come ere to call her indecent. Like minds attract,ur personality attracts like people to u.

P.s As long as u dnt xpect any special fing from any lady,i douby if u will get any.Ur mindset is too bias against women and im rilly disappointed

Did i just read this or am i imagining things?

O.M.G

IF this is the way every lady reasons then the female folks are doomed.I dont even know what to write again.gosh

Vinshu:
In order to reduce the level of poverty amongst homes, in my opinion I think a man who has not enough money to buy a house of his own not rent at least a 3 bed room flat and a car to move him and his family around should not get married.


They say women ain't equal to men. Ok let the men be rich and rich enough to take care of their wives 101% before getting married. In fact, studies show most men marry for sex.

If i say you are not making sense i guess i will be fooling myself but then i always ask;"Does it make any logical sense to date a man who can not buy a car or lives in a face me i face you and scrws you front and back with reckless abandon,you cook for him,sleep over at his place and infact does virtually what a wife does yet can't marry him in that position and hope for the better while you also strife for financial independence?

Waiting for your response.

octopusfreaky:
This is a big issue i have been dealing it but it seems i cant just get over it. Any relationship i find myself in,i am always the cheat.I tried all my best to save this last one but i still found myself guilty of such immoral act. Interestingly, they always forgive me for opening up to them .
Now,my fear is how to remain faithful when i get married.
N.B 70% of my friends are guys could it be the reason?

You need christ and if you already have him then you need the indwelling of the holy spirit.

No one has the power to overcome sexual recklessness but when the spirit of GOD comes upon you,committing a sin will be extremely difficult.

BiggerBangs:
Getting girls is quite easy unlike before, I joined my friends to plan a fake birthday for one of our guys ...our intentions was to pull the birthday stunts so that this our particular friend can get a new side chick(He just came back from school ).

We raised #10k to get drinks and suya,Our planned bday is took place at a cool luxury house in the GRA,no average babe will come visit without dreaming of getting laid in the house(the well furnished house belongs to a top politician )

A guy suggest George (bday boy),to CONTROL a certain babe on phone,he gave George her number (from the looks of things this girl isn't a runs girl just a normal girl that stays off campus, she actually stays alone tho)

After calling her, this girl accepted to meet with our friend at a public place inless then 1hrs to their meeting this lady not only accept to come down to the bday house but she slept over night with our friend(Imagine,he slept with her barely 2hrs of meeting him without getting a dime, what a shameful World).

Fast forward to Last week Sunday, I decide to Woe a girl at Shoprite, at least as a Sunday take home gift.I stopped by at GO Lounge after seeing two babes sitting aimlessly at the entrance.. I approach them to pay their bills for bottles of drinks, inshort my favorite of the girls is now mine, I now wonder, does love truly exist or lust ?Things are getting out of hands,sexual Immority has dominate the heart of the youth.

Is not just Love At first sight but also Sex at first day of meeting,Our behavior can be liken to that of the animals, Bleeping everywhere it catches you.

The more reason why i don't even bother my head about any lady for now because 8 out of 10 ladies you see out there are cheap sluts and this is not about throwing shades but FACT.

What blows my mind is the way these same ladies demand 100% faithfulness from a man when they can not boast of being sexually decent.

They say guys are more promiscuous but as a very cute guy,i have remained so sexually chaste over the years even from my university days when i wil enter my room and see naked lady lying in my bed just for me to chase her out and i can't count how many times i have turned down free fs.x.

People usually marvel when i tell them i have actually dated and stayed glue to one lady for the past 14years until this same lady decides to explore and i guess its because im actually the first and only guy she has ever being with since she was 19. Funny enough before we broke up, she would say stuffs like "she feels caged with me having spent all her life with me" that she feels she is cheated because she did not enjoy her younger age simply because she was with just me and i began to wonder if i was with another. I can not call her wayward cos i have not caught her cheating before but i just believe she wanted to explore so i just had to let her go.

This goes to show how deeply rooted the act of waywardness is embedded in the nature of women and it seems they don't ever learn to be sexually chaste until they have tested every tunde,John and Jude.

This is why i dont ever expect anything special from any lady any more. If i see a lady that catches my fancy,i go for her and expect her to screw up the next minute,that is the only way to be happy.

Sometimes i ask GOD if it is possible to excuse me for just a year and not count it as sin against me so that i can screw as many loosed ladies as i can lay my hands on.Honestly i get pained that my love for christ is really stopping me from really dealing with these sexually loosed ladies.

Its a pity,a big shame and a hopeless situation for many guys to find a sexually decent lady these days.Lets just accept our fate.

NB:Please correct the error on the title. It should read "Are there still decent ladies?"

dupsil:
Am not much of a people person, i love to be on my own, i would not describe myself as a quiet person, more like someone with mood swings and most times i just want to be alone. i av just 2 close friends that i talk to about everything and they've bin quiet helpful in the ways they can, I am not close to my family members at all due to the way in which i was brought up so we don't speak much on personal issues or things am going through.
Just got out of a very bad breakup that shook me up so bad and have not been able to move past it, am in my finals in the university, just finished my first semester exams and it was so hard for me to focus and read for the exams but i was able to scale through the exam period. we are on semester break now and i have lot of assignment and project to focus on but its so hard for me to do anything meaningful this days. i just lie in alone all day doing nothing, i feel so weak, alone and depressed. i feel lost, scared, worried. Things aren't working the way i had imagined and hoped for, am 22 years old, i don't av a special talent, no skill am interested in and then this education i took serious so i could confidently say am good in something doesn't seems to be working out because am going to graduate with a 2nd class lower. i feel like i don't fit in anywhere, at my age i should have plans, goals and target for the future but i don't and i don't know how to go about it. Pls i need mature advise on what to do.

Lets chat on watsup on 08023146046

Depression is a dangerous warning signal of possible crazy actions.

One chat session with you will change your perspective about yourself but nomatter what you do,avoid going into any affair for now,have friends but put that on hold.Looking forward to giving you a call.

nikkypearl:
Nice writeup ... But unfortunately,even couples with the best intentions still end up in divorce court!Divorce is suppose to be a last ditch decision for Troubled marriage..

Tthe fact is that once you begin to appreciate a reality different from your own,then you are on the way to de_escalating conflict and finding solutions

If you check very well,they were not really having the best intentions.

What happens to a couple after some time together is very normal...the affair becomes so boring and they just find the other person so tiring to be with.

At that point they become very vulnerable and a little spark from an external force will culminate into a false crescendo of feelings which i term initial gragra and many may not realize this until they have divorced their present spouse to be with the new person.

So honestly most times,breakups in affairs whether marriage or courtship is simply borne out of the inquisitive feeling of wanting to be with someone new and if we do not learn how to curb this flimsy feeling,we may never ever be able to stay put in one affair.

Greene66:
Total nonsense.

An adulterous wife should be divorced and even ****

Yes!

An unrepentant one YES.

A man who quickly divorces an adulterous wife without giving her a second chance never really loved the woman.

Greene66:
Of course not. A man own the woman. The woman is his prop.

No one owns anyone.

The bible says the man is the head(Not totally superior) to the woman but because he is the head which signifies a higher authority,this does not mean the woman is owned by him.

Cutehector:
lol I just wanted to discus in private.

So i'm in this urm wooing challenge in romance section and i'm contestin against some dude in wooing jadekitena. It's just for fun only tho, nothn serious. I'm tryn to make up my lines and I thought if u could help. Since u knw her privately off nairaland, i"d Wana ask if u could help me out wit some info like urm wat she likes, wat she doesn't like and her zodiac. Also just her first name, I want to find out d meanin of it so I could incorporate it in my lines.


Pls just help me out. Dats why I came to this thread

lol!


Unfortunately,contrary to your belief,i don't know a jack about her except her zodiac(Scorpio) which gave me a sketchy description of her and we are not off-line friends either.

Wish you luck dude.

Nevertheless i guess it will be nice to have you on my watsup friend list so use this number to add me: 08023146046.

Hve a great sunday hector.

Specialbaby:
well,i have my own conviction but i will let go to avoid derailing this educative thread!



Goodnight mr Toks2008

Morning sis.ok then..do have a splendid sunday.

Cutehector:
toks watsup?

What are you looking for on an eight year old thread?lol
This was when i was still active in my clearing business.

Specialbaby:
ok,i respect your stand and i really hope you will do as you just said if face with such!!




But then again,ask yourself,will you ever trust your wife again even after forgiving her? TRUST is very delicate,onces broken,it very hard to regain,what is marriage without trust?

I guess it is that trust issue that usually breings the heartache. The bible says we should trusty no one even the one that lies in our bossom.
Micah 7:5 ►Do not trust a neighbor; put no confidence in a friend. Even with the woman who lies in your embrace guard the words of your lips.

Yes it is good to say "i trust him or her" but in the real sense i will never trsust any lady no matter how perefect she may seem to be.

This is the vest way to be on guard so that if any crazy thing happens,you are emotionally,psychologically,mentally and even physically prepared so you just shrug it off.

That is the way to go.

Specialbaby:
talk is easy but i will advice you not to say now until you are face with such,it a hard decision and until you get to the river you wouldnt know how to cross it!


Forgiving a cheating partner is easier than forgetting a partner cheat and as long as such image stuck in the memory,things can never be same again!!!

I totally second your standview but we must start learning to adjust to this fact.

look at this scenario..i have been with you for years and i have invested so much love ,time and resources then you got carried away for whatever reason and after you are found out you apologize.

Does it make sense for me to drive you out against all odds?

Except the man does not love the lady i guess it will make it easier for the guy but if you love a woman,you will certainly not want to send her out to the hands of one crazy slowpoke who will now calm down and really do her well..please does that make sense?

Who knows if the new woman you now bring home is even worse than a female dog.

An unrepentant adultress is very different from a strAyed one.

ronald4lif:
This one is educative and FP worthy. He knows better and would do the right thing.

I dont trust lalasticlala again.

ronald4lif:
Wow. This is an interesting piece and very unlike the author. I must commend you for this balanced and brilliant write-up. The number 5 and 6 makes too much sense and those who have ears should hear.

On a lighter note though, I don't think divorce is a bad thing as widely believed. When a couple has deep issues and all moves to reconcile their differences fails they should move on. But that doesn't mean they shouldn't put in their utmost best to amend things.

I think that with the increasing lack of tolerance, impatience and avaricious nature of human's today, more marriages will keep collapsing. We're too self-centred and lacks perseverance unlike our parents and great grand parents who never even knew what divorce was. In today's world, little issues spring up and that might be the end of the marriage.

You have said it all.

I honestly want to stop asking lalasticlala to see my threads anymore but some threads are worth sharing.

Michellla:
you say that cause you've not been married before.its hard to forgive a cheating spouse.

I dont know how to explain this but i know what marriage is all about because i was technically married for 5 years but unfortunately i can't explain more than this.

Specialbaby:
@toks2008 are you married?if yes,will you forgive a cheating partner?


The bible said,divorce on the ground of infidelity is justified,stop misquoting the bible please!!

I am not married but if i am and my wife cheats on me and she is repentant i will forgive her for real.

What sense will it make for me to drive my wife away to another man's hands? and what is the likelihood that the next woman will be that chaste?
This is one fact many guys dont know.

As for the quoted verse please reead again and you will see my points.

[size=14pt]Malachi 2:16:“For I hate divorce!”says the Lord, the God of Israel.[/size]

"I want a divorce" is a word that tend to be common when it seems one of the two married couple wants to opt out of an affair and it has become a regular lyrics in many homes but the question i tend to ask is this: Is divorce always the solution?

Today i want us to look at 8 lies and propaganda surrounding these words:

[size=13pt]1.Irreconcilable differences[/size]: This is the funniest excuse ever because most of what people complain about have always been there but because they believed he or she will change,they went into the marriage just to get disappointed when the person refuses to change.

As long as you are two different entities,there will always be.Even twins from the same womb has differences.The problem is that when a couple decides to have a deaf and dumb affair,irreconcilable differences will never be reconciled but if you can learn to be very observant even before you say i do,i guess most irreconcilable differences would have been resolved. If you like change spouse a million times,there will always be irreconcilable differences and until you learn the act of tolerance i guess you should just stay clear from marriage.

[size=13pt]2.Infidelity: [/size]I know many people will wonder if there is a lie about this but what you are about to read will shock you/

As a man i really don't see any need to divorce a "repentant" wife who commits the act of adultery especially a woman you love because of what use will it be if you divorce her against all odds and you bring in another woman who might even be worse than her and does it make sense to push a woman you love away into the waiting hands of an irresponsible randy man? Yes Jesus instructs that a man divorces his wife on teh condition of adultery but he also preached about forgiveness.The act of sex is not all there is to marriage so i guess guys should just give the wife another chance and only divorce an unrepentant adulteress.

As a lady i am happy to be the one to tell you that there is no where in the bible that suggests that a wife divorce her husband because of adultery. Yes many bible scholars have accepted that the Bible is not gender specific and wherever "he" is mentioned,it also refers to she but definitely not in this case and i want us to read together right from the start of Jesus speech.

Matthew 19:8

"8He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way. 9“And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”

[size=13pt]3.Ill luck: [/size] Some men can be so myopic. Yes we know this is a dark continent where crazy spells are casted on some men but most times,men are the architect of their own failure and they readily put the blame on the wife as the one responsible for their bad luck especially when the man seems to be doing so well before meeting the lady. This is indeed a very funny mindset and men should stop this odoriferous act. Even if you marry a witch or ogbanje,love and cherish her and she will use those powers to help you rather than destroy you.

[size=13pt]4.Family troubles: [/size] I have heard of many divorce cases because of this and i kept asking why will a amn or woman use this as an excuse for divorce? In any marriage it is you and your spouse before anything and as long as both of you are good, every other factor remains secondary.

[size=13pt]5.Interference by spiritualists: [/size] Any one who tries to divorce a spouse because one pastor said they are not meant for each other,such person should be sent to evil forest to be eaten by wild animals.Some ladies have fallen prey to many false prophets,imams and pastors in the name of seeking spiritual help where they are told rubbish about their spouse and they just believe like fools. They will suddenly tell you your wife is a witch or your hubby is evil and before you know it,they are done just to remarry and experience real evil marriage.

[size=13pt]6.Childlessness[/size]:This is a very unfortunate one that has destroyed many marriages but the truth is that this is no longer a biggy in today's world but you should rather explore many options available and pray for finance or solicit for funds if needs be so that you can have a successful assisted conception rather than try another partner out of frustration and risking being the father of another man's child or the lady having an embarrassing child outside her marriage.With prayers and decisive steps by you,a child will definitely come in no time.

[size=13pt]7.Finance[/size]:This is one big issue that has destroyed many homes and will destroy even more. Many ladies put money first before true affection and if the money is no more,apparently they have no need staying in the marriage anymore. And some go into marriage with high expectation that the man will make a headway within an expected period of time and as time passes and this expectation is not met,the lady becomes so frustrated and starts to hate the man and start comparing him with his rich mates even when he is so loving and caring. This has made me conclude that the best thing any lady can do to avoid this possible frustration is to love a man in a condition that will not frustrate her in years to come even if the man does not get better and they should also strive to be financially independent but pray for a better situation and not just marry a rich man or a struggling man with a die hard hope that he will make it big in no time.

[size=13pt]8.Domestic violence[/size]:In my world,this is the only logical reason for divorce because i will never advice a lady or a man to stay in a marriage that may send him or her to an untimely death but let us wait a sec and ask this frank question:"Is domestic violence preventable"?in most cases the answer is an emphatic YES. Ladies are more at the receiving end but If every lady can learn to be very very calm and silent during any form of crazy argument by the man,i believe the case of domestic violence will not come up.Some women can make an angel beat them up with their parrot mouth but nevertheless no man should raise his hands to beat a woman except he is a beast that deserves to be in the jungle.

I believe that in most cases when people opt for a divorce,they are actually looking for flimsy excuses to be with a new partner but after a period of time with the new partner, they tend to realize that there will always be a reason to divorce anyone we have in our lives no matter how perfect they seem to be at the begining.

For people who insist on divorce i always wonder that If you can't make your first marriage work then what is the assurance that you will maintain the second one if same problem crops up? Staying married to one partner is not about feelings but a conscious decision we must make.


Hope this epistle makes sense.

Youngpo413:
B!Thches are angry, true true the truth hurts , Hehehehehe.

Please stop using that term for ladies.Not proper.

But nevertheless i will continue to write pragmatically and sometime in the future,they will appreciate my writeups.

Joy1706:
So you're still this stuuupid? Go and fix your broken marriage b4 you come to advice women. Toks is just throwing silent jabs at his wife who left him. Dnt mind d mumu

lol i have told you many times that this is a bad way to show interest.

If you are interested just open up and stop trolling.

Jadekitana:
Well maybe I realised I made a mistake and used the thread to call him out. People are still commenting here when i'v already spoken to him and we cool. Bottom line is, if you want something let down your pride,and go for that person. This is 2016, not 1900 where it's a taboo!

SMH.

Wish you luck dearie and have a great weekend.

Jadekitana:
See-rious-lyyyy? All these long talks for what I don't even understand? Anyway I still insist that if a lady doesn't wanna share her info so easily she has every right to hold onto it. So all these wouldn't make me change who I am. Everybody has walls around them, each is built for a reason and you can't change that. Anyway I appreciate the analysis you tried but let a girl be, till when she's ok to open up! As for me and emeka, I sounded some jealousy and insecurity there but who am I to judge? I don't know you but all the same, enjoy your weekend, cheers.

Its really unfortunate that i have no option but to write here.

Jade no one is asking you to be who you are not but the question on the minds of people is "Why refuse his demand for your contact just to come here to create a thread about him"? that is the strange twist.

brownsug:
Sorry I lost my number too

let me cut off the monotonous process..here it is

brownsug:
Sorry I lost my number too

i sent you a pm.

brownsug:
Sorry I lost my number too

i sent you a pm.

lawrenzi:
I am anxious of something and I need you to please advise me. I have been dating a guy for the past six months and he has proposed marriage and I have accepted to marry him, we have planed my marriage for November when I am done with my youth service. He has been to my place at uyo to see my parents unofficially though. But the problem is that no man has ever seen me naked. I was born into a Christian home and my parents have always taught us the importance of abstaining from any sexual immorality, that it is unclean and sinful before God, and throughout my university days God was so kind to me that i was able to surmount the temptations that came my way. Now, He has been telling me he can’t wait to see me naked when we finally get married and the thought of that makes me want to change my mind towards his proposal. I will be 23 by October a month before the proposed date of the wedding.

please Nairalanders any advise for this lady can be dropped on www.lawrenzi.com

Which kain thread be this?

The guy said he cant wait to see you unclad WHEN meaning after wedding so what is the fuss about.

The guy is even very kind..if na me i must see you unclad before i even propose to avoid super story..

These days where we have fake everything na to dey sure even if i no go touch..i must see.

bukatyne:
Of course, peeps will keep insisting on sexual morality on the females while the males are free to dip anywhere.

If by now, they can't see it ain't working because it doesn't make sense, odiegwu.

Except we want to legalize homosexual relationships in Nigeria, more promiscuous men = more promiscuous women.

Whatever rocks una boat.

You can believe what you want but please i beg you to teach your daughter the exact opposite of your mindset.

Guys will be guys while ladies are expected to be ladies.

Our mothers who married as virgins were also exposed to sexual temptations cut the pooh talks about some men also being indecent because guys will forever be demanding but it is for you ladies to either fall or maintain a status quo..enough of these lame excuses.

Come to my house today and offer yourself to me and see if i will not use you silly despite my spiritual inclination.

Even as a sexually active guy,i have very high moral standards.I have rules that prevent me from sexual recklessness so why will a lady give lame excuses that it is the same guys that sleep with them....it is our right to make sexual propositions and it is your right to say yes or no and when you say Yes,dont ever blame us but blame yourself for your inability to say No.