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adasexie:
it's normal guys are scared of pretty girls.....if I told you when I had my first official b.f you won't believe..tell her not to get all worked up....they'll eventually come around ...Desperation would only earn her a heartbreak.

You stole a babes pic and you're forming. You really don't know how the internet works.

Nice one. We all know the most popular kinda love in Naij...

I Just decided to make a thread that makes sense. I come to NL to read threads I can learn from but 97.25% of them are just too shallow. Attention! Attention! Attention! That's all ppl want here. Actually being smart is low priority for them.

Good to know I'm one of the few exceptions today. Thanks for the feedback niggaz.

firstking01:
my brother, need i read all ur post...spot on...ur so on point...hw can u be so nice, caring, always calling to check on her, send her airtym even wen she dint ask, @d end of d day she will take u for granted...wit dis ur write up, i'd realise dat it all boils dwn to maturity and knwin wat dem gals want in a man..,so many of dem @dat age bracket are still bobby suckers and daddy's pet dat dey cnt sit dwn to really analyz wat dey want in man and go for it...dey luv anytin fantasizing, dey luv exuberances...dey dnt like anytin dat will last...dey r "for d mement kinda gals"...dey can neva climb d mountain wit u, bt dey wud wanna come sit wit u wen u av reached top of d mountain..needless i say more, i tink frm 25 and above does it berra...cus @da age bracket, her mindset towards men wud av changed positively.

Guuuuy you COMPLETELY got my message. The maturity quality is something many men overlook and they will start ranting pointlessly. Trust me, the chemistry between two mature people, no need for long yanz or games. You look into each other's eyes and you both know what the other person wants. No games, no dulling, no forming. Few yanz and your already on level 2. I'm not saying any mature wowan is already compatible, I'm saying men need to find that mature woman thats compatible with him...smooth sailing!

Cutehector:
lol i see five yr gap as very ok... Infact i would love to marry a lady that is five years younger than i

Yeah, marriage is a different ball-game. That respect by age gap is very much needed, good point. As long the maturity is there right?

Cutehector:
Nice advice.... The age difference shouldnt be dat much... 5 year gap at most

Thanks. Personally 5 is too much for me but I don't wanna vex guys on NL. Lol.

sapiosexual1:
As a matter of principle, I don't do teens or girls yet to get into tertiary institutions. Their sense of reasoning though, soo primary school esque.
No apologies if you're slighted, it's MHO.

As in, the guys doing these small small girls, what do they talk about? Communication is too crucial for me. A chick that flow with you on your level...and even challenges you sef too think deeper...THE BEST.

EZEIGBO1OFIMO:
Women are known to look up the social ladder when in the dating sphere; Thats why in secondary school, they always felt way mature, because those senior "brodas" were screwing them over. :*

True, secondary school days were so funny. Girls weren't even scared, as in, the senior brodas of Uni not high school o.

But I'm talking serious relationship here. Some men can be shallow.

Am I the only one that can't do serious relationship with a female who's less than 3 years younger than me? I prefer babes on or close to my intellectual and maturity level. The other day I was reading a thread, the OP was about 8 years older than his ex (i think she was 19 when they started dating and 22 when she exed him). He complained about how he went through heaven and hell for her in the hopes of marrying her. Babe said she wanted to move on. For me, if she hadn't told him straight up and exed him, she would have cheated due to her need for more adventure. Then he would have given another rant on NL. So basically, it already ended from the start of the relationship.

Agbayas, stop seriously involving (i.e. long term relationship) yourselves with way younger girls unless maybe she's around 25 (real woman age) and above e.g. She's 25 you're 30, not bad. But, she's 21 and you're 30. Pedo much? WTF! You wanna be with girls that still don't know what they want in a partner, that don't know what the hustle feels like and are still spoilt daddy's girls, that aren't done with bad boys and still get wet when they see a guy popping collar and "bouncing", that still compete with their friends in having the fresher BF etc.

Mature women might not be as fitter, cuter or tighter down there for your tiny-ass d1ck but trust me, nothing good comes out from thinking with your d1ck. At the end of the day, your d1ck gets satisfied but the rest of you gets all the bullshi...

Just saying though. Take it hor left it, jus eping you hunderstand!

Nigerians and their village thinking. YOUR MAN IS RAZZ AND BACKWARDS! Ugly truth.

Decker:
First of all, I don't think prostitutes here in Nigeria hide their occupation from the public. Spotting a prostitute is quite easy, and I don't think anyone actually needs lecturing about that.
Prostitutes normally live and move in clicks so everyone who lives around them knows that is what they do, it's not something that's hidden. Some even tend to be quite vocal about their trade.

Anyway, all your points aren't actually correct, I will explain.

1. Not everyone who makes up at night are prostitutes. There are ladies who work decent night jobs and night shifts where they meet and are around people, so they make up to look attractive.

2. Seriously? Trust me, It's not only prostitutes who chew bubble gums loudly. It's a bad habit I agree, but I know some girls who do it and they aren't prostitutes, they just formed the habit growing up.

3.Come on, I don't know the kind of ladies you know, but there are ladies who are very busy, hard-working, business minded and they receive calls, every time and they are always on their phones.

4. Contrary to your point, I think prostitutes relate with their neighbours. How else would they market their "product"? And there are ladies who are somewhat introverted and find it hard to relate with people around them, but this doesn't translate to them being prostitutes. Not everyone is outgoing.

5.No offense, but point 5 is actually ridiculous. How would you think such?

6. Are you saying that any lady that has rich or well to do friends who visit her with their cars, is a prostitute? That's outrageous.

7. Yes I would agree with you on this point. That's actually their trade mark. But not all girls who dress indecently are prostitutes, some have just been negatively influenced by their environments, media and friends.

8.Prostitutes barely cook? Lol. How many prostitutes did you live with to arrive at this conclusion?

9. A lot of girls discuss men and money, just the same way we guys discuss girls, money and football, but this doesn't necessarily make them prostitutes.

He might mean a collection of the qualities he listed. I.e. if a chick had all these altogether she's a suspect. However, 5, 6 and 8 are indeed ridiculous. There's hardly any correlation.

All these made-up stories, it's getting tiresome.

klassiquette:
We ladies have our excesses but its no grounds to hit a guy and the dude gats be matured enough to let some things slide

WHAT?! Getting slapped is "some things"? So if the guy slapped first, you're implying she should be mature too and "find other ways" to handle the situation? When someone gets slapped, its a fight-or-flight response; it's instinctive. After getting slapped, a guy can't chill and be thinking "hmmm...so what do I do now to properly handle her?". GET IT?!

Darven:
Dameadaobi, you are killing me

www.nairaland.com/dameadaobi

Her name is corazon kwamboka. From Kenya.

Darven:
Dameadaobi, you are killing me

www.nairaland.com/dameadaobi

Lol that's a model...and she ain't Nigerian.

WHY ARE GUYS LIKE THIS?! Keep your thirst to yourselves and show some class.

*Wooed

From where I come from, friendzoning guys mean "wait here and join the queue while I find a guy I'm really attracted to. If I don't, I'll come back to you guys and pick the best one".

To prove you wrong, how many guys are in your friendzone atm (Don't tell me one)? Are you telling me your gonna date all of them? From your thread a guy you friendzone is a guy you'll date eventually.

Humans are victims of their wants.

Sex is more physical for men and more emotional for women. Study shows when men cheat, it's usually one night stands, but when women cheat, it's usually affairs. That's why women cheating is more disturbing because she's most likely in love with the guy she's riding. Even men that have an "affair" with a particular woman, it's completely about the knacks. She's technically his hooe.

Back then, it was mainly men who cheat because their good wives or GFs were too uptight and weren't sexually adventurous. Now, women are more open about sex and more adventurous causing them to cheat almost as much as men. We really can't eat our cake and have it.

Tall, dark, handsome, chilled yet charismatic, funny, artistic, smart, ambitious and...I'm obviously gonna be rich. They do get intimidated tho, too much for them to handle. Their friends always be wanting a share, too much to worry about.

delectablegyal:
What has dt got to do with the topic?

Well, the height of stupidity is when a person thinks taking a selfie with galaxy tab is the peak of success in life.

Why is you so mean? It's calm.

Hustling for money comes first bro. No time for tinko tinko or police and tiff.

tpiadotcom:
this is one of the wisest statements to come out of Nairaland.

Thanks man.

The term "husband material" is a relative concept. With that being said, I think it goes both ways. The husband wannabes are complaining too.

Funny thing, why do people always complain about majority when they need just ONE, that one exception that makes him/her more special. Everyone wants options but no one what's to be an option. Bloody humans!

From my experience intelligent females dont care a lot about what you can give to them, they care about your personality and what you can do for yourself. How you present yourself, your vocabulary, holding an interesting convo, being respectful and estimable, investing money and time in your future and most importantly, being very ambitious.

Crazy thing, a lot guys are intimidated by very intelligent babes cause these babes see through their games, fake swag etc. Too much of a challenge, unlike the gold diggers, once you have money it's a wrap. They'll gladly be your side chick sef.

I'm pretty sure he has things he doesn't like about you. What, you think your flawless? You think your a blessing to every man you've been with? Best humble yourself or just leave the guy.

Genea:
dats y we have flirting,i dnt neccessarily have to tell u,i gv u d green light,frnds also help match make

Seen. Good luck on your hunt.

Genea:
Nice write up btw
Now lemme write this piece,where i work as an IT student,i met a lady who resumed work on wednesday, since am a lively person in no time we got chatting and den told me her problem, she married her husband when he had nothing to his name,they have been married 4 10yrs now with 3 kids. They went from bad to good ,the husband got a new job and everything became rosy 4 him with dah he started misbehaving,knowing fully well she dropped out of sch cos her parents died in a car accident without anyone to help her,she dropped out of d uni.well after 9yrs of fending for the family with d little she gets from her job ,the husband who finally gets a good job now wants to bring in a new wife,he has seized her phone and she cant make contacts with her customer,he drops 1k for her and her 3 children each day 4 dem to take care of themselves,he has stopped paying d children fees,so dey r out of sch....what am i saying in essence ,some guys are just not worth being there for dem from the beginning.i want a ready made man ,cos i plan to b a ready made woman,and am not gonna drop d standard....

How do you wanna get a ready made man? Do you just "want" these men and then wait till one comes and chyks you? Do you go chyking these made men confidently? Do you ask you friends to matchmake you with one? I'm asking because a guy wants a hot babe, he goes in for the kill, he goes after what he wants. How do you get this made man?

merit12:
To be sincere
I choose the guy with range rover because love without money is hurt and lead to lots of things

My friend will say......money stop nonsense

If there is something a rich man cannot buy with money ....What then will happen to be poor

Money plus love ........happiness
No money plus love. .......half happiness
Education plus love no job.......una nor go chop love

A woman will always want to have a comfortable lifestyles
Not I better pass my neighbours

It's not about what you "want" in reality. You can fantasy about marrying a good looking, rich celebrity but that's all what it is...WANTS. Ask most guys what they want in a babe. Cute face, big jugs, small waist, big booty etc. At the end of the day, you get what you can get. You think the women who ended up with broke men had a rich bobo propose to them? Or the men who ended up with unattractive wives had fine ass babes on their p? You ladies should look around you and remember the country you live in.

Joy1706:
Who the he'll likes takin orders pls?

Submissive babes. Met them, they love making me feel in charge.

daridex:
Hello guys, please i'm not here to bore you with my topic.
..please i'm dire need of an answer...
There is girl we started dating for three months now, i love her so much and i think she does also.....
The problem is; It's the not the first time i'm paying her a visit which she uses fast items like soft drinks to entertain me.....Now i m demanding that she does cook for me which she opted to. she said she could, if she wishes that i can't force her since we are not married or does she bear my ring......she told me bluntly that no man can force her do contrary to her wish....
.Could it be i asked for what was too much or it's that she doesn't love me
Remember she's my gf.......


Let's do this guys!!!

For a relationship to work, there has to be a dominant partner and a submissive one. Sounds like she's not submissive at all (Note: not being submissive doesn't mean she's dominating, just means she doesn't like taking orders). My advice, don't have high hopes for the relationship cos she gave you a CLEAR RED FLAG. Just keep enjoying the perks of dating her atm.