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LilMissFavvy:
Mr. Toks, hundreds of people saw the thread, I saw it with my eyes. The link to that thread was shared in romance section 2019, today it's no longer found. Mind you, I am not trying to mock you for your failed marriage, we all have our weaknesses in life. Rather I am provoked that you are a hypocrite, whom what you taught never worked for you, yet you keep teaching it.

Just shut up as in shush. Nobody can delete a quoted thread.

I have never been in a failed marriage so stop acting foolish. Can you even mock me?

Face the topic here.

Biglittlelois:
So your point is, they should have remained in a miserable marriage and endure bullshit and diseases because of the married woman title abi?

Who hurt you this bad Toks? Try and heal.

No they should not stay o! Stay ke.

Let them leave the marriage biko.
There are wolves out there ready to pounce on them and maybe after they have serviced as many men as possible and realizing that finding a faithful man is not what they watch in movies, they will reset their brain but then they cant go back cos the man must have moved on.

As i wrote, any woman wey no ready to share her husband should not bother getting married. Marriage is not a do or die thing.

And the most annoying twist is that most of these ladies killing their husband cos of infidelity were first class side chics to married men when they were single.

cococandy:
but again you said there’s nothing like cheating when it comes to men

I have to use your words babe.

Cheating is used when the subject is mandated to be faithful to one person.

In the case of a man, the word cheating is very wrong because he is a polygamous specie and being faithful to one woman is actually contrary to his nature.

Not that there are no faithful men but in random sampling when you have 8 out of 10 people showing a homogenous trait, you can conclude that all the 10 have same trait.

LilMissFavvy:
What truth? A truth that didn't work for you? Relationship counselor with a failed marriage, is that one a relationship counselor? Why did you delete the thread which you opened many years ago lamenting how your wife divorced you due to cheating. Hundreds of nairalanders saw that thread including me, out of shame you deleted it. You probably are in your 3rd or 4thmarriage, of you are doing baby daddy, yet still haven't learnt anything. You want to pull down all marriages like yours failed. Only the gullible buffons* will fall for your lies.

Im laughing out real hard right now.

Show me the thread.. At least someone must have quoted it before "i deleted"

See babe, in all my years, no lady and i repeat... No lady has never left me and perhaps that means im doing something right and even the one who ever THREATENED to leave ends up running back.

And guess what! I laugh at the foolishness of most ladies and i mean you inclusive cos i have recieved several PMs from ladies thanking me for my down to earth advice i dish out here on nairaland.

That is why i no longer bother my head responding to teenagers or naive immature ladies that make up the majority of nairaland female.

I repeat, cry from now till eaternity, the reality is waiting for you.

Lemme give you one satirical advice. Please if you marry and your husband cheats please leave him fast cos i can asure you that there are millions of faithful men out there who are tired of fresh never married ladies and all they are looking for are clueless divorcess who leave their marriages hoping to find faithful men.

Ode atole

Biglittlelois:
You no just get sense walahi, from your previous comment to this one, no atom of sense

A man that knows he cannot be faithful to one woman should make sure he tells whoever he wants to marry that he is a polygamous man, he should not deceive a woman into monogamy then come out later on in the marriage with the polygamous nature bullshit, any man that tries that should prepare for divorce or have it at the back of his mind that his wife is also cheating, it is that simple

If you like preach from now till oblivion, wives will continue to leave promiscuous, disease infested husbands because they have self respect, esteem, value their life and healthy living, accept this truth and rest.

Hahahaha! See me see wahala..

A married man who sleeps with another lady should expect tbe wife to choose whether to stay or leave so why threatening with divorce? Please say something else abeg.

I have met many divorcees who left their husband because he cheated on them and i had always asked them one question...

Have they been able to get a faithful man?

Have they been able to stop their ex from moving on with other women?

cococandy:
One day you say you’re one of the good guys who don’t cheat (meaning you acknowledge that cheating is bad) then the next day you’re saying cheating is inevitable thereby justifying it.
So which is which?

That i dont cheat does not mean im more responsible than those who have other ladies.

Sexual fathfullness does not equate to a good man.

300whitewolves:
This is really taking a toll on me, and it's getting worse day by day, am finding it difficult to keep myself in check, the harder I try the more it comes. I even make sure I don't look at a woman backside twice cos I know what that can cause. I have a girlfriend but we are far apart, and I don't want to cheat on her. Please my fellow nairalanders help me out of this situation. Konji na bastard for real.

Go and marry.

That was the advice Paul gave.

Amazingbaby:
Update

Thankyou all for your contribution

He is back to see the kids, he has been providing a d talking to his kids daily,I guess I am the only one he has a problem with

I will take a lot of advice into consideration,we have alot of intelligent people here.

I was just surprise that he would want to employ someone he have been having secret calls and meeting with and would be arrogant about it.

He will finally drop you if you don't stop worrying him.

You can't stop a man who wants to taste another lady, just beg him to use protection... They always come back to their wives but if you stress him too much he will run far away from you.

This is a man in his 40s with good marital experience giving you a candid advise and not some naive nairalander.

It is up to you.

LilMissFavvy:
I will continue to be correcting this your wrong beliefs anywhere you type it. You keep giving morally wrong teachings, even when you applied the teachings in your life and it failed you woefully. Your relationship teachings can never keep a relationship, talkless of marriage, believe me, it scatters it.

What you should teach is that men should not marry if they are not ready to be faithful. By the time they waste their years jumping from woman to woman, there would definitely come a time they would be ready to commit to a woman and be faithful. A good relationship counselor which you claim to be is supposed to teach what is correct/proper. You think anyone be it male or female does not have the trait to be polygamous in nature? Oga wake up from this delusion and clear your mind from the trash your illiterate African fore fathers fed you with. Your teachings provoke me.

I dont blame you.

I blame those pastors lying to you ladies cos they dont want to lose their female members or is it the clueless relationship experts dishing out unrealistic advice.

Babe cry me a river if you like and mind you, i care less what you think about me.

You either accept this truth or continue to live a lie.

Marriage is not by force. Any lady who is not ready for the possibility of sharing her husband with another woman should remain single.

It is just that simple.

kowalsky:
Lol. Nawa for una for this country oh. If roles were reversed would you still be saying this.
I mean, how dense are you to rationalize cheating as normal behaviour cause its coming from a man.

If it were a woman now, y'all will be out with gargantuan pitchforks ready to slaughter the entire feminine gender.

Or you think women don't have the urge to cheat too? Your wife probably wants to fvck all her handsome bosses who have more money, are better looking and will probably fvck her better than you do.
She chooses to remain committed to you but you can't do the same cos 'its a man's nature.'

Lol, funny people. Women have higher urges and chances to practice infidelity compared to men. Through societal romanticization of chastity and responsibility, y'all managed to subjugate their urges, yet you don't want to be held to same standards.

What's even worse is the fact that you lot feel you can continue with this perpetual scam even as women are unravelling from your masochistic grasps. No worry, e go shock una

I just addressed this point. Check my post above.

Born2Breed:
You think women don't feel like being with another man? Some men are so full of themselves if you they know how many men beg married woman to marry them.

The love and respect women have for the institution called marriage they don't cheat like most men.

Babe i have written many times.

No body is stopping any lady from sleeping with another man outside her marriage.

Whether you are a man or woman, there is a consequence for every action we take and we must be prepared to face it.

Simple

Lalasticlala i think this is appropriate at this time considering the way wives are killing their husbands of recent.

Simran94:
Guy please move abeg

I know you will have a closed mind towards this. Believe whatever you want but that will never change the fact.

You either accept it or continue to live in fantasy.

Simran94:
Give me a bible passage where God permitted polygamy.
Even in the new testaments where God was talking about marriage, he said “And a man will leave his father’s house to join his wife and they shall become ONE” not half.

It is only the Muslim religion that it was stated that a man can have more than one wife.

God doesn’t even supports divorce unless it’s becoming a threat to life. It was in the Old Testament that Men made the laws claiming a couple could divorce but Jesus in the New Testament said: “It is said that you can separate from your partner but I tell you it is not so, as God doesn’t support it”

You should go and read your bible if you are truly a christian that follows the commandments which I doubt.

Buy popcorn and zero sugar coke then sit on a sofa before reading this.

https://www.nairaland.com/4303658/dont-deceived-polygamy-not-sin

And please be objective.

Simran94:
Give me a bible passage where God permitted polygamy.
Even in the new testaments where God was talking about marriage, he said “And a man will leave his father’s house to join his wife and they shall become ONE” not half.

It is only the Muslim religion that it was stated that a man can have more than one wife.

God doesn’t even supports divorce unless it’s becoming a threat to life. It was in the Old Testament that Men made the laws claiming a couple could divorce but Jesus in the New Testament said: “It is said that you can separate from your partner but I tell you it is not so, as God doesn’t support it”

You should go and read your bible if you are truly a christian that follows the commandments which I doubt.

Are you sure you are a Bible scholar or "my pastor said" kind of person?

If i give you scriptures, do you promise to change your mindset?

Let me know so i can give you the scriptures you need.

And please mind you, the old testament is 100% part of the bible cos even Jesus said he hasnt come to abolish it.

Princedapace:
I am 31 years old. I am married. 3 years of marriage. I am not naive.

WHat do u want her to do? Marriage is not by force. If the man has found love, she too can find love. Marriage has ended.

You are still naive.

That a man chooses to be with another lady does not mean he does not want his wife anymore.

The guy left the house cos of the heat the wife is giving him not because he no longer wants her.

See, most marriages that collapsed nased on man's infidelity is the womans fault.

I dont know who is lieing to these ladies that a man must be with only them..

A man choosing to be with only his wife is a choice and not a yardstick to measure how responsible a man is.

A man can be fauthful to one woman and be totally irresponsible and a man can marry 3 women and can be the definition of a perfect guy.

Any woman who leaves her marriage because her husband has eyes for another lady is the most foolish woman in the entire universe.

If you like change men a thousand times, nah your under go suffer cos men will always be men.

Simran94:
WTF is this? And you call yourself a Christian? Married men sleeping with harlots is no sin?
When God created Adam, how many EVES did he create as an help mate for him?

Disgusting

Babe polygamy is permitted by GOD just the same way he permitted divorce even when it was not in his original plan.

So you ladies should wake up from the white man's doctrine of one man one woman. That is one of the biggest scam in the world.

Monogamy is a choice.

Simran94:
What kind of a statement is this?
Is the man a kid or men who cheat on their wives are just stupid.
A grown man abandoned his wife and children just to go after an harlot and the next thing is to blame the harlot? If truly she used kayamata and all to make him start acting like this, is not if you enter into any sexual relationship with them that it would work?

You men need to start taking responsibilities for your irresponsible actions, always hurting women and your kids.

Now you want his wife to fight for someone who doesn’t want to be fought for? How?

The day you ladies wake up from your deluded slumber is the day you lot will be liberated.

MEN DON'T CHEAT and only married ladles commit Adultery and ofcourse the man they sleep with but if a married man decides to be with a single lady, there is no single crime in that as long as he wants her as another wife and not just fvking her.

I wrote a thread concerning this recurring issue. Perhaps you should take a look at it.

https://www.nairaland.com/5492915/opinion-present-day-woman-misplaced-priority#83457096

Cc: Lalasticlala

Princedapace:
How is it funny?
The marriage is over na..

The woman should file for divorce and move on.
The man has found a new love. He is entitled to it. The woman can find a new love too. Life move on. No big deal.
They both should share the bills of raising their kids.

She is a woman, men will rush her once she makes her self available.

How old are you?

Have you ever been married?

Cos this advise is very typical of a naive person no pun imtended.

Princedapace:
Marriage is over.. Move on. Just share bills with him raising kids both of you had.
Move on, find another man if u are interested and continue.

See funny advise.

Born2Breed:
These are all attributes of a guilty n manipulative cheater.

Ignore him and when he comes to his senses he will return home.

There is nothing like cheating here. Men don't cheat, they just want to be with another lady. Men are polygamous but they usually always come back to their wives but if the wife troubles him too much she may lose him forever.

Amazingbaby:
It is kind of surreal

My husband took his bag and left the house after an argument and have been gone for over a week now, trouble started when he came back and told me he wanted to hire a particular girl to work with him,this girl was working with his friend before he closed up.he told me his friend beg him to hire the girl.
Earlier in the week my husband told me he was going for a convention,I checked his phone and saw when this particular girl was asking him when he will be leaving the house at 7:44 in the morning,I didn't talk or made a fuss about it,so when he told me he wanted to employ this girl my suspicion grew,I asked him how does he want to pay her he told me the lady said she would work for free.
I started laughing,which girl on this island would want to work for free if you don't have anything to do with her.i started bombarding him with questions;
If the girl is your friend's employee how did she know about your business?My husband said he has not talked to the lady since last year but he never knew I saw the messages.

I told him to give me his phone only to see that he has been exchanging Whatsapp calls and phone calls with her.i got angry and was asking him questions he took his bag and left that night.

That was when I confronted him about the messages I saw the week before only for him to say he doesn't owe me any explanation.

I am deeply hurt that he would want to employ a person he has a secret relationship with and has the mind to tell me about it.he deletes any conversation he has with this lady,he hides his phone and would never pick a call in my presents.

Pls how do you think I should handle this,I told him the only way I would ever listen to him is if he tell me where he went with that lady on that Saturday. Calling her sounds desperate and I don't like fighting my fellow lady because of a man.your opinion pls

Let him be.

Focus on yourself and your kids.
He will come around and if he does please dont raise the matter with him again or you may lose him for life.

Omicron007:
We all have that favourite celebrity we wish could live forever.
However, the cold hands of death have taken many of our favourite celebrities away.

For me, Chadwick Boseman and Michael Jackson's death made me shed tears for days.

I also shed tears when Nairobi of Money Heist died.

Let's hear yours.

South Sultan

Michael Jackson

Whitney Houston

This is too low of him.

Even if she is not the typical pretty lady, some things are not worth talking about.

trutharena:
This is the Chief of Staff now.
Tayo Ayinde!

God Bless Asiwaju Jagaban!

Amen but he will never be Nigeria president.

gazeup1:
I created this new handle to hide my identity.

I got married 11 years ago. We both started working before we got married, but my salary was way above my wife's own. I was earning 195k while she was on 108k when we got married, after my MSC, I was promoted and started to earn 350k, this got to me and I started to misbehave, I was doing all sorts and would insult the hell outa her. As the cry cry girl, she would cry, and thereafter I would hear her praying. At times she would say she will one day be greater than me. That to me was an impossibility.

I can't even remember ever giving her money for home keep but we never lacked food at home (we delayed before having kids, so I don't see the need for me to give her monthly money and she never asked). I started giving her after we had kids. She agreed when I told her her money was for the home and mine for investment, but I never included her name in my properties. she knows this as well.

After our kids, it became very demanding, coupled with her office not increasing her pay, she resigned, and that was when I felt the impact of her income. Meanwhile, her pay was reduced to about 80k and mine was increased to like 600k as at when she resigned. In one month I started asking her to return back to her work as to me I was not ready to foot her bills, she never even asked for money, she would even say what I gave her is left 5k or more self at the end of the month.

Now her new journey - When I started disturbing about going back to her former office or getting a new job, she said never and asked me to stop giving her money but go to market to buy food myself. In less than 4 months to her resignation she started talking about online job here and there, I thought it was a scam so I warned her. One day, I was in the office when she said she needs me to help her wit the best laptop to buy, I tried to talk her down on buying one but she ended the call on me.

I got home to see her with a new laptop. fast forward, she paid for a training on how work from home without my knowledge, got her first job of about $200, I also washed her down on going that low for such an amount but she said it was better than her former 80k job, before I knew it, she started talking about $1,000, now it's $3,000, to $4,000 monthly. I earn lower than #1M, my wife gets over #2M monthly working from home. She helped me finished my house project, very transparent and would not hide any $ she earns.

I have not been able to forgive myself of all the things I did to her, the insults, talking down on her but in a way I think I pushed her to become who she is now. I remembered when she asked back then to open a joint account with her, I laughed her to scorn, like how would the ratio be. she saved over 6M and credited my account with everything, just for us to complete our home. I can't even produce 1M.

She doesn't seem hurt, but sometimes she reminds me of those words, I have never officially told her sorry neither have I really changed because I am just like that, I don't mean evil. I wanted her to braze up and never stay low.

Married, men, please how do I ask for her forgiveness? I don't think we have up to 2% of her type out there.

Lamba!

Anything to make front page

300whitewolves:
Waist beads are always a turn off for me anytime I see them though my babe and I never discussed something like that.

Last week as we were gisting she told me she wanted to buy a waist bead from a friend of hers, as soon as she said it I just didn't feel happy about it, she was just smiling and talking about how she is going to look good in the waist bead, how she will turn me on and all but sincerely, I was just irritated cos I don't like it as a result of the perception I have.

She later got it and I intentionally didn't ask her about it, she showed me but my compliment for the waist bead was shallow, she expected me to rave over it, comment well and all but mehn it was a big and huge turn off for me, that's how she got angry and all and decided to give me attitude and not pick my calls again.

You be ara oko(Bush man)

I love the glittering silver color mixed with gold. The sight is amazing especially on a curvy lady.

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

God forbid i meet a woman with this your mindset.

The scriptures have made it clear that virtuous women are scarce.

Proverbs 31: 10-31

10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.

14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.

15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.

16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.

18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.

19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.

22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.

23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.

25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.

30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.

31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

I hope she is the one feeding and taking care of them cos that is also important and a good reason to make some lazy men share a lady in matrimony.

ThEGodFaThEr120:
A man who promised to recruit 100 million youths into the Nigerian army and feed them cassava, corn and agbado in the morning and Yam and Elubô in the afternoon.

Tinubu cannot cheat nature. No amount of tight jeans and trainers will conceal his old age.

Affliction shall not arise the second time.

I watched this and i was like JESU.


He actually said 50million but what is the difference lol!

Racoon:
".....It’s distressing that even otherwise clear-sighted people who recognize that the APC is a clear present danger to Nigeria, that Tinubu and his political creation-Osinbajo, are core constituents of the conscienceless gang of villains that got us to where we are now are seduced by the rhetoric of inevitability of APC’s self-succession.

Let’s not allow APC to propagandize us into accepting that their internal politics is our national politics. We should instead be asking them to account for the incalculable injuries they’ve collectively inflicted on our economy, our freedoms, our national emotions, and for reversing whatever little progress we were making before they took over.."

No decent country on earth would reward the gang of incompetent know-nothings who presided over such an irrecoverable state of devastation and destruction of a country with continuity in governance."

A Tinubu as president is really gonna be another mega era in corruption as far as Nigeria is concerned. All the owomida NURTW miscreants and thugs killing themselves in Idumota and other parts of Lagos will be unleashed in full force.

Politics is never about the party but the individual.

APC or PDP, i see no difference. But we must make our choice based on the individual. And for me, Tinubu is a No No.

There are no saints but Tinubu is way too shady to be the president.

Fx trading is real and very profitable.

But you must trade with money you are willing to lose...

Dont borrow money to trade.

Don't indulge in fund managment promising unrealistic returns.