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Romance › Re: My Girlfriend Wants To Move Her Things Over & Start Living With Me by Toks2008(m): 8:55am On Aug 20, 2015

jonaifame22:
but bros,I'm still very young na! Just graduted from uni in 2010 and I'n still tryin to find my feet,wth the barning salon and decoration thing when I dey do,I neva get plenty money to keep up wth family responsibility

This is why i won't stop writing articles on romance.

Please read this because if she knew all these and still wants to move in with you then you are one of the few blessed guys on earth.
https://www.nairaland.com/2477159/why-nigerian-ladies-myopic

Romance › Re: My Girlfriend Wants To Move Her Things Over & Start Living With Me by Toks2008(m): 8:34am On Aug 20, 2015

PunkyVeer:
What's that suppose to mean? Naija ladies must be really showing you guys pepper over there Most of the guys are just so butthurt. What's funny though is that, I think the ladies have groomed some of you guys so well to the point where you don't know how to build a "normal" relationship. The Nigerian guys I've met here use money as bait & that can be a turn off because we're not all for sale, yanno. We're really very different as people I've noticed.

Which country are you please?

I gave a lady a ride yesterday and we got talking about several issues and she said something that made me ask which part of Nigeria she is from and she was like oops,"im not a Nigerian" and i was like Nooo wonder.

I think this money thing is predominantly a Nigerian thing.Out there a man will look like a fool thinking women are interested in your money.

Romance › Re: My Girlfriend Wants To Move Her Things Over & Start Living With Me by Toks2008(m): 8:29am On Aug 20, 2015

favoured234:
This man na you like relationship....You can preach unending relationship sermon

Hajjia how i for do?

Honestly i have a crazy passion for writing especially on relationship,religion a and politics so let me just share my taught and hope some people learn a thing or two.

In-fact i have received personal messages and calls from many nairalanders that have gone through my threads on relationships thanking me for the valuable write-ups especially on the initial gragra thread and the mistakes women make... and lots more so im happy im impacting lives positively as well as overlooking haters who for no reason will just pick on you.

Romance › Re: My Girlfriend Wants To Move Her Things Over & Start Living With Me by Toks2008(m): 8:25am On Aug 20, 2015

jonaifame22:
na u sabi

LOL are you pained?

Romance › Re: My Girlfriend Wants To Move Her Things Over & Start Living With Me by Toks2008(m): 8:19am On Aug 20, 2015

unknown87:
Nlanders too like relationship matter ehn. See as this topic don carry 9 pages. Lol

Man and woman relationship is the opium of life.

Most unhappy ladies are in that state because of a bad relationship.
Many suicide cases are as a result of broken heart.
Many people in mental homes are as a result of bad relationships.
Most of the occupants in hell right now got their with fornicating as the main cause.

A man or woman without a good relationship will always be a shadow of him or herself no matter the exterior appearance.

In-fact i can continue to tell you the ripple effect of relationship on life.

Romance › Re: My Girlfriend Wants To Move Her Things Over & Start Living With Me by Toks2008(m): 8:06am On Aug 20, 2015

izzieman:
And that is the way it ought to be. You a real man my friend. I learnt my ways from my Grandfather. I saw how he doted on my Grandmother, adored her and I never one day saw him with another woman. He had a saying that he always told to us kids "A vagina is a vagina, if you have seen one, you have seen them all, so stick to the one you have at home"

Just like you, if I cannot hold hands with a woman and proudly introduce her as my wife, I will not even consider the thought of any kind or manner of an affair with her.

Lets face it.

The act of philandering is demonic and not just a sinful act.

For crying out loud its the same hole but different casing.

Just as i love the samsung TV as a means of watching aired programs same way another man will prefer lg,or panasonic.

I have my preferred casing for the hole which is all the same and that is WHY I WILL RATHER REMAIN SINGLE THAN SETTLE FOR LESS.

Some guys love slender chics that has a hole while another love big chics that has same hole so for me if my casing is not pleasing to my eyes, i fear that if i try to manage any casing out of desperation, if i ever set my eyes on my preferred casing,i will take a sneak peak.

No be person dey marry all those gorgeous hotties we see? abeg i must get my choice by fire by force.

Romance › Re: My Girlfriend Wants To Move Her Things Over & Start Living With Me by Toks2008(m): 8:00am On Aug 20, 2015

Youngpo413:
also naija ladies are not reliable,they may dump you at anytime,so tell me how a guy can survive,so the other games will act as a shock absorber,I will advice guys to double or even triple date cos being faithful doesn't pay anymore.

I agree with the bold lettering.

Anytime i tell people of how i remained sexually fateful to one lady for 12years they are always like wtf!

Then i check myself if im normal but how can i be abnormal? Does keeping to God's ordinances make one abnormal?

Yes if not for Christ i'm not a sexually decent guy at all and i would have lost count of how many chics i would have laid and my past experience would have made me become the greatest philanderer on earth but what will it profit me if i lose my soul in hell because of the clueless act of one naive lady out of billions.

As i have always told any lady that cares to know "I am not sexually decent or faithful to any lady because of my love for her because a man can love a lady and still cheats on her with a dog but its because i love Christ and i do not want to grieve the holy spirit or take God's grace for granted"

But for Christ,ladies for suffer in my hands.

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Romance › Re: My Girlfriend Wants To Move Her Things Over & Start Living With Me by Toks2008(m): 7:31am On Aug 20, 2015

jonaifame22:
she's very beautiful

Hmm then why not start the marriage move?

People don abuse me tire that im too picky and i kept wondering why wont i?

Thats why it seems im stalling.I hate philandering and thats y i must get a lady that is sexually appealling to me and when i get such,she will practically beg me to cheat on her.

I advice guys to go for wat they want talking about sexual features and hope they cope with her lapses cos no one is perfect.

Whatever pleases the eyes will be pleasing to the mind so if she is beautiful then take her to mama.

Romance › Re: My Girlfriend Wants To Move Her Things Over & Start Living With Me by Toks2008(m): 7:24am On Aug 20, 2015

PunkyVeer:
Well it's totally unacceptable. Only a woman with low self esteem would allow that to happen. Just stick to one, the one you claim to love. How do you even sleep with someone you have no feelings for? That's gross. I know there are men who value themselves more & wouldn't be sticking it in anywhere unless they're invested in the person. The side game thing just sounds like a monumental waste of time. I assume you have to fake care in order for them to give it all up to you, etc. Ain't nobody have time for that!!!!!

Since my teenage years i have imbibed a culture.

If i dont really want you i will never touch you and this is why im so sexually chaste.

If i dont see u as a lady i can marry i will not even make a pass at you.

This is why my chastity expectation from the lady i will marry might be too unrealistic.

Romance › Re: My Girlfriend Wants To Move Her Things Over & Start Living With Me by Toks2008(m): 7:19am On Aug 20, 2015

LasoulMacuby:
@ o.p, for wetin na. shey u be her papa? I beta rent another place far away from mine than let her stay even if na 3 bedroom flat I dey stay.

what d heck ama saying, the guy called o.p will still go ahead to do what he pleases

I think its about state of readiness.

At my age and psycological llevel,if i really love and want a lady why cant she move in?

Its not about sex things..infact i dont believe in crazy baseless courtship so i think guys who are not ready for commitment will never accept the moving in things.

Romance › Re: My Girlfriend Wants To Move Her Things Over & Start Living With Me by Toks2008(m): 7:15am On Aug 20, 2015

daresimon:
Guy I guess we are in the same category, my own came to my aws some days ago andI wasn't comfortable with it.

I had to. Find a terrible lie for her to go back.
If you are ready to do the needful allow her. If you are not its better she comes and goes like she does.

Apart from that checkmate to madt niyen

This moving in things sef..to think most times na initial gra gra things.

Romance › Re: My Girlfriend Wants To Move Her Things Over & Start Living With Me by Toks2008(m): 7:11am On Aug 20, 2015

This moving in thingy just got me wondering and i really want to ask a question.

A man and a lady dates for 6years and went ahead to do a grand intro and then legal wedding and they moved in together without traditional wedding,or church wedding or even the man paying any bride price on the lady can we say they are married?

Im asking this because i cant comprehend the reasoning faculty of some ladies.

i and my ex decided to wait till her mum comes bck frm US so we did an intro nd lgl mariage aftr 6yrs of dating and after another 5yrs of legal marriage she opted out in 2013 Due to reasons best explained by her but thats not the issue.

The worst part is that she is insisting we were never married because we have not done any trdtional wedding AND in her very own words..WE WERE ONLY LIVE IN LOVERS with documents atttached

Abeg which one be live in lovers with documents attached.

i asked her that if for those 5yrs of liv iover she has made babies will she say the same? and has she frgtten that it was a joint agreement to wait for her mum bfre hvn trd wedding and the mum is yet to b back in the coubtry befre she opted out.

So when im asked if i have been married i just get confused because as educated as i am i bliv legal weddin is also wedding yet some will say wtout trad weddn no wedding.Hmmmmm

Romance › Re: My Girlfriend Wants To Move Her Things Over & Start Living With Me by Toks2008(m): 6:50am On Aug 20, 2015

SUGARBEE:
Can you make me feel secure?

you are physically appealing so i guess i can make you totally secured as long as you are not Igbo because i no budget for long list nowlol..

Romance › Re: My Girlfriend Wants To Move Her Things Over & Start Living With Me by Toks2008(m): 6:47am On Aug 20, 2015

Kakayaraznits:
Dude if u love her, marry her. If u dont have the finance to marry, I advise u to avoid living together. She can come visit u sometimes, but not living like couples cos the value would be lost. Once u start living together, u are illegally married.
Heard of a guy who was forced to wed a dead body cos he didnt marry her legally while she was alive.

The igbos do this i guess.

Romance › Re: My Girlfriend Wants To Move Her Things Over & Start Living With Me by Toks2008(m): 6:45am On Aug 20, 2015

ikombe:
so dats ow girls run dat package. By parking into the bf house wen they are not yet married

Abeg help me ask her

Romance › Re: My Girlfriend Wants To Move Her Things Over & Start Living With Me by Toks2008(m): 6:42am On Aug 20, 2015

okitikpo:
cohabitation has become the norm in our indomie generation, so I no longer know if it is right or wrong

When i wrote about paying bride price as well as organizing a wedding according to what a man can afford,this same indomie generation were asking for my head.

in future if this same girl ends up marrying another man,the guy will b xpected to spend huge money on list,bride price,blue green whilte and purple wedding.

This would hve been perfectly ok if the guy has the money and willing to spend it on the lady..afterall she is his wife to be but the annoying part is that the society now compels us to spend lavishly on a lady other men have done even moore than you will possibly do with her in your entire marital life.

Many ladies these days should be given to their husbands freely with damages fee paid to the man.

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Romance › Re: My Girlfriend Wants To Move Her Things Over & Start Living With Me by Toks2008(m): 6:32am On Aug 20, 2015

SUGARBEE:
Have you ever been dumbed before? She's only taking a precautionary method

And i still ask..

How does moving in with a boyfriend stop him from dumping her for another lady?

Husbands dump their wives let alone a mare live in lover.Iranu,Abacha

Romance › Re: My Girlfriend Wants To Move Her Things Over & Start Living With Me by Toks2008(m): 12:00am On Aug 20, 2015

SUGARBEE:
I love that babe, she's taking the bull by its horns.. I guess she's trying to avoid you dumping her in future..

SUGARBEE:
I love that babe, she's taking the bull by its horns.. I guess she's trying to avoid you dumping her in future..

How does staying with the guy prevent this?cos in my school of taught,the move will even give room for that.

Romance › Re: When A Woman Is Complete And When She Is Finished. by Toks2008(op): 10:23pm On Aug 19, 2015

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Fashion › Re: Guys What's Your Choice Of Facial Beards by Toks2008(m): 10:19pm On Aug 19, 2015

Mine is light full beards.

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Family › Re: 8 words of advice for the Unmarried Single Mothers. by Toks2008(op): 8:06pm On Aug 19, 2015

2good:
Your question does not change the reality of my earlier comment, so there is no need to respond to the question. Men generally don't want to have anything to do with single mothers period!

Are you sure?

Men generally?

I dont think so.

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Christianity Etc › Re: 8 Amazing facts about salvation you will not hear in many churches. by Toks2008(op): 9:10pm On Aug 18, 2015

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Just saw this write up written by me 3years ago. You all can enjoy reading.

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Family › Re: 8 words of advice for the Unmarried Single Mothers. by Toks2008(op): 8:49pm On Aug 18, 2015

simpleseyi:
Yes matured men prefer single mothers as bedmates because single mothers don't repeat the mistake of unwanted pregnancy.

Honestly many guys are not catching teh drift.

Being a single mother is not a crime and if you see correct one wey get sense and take care of herself walahi you no go mind.

People like Genevieve,jackie appiah,waje and many more are hotter than many never married ladies without a child.and when you see chics of their type walahi you will have a rethink.

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Family › Re: 8 words of advice for the Unmarried Single Mothers. by Toks2008(op): 8:10pm On Aug 18, 2015

remsonik:

LWKMD! You must be one hell of naughty chic,kai!

I would have loved to see your stubborn face.

Christianity Etc › Re: Anita Oyakhilome Opens Up After Divorce Tale by Toks2008(m): 8:05pm On Aug 18, 2015

adebisicutie:
You call your self a Christian and yet you base your belief about a person you don't know on zodiac signs?

I actually want to enlighten you and craziebone a little bit about the difference between Astrology and the zodiac which is the study of human nature which unfortunately people tag under astrology.

"Astrology" is "the ancient art or science of divining the fate and future of human beings from indications given by the positions of the stars and other heavenly bodies" - Encyclopedia Britannica, Vol. 2, p. 575, 1956. It assumes that our lives are largely influenced (though not completely determined) by the position and movement of heavenly bodies.

"Zodiac" is a narrow strip or belt of the heavens in which the sun, moon, and principle planets appear as the earth revolves around the sun. This zone is divided into twelve sections, each of which contains a constellation (group of stars) for which that section has been named. Each of these 12 constellations is called a "sign of the Zodiac." Whatever section the sun could be found in at the time of year when a person is born, that section is said to be the sign under which that person was born.

"Occult" is defined as: "magic, astrology, and other alleged sciences claiming use or knowledge of secret, mysterious, or supernatural agencies" - Random House College Dictionary. Other occult practices include witchcraft and sorcery, Satanism, spiritualism, fortune-telling, and psychics.

By definition, astrology is part of the occult. It is associated with hosts of other practices that are specifically condemned in Scripture. This should leads us at least question astrology.

The bible grossly forbids all the aforementioned with great emphasis on all others except the understanding of human nature which has nothing to do with fortune telling.

Its like saying drinking alcohol is a sin but the bible clearly states that drunkenness is a sin and not the intake of alcohol.

So lets take a look at these biblical verses.

Deuteronomy 18:10-14 “There shall not be found among you anyone who burns his son or his daughter as an offering, anyone who practices divination or tells fortunes or interprets omens, or a sorcerer or a charmer or a medium or a necromancer or one who inquires of the dead, for whoever does these things is an abomination to the Lord.(This is astrology)

Let now the astrologers, the stargazers, the monthly prognosticators, stand up, and save thee from these things that shall come upon thee. Behold, they shall be as stubble; the fire shall burn them; they shall not deliver themselves from the power of the flame: there shall not be a coal to warm at, nor fire to sit before it. Isaiah 47:13-14 (Astrology)

The problem is that there is a thin line between astrology and zodiac and that is why im so careful not to go beyond the understanding of human behaviors and will never delve into astrology where i will use horoscope to know what will happen to me tomorrow,this month or this year and just as taking alcohol and being drunk re juxtaposed,astrology and zodiac are also side by side and even if they do not mean the same, people can easily cross over from understanding human nature which is the zodiac to astrology which is fortune telling,sooth saying and so on.

Just like those who may not know the line between taking alcohol without getting drunk, i will advice people to also forget knowing anything about the zodiac as they may easily cross the line to start using astrology to forecast their lives.

Christianity Etc › Re: 8 Amazing facts about salvation you will not hear in many churches. by Toks2008(op): 7:26pm On Aug 18, 2015

wrongnumber:
Oga toks this is very revealing...

Anyways...God will give us all the strength to fight till the end.

Family › Re: 8 words of advice for the Unmarried Single Mothers. by Toks2008(op): 7:17pm On Aug 18, 2015

remsonik:
Don't mind him. He jumped to attack me,so everyone who has a contrary opinion lacks decorum. I only pity the ee.dio.ts who will swallow his post hook line and sinker without reason.
Op the nairaland Minister for women affairs I hail o

What exactly is eating you up young lady?

Please go learn some decorum.No one is hindering you from disagreeing with anyone but going about it like an uncultured pepper seller is the issue here.

If you want to go against an opinion,you don't have to be abusive or uncultured but do so in a very reasonable,responsible and respectable manner and you are good rather than attract unnecessary bad publicity for yourself. I hope you catch my drift.

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Romance › When A Woman Is Complete And When She Is Finished. by Toks2008(op): 6:53pm On Aug 18, 2015*

I have heard many ladies say stuffs like "John loves me but i can't marry him because i have no feelings for him but I love Jude but he is just acting funny and he even told me he does not love me" but she will still continue to hope that Jude wakes up one day to start loving her while she keeps driving John away.

This is the case with many ladies loving a man who does not want or love them while neglecting or friend-zoning the serious minded dudes who sincerely want them.A happy and peaceful union is not about being with a Tall,cute,handsome,rich bla bla bla...but its about having a man who respects and sincerely wants you.

Please as a lady,you must understand that it is not every man who professes love to you is genuine and not not all the men who ask for your hand in marriage really wants you because many guys marry for different reasons.Some want unhindered sex,some just want to have children,want someone to take care of the home front or just satisfy the demands of family members so be sure to test that man to know if he really loves and wants you as a wife for the right reasons before saying yes i do to him..

I have so many lady friends who have been in and out of affairs and i can boldly make this conclusion with no fear of confrontation that for a lady to have a fulfilling marriage, it is not about how sweet looking or romantic or rich a guy is and infact the feelings of the lady towards the man as important as it may be does not guaranty a happy marriage rather it is what the man feels towards the lady that matters.

Now let me blow your mind;many ladies will not agree with this but this is how women are wired. Men are visually influenced while ladies are emotionally influenced.

If a woman marries a man she does not love as in no single love at all but this guy starts to show her real love and i mean treats her like a queen,i bet you that in no time, she will begin to fall in love with him even if he is a fat,short,ugly man. This is the mystery that women don't even understand just like the act of sharing a man but if you marry a guy by all means because he is a cutie,rich or for any other reasons asides from his unequivocal desire for you, trust me,by the time he treats you like a poo after marriage,that cute guy you marry will look like a beast and all the money he has will be inconsequential to you . The beauty and the beast movie is not just fiction.

My unbiased conclusion is that if a lady marries a man that truly loves and cherishes her,SHE IS COMPLETE IN MARRIAGE but if a lady marries a man she loves and feels so crazy about but does not truly loves or desires her,SHE IS MARITALLY FINISHED .

Every woman should pray to marry a man who will make them complete.

My humble personal take.

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Family › Re: 8 words of advice for the Unmarried Single Mothers. by Toks2008(op): 6:31pm On Aug 18, 2015

2good:
Big lie. Keep deceiving yourself. Single mum are mostly damaged good that no man want.

You never jam better unmarried single mothers.

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Family › Re: 8 words of advice for the Unmarried Single Mothers. by Toks2008(op): 5:49pm On Aug 18, 2015

Princessderaa:
really? men believe they are fertile than single ladies.

Many ladies are ignorant of the fact that contraceptives can hamper their fertility.

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Family › Re: 8 words of advice for the Unmarried Single Mothers. by Toks2008(op): 5:48pm On Aug 18, 2015

craziebone:
stop trying to play the victim here. Weren't you the first one who wrote trash about Anita with the zodiac delusion?

incase you dont know why i did not respond to your unwarranted ,unsolicited,unfounded and bias rethorics about my life?

Its because i just kept wondering if it has become a crime to be strongly opinionated about issues. If all you wrote came from a female i would understand but to come from a guy is totally unpresidented.

And concerning zodiacs and astrology that is a topic for another day.

One fact i know is that even a legal rep of Anita will never stoop so low the way you did.

Let me stop here.

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